do i just tell him?

[eaglesfem]

Hi, Briefly, Im 27 soon, my bf is 30. been together for 5 years this august.

We have talked about marriage quiet a lot over the last 6 or so months. We have nothing set in stone as of yet, as in, we dont know where we would like to get married, where we would like the honeymoon to be etc, we are still just generally talking.

He has said a few things over the last few weeks, that have made me think he might be hinting at certain things, then again it could be my imagination, i dont know. (as a for instance, we were looking at some purses in a shop window, and as it is almost my birthday i joked he better not get me one as they were seriously awful looking, he told me its what might be inside the bag thats gonna be pretty)

Its just little tiny things like that, amongst other things.

Anyway, I have no clue when he will ask, i know it wouldnt be for birthday/xmas/valentines etc, basically he has already told me he wouldnt ask on a holiday, i have no clue how he will ask, he has been looking at ways and told me two of them as he decided not to go with any of them, and i have no clue on the ring, at all. He did tell me last weekend that he would love it if i sent him a picture of the type of rings i like, i did, and thats it, he has always known what i dont like, in general. thats all i know about the situation, he is very secretive about the whole thing, and i am happy with that. i am happy to let him do it his way in his own time.

the point of my post is, as i said, he has been hinting quite a lot lately, and it came into my head all of a sudden that he does not know my ring size, my question is, for the men that want the whole thing to be a suprise, even down to when he will ask, how is he going to find out my ring size? he knows if he asks me i will know why he wants it! or do i just tell him the size and then say its all in his hands now?

 

[claireabelle]

Hello and welcome from a fellow newbie

I see your dilemma..

Men are usually smarter than we give them credit for! I mean, where there''s a will - there''s a way. Do you have other rings that you wear on your right hand? No doubt he will discreetly borrow one to take to the jeweler and have it sized!

To be safe though, you could casually drop the "just in case you were wondering..." conversation.

After all, you want that beauty to slide on perfectly when he finally pops the question!

 

[surfgirl]

There is no reason why you cannot simply tell him your ring size now. Or email it to him so he doesn''t forget/lose it. Then again, there''s also nothing wrong with getting a ring sized though I understand that it would be nicer to not have to part with it once the ring is presented. Just tell him!

Also, since you two seem to have agreed that this process will not really involve you much, are you sure of what you really want? Have you gone shopping and tried things on to make sure YOU know what stone shape and setting looks best on your finger? Sometimes what we love on paper, ends up not looking good in real life and we end up loving a style or shape that we''d otherwise not have considered. If you haven''t really tried on, then please do, so that you can be sure he''s headed in the right direction. Good luck!

 

[Dani511]

Hello and Welcome!

Perhaps you could just send him another picture of a ring style that you love in an e-mail, stating that you found another one that he might wish to look at. Then you could just sneak your ring size into the e-mail, sort of in a "by the way, in case you didn''t know..." sort of way.

Also, I completely agree with surfgirl- settings often look very different in person, on your finger, than in pictures. You should consider trying some on, as you may find that certain styles and sizes may not look the way you would like them to when on your finger. Plus, ring shopping is always a ton of fun!

Enjoy and best of luck to you!!

 

[dogmama]

I agree with everyone else too. I was all set on the vatche x prong and then when I actually tried it on it didn''t work for me. You should go try on settings together to get a feel for the style that you like. While you''re there you can casually slip in that you''d like to be resized to see what size finger you are now. It changes depending on weight gain/loss so you never know--it might be a different size than you think!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I''d say you can probably feel pretty comfortable just sending him a little note with your ring size especially considering he asked for you to e-mail him photos of rings you like.

 

[Dreamgirl]

That is a good question because I myself always wonder the same. I have a few rings now but they are a little too large and he knows this, I have even told him things like "My engagement ring would have to be smaller but I don''t know the size....." I often wondered if I shouldn''t just go to my favorite jewlers and ask them to measure my ring finger. But then I wonder, how often does our finger size change? Id hate to tell him NOW what my ring size is because he wont be proposing for another year and a half to two years from now.