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how do i get my wife to wear her bigger E ring?

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Date: 1/22/2009 12:34:04 PM
Author: MC
Well, just my opinion, which differs from many (or possibly most) on PS, is that it''s too big! If my DH got me a 3.34 ct diamond, I wouldn''t wear it either. In fact, I would ask him to return it and use the money to buy me many smaller diamonds that I can mix and match.


What kinds of activities do you and your wife engage in? Are you at ''fancy'' venues where a diamond of that size wouldn''t stand out in an awkward way?


ETA - what is the size on the smaller stone?
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Ditto!! Sorry DF
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It''s beautiful on her tho! Ask the lady!
 
Well, if your wife doesn''t want it........I''ll wear it!!!!!!!!!!
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DF, I got it!
Tell your wife if she doesn''t start to wear it... you''ll let your daughter wear it as a right hand ring- so it can get out of the box and live a little! (Plus you might be able to dangle it over your daughter''s head not to charge so much on the ccard! wink!)
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Maybe she just doesn''t like big stones. I don''t get it, but some people just feel uncomfortable. Let her wear what she likes best and send that baby to me!
 
Date: 1/22/2009 12:34:04 PM
Author: MC
Well, just my opinion, which differs from many (or possibly most) on PS, is that it's too big! If my DH got me a 3.34 ct diamond, I wouldn't wear it either. In fact, I would ask him to return it and use the money to buy me many smaller diamonds that I can mix and match.

What kinds of activities do you and your wife engage in? Are you at 'fancy' venues where a diamond of that size wouldn't stand out in an awkward way?

ETA - what is the size on the smaller stone?
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1.15 ct. anyway,she's been hinting me about wanting a pendant
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maybe i should take the 1.15ct and make it into a pendant, that way she has no choice but to wear the bigger ring,plus that wouldn't hurt my wallet as much.
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Make the BIG stone into a pendant!
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Date: 1/22/2009 2:28:06 PM
Author: tlh
DF, I got it!
Tell your wife if she doesn't start to wear it... you'll let your daughter wear it as a right hand ring- so it can get out of the box and live a little! (Plus you might be able to dangle it over your daughter's head not to charge so much on the ccard! wink!)
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good idea tlh...that way her FI would need to propose with a 4 ct.
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lunch time!!
 
Date: 1/22/2009 2:41:53 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
Date: 1/22/2009 12:34:04 PM

Author: MC

Well, just my opinion, which differs from many (or possibly most) on PS, is that it''s too big! If my DH got me a 3.34 ct diamond, I wouldn''t wear it either. In fact, I would ask him to return it and use the money to buy me many smaller diamonds that I can mix and match.


What kinds of activities do you and your wife engage in? Are you at ''fancy'' venues where a diamond of that size wouldn''t stand out in an awkward way?


ETA - what is the size on the smaller stone?
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1.15 ct. anyway,she''s been hinting me about wanting a pendant
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maybe i should take the 1.15ct and make it into a pendant, that way she has no choice but to wear the bigger ring,plus that wouldn''t hurt my wallet as much.
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Yup. I like that option.
 
Well she is prob like my mother, who is too afraid to wear the "best" pieces for the fear of losing or damaging them? DId you insure the ring? If you did then you can tell her "wear it all you want, if something happens the insurance company will give us another one, not to worry"!
 
I think you should upgrade it to a 6 ct., then upgrade the wife to me, then you can ask me silly questions every day
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Purr,
It ain''t worth it.
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Date: 1/22/2009 2:41:53 PM
Author: Dancing Fire


Date: 1/22/2009 12:34:04 PM
Author: MC
Well, just my opinion, which differs from many (or possibly most) on PS, is that it's too big! If my DH got me a 3.34 ct diamond, I wouldn't wear it either. In fact, I would ask him to return it and use the money to buy me many smaller diamonds that I can mix and match.

What kinds of activities do you and your wife engage in? Are you at 'fancy' venues where a diamond of that size wouldn't stand out in an awkward way?

ETA - what is the size on the smaller stone?
Click to expand...
1.15 ct. anyway,she's been hinting me about wanting a pendant
greatideamaybenot.gif
maybe i should take the 1.15ct and make it into a pendant, that way she has no choice but to wear the bigger ring,plus that wouldn't hurt my wallet as much.
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Oh, no, that is so mean. That plan may backfire on you and your wife may rebel and not wear any ring at all!
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A 1.15 is a great size for daily wear. Is there any way you can possibly trade in (or up) the bigger diamond for a pendant and earrings for her that are also of smaller sizes that will be more in her comfort zone?

Talk to her and work out a game plan that will make both of you happy.
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I agree the ring maybe looks a little snug, or it''s just an illusion because she has so many rings on one finger. If she ''PREFERS'' wearing the smaller stone then by all means, turn the larger one into a pendant. Yowsa I''d love to wear that!
 
Date: 1/22/2009 2:54:15 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
Date: 1/22/2009 2:28:06 PM

Author: tlh

DF, I got it!

Tell your wife if she doesn''t start to wear it... you''ll let your daughter wear it as a right hand ring- so it can get out of the box and live a little! (Plus you might be able to dangle it over your daughter''s head not to charge so much on the ccard! wink!)

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good idea tlh...that way her FI would need to propose with a 4 ct.
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lunch time!!
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LOL
 
Ummmm . . . Have you asked her why she does not wear it regularly?

There could be any number of reasons for her not to wear it as often as you would like: too big ring [flips over and is uncomfortable], too big stone [ostentatious - not possible in my eyes given what I wear on a daily basis - LOL!], too small ring [uncomfortable], too small stone [probably not since she wears the smaller one], doesn't like the setting, etc.

Ask her. You will be on your way to a solution once you figure out what the problem is [or whether there is one].
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Wow, DF, can you give us the specs on both stones & the band? All gorgeous diamonds!
 
oh my.... that is one beautiful ring! i would wear that baby everyday all day!
 
Another vote for just asking her. There''s a reason for it and she''s not going to just volunteer the information if she thinks it will hurt your feelings.
 
Date: 1/22/2009 3:11:58 PM
Author: purrfectpear
I think you should upgrade it to a 6 ct., then upgrade the wife to me, then you can ask me silly questions every day
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ROFL.....

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LMAO.....
 
Laughing aside.. seriously, you should ask her. Perhaps she finds that the wedding band doesn''t go as well with the larger RB? In which case you will need to get a new wedding band. Or perhaps she wants to reserve it for special occasions, in which case you might want to get her an even bigger diamond for special occasions and this 3ct pretty can be a daily ring.
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Why not offer to set the bigger stone as a pendant? That way, she wears the big stone you picked out for her, plus she gets to wear the ering she likes and you''re both happy. At worst, the discussion about setting it as a pendant might help you get to the bottom of why she doesn''t wear it.
Now I know (hope!) it was a joke, but please don''t turn the ring she likes into a pendant. It belongs to her, not you!
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Hope you find a solution that you''re both happy with. Her rings are all beautiful!

Jen
 
A good friend of mine surprised his wife with an upgrade. A beautiful 2 carat round solitaire. Her original engagement ring was a 0.75 carat round solitaire. She refuses to wear the 2 carat ring because she thinks it looks gaudy and huge. I have very nobly volunteered to rid her of the unsightly ring. For whatever reason she just does not like the bigger ring. Some women are like that- perhaps your wife is. It can''t hurt to ask. I think it''s really sweet that you''re concerned with making sure she is happy with her rings and being willing to reset the larger stone into something that would make her happier.
 
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I''m sorry, I don''t understand the question!
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She won''t wear... the BIGGER diamond?!?

Can''t wrap my mind around that one...
 
Date: 1/22/2009 3:11:58 PM
Author: purrfectpear
I think you should upgrade it to a 6 ct., then upgrade the wife to me, then you can ask me silly questions every day
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sorry PP... i already have a couple of mistress.
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Date: 1/22/2009 6:07:05 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 1/22/2009 3:11:58 PM
Author: purrfectpear
I think you should upgrade it to a 6 ct., then upgrade the wife to me, then you can ask me silly questions every day
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sorry PP... i already have a couple of mistress.
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Ha, why am I not surprised!!!
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Do her friends and co-workers wear 3+ ct. diamonds? Probably not. I think that is the likely explanation. Unless one lives in NYC or LA and is around people daily with that size ring, it would look pretty over the top. I think you ought to trade it in for a 2 ct. ring and a matching pendant which she might enjoy wearing a whole lot more.
 
Date: 1/22/2009 3:23:36 AM
Author:Dancing Fire
four yrs ago i gave her a 3.34ct rb,she probably had worn this ring less than 20 times and only when i beg her to wear it. i tell ya ladies...i got a strange wife.
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I''ve seen her picture here on PS. She''s a small lady; does she feel that it is an overwhelming size for her?
 
Date: 1/22/2009 6:07:05 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 1/22/2009 3:11:58 PM
Author: purrfectpear
I think you should upgrade it to a 6 ct., then upgrade the wife to me, then you can ask me silly questions every day
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sorry PP... i already have a couple of mistress.
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You''d better d*** well hope your wife never finds out your PS name!!!
 
 
Ha! I''m another one who wants to step in line to take that beauty off your wife''s hand (literally) if she doesn''t want to wear it!

Seriously, you need to talk to her. Find out what the issue is. It could be a number of things (security, feeling too "flashy", etc.) and it''s best to clear the air and figure out a solution that works best for both of you.

Good luck!
 
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