Final Exam Stress and the Insenstivity of Men

[Mimikins24]

Well, I am in the thick of final exam season right now, so I thought I would wish all the LIWs luck with exams (for those that are taking them soon)!!!

I wrote one exam on Monday, another on Tuesday (yesterday I guess)--- and tomorrow I write a third --- so it has been a busy week for me already!!!

This thread is also open to any ladies who are being hounded by other stress as well. For me at least, it seems like everything goes wrong in the month leading up to exams. Last year my apartment was broken into, the year before that I had to put my dog down, and the year before that my uncle passed away.

This year is no exception! My grandpa passed away a week and a half ago, so I had to travel home for his funeral during my last week of classes.

To top it all off --- my BF told me about a month ago that he intended to pop the question before I return to law school in September. Today he decides to tell (while I am busy studying!!!) that this too soon because it can take up to 8 weeks to have a ring finished.

This the completely wrong time to talk about this sort of thing (I guess he doesn''t start his exams until next week though)!!! I also don''t understand how this doesn''t work since his deadline is almost 5 months away!!! What''s worse is that this is a self-imposed deadline!!! I actually discouraged the whole deadline thing because I was worried that I would get my hopes up and be disappointed. So I guess my theory about the deadline was right, unless he is the world''s sneakiest man --- and I don''t think that is possible!!!

Anyway there is my rant for the day --- I am so glad to have other people who will listen and not tell me that I am crazy!!!

Does anyone have stories of stress to share? I noticed that Mandarine made mention of stress in another thread --- let''s have it ladies!!! --- Oh yeah, and I am going to go back to studying.

 

[princessv]

Ok so I''m not a LIW but I can definitely relate being a law student myself.

I found out my guy planned on proposing during my ''reading days'' last semester ie the weekend before finals. I completely and utterly flipped the lid and said many not so nice things to him. Originally, he planned on proposing over Thanksgiving Break (which he still finally did) but he was all about the element of surprise. So in order to surprise me, he picked that weekend not even thinking about the fact that was when I was going to be um studying?! Anyway, that was the stressful part of my engagement...and you''re right..guys can be so insensitive when it comes to things like this. Good luck with exams! (hopefully everything will be good and you will do awesome!)

 

[Mandarine]

Hi Mimi!

Sorry....boys can be so difficult!!!

This was definitely not the right time to tell you this...specially if that was a self-imposed timeline!!!!...

I woke up frustrated today....you know, one of *those* days

. I just wish I had a little magic ball!!

. I''m usually ok...because I know he literally could take until Dec 31st of this year....but some days I wonder "why????". If we are both independent, love each other dearly, know this is what we want....why oh why can I just wake up next to him everyday!!!!!. I can only see him on the weekends and some days this just gets to me (this is one of those days...I just miss him

).

To top that he has 100 things going on and he''s very stressed (big real estate commitments plus work)....so I know he doesn''t have time to be looking around for rings. A couple of weeks ago I thought maybe it was going to be "sooner rather than later". Now I''m thinking no way....it might be much later than expected

. He has been asking questions about rings, but his questions are so general that I really don''t think he has seriously been looking...plus he doesn''t even know my ring size!!!!!!!!!. I know he wants to surprise me and do it at the *right* time...and I love him for that....but I also miss him!!

Booo....I guess it''s just one of those days

 

[sk8rjen]

Best of luck with your exams! My initial thought reading through the 8 wk part was that he wants to surprise you and then you mentioned that. But men have proven to be downright nasty when it comes to being sneaky about a proposal. Maybe he wants to do it in his original timeframe but wants you to be surprised?? I just think it''s weird he''s mention that with 5 months to go ---something''s off. I''m really not trying to get your hopes up, but men just can be so darned aggravating when they are at that "about to propose" state. Anyway, I hope that''s the case, will cross my fingers that it''s sooner than that for you!

study hard!
jen

 

[Mandarine]

And let me just add....

I just finished off a pie

Yes...it''s bad...my friends came over the weekend and left me with HALF a key lime pie.....every day I''ve been nipping at it, thinking "ok, after this I''ll just throw it away!"...but no...I didn''t.........

Instead I just ate it!

I have the typical excuse (those days of the month)....LOL!....but I will now have to workout twice as hard! (the daily walk won''t burn half a pie off!)...

It was delicious though

 

[anchor31]

Oh dear... I''m SO STRESSED TOO!!

I wrote an exam on Tuesday and it was horrible. See, my college is terminally disorganized. There are three biochemistry groups and three profs and TAs. ONE TA made the exam for the THREE groups. I unfortunately was NOT in the group in which the said TA was teaching and there were questions in the exam I had no "%?&* idea what he was talking about. I honestly have no idea if I''m going to pass this class. There were three reports to hand out, the last one being due next week, and the first one isn''t even corrected yet, so we have no way of knowing if we''re doing this right or not. This has to be the most frustrating class I''ve ever had!! If I had doubt about transferring last term, now I certainly don''t. I can''t wait to get out of this horrible place!!

(For those who don''t know, I''m 300 miles away from home and transferring to a local college next fall.)

Not to mention that we have reports to hand in in every class and it''s all teamwork. Try to find a time to meet to finish the report when everyone has five classes which all have labs (meaning 3 hours of class and three hours of lab a week), everyone has teamwork projects in each of those classes and the team consists of FIVE people?! It''s impossible.

So because of all that I can''t go home for Easter and I miss my family so much...

Fortunately J is taking the opportunity to visit me because his mother is coming to visit her family closeby and he''ll come along to come and spend the weekend with me. He knows I''ll have team meetings and tons of studying to do, but it''ll be good to have the company, and I might try and take Sunday off... I''ve been feeling frustrated at everything lately because of stress and I think we need a bit of time to reconnect.

Of course, J had to tell me this week that he''ll have the money for the ring with his tax refund (which is soon, if he doen''t have it already) so now all I have to do is pick out what I want. I was like: You''re asking me this NOW?! I think I''ve found it though, but I''m almost afraid to said in case he doesn''t agree. I should be so excited, but I''m so stressed because of school, so I''m not... *sigh*

Sorry for the rant, but I feel a bit better now! Good luck to the other LIWs who have exams!!

 

[Mimikins24]

Thanks ladies for the kind thoughts!!! I am definitely studying hard!!!

Princess V --- I cannot imagine your stress when your FI planned the proposal on your reading week! Sometimes I just don''t think men think this all through. I also don''t get the male obsession with the "surprise" proposal.

Mandarine --- the pie sounds wonderful!!! It makes me wish I had something sweet to be eating as I read --- wait I think I have some goodie ring cookies stashed away. Yup I do!!

sk8erjen --- I think you might be onto something with this surprise thing. He is a terrible lier, but he REALLY wants to have the perfect ring, the perfect proposal and the perfect SURPRISE. I hate surprises, so I think that is half the fun to him about it.

I just got an email from him. He signed it "love P --- only 4 months and 3 weeks left". Man maybe he is just teasing me with this, but he is definitely driving me crazy. I''m sure he is loving it right now!!!

 

[Mandarine]

He is definitely up to something!!!!!!

 

[lilmaria]

sorry to hear about your loss. i hope all goes well with the finals. i had to make myself a deal and only visit/obsess after meeting certain goals...will this help you? i have one paper left, but y stress is over since he gave me the ring on friday. do you think the 8wk thing is to throw you off? hmmmmm

good luck!

 

[sk8rjen]

So did your bf ever sign off with a "time line" next to his signature before?? I think he might be trying just a *wee* bit too hard to surprise you

I''m kind of laughing right now b/c this just sounds like thie kind of thing a guy would do to "be sure" you have no clue what''s coming (oh i really hope i am right!!)

anchor --really quickly, gotta send a hug your way. sounds like a rough week!! But good news on the ring status! I''m crossing fingers for you too!

jen

 

[Mannequin]

I am sorry about your loss, sk8rjen.

I really feel for all of you taking classes right now. I am getting ready to start my Masters this summer, possibly taking two classes at once, and I am excited and apprehensive about this in turns. Good luck to all of you on your exams!

I am having a "low" or "off" week too. Since we are all venting:

I am on my period, which makes me tired and emotionally unstable somewhat, like I cry easily. I have a weekend trip to Florida over Easter planned, which means I may still be dealing with TOM and needing to be in a swimsuit at the same time. Oh yay, blood and bloating are always fun.

My best friend is back stateside after being in Japan for a year, but I have seen her only once in the last week and a half because she has been sick and sans car and I have been working. Our relationship has not been the best recently with her absence and my need for more support than she can give, but I have very few friends and am really trying to make this work.

My sweetie was called to interview for a job at a local immigration law firm recently, and got a callback lunch interview today from these guys. Still looking promising, but they won''t tell him anything until another week I think. He is nervous, as this would be his first job, and I think he may also be a little disappointed in the pay for the first year there. I am trying to be positive for him.

My uncle''s cancer treatment was going well after the stem cell transplant he had from my mom, but now it looks like he may be having some trouble and may not be in the remission stage as they had hoped. It would be devastating to have him develop Host-Graff(sp?) at this point, since everything has been so good until now.

I had my last aerobics class tonight, which means it was my last night of feeling like the third wheel because of the weird cliquey behavior that goes one there among the people I know, but now I need to get active on my own and it''s much harder when it''s just me.

It''s spirit week at school and my kids have dress-up days, assemblies, and charity stuff going on all four days before spring break. I teach middle schoolers. They are all out of their f*cking minds right now, between vacation, spirit week, and hormones.

Even after sending home a note that did not require a follow-up meeting, I had to meet with my principal and a parent at school who is widely known to be a nutjob over something ridiculously stupid her daughter did. Minor incident really, and I just wanted to let her know what had happened, but I ended up having to give up part of my planning hour to talk to this woman. UGH.

My brother had a huge piece of metal (car hood) fall on him at work yesterday at the machine shop he works at, and he caught it on his face. He has a decent sized gash now above his upper lip, where the hood nearly sliced all the way through the skin. Had he been standing differently, the hood would have sliced his neck and possibly killed him.

A teacher at school got engaged last weekend, but he has yet to give us unmarried coworkers the story and pics. I am happy for him, but his engagement is starting to stir some familiar "when''s my turn" feelings inside again.

And on and on and on, of course. On the bright side, with Spring Break to relax and rejuvenate myself and get my planning in for school, I should be ready to tackle anything. I am long overdue for a rest like this. I am calling in an appointment for a manicure and pedicure tomorrow to celebrate.

 

[fatafelice]

style="WIDTH: 99%; HEIGHT: 94px">Date: 4/12/2006 10:37:27 PM
Author: equestrienne

It''s spirit week at school and my kids have dress-up days, assemblies, and charity stuff going on all four days before spring break. I teach middle schoolers. They are all out of their f*cking minds right now, between vacation, spirit week, and hormones.

Equestrienne, I you have my complete sympathy! I teach middle school as well and I am on my break this week. My grades were due last week, the kids were all wound up, and I absolutely know I could not have made it one more day before this break. You sound like you have had enough lately...and Spirit Week the week before break?! Are your administrators nuts?! Just look forward to the giant margarita/beer/glass of something that you can have on Friday. You''ll make it!

And my hat is off to all of you girls who have exams!

I miss college some times, but I don''t miss that crazy studing/no sleep/panic attack inducing time. Good Luck to all of you!

 

[sk8rjen]

oooh equestrienne --- sounds like you have my vote for "worst week overall!!" I know what you mean about middle schooler -- not that I am actually a "teacher" per se, but many of the girls I coach are middle- and high-schoolers, hormones raging, nutty spastic beings!! And being a coach, I get the role of "counselor" all the time, which is nice at times and overwhelming at times -- and I get to deal with mine one at a time! To have a whole GROUP of them would be pure insanity and I truly feel for you, as well as for the other stuff. Have a wonderful spring break week!

I wonder seriously how many PS''ers'' aunt flos have aligned!

Fatafelice -- thanks for your comments on my other thread. I read my reply to mimikins on here and thought "how can I just assume someone else''s BF is being sneaky and not my own??" good call, I hope you''re right. The male gender is driving me a little nuts right now

Mimi -- gosh, I''m SO sorry. In my earlier reply I forgot to tell you how sorry I am for *your* loss. I lost my own grandfather late in 2004 and it was a tough loss for me, so I really feel for you. (hugs)

You know, guys, lots of people have gotten engaged lately. Let''s hope another is on the way and let tomorrow be a beautiful happy day!

jen

 

[anchor31]

Date: 4/12/2006 11:42:51 PM
Author: sk8rjen
I wonder seriously how many PS'ers' aunt flos have aligned!

Hahaha... *raises hands* Yup, on top of everything else... It certainly doesn't help. Argh!!

And thanks for the hug!

 

[Mimikins24]

Thanks s8rjen for the kind thoughts!

I totally agree with the timing of our aunt flos --- mine was early so I could feel extra excited about exams. I''m sure it was brought on by all the wonderful stress I am experiencing. I think that might explain some of the testiness we experienced on the threads this afternoon.

At least I am done 3 exams now --- only 2 left next week and then I get a week off before I start my summer position --- oh yeah I have to look for an articling position for 2007/2008 in May as well.

Hope the rest of you ladies had better days today --- and the long weekend is here, so that is a definite bonus!!! Cheers!!!

 

[Mannequin]

Fatafelice- I had that margarita TONIGHT.

I made it through the last day, and now I am officially off until the 24th. Hallelujah!

 

[sumbride]

Date: 4/13/2006 8:23:45 AM
Author: anchor31

Date: 4/12/2006 11:42:51 PM
Author: sk8rjen
I wonder seriously how many PS''ers'' aunt flos have aligned!

Hahaha... *raises hands* Yup, on top of everything else... It certainly doesn''t help. Argh!!

And thanks for the hug!

Seriously, I think there are a lot of us. I guess it''s not so weird considering how many people are on here, but yeah, it feels freaky to know a lot of us are in sync!

I''m stressed too but not over anything specific... Hang in there ladies! And good luck on the exams!

 

[fatafelice]

Date: 4/14/2006 9:03:45 AM
Author: sumbride

Date: 4/13/2006 8:23:45 AM
Author: anchor31

Date: 4/12/2006 11:42:51 PM
Author: sk8rjen
I wonder seriously how many PS''ers'' aunt flos have aligned!

Hahaha... *raises hands* Yup, on top of everything else... It certainly doesn''t help. Argh!!

And thanks for the hug!

Seriously, I think there are a lot of us. I guess it''s not so weird considering how many people are on here, but yeah, it feels freaky to know a lot of us are in sync!

I''m stressed too but not over anything specific... Hang in there ladies! And good luck on the exams!

I think it has more to do with the full moon, in all honesty. The hormones that normally cause alignment are just not transferable over the internet!

 

[fatafelice]

Date: 4/14/2006 12:36:37 AM
Author: equestrienne
Fatafelice- I had that margarita TONIGHT.

I made it through the last day, and now I am officially off until the 24th. Hallelujah!

Thank Goodness!!! I am trying to savor the last few days I have of break...I know I am going to have a million phonecalls when I return because so-and-sos precious got a "C." on his/her reportcard.

 

[sumbride]

Ah yes! I did notice that last night... it was shining brightly through the skylight in the hallway outside my bedroom. We have glass transoms so I could see it in my room!

In college I wrote a paper entitled "The Role of the Moon in the Lives of Women in Colonial Latin America". How could I forget about the moon! Of course, mine is hormone induced with the pill, so it''s not even real anyway.