defyingravity
Rough_Rock
- Joined
- Aug 26, 2009
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- 3
Hi!
Guess I just felt like de-lurking today.
I''ve been with a wonderful, loving BF for 4 years. I wouldn''t really consider myself an actual LIW, since we haven''t really seriously talked about the future yet.. as we have a year and a half left of college, and we both plan on getting advanced degrees.
Unfortunately, he''s been really hesitant to talk about it. I''ve prodded a few times, but I figure I''ll let him be-- we still have lots of time to just enjoy life together.
Still, sometimes I worry that we haven''t had any conversations regarding our visions for the future.. My guess is that he''s a bit more hesitant to share as he doesn''t want to impact my career decisions or limit my choices. If our timing and directions after graduation don''t really line up, he doesn''t want to lead me down a path if it''s not going to happen.
It''s a bit internally conflicting though, since I believe that love is somewhat a big enough driver to make things work, and we seem to have been compatible over the time we''ve grown together.. On the other hand, my brain knows that we''ll grow a lot more over the next few years and there''s a chance we''ll grow in incompatible directions.
I guess I''m just playing the waiting game-- occupying myself with school and shiny things-- until we feel comfortable and informed enough to talk about where we think our relationship is heading. It''s so hard though; I wish we could flip to find out at the end of the volume already! I guess we''d miss all the good stuff in between. It''s been a bit difficult for me to not worry and just be in the present.
I know most of you ladies are a few years ahead of me at least, but hopefully we can commiserate in our waiting... and talk about the good and bad stuff in between.
I''ve been with a wonderful, loving BF for 4 years. I wouldn''t really consider myself an actual LIW, since we haven''t really seriously talked about the future yet.. as we have a year and a half left of college, and we both plan on getting advanced degrees.
Unfortunately, he''s been really hesitant to talk about it. I''ve prodded a few times, but I figure I''ll let him be-- we still have lots of time to just enjoy life together.
Still, sometimes I worry that we haven''t had any conversations regarding our visions for the future.. My guess is that he''s a bit more hesitant to share as he doesn''t want to impact my career decisions or limit my choices. If our timing and directions after graduation don''t really line up, he doesn''t want to lead me down a path if it''s not going to happen.
It''s a bit internally conflicting though, since I believe that love is somewhat a big enough driver to make things work, and we seem to have been compatible over the time we''ve grown together.. On the other hand, my brain knows that we''ll grow a lot more over the next few years and there''s a chance we''ll grow in incompatible directions.
I guess I''m just playing the waiting game-- occupying myself with school and shiny things-- until we feel comfortable and informed enough to talk about where we think our relationship is heading. It''s so hard though; I wish we could flip to find out at the end of the volume already! I guess we''d miss all the good stuff in between. It''s been a bit difficult for me to not worry and just be in the present.
I know most of you ladies are a few years ahead of me at least, but hopefully we can commiserate in our waiting... and talk about the good and bad stuff in between.
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