Chivalry...your thoughts please

[missy]

Chivalry, etiquette, manners or common decency, whatever you want to call it seems to have gone by the wayside.

I was in a store on base one day trying on shoes, the aisle being extremely narrow and no bench to sit on as you put shoes on I was putting a shoe on and looking at others. A lady and her teenage daughter came through the aisle with her cart (she could have left it at the end of the aisle) forcing me to squeeze up next to the shoe rack. I didn't say anything. She went 2 rows over in shoes and I heard her say "she's just a retard that doesn't know how to get out of the way, I looked up and she was looking at me with a sneer and her daughter said "she heard you". I ignored her as I work for a department within the organization that has the shoe store and didn't want to get into a situation. I moved over to another shoe aisle and they were in a section nearby and she yells B!tch (her teenage daughter just smiling). I look up and she's looking at me. I mean she yelled it right there in a store with others and children around.
I figured, work aside, I am going to get security over here. I explained what happened and they pulled up the cameras and saw it. Shortly thereafter i heard a commotion and her shouting "my husband is an officer" as they were being directed out of the store.
Usually I would have had my say and it would have gotten ugly but I kept my cool as I work within the organization.

I'm sorry you experienced that. I have to say I find that many people are jackasses. Sorry if that offends anyone but it's true. And not very bright. A bad combination. In this case their behavior shows how stupid and mean they are and again that is a not a good combination. I belong to a few neighborhood FB groups and oh my goodness. So many people are small minded, petty and yes, stupid. I read the groups in disbelief. I only belong to get updates about things like garbage pickup (postponed due to the snow) and other similar info. But I am never ceased being surprised at the petty and small minded comments made in these groups. I never post. I do not have the energy to deal with idiots. It's like that song "High School Never Ends" ....TRUTH

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Four years you think for sureThat's all you've got to endureAll the total dicksAll the stuck up chicksSo superficial, so immatureThen when you graduateYou take a look around and you say HEY WAITThis is the same as where I just came fromI thought it was overAw that's just greatThe whole damn world is just as obsessedWith who's the best dressed and who's having sex,Who's got the money, who gets the honeys,Who's kinda cute and who's just a messAnd you still don't have the right lookAnd you don't have the right friendsNothing changes but the faces, the names, and the trendsHigh school never ends

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The only thing is as adults our brain is SUPPOSED TO BE fully developed. Obviously not for everyone

 

[tyty333]

Chivalry, etiquette, manners or common decency, whatever you want to call it seems to have gone by the wayside.

I was in a store on base one day trying on shoes, the aisle being extremely narrow and no bench to sit on as you put shoes on I was putting a shoe on and looking at others. A lady and her teenage daughter came through the aisle with her cart (she could have left it at the end of the aisle) forcing me to squeeze up next to the shoe rack. I didn't say anything. She went 2 rows over in shoes and I heard her say "she's just a retard that doesn't know how to get out of the way, I looked up and she was looking at me with a sneer and her daughter said "she heard you". I ignored her as I work for a department within the organization that has the shoe store and didn't want to get into a situation. I moved over to another shoe aisle and they were in a section nearby and she yells B!tch (her teenage daughter just smiling). I look up and she's looking at me. I mean she yelled it right there in a store with others and children around.
I figured, work aside, I am going to get security over here. I explained what happened and they pulled up the cameras and saw it. Shortly thereafter i heard a commotion and her shouting "my husband is an officer" as they were being directed out of the store.
Usually I would have had my say and it would have gotten ugly but I kept my cool as I work within the organization.

My Dad was in the military for 34 years. My Mom would have been highly offended to see a spouse of a military person act that way.
Back then there seemed to be an unspoken code that you treated other military people respectfully. Granted this was many years
ago. Bad behavior could be reported to the spouses' ranking officer and there could be consequences. In other words, what happens
in Vegas doesn't stay in Vegas (or the PX/BX)!

Not sure if it's like that today...although I think it should be!

You handled it well @autumngems !

 

[missy]

My Dad was in the military for 34 years. My Mom would have been highly offended to see a spouse of a military person act that way.
Back then there seemed to be an unspoken code that you treated other military people respectfully. Granted this was many years
ago. Bad behavior could be reported to the spouses' ranking officer and there could be consequences. In other words, what happens
in Vegas doesn't stay in Vegas (or the PX/BX)!

Not sure if it's like that today...although I think it should be!

You handled it well @autumngems !

This is true. I did my residency at West Point Military Academy (many decades ago) and the Colonel in charge of the clinic had me over his house to have dinner with his family. He told me my actions on and off base reflects on West Point at all times and to be mindful of that. Meaning not just towards military personnel (officers and enlisted both) but towards civilians too. At West Point it was not an unspoken code lol but rather a very front and center philosophy and way of being. Towards everyone not just military. My experience a long time ago. I sure hope it is still true today because that is the way we should all be. It's sad people behave so rudely and IMO it is the loss of civilization seeing rude behavior more and more frequently