Difficulty choosing the ring together?

[shinythings]

Did you and your fiance have any trouble deciding on what type of ring to get? Did he just let you choose what you wanted?

My FF and I have different tastes in rings. He works in graphic design so he''s in tune with that type of thing. I love halos, he doesn''t. I love pave, he doesn''t. I love solitaires, he doesn''t!
The only thing he seems to like are three stone rings, or rings with sidestones, and I''m not sure how I like those!


He''s usually easy going,but I''m starting to think, isn''t this a gift so the reciever gets what she wants!!

How did you all handle this if it was an issue? Thanks!!

 

[jaz464]

I got what I wanted because I have to wear it and look at it each day. He chose his w-band because he will be wearing that. Granted, I wouldn''t want to get something he hated but your opinion should be most important in regards to your ring.

 

[sunkist]

I liked halos too. But my BF didn''t. He wanted a plain tiffany style solitaire, I wanted something a little more unique but still a solitaire. The way we compromised is that in a top down view the ring will be a plain solitaire, but from the profile view there are some little surprise stones and a head that is unique. So both of us are happy! I hope you can figure out a way to compromise, although solitaires are quite different from 3 stone rings! I guess if I were in that situation I''d look for a ring with a big stone (that''s relative of course

with really small side stones.

 

[ephemery1]

My fiance and I do have different tastes, and he was very opinionated throughout the ring search. For center stones, he didn''t like the idea of a round (too boring)... and cushion was his first choice... I had to work hard to convince him on the oval! For settings, he didn''t like pave or halos at all... and wasn''t a fan of the pear sidestones I liked, so we went with the small rounds he preferred instead. And given that I love my finished result, I think it worked out just fine!

 

[kcoursolle]

Luckily, my bf seemed to care more about price than style of ring. I picked it out myself and got what (edit I wanted.

I would reccommend meeting in the middle somewhere with your bf with something you both might like. However, just remember that YOU have to wear it everyday and try to make him understand that. Don't settle for something you don't love just because he likes it.

 

[TBeck2000]

My fiancee only specified the shape of the diamond (Marquise). I knew that she wanted a solitaire, but the 3-stone settings really appealled to me. In the end, I got a big center stone that satisfied her and a couple small pears on the side to satisfy me. When she saw it for the first time, she seemed pretty happy with the final product (she said yes

).

I wanted more direction, but that''s all I was given. It worked out in the end.

For the wedding bands, we''re going simple and just getting platinum bands. I may do a Signed Pieces/Facets eternity band for her in the future. Only if she''s good though...

 

[TravelingGal]

While I think that the bottom line is that we women wear the rings, so we have to like it, we should take into consideration what he likes too. After all, when someone asks to see the ring, s/he first ooh and aahs over it, then looks over and gives the guy a nod of "you did good!" The ring should also be a reflection of him too.

Like some of the gals here, I wanted pave/halo. He HATED it. His exact words were "ew." I really thought about it, because after being on PS, I wanted something more unique than a simple solitaire. Well, fortunately for me, halos started to pop up everywhere on PS and while I still don''t see many of them in real life compared to PS, it was enough for me to not be dazzled by them nearly as much anymore. The solitaire looked better and more timeless to me, and I was happy to compromise at that point. My FI loved the ring I ended up getting, and it suits my casual lifestyle (300 days of the year in flip flops baby!) much better.

However, I do still like the halo thing a great deal, and got a nice David Yurman Blue topaz RHR for myself. You know what they say, the left hand shows you''re his, the right hand is all about you!

Plus I realized I really thought colored stones were awesome in pave vs diamonds (which I still like btw).

He chose his ring. I got the right to say "ew" but he has good taste and I really didn''t have any ew''s for him at all.