How rude!

[Kexy]

You are right to be upset, some people are so petty..... I hate to say it... but maybe she asked because hers isn''t?!?

I know at one point I would have taken a ring from a gum ball machine if he''d JUST FREAKING ASK ME!!! GERR MEN

But thankfully I din''t have to settle... and thanks to good friends they made sure he got the good stuff

Don''t let her bring you down, flaunt that lovely, and know that your man got you the right stuff for the right reasons! He loves you

 

[AmberGretchen]

Honestly, agree with everyone else - totally not worth letting jealous, catty people get to you.

 

[tlh]

This reminds me of the Seinfeld Episode w/ Teri Hatcher... I''m SORRY!

(The one where everyone thought that her Sister Sally''s were fake. At the end of the episode as she is leaving she says-- Oh by the way.. they''re real and they''re FABULOUS!)

It is kinda like that... you know it is real... and it is rude and NEVER I REPEAT NEVER NEVER NEVER should be asked... but when YOU know it is real... you should puff out your chest- and think, yup... it is real and it is FABULOUS! and leave it at that.

ENVY can rear its head in a lot of places- and I think that is why they call it the green monster... or is that Enterprise rentacar? Sorry, I again digress.... but just think... YOU made her ENVIOUS... it is one of my favorite things in life... just see below!

 

[SandraPaneczko]

I don''t think she really meant any harm. Sometimes people say things without thinking when they are shocked. not that many people can afford a 1.7 solitare and she may have suddenly reacted with her question. I wasn''t there so I don''t know her tone when she said it, only you can determine that. She may have thought you didn''t have that kind of money. Either way... it was rude.

I will give you an example of a time I said something rude and I felt really bad for weeks. I was at HardRock with a group of wives that work with my husband. The guys were under for 4 months and were coming home soon, so we were celebrating the end of a long deployment. We were all drinking little and for some reason in my mind I thought to inform the other ladies about the crappy IGI diamonds the Navy Exchange sells thinking I would be helping them from making a bad mistake. Anyways one of the wives had rings from that store and she looking down at her finger and said Why? Whats wrong with them? Then I apologized profusely until she told me to stop he he. I explained to her that not all of them are bad which is kinda true and they get good one in...you just have to wait for them. I felt so bad. see.. I didn''t think before I opened my month and it ended up okay because me and the other girl had a good time that night.

You know its real and now all the others have no doubt so I would just blow it off after getting any frustration out.

 

[btrflygrl23]

gorri I am late to this thread but just wanted to let you know not to stress it isn''t good for you and in the end you can''t control what her behavior is going to be even though it is thoughtless and rude and uncalled for.

Here is an example when I got engaged FSIL and this is a woman who is going to be in my family mind you not a friend NEVER congratulated me, asked me right off the bat how big my center stone was and I told her and she without pause immediately told me that it didn''t look anything close to the size it is but SMALLER and I quote "Oh 2ct, when you said 2 ct I thought of something MUCH BIGGER!
Then she proceeded to ask me if I would ever consider going bigger to which I said maybe in the future to which she replied that I should NOT go bigger, she has seen 3 and 4ct stones and they look totally fake and over the top and hideous and that unless I wanted to be 50cent I should not go any bigger....
I was beyond upset and even vented on here the ladies made me feel better and trust me I know she is still talking about it occasionally behind my back I am SURE she is totally the type BUT I have let it go, it wasn''t easy but I did I can''t stop her or control her pettiness and to talk to her about it I think would just make an even bigger mess b/w the whole family and FI and his bro and it isn''t worth it she is immature and silly.
I love my ring end of story it is pretty end of story I don''t give a hoot whether she thinks it is smaller or bigger or fugly or whatever that''s on her and I won''t let her toxify my happiness
So don''t worry be happy as they say I looked up your ring it is GORGEOUS! Super sparkly and a lovely setting and you love it and you are happy and moving forward to marry and bring even more happiness into your life just focus on that!

All the very best!

 

[gorri8]

thank you all for being so understanding and supportive and completely wonderful The funny thing is... I ran into her at a xmas party another friend of ours had and she got an upgrade on her ring. It was such a beautiful diamond! I made it a point to let her know how beautiful I thought her diamond was. At the end of the night I was actually happy I ran into her.

 

[steph72276]

aww, sorry. She had probably never seen a big, pretty ring like that in person and that was just her first reaction to it and spoke before she thought. I''m sure she didn''t mean it in a bad way even though it came across like that. Don''t let it bother you.

 

[anyname]

aw, sometimes people just don''t think before they speak. I used to ask my mom "is that real!?" when i looked through her collection, and the look i would get, but i was joking around, cause she is my mom and all. But i never how offensive that question might really be until my sister in law, during dinner with my in-laws in a busy restaurant, yelled out "is that real??" about a tennis bracelet my grandmother gave me as a wedding gift. What could i do, but smile politely, and through gritted teeth say "yes". siigh. I hope you aren''t letting your "friend" get to you any more.