HELP! HOW TO NOT BE SNOOPY

[emilina22]

ok so you girls know we found our guy for my ring...well M told me last night that the CAD''s would be in today and that B would be emailing them to him! AHHH thats exiting!

well as much as i want to see them i dont want to be snoopy...so how do i do that? i want to be patient and have it be a surprise but then i really wanna see...so how do i hold back?

 

[KimberlyH]

Think of a negative consequence for yourself if you do snoop, and make yourself pay, via the consequence, if you do.

 

[Mara]

dig deep within and pull out some self control. we all have to do it sometimes!

 

[ladyciel]

If you''re REALLY worried, maybe be upfront with your BF and ask him to take extra precautions so that if you DO snap there''s some hope you don''t ruin it for yourself? He can change his email passwords, lock the files up in a password protected folder, etc. I had the worst time not snooping, but I''m so glad I held myself back. Whenever I got the urge, my best medicine was just to get myself away from the situation. Home and he isn''t there to stop me? Leave - go to a coffee shop or the mall or something. He''s in the shower and his computer is wide open? Go clean up in the kitchen or throw in some laundry or something. It WILL be hard, but you can do it!! It''s SO worth it in the end to still have it be a surprise. Remind yourself how much he deserves to see the look on your face when you see the ring for the first time, just like you''ll want to see the look on HIS when you walk down the aisle.

 

[Delster]

As Gypsy would say on here emilina, it's time to put on the big girl panties!!!

Make up your mind not to snoop and then just DON'T. Really. Just DON'T. He's trusting you not to go snooping. You don't wanna go breaking his trust, now do you???

Oh and if you need reminding at all why you've gotta let him have this moment, remember this thread!!!

 

[ringster]

just keep reminding yourself that it will be such a better experience if you don't snoop! you want the first moment that you see it to be when he gives it to you. don't take that moment away from either of you just for a short term fix. hope that helps. believe me - i talk from experience (not about erings but other things)!

 

[mimzy]

eek! that is exciting

i used to be in the same situation as you, knowing the password to my ff''s *secret* email account etc. i found the best way to keep yourself from snooping is to

1. think of how disappointed your bf would be if he knew you looked
and
2. find someone to hold you accountable. let your best friend or someone in on the situation and make sure they ask you on a consistent basis how you''re *doing*

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good luck, and keep your nose out of his business! it will be better that way

 

[Deelight]

Don''t snoop afterwards you will feel like utter crap and most likely he will be upset or you will have to keep it from him either way not good.

Enjoy the fact it will be a surprise

 

[emilina22]

so we were hanging out right and hes like let me check my email, and i was like babe i dont want to see it...so he goes one and hes like EM!! ITS HERE!!! im my mind im like crap why did you just say that...and hes like Please look because i want you to make some changes and....WITHOUT SNOOPING I SAW THE CAD!!!! he didnt want to make certain changes with out me knwing and so he let me look!!

anyone interested??


OMGIE!!!

 

[Deelight]

OMGIE thats exciting I saw your other thread looks to be a stunner a D VVS Asscher

Congrats

 

[emilina22]

i know!!! HE really hit the jackpot with our stone!!

i was sad to hear when he gve it to our jeweler, cause now i cant go over and stare at it...

but its ok its finding an amazing home!!