I just wanna say -- the random comments thread

[princesss]

Thanks, ladies. Yesterday was rough. Today is better, but things won't get better for a while, unfortunately.

Hey Love, I am YOUR bartender tonight...what'll it be? Also, I will whip you up something more filling than toast, how about some pasta? Mainly, because, that is all I can cook...so it was more of a hint than a suggestion.

Hmmmmm. I think cosmos are in order. That goes well with pasta, right?

And DF, misery loves company. Sure, we can be buddies today.

 

[dragonfly411]

What goes good with Pizza? beer? I'm going out tonight.

 

[princesss]

What goes good with Pizza? beer? I'm going out tonight.

I like to mix it up. Pizza and margaritas. Pizza and absinthe. Pizza and a Singapore Sling. But beer works, too.

 

[dragonfly411]

mmmm margaritas.

The place we are going is mostly beer based though. Blah.

 

[princesss]

The leather cleaner my coworker gave me for the scuff mark on my (gorgeous, expensive) new boots stained them.

So what did I do? Grabbed the rag and stained every inch of that pair of boots. I paid for them, dangit, I'm going to wear them! I kind of like the new colour.

 

[Strawdermangrl]

What goes good with Pizza? beer? I'm going out tonight.

I like to mix it up. Pizza and margaritas .Pizza and absinthe. Pizza and a Singapore Sling. But beer works, too.

I literally just shot Diet Coke over my keyboard. Rewind to April, good friend of mine comes to town from Cali to be my date to a family wedding in New Orleans. He had Absinthe..as a night cap. LOL, needless to say, he wasn't liking life the next day. HAHAHAHAH...

Princesss- you + I= trouble. I think you need to come to Houston and play.

 

[junebug17]

Ok, this might be petty, but it's bugging me...just happened to be at the door when I saw a neighbor walk by with her dog. She threw her poop bag into my empty garbage can (garbage was picked up yesterday, got home late and didn't bring them in yet). So now I have to hold on to her dog's stinky poop for a week? The can was clearly empty. Eh, it's not a big deal, just the principle of the thing I guess. My mom is ill so I'm admittedly a little touchy and out of sorts. Blah. Vent over, thanks for listening.

edited for spelling

 

[dragonfly411]

SO and I are over for now. There's a lot to it, but mostly that I don't feel like a number one priority anymore, but like a back burner/last resort. I don't want my own thread for it. Princess maybe you can offer some ideas, since you recently went through walking away from a long term? It's hard. I'm more ok with it now than I would have been a few months ago, but it's still hard.


Editing to add - IF he gets to a point where he can treat me as he used to, and we can have a relationship like we used to then I'd give it a chance, but right now, not so much.

 

[purselover]

SO and I are over for now. There's a lot to it, but mostly that I don't feel like a number one priority anymore, but like a back burner/last resort. I don't want my own thread for it. Princess maybe you can offer some ideas, since you recently went through walking away from a long term? It's hard. I'm more ok with it now than I would have been a few months ago, but it's still hard.

**HUGS*** dragonfly I'm sorry you're going through a hard time

 

[princesss]

SO and I are over for now. There's a lot to it, but mostly that I don't feel like a number one priority anymore, but like a back burner/last resort. I don't want my own thread for it. Princess maybe you can offer some ideas, since you recently went through walking away from a long term? It's hard. I'm more ok with it now than I would have been a few months ago, but it's still hard.

Oh, sweetie, I'm sorry. *hugs*

I'm pretty busy this morning, so I'll write more this afternoon, but the biggest thing I did for myself was to let myself feel whatever the heck it was that I was feeling. Happy sometimes, sad sometimes, angry sometimes...all of it. Don't try to fight it or deny it. And when you have to get through the day and nothing else is working, pretend that there are papparazzi around you taking pictures of you all day. Nobody wants to look puffy and oily in a thousand pictures, so it'll at least help you get dressed and look put together and keep yourself from crying in public.

*hug*

 

[packrat]

I'm sorry DF

 

[dragonfly411]

Thank you guys, I appreciate it. I'm doing ok so far today.

 

[Nashville]

SO and I are over for now. There's a lot to it, but mostly that I don't feel like a number one priority anymore, but like a back burner/last resort. I don't want my own thread for it. Princess maybe you can offer some ideas, since you recently went through walking away from a long term? It's hard. I'm more ok with it now than I would have been a few months ago, but it's still hard.


Editing to add - IF he gets to a point where he can treat me as he used to, and we can have a relationship like we used to then I'd give it a chance, but right now, not so much.

I don't know you or your situation, but it's a very brave thing to walk away from a relationship, and it sounds like you're doing it for the right reasons.

 

[junebug17]

Oh DF, big (((hugs))) to you, I am so sorry, this must be terribly difficult for you...but I admire your courage, it's very hard to walk away from a long-term relationship and it's good that you can recognize that this is the best thing for you to do right now. Vent here whenever you want, and express whatever you're feeling, it really does help to let it out.

 

[OUpearlgirl]

DF, you'll be okay. You were smart to walk away once the relationship wasn't working for you. I promise you, there will be someone out there who will be willing to put you first.

The way I got over a breakup:
Went out with nearly every guy that asked (minus total creeps)
Went on a lot of long walks listening to my ipod. Sometimes I was angry, sometimes I was sad, but the fresh air and exercise did wonders for my sanity.
Girls nights with vino!
Started doing things I never would have done if he were around. I went to out of town football games, visited friends in other cities, hung out with family more, and became more involved in church. You'll have a lot of free time, and it will be fun to fill it with other activities.
I had monthly dinner parties where I made dinner, friends brought alcohol, and we played board games. It was a lot of fun!

Hugs, you'll get through this and come out better on the other end.

 

[OUpearlgirl]

Ok, this might be petty, but it's bugging me...just happened to be at the door when I saw a neighbor walk by with her dog. She threw her poop bag into my empty garbage can (garbage was picked up yesterday, got home late and didn't bring them in yet). So now I have to hold on to her dog's stinky poop for a week? The can was clearly empty. Eh, it's not a big deal, just the principle of the thing I guess. My mom is ill so I'm admittedly a little touchy and out of sorts. Blah. Vent over, thanks for listening.

edited for spelling

ICK!! Why would someone think this is an OK thing to do? Some people...

I'm sorry you're momma is ill. Hopefully she'll get to feeling better soon!

 

[Autumnovember]

SO and I are over for now. There's a lot to it, but mostly that I don't feel like a number one priority anymore, but like a back burner/last resort. I don't want my own thread for it. Princess maybe you can offer some ideas, since you recently went through walking away from a long term? It's hard. I'm more ok with it now than I would have been a few months ago, but it's still hard.


Editing to add - IF he gets to a point where he can treat me as he used to, and we can have a relationship like we used to then I'd give it a chance, but right now, not so much.

Dragon, just wanted to say you're really courageous for leaving. Sometimes people forget that their own happiness needs to be a number one priority. I have had to leave long term relationships before and I know it isn't the easiest thing on the planet even if you know it is for the best at the moment. I have learned that sometimes TIME is a key aide in allowing a relationship become what it was before. A lot of times after dating someone for a really long time people start taking advantage of each other...maybe not on purpose but people get comfortable...sometimes TOO comfortable and we end up feeling like we aren't a priority anymore. I really do believe that being apart can sometimes shed a new light on some issues for both people involved. I wish you the best, Dragon.

 

[princesss]

You know what, DF? Being totally honest, it's very rare that going back to a relationship that stopped being healthy and making you happy ends up working out. Nobody can ever go back to doing things how they did. We grow and change, and not always in good ways. You're doing the right thing by getting yourself out of the relationship, but don't hold out hope that things will go back. Even if you get together, you'll have to start fresh and accept the relationship on new terms. If you try to make it what it was, you're just going to get a bad imitation of it that ends up making you even more unhappy in the end (because you thought you were going to get something great that you really miss, and instead you have to come to grips with the new relationship). Honestly, we're too young to get caught up in going back to something that didn't work. I'm all about looking foward to newer, shinier, fresher adventures.

 

[princesss]

Dear Guy That Canceled On Me Tonight,

You're too much work. This was strike three. YOU'RE OUT!

Next!

Sincerely (Annoyed I Ever Spent Time On You),
princesss

 

[yssie]

::HUGS:: df

 

[yssie]

Dear Guy That Canceled On Me Tonight,

You're too much work. This was strike three. YOU'RE OUT!

Next!

Sincerely (Annoyed I Ever Spent Time On You),
princesss

 

[zoebartlett]

DF -- I'm sorry that you're going through a rough time.
_____________________________________________

Have you ever done something (like send a totally random e-mail to someone ) that you wish you could take back immediately afterwards? Yeah, sorry about that.

 

[Kaleigh]

DF big hugs, you have to do what is right for you....

 

[Autumnovember]

Today we had people come to our house and break down the pool table that has been in SO's living room ever since I moved in. NO MORE BACHELOR PAD. We now have a pretty dining room table in its place with a pretty centerpiece and pretty place mats. Pool table, I'll see you again when we have a single house....we'll meet in the basement.

 

[katamari]

Hugs to you, DF.

 

[Strawdermangrl]

DF- Hugs doll. Chin up, we are all here cheering you on! Life is tooo short to be anything but happy!

Boss brought some saline tissues in that are more like baby wipes with menthol. I just want to say, I wish that a man would make me as happy as these tissues have made my nose.

That's all I've got.

 

[dragonfly411]

Thanks everyone for the thoughts and hugs! I'm doing ok, and he and I are remaining friendly and open minded which is good. In the meantime I"m staying busy with family and friends as well.

 

[princesss]

I wish I could stop being so dang impatient. I want to do a 5k on Halloween weekend, but I don't want to do it alone. I honestly e-mailed my friends 15 minutes ago and I'm already sitting here tapping my fingers, waiting for a response. I need to calm. it. down.

 

[dragonfly411]

Remember when all we had was snail mail and home phones?

 

[princesss]

I GOT THE KEYS TO MY APARTMENT!