hinting?

[oddoneout]

Is there a way to give hints about jewelry you like (without being annoying)?

 

[aprilcait]

Is the jewelry in a catalog, online, or something like that where you could easily point it out as something you like?

I see no harm in pointing out something you like. I wouldn''t flat-out expect to receive that piece of jewelry, but there''s no harm in saying: "Oh, I love this _____." Now, if you''re specifically hoping to get the piece for a birthday/anniversary/some other gift-giving holiday and it is within the budget for that holiday, I recommend being politely straightforward about it and say something to the effect of: "I love this _____. It would make a great _(holiday)_ gift." Hinting or being subtle only leads to misunderstandings and hurt feelings IMHO.

 

[lyra]

I just show him pics from SMTR.

I also make general statements like "One day I''d *love* a 2 carat 5 stone ring." The beauty of that sort of statement is that I''m being fairly precise, I''m trusting him to pick it out, and he knows it''s a gift I would "love". Double win for him. If you make it easy for him, that''s always good.

 

[Elmorton]

Wait...e-mailing him stuff I love every day so he can save it in a folder on his computer isn''t annoying, is it?!?!

 

[NewEnglandLady]

Date: 3/31/2008 4:51:44 PM
Author: Elmorton
Wait...e-mailing him stuff I love every day so he can save it in a folder on his computer isn''t annoying, is it?!?!

Absolutely not!!

This is a recent conversation from my household:

Me: I finally found an estate piece that I love, I''m so excited about it!
DH: That''s fantastic--would you like for me to get it for you for your birthday?
Me: I already bought it. It will be here tomorrow. Happy birthday to me!
DH: Great, now what am I supposed to get you?
Me: a cake?

My friend has a good policy, though. She has a "wish list" of items she wants over the next several years. A multi-row pave ring, an eternity band, several stackable bands, earrings, a necklace, etc. and she has the cards from the jeweller for each piece with the stock number, the price, what metal she wants them in, what size, etc. so now her husband has a list of items from which he can choose. He thought it was a good way for her to be surprised, but also get something he knows she''ll love.

 

[oobiecoo]

FI knows I love to shop....online, in person, window shopping... I love it all! So he is pretty understanding when I just flat out tell him about items I want. He also knows I''m a huge bargain shopper so I basically do all the work for him... I just tell him what I want and where the best deal is which saves him the trouble. My parents are the complete opposite when it comes to jewelry. My mom would NEVER mention anything to my dad which I think it kinda sad because she never gets "pretties" for holidays... just practical stuff.

 

[lyra]

Date: 3/31/2008 5:35:25 PM
Author: oobiecoo
FI knows I love to shop....online, in person, window shopping... I love it all! So he is pretty understanding when I just flat out tell him about items I want. He also knows I''m a huge bargain shopper so I basically do all the work for him... I just tell him what I want and where the best deal is which saves him the trouble. My parents are the complete opposite when it comes to jewelry. My mom would NEVER mention anything to my dad which I think it kinda sad because she never gets ''pretties'' for holidays... just practical stuff.

Aww, that is kind of sad. And very much the way my own parents were too.

Everyone in my household has heard my motto: "Jewellery is always an appropriate gift for *ANY* occasion!!".

 

[Elmorton]

My parents are the same way - that''s why Mom buys her own jewelery.

Seriously, I probably annoy my husband like crazy - I have a new list of jewelry priorities all the time and I''m pretty vocal about it. I really do click "e-mail a friend" or "e-mail wishlist" every time I find something I like. He doesn''t even read them anymore - just archives and then when he''s ready, he can pick. It''s a nice system. But, I''m also a firm believer that a woman should buy her own jewelry, too - so while I "drop hints" (cough, tell him what I have my eye on), it''s also sortof like a heads up to not be surprised if someday I come home sporting this pretty little bauble

And...I''m a newlywed. I kinda figure that in 10 years he might be sick of that, so there might be a better system out there.

OH! And here''s one that I do all the time - a conversation starter: "If we had x amt of money that we didn''t know what to do with, what luxury item would you spend it on?" Listen patiently, and then say "I would get a 5-stone emerald cut ring...(stats follow)..."

OH! And make sure it''s on your wishlist at whatever place you saw it (this works sooo much better for B&M stores when you''re on their mailing list and they send gift cards etc at holidays and birthdays).

 

[LegacyGirl]

Date: 3/31/2008 5:14:31 PM
Author: NewEnglandLady

Date: 3/31/2008 4:51:44 PM
Author: Elmorton
Wait...e-mailing him stuff I love every day so he can save it in a folder on his computer isn''t annoying, is it?!?!

Absolutely not!!

This is a recent conversation from my household:

Me: I finally found an estate piece that I love, I''m so excited about it!
DH: That''s fantastic--would you like for me to get it for you for your birthday?
Me: I already bought it. It will be here tomorrow. Happy birthday to me!
DH: Great, now what am I supposed to get you?
Me: a cake?

My friend has a good policy, though. She has a ''wish list'' of items she wants over the next several years. A multi-row pave ring, an eternity band, several stackable bands, earrings, a necklace, etc. and she has the cards from the jeweller for each piece with the stock number, the price, what metal she wants them in, what size, etc. so now her husband has a list of items from which he can choose. He thought it was a good way for her to be surprised, but also get something he knows she''ll love.

Awhahaha that is great!!! I need to start doing that!

 

[star sparkle]

One year before Valentine''s day I got a Macy''s ad that just had jewelry in it. I went through it and circled the things I liked and gave it to him.

He was really amused by that, and it worked!

 

[nclrgirl]

Ha ha! I just have to tell FH exactly what I want. THat seems to work pretty well.

 

[LostSapphire]

I find the easiest solution to this problem is just to buy it and hand him the bill!

 

[Miranda]

I usually send him a link or a pic of something I like. Sometimes I pop into the jeweler I usually use and tell them what to tell my DH to get for me

They totally know my taste and have a great return policy so I never have unpleasant surprises from there. I''m far to direct for hinting. While I don''t demand, I am very specific because I am particular about most things.

 

[Fancy605]

I guess I am lucky that my husband doesn''t want "hints." He wants to be certain that I will like something. He likes for me to show him things I like. I think I''ve posted this before, but he has been known to say, "Hey, let''s walk into this store," and we''ll just look at different pieces and try on stuff so he can get ideas for future gifts. (Cool, huh?)

 

[Amandine]

My FI is usually at a loss as what to get me when gift time rolls around. So I created a "Gift File". I print out what I love, where to find it, and put it in the folder. So if he needs to get me something for whatever reason, he has a lot of things to choose from. I get what I want, and the pressure for him to pick something I will like is gone!

 

[coatimundi_org]

Date: 3/31/2008 5:14:31 PM
Author: NewEnglandLady

Date: 3/31/2008 4:51:44 PM

Author: Elmorton

Wait...e-mailing him stuff I love every day so he can save it in a folder on his computer isn't annoying, is it?!?!

Absolutely not!!


This is a recent conversation from my household:


Me: I finally found an estate piece that I love, I'm so excited about it!

DH: That's fantastic--would you like for me to get it for you for your birthday?

Me: I already bought it. It will be here tomorrow. Happy birthday to me!

DH: Great, now what am I supposed to get you?

Me: a cake?


My friend has a good policy, though. She has a 'wish list' of items she wants over the next several years. A multi-row pave ring, an eternity band, several stackable bands, earrings, a necklace, etc. and she has the cards from the jeweller for each piece with the stock number, the price, what metal she wants them in, what size, etc. so now her husband has a list of items from which he can choose. He thought it was a good way for her to be surprised, but also get something he knows she'll love.

NEL, I recently had the same conversation! (and my birthday's 2 months away!)

Ditto to the "absolutely not!"

A wish list is a great idea--makes it easier for him. I tried that, but ultimately, I just cut to the chase!

 

[ladypirate]

My BF is great when it comes to picking out wonderful, practical gifts for me, but he has yet to get me jewelry. I think he''s afraid to because of PS.

We''re trying to save money, so I''m not expecting any big jewelry purchases too soon (although I know he''s saving for the e-ring), but I think it''ll end up being me buying my own jewelry for the most part. Either that or giving him a very specific sheet of parameters and telling him to call WF or GoG!

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Date: 3/31/2008 5:14:31 PM
Author: NewEnglandLady

Absolutely not!!

This is a recent conversation from my household:

Me: I finally found an estate piece that I love, I''m so excited about it!
DH: That''s fantastic--would you like for me to get it for you for your birthday?
Me: I already bought it. It will be here tomorrow. Happy birthday to me!
DH: Great, now what am I supposed to get you?
Me: a cake?

My friend has a good policy, though. She has a ''wish list'' of items she wants over the next several years. A multi-row pave ring, an eternity band, several stackable bands, earrings, a necklace, etc. and she has the cards from the jeweller for each piece with the stock number, the price, what metal she wants them in, what size, etc. so now her husband has a list of items from which he can choose. He thought it was a good way for her to be surprised, but also get something he knows she''ll love.

Ditto, ditto, ditto. I see no reason to hint! Men need very specific directions or you are likely to get something you didn''t want. I don''t believe in wasting money, so I give very specific lists of items or I order them myself and give to him to save fot the next occasion. I am deciding what I want for Mother''s Day now!

 

[diamondfan]

Hinting is not what works for me.

I plead, beg, wheedle, relentlessly badger, I mean, I show no mercy. A frying pan over the head or emailing photos of what I want sometimes works too!

All kidding aside, I just say what I would like, and if it is meant to be, it happens.

 

[NewEnglandLady]

Date: 3/31/2008 10:30:50 PM
Author: coatimundi

Date: 3/31/2008 5:14:31 PM
Author: NewEnglandLady

Date: 3/31/2008 4:51:44 PM

Author: Elmorton

Wait...e-mailing him stuff I love every day so he can save it in a folder on his computer isn''t annoying, is it?!?!

Absolutely not!!


This is a recent conversation from my household:


Me: I finally found an estate piece that I love, I''m so excited about it!

DH: That''s fantastic--would you like for me to get it for you for your birthday?

Me: I already bought it. It will be here tomorrow. Happy birthday to me!

DH: Great, now what am I supposed to get you?

Me: a cake?


My friend has a good policy, though. She has a ''wish list'' of items she wants over the next several years. A multi-row pave ring, an eternity band, several stackable bands, earrings, a necklace, etc. and she has the cards from the jeweller for each piece with the stock number, the price, what metal she wants them in, what size, etc. so now her husband has a list of items from which he can choose. He thought it was a good way for her to be surprised, but also get something he knows she''ll love.

NEL, I recently had the same conversation! (and my birthday''s 2 months away!)

Ditto to the ''absolutely not!''

A wish list is a great idea--makes it easier for him. I tried that, but ultimately, I just cut to the chase!

Haha, my birthday isn''t for a couple of months, either! Do you think it''s too early to shop for our Christmas gifts? I think not!

 

[anchor31]

Eep, that reminds me, my birthday is in 6 weeks! But I don''t think FI will give me jewellery with the wedding coming... Ah well.

As for "hinting". I don''t hint. I tell. As in "honey, you know what I''d like for my birthday/Christmas/other?" I want this." And voilà. Usually works.