Deceased Parent on Program?

[AmberWaves]

Paul''s mom wants her name written with her late husband''s name in the line for "Parents of the Groom". How do I word this so it doesn''t look morbid?

Pete and Lita XXXXXXX (he looks like he''s still with us)

Lita and the late Pete XXXXXX

Any other options?

 

[labbielove]

I struggled with this as well.
It really depends how your program is set up.

We had 2 facing pages- one was headed "wedding party" and had every person who was coming down the aisle-
starting with Grooms parents, then deacon, then bms, groomsmen,accompanying the bride (my brother),

for this reason, we decided not to put my parents under DH''s parents, because then it looked like they were part of the processional.

I was very sad, after all they are my parents and deserved to be noted as such in the program, in a place of honor-

So- what we ended up doing was, on the bottom of the first page where it listed wedding party we have a statement that

"The altar flowers are placed in loving memory of Mr. and Mrs. X, Parents of the Bride"
It''s slightly below the wedding party list , but still prominent (same font size, etc.)

We also honored them at the reception with a memorial candle,etc.

I understand the emotion around this, but it really does look odd if you list him "with" his wife- it''s not like the invitations where you can say Groom, son of Mrs. X and the late Mr. X,

You can also do a little note in the program about him if you wish,
good luck working this out with fi''s mom, i understand it can be a touchy topic.

 

[Mandarine]

Hi Amber,

I''ve been MIA because I''ve been travelling (bachelorette party and now away on business!), but I wanted to quickly jump in since I have the same dilemma.
My FI''s dad passed the way....In Venezuela (where I''m from) you put a cross next to the person that is no longer here...so in my case I think I will put:

Mr. Last name (+) and Mrs. Last name

I''ll show it to FI''s mom and before I decide on it I''ll ask her how she thinks we should do it.

I might also add something honoring all of those that can''t be there with us...probably without specific names though....I want to pay respects, but this is still a "happy" moment...so I think there needs to be a balance..

Hope that helps

Ok, back to te grind!

M~