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chemgirl said:
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Vet appointment went well. Her weight is stable. Just waiting on blood test results.

She’s so mad in this picture. Blanket therapy.
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Aw what a cutie, even when she’s mad lol! Please give her an extra pet for me. I’m glad her appointment went well and I hope the test results are good. (((Hugs)))
 
@chemgirl, What a beautiful baby you have. Sending lots of dust regarding her test results.
 
Awwww shucks, darn, poop, dang, crap, and woe. I'm not going to get a daughter-in-law that I'll enjoy spending time with. First born step son met the woman of his dreams and the one of our nightmares LOL. We can handle her for 30 minutes if she doesn't speak and 15 max if she talks. They won't be living close by which is good for all of us and when we're together DH and I will spend most of the time biting our tongues, being polite and supportive, and counting the minutes left in the visit. Pooooooop.
 
Matata said:
Awwww shucks, darn, poop, dang, crap, and woe. I'm not going to get a daughter-in-law that I'll enjoy spending time with. First born step son met the woman of his dreams and the one of our nightmares LOL. We can handle her for 30 minutes if she doesn't speak and 15 max if she talks. They won't be living close by which is good for all of us and when we're together DH and I will spend most of the time biting our tongues, being polite and supportive, and counting the minutes left in the visit. Pooooooop.
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And I applaud you for doing it for the SS if she makes him happy. I am sorry you won't get what you want as well though. ;)2 I love my MIL but we are not chummy close.
 
Matata said:
I wasn't hoping for chummy close but I did have my heart set on tolerable :mrgreen2:
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Exactly. After almost 20 years I’m good with tolerable. :bigsmile:
 
Matata said:
Awwww shucks, darn, poop, dang, crap, and woe. I'm not going to get a daughter-in-law that I'll enjoy spending time with. First born step son met the woman of his dreams and the one of our nightmares LOL. We can handle her for 30 minutes if she doesn't speak and 15 max if she talks. They won't be living close by which is good for all of us and when we're together DH and I will spend most of the time biting our tongues, being polite and supportive, and counting the minutes left in the visit. Pooooooop.
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Too bad she’s not what you hoped for. Could it be that she was nervous and perhaps intimidated and in trying to put her best foot forward, stumbled badly? My DIL is not what I was expecting for my DS either, but she has her very nice qualities. Since your SS loves her, that’s what matters. Good luck going forward.
 
Bonfire said:
Could it be that she was nervous and perhaps intimidated and in trying to put her best foot forward, stumbled badly?
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No, she's brash, spoiled, princess-like, entitled, LOUD, talks over people, and believes her position on anything is the only correct one. She is a self-proclaimed proud millennial but she exhibits more of the negative stereotyped traits than the positive. Not sure if SS truly loves her or is enamored with what he claims is their "sexual chemistry" or if he's feeling pressure to marry because his core group of lifelong friends are all married with children and his support base is eroded or a combo of all of it. An important criteria on his list for a mate is that she be successful in a career and financially independent and she is both. There's more to it than just that. A few major red flags are apparent to his father and me but we will do what is right and remain silent unless he asks for input. As I said above, DH and I are relieved that our in-person visits will be brief.
 
Matata said:
No, she's brash, spoiled, princess-like, entitled, LOUD, talks over people, and believes her position on anything is the only correct one. She is a self-proclaimed proud millennial but she exhibits more of the negative stereotyped traits than the positive. Not sure if SS truly loves her or is enamored with what he claims is their "sexual chemistry" or if he's feeling pressure to marry because his core group of lifelong friends are all married with children and his support base is eroded or a combo of all of it. An important criteria on his list for a mate is that she be successful in a career and financially independent and she is both. There's more to it than just that. A few major red flags are apparent to his father and me but we will do what is right and remain silent unless he asks for input. As I said above, DH and I are relieved that our in-person visits will be brief.
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I’m sorry Matata. I get how disappointed you must be. I felt similarly with my mil for different reasons. We never meshed. In the beginning it was intolerable but now we are pleasant with each other and can be around each other for a few hours. In the beginnimg it was hell however.

So I felt terribly sad initially because I was never going to have another MIL. I’m glad we get long better now but it’s still not what I had hoped it would be. Oh well. Lowering one’s expectations helps. Hugs and hope you eventually reach a pleasant compromise where you can at least spend a pleasant few hours all together.

FWIW I think you are doing exactly the right thing. Keep quiet unless your son asks for your thoughts. Hugs.
 
missy said:
I’m sorry Matata. I get how disappointed you must be.
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Disappointed yeah, but it's not going to have any meaningful impact on either DH or me. We knew there would come a time when we would have to suck it up and respect the decisions our kids make. They were both raised to be independent and were given the tools and a solid foundation to succeed in life. What they do with that is their choice. She's getting a boat load of weird joining this family which is large and dispersed and when we all get together for significant family celebrations, it's.....ummmmm.....interesting :D
 
Matata weird is good. If your DIL doesn’t like it maybe Greg and I can join you and your family celebrations. :bigsmile:
I could hang out with your kitties. :love:
 
Matata said:
No, she's brash, spoiled, princess-like, entitled, LOUD, talks over people, and believes her position on anything is the only correct one. She is a self-proclaimed proud millennial but she exhibits more of the negative stereotyped traits than the positive. Not sure if SS truly loves her or is enamored with what he claims is their "sexual chemistry" or if he's feeling pressure to marry because his core group of lifelong friends are all married with children and his support base is eroded or a combo of all of it. An important criteria on his list for a mate is that she be successful in a career and financially independent and she is both. There's more to it than just that. A few major red flags are apparent to his father and me but we will do what is right and remain silent unless he asks for input. As I said above, DH and I are relieved that our in-person visits will be brief.
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Yeah I get the gist...are they engaged? Maybe he’ll wake up or maybe he likes her type. Anyway @Matata I’m sorry. Family dynamics are interesting to be sure. Persevere! :eek2:
 
Bonfire said:
Yeah I get the gist...are they engaged? Maybe he’ll wake up or maybe he likes her type. Anyway @Matata I’m sorry. Family dynamics are interesting to be sure. Persevere! :eek2:
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I just caught up on the discussion of your DIL, Matata. (Or is it DIL to be?) I have watched a good friend suffer through seeing her oldest child (her only son) marry-happily-a woman who has been a nightmare to her. I never met the young woman as she and her husband live in California and his parents live in Connecticut. I do know that my friend really doesn't know what she "did wrong" to make this woman dislike her, but that she seems to have done something. Ever since the DIL started criticizing her, so has her son. It has taken her years to be able to put it aside and just ignore it.

I am sorry you will not have the relationship for which you hoped, but at least you do not appear to be devastated by the young woman's indifference to you. (Perhaps she is not indifferent to you! Perhaps you wish she was!)

Deb :wavey:
 
I am blessed that I have a good relationship with all three of my DIL after the lousy relationship I had with my MIL.
 
Gosh I’m so frustrated with health care and pharmaceuticals in this country. If my DH and I didn’t have disposable income to spend on all my doctors and meds I’d be up the proverbial creek. My heart goes out to all who are struggling right now with obtaining adequate healthcare and treatment. Totally out of hand. We have healthcare but almost everything seems to be excluded and the doctors I have to see don’t accept my or any health insurance. It’s crazy how much we spend on healthcare every month let alone every year. Sending good wishes out there to everyone who is affected by the state of healthcare.


I am so grateful though to all the excellent caring doctors who do their best to help their patients and thankful there are treatments for many serious health conditions. Hope the future brings cures or at least effective treatments for those struggling with life altering or life ending conditions.
 
HI:

I think I am the only one watching the Olympics! Yay Canada!

cheers--Shaorn
 
@missy Take care. It's a treasure to find and keep good doctors. My husband has finally left the self-employed world, which meant 6 years without an adequate drug plan. It was crazy expensive. I almost can't believe how freeing it is to order my meds and not be afraid to see the bill. Even the pharmacists felt bad at times.
 
@canuk-gal We met my parents for dinner tonight and they gave my daughter a purple ukulele for Valentines Day. She and I were looking at YouTube videos of people playing the uke for inspiration. Guess what we found? A cover of Havana, and man is it the cutest. It’s by an American teacher who was teaching English in Spain. Her students kept asking her to cover the song and she promised them she would if they made YouTube videos in English. It’s adorable. Thought I would share it with you!

 
Thank you for sharing Monnie. She is adorable!!! I’m sure she was a wonderful teacher and will be missed by her students
 
lyra said:
@missy Take care. It's a treasure to find and keep good doctors. My husband has finally left the self-employed world, which meant 6 years without an adequate drug plan. It was crazy expensive. I almost can't believe how freeing it is to order my meds and not be afraid to see the bill. Even the pharmacists felt bad at times.
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Thank you lyra. I am sorry you and your dh went without an adequate drug plan for so long and am glad that you now have coverage. Getting competent healthcare and treatment should not be a privilege but a right and I hope we all see that day (hopefully soon) where everyone can get good healthcare no matter their income level.
 
Monarch64: I call you Monnie because I hope I can.

Will you ever know how much this post means to me?

You shared something personal with me about your family, and in turn I will do the same.

My DH came home with a pompom hat with the Canadian Olympic stuff on it because he knows I like pompoms on hats. And we love the Olympics. He knows pompoms and champagne.

I put it on. I love it. It was meant for me.

I bit later he saw me tearing up. I read your post and I loved it. While I don't share my personal communications with my husband, I did. He doesn't see my tears often, so it was something.

He knew your post was meant for me. Thank you.

cheers--Sharon
 
I love that the olympics now allow figure skaters to use music with lyrics. The skaters are choosing such wonderful music! The Canadian pairs team just used a beautiful, haunting version of "With Or Without You." (Watching from the West Coast).
 
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