How long before you started planning?

[trillionaire]

I was just wondering how long after your engagement other brides began planning?

 

[cindygenit]

Hi Trill!!

Congrats on your engagement!

Both of us wanted to wait because we didn''t have enough money for a wedding and a house.

But as the months progresses i decided i didn''t want to wait to get married to the man of my dreams

i officially started planning in June, 6 months after my engagement on new years eve.

We r having a fairly low key affair tho :p

 

[Dannielle]

I waited 8 months.. I had a few ideas here and there but didn''t put pen to paper until recently

 

[merrymunky]

A long time!

It was five years for us. Initially when we got engaged we said a two year engagement was about as long as we wanted to wait. Finances and life got in the way sadly. My FI also got a bit freaked out about the prospect of marriage and felt he was too young still. Bless him. He was 27 when we got engaged. Then suddenly this year at age 32 he one day piped up and said he was ready. The nextday the ceremony was booked for in 6 months time.

We get married in August. I think six months to plan is more than sufficient for the kind of wedding we are having. I''m already very impatient for the big day!

 

[honey22]

We had already talked a little about how we would like to do it, so when he proposed, we already had a good idea that we were going to have a very small intimate wedding, probably in another state. Those plans came to life very quickly. We are lucky in that we agree in nearly everything for our wedding. It''s great!

 

[bee*]

We started planning about two to three weeks after we got engaged. We booked the venue first and then started to plan everything else. The first two weeks we were just celebrating.

 

[mayachel]

DF had this romantic notion of "lets just be engaged" live in the moment thing going on. Plus it was around all the winter holidays, and a previously planned vacation. So mostly, it was with others prodding that we started seriously looking for a venue in March. I think we booked in April?

Photographer...really want to book the photographer...

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I answered a couple of weeks. I did take a small amount of time to just enjoy being engaged...that was important. But we knew we wanted an engagement party and a summer wedding....so I needed to get the ball rolling.

 

[ilovesparkles]

After we purchased the ring, I started lurking over here in BWW. So once we got engaged, planning started immediately, mostly so we could book the synagogue on our preferred date. We only had 2 weekends in the summer to choose between because my MOH is a teacher and teaches summer school as well. The summer school is so short she can''t miss ANY days. After that I was more in the phase of, what do I like, what can be done, where do I start...

 

[mrscushion]

I got engaged this past February and knew that the earliest I wanted to get married was August 2010, so I waited about a month before starting to browse the web for venue ideas. FI would have preferred to "just" be engaged even longer.

 

[kstar512]

I would have loved to have started planning the day after I got engaged, but the money wasn''t there. After waiting a couple months for my parents to come up with money, FI and I decided to start putting deposits down on our own. We were engaged in July and started planning in November, so 4 months. We put all the deposits down, and now my parents are finishing paying everything off.

 

[lala2332]

We got engaged on our christmas break from law school, so we wanted to get some things done before we went back to school. But since we got engaged less than a week before Christmas, not much happened until after New year''s. There were some immediate decisions that we wanted to make: the date, venue and the church, and the overall idea of the wedding. I found my dress a couple of months. The photoghers right after that. Everything else is on hold this summer. I''ve liked spacing the decisions out, because it lets me focus on a couple of things at a time. But I also will have had a year to plan and budget isn''t a huge issue, so I think that has made it much easier.

 

[Luckyeshe]

We kinda knew what kind of wedding we wanted to have and we started planning immediately. We originally thought that we''d have our wedding in the west coast so we researched that first. Now, we''ve been engaged almost 3 months and we decided on the east coast where I live and I''m doing the research on the photographer, cake, venue, etc so that whenever he''s here visiting me, we''d be able to finalize any decision and put the deposits down. He''s still finishing his Phd in Seattle and there''s a chance I''ll be moving there before the wedding so we wanted to make sure everything is ready and taken care of for our Florida wedding before a potential move puts a wrench in the timeline.

 

[Rock_of_Love]

I was kind of piddling planning for the past year or so. Then one of my best friends got engaged so I kinda threw myself into hers. But after "her day" was over, I REALLY started planning! Plus, we set a date, and even though it is a year and a half out, I LOVE to plan, soooo I''m already obsessing and making myself crazy...but FUN crazy!!!!!

 

[gwendolyn]

Well, depends on what you consider ''planning.'' (Yeah, sorry, had to make things difficult.

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At least a year before the engagement, I did some research to know what cost and paperwork would be involved for us as an international couple to get married.

From about the same time, I would casually brainstorm a way for both our families and friends to be in the same place at the same time without a) pissing one whole group off by making them travel farther and without b) it costing the heaven and earth for people to travel. I really had no luck, although I spent AGES trying.

But, if you mean planning as in booking venues and stuff, then I waited 4 months after the engagement, which is quite a long time to wait considering we knew we would be getting married a year from the time we got engaged. But we couldn''t reserve a place until we had figured out the best option, and it took ages to work that out.

So, yeah, didn''t vote in the poll because I wasn''t sure which counted.

 

[ficklefaye]

i''ve been engaged for over two years and started planning a little after the one year left to go mark, i''m very lazy...

 

[kas baby]

I have been engaged for just over a year now... we haven''t done too much serious planning as far as hiring people goes. just throwing around ideas, what we kinda like, what we know we don''t like, we started writing our vows, I''ve gone to try on dresses twice just for fun. The only for sure thing we''ve sone is to accept the gracious offer his grandparents made to host the ceremony/reception. they have a large plot of land and a beautiful pond. we really should get planning...

 

[purselover]

We started planning right away because we wanted to do it this winter which didn''t leave us with a ton of time to push it off. We did have some ideas on where to do the reception pre-engagement which helped move things along as well.

 

[elrohwen]

We knew we wanted a fall 2009 wedding, so I told FI to propose before fall of 2008 to give us enough time to book things. After he proposed, I waited maybe a week or two before researching venues online, then we went out to visit them maybe a month after engagement. I wanted to make sure I at least had a venue locked down.

If we didn''t have a specific time of year in mind, I probably would''ve put it off more because, honestly, wedding planning is far from my favorite thing to do.

 

[marlie]

we waited about a week to start. we got engaged in early june and knew we wanted a june or july wedding the following year so we kinda had to get on the ball. i guess looking back, i would''ve liked maybe another week or so to just focus on the engagement and not the wedding. But things around here book up so quickly though that i had to jump on it! i wanted to get all of the big decisions made early on so that life could kind of go back to normal and i could go back to being a blissful engaged girl again. So, we are working hard to get that stuff done (venue, band, photog, florist). then it''s smooth sailing for at least a little while.

 

[newsboysgrl777]

Date: 7/25/2009 10:07:43 AM
Author: bee*
We started planning about two to three weeks after we got engaged. We booked the venue first and then started to plan everything else. The first two weeks we were just celebrating.

Ditto, except I think mine was maybe 2 weeks at most, because I ended up going to a bridal show (last minute) like a WEEK after we got engaged. LOL!

(Got engaged at the end of April (200 while on vacation. Came back a few days later. The following weekend was the bridal show. Everything else was just all about picking a venue and a date. Got my dress in end of may/early June (everyone said "you got it ALREADY??" LOL. Yep...it was that fast). And now we're married one year and a few months later...July 3, 2009!!)

HOWEVER, my brother (who is 2 years younger than me) proposed to his girlfriend in 2005 or 2006 and they're STILL just engaged. I think he did it to keep her around because she's older than I am (I'm 2, but he wasn't (maybe still isn't?) ready for marriage. They say they're going to get married next summer, but I don't think they realize that that means you have to start planning NOW..so, I'll bet it won't happen until at LEAST the following summer (2011).

 

[Clairitek]

I voted that I had started planning before becoming engaged. I suppose that is the truth but really we started within a week of becoming engaged. I used contacts I had established before becoming engaged either through my own research or through helping a friend plan a wedding to set up appointments. We went back and forth for MONTHS before we actually started planning the wedding we ended up having, which took all of a few weeks to nail down the major details.

 

[princessplease]

I started almost immediately. We got engaged on a Wednesday night, and I starting vaguely planning things out on that Saturday.