Im Going Insane!!!

[GarysBride]

This is sorta like robbies topic and I want to reply on there but I need to seriously vent!

ok here goes: Latley theres been alot of tension between FI and I and im not sure why I''ve been wanting to go look at wedding sites with him and start figuring a few things out about the wedding before we move to WA (were getting married in san diego) and I dont bother him much about it just mention it here and there so I dont know what the big deal is!
Like today for example I wanted to go out to la jolla shores or the "wedding bowl" to have a picnic and relax with him so I said hey so we should go out to la jolla and he started to say stuff like "there will be another time before we leave it doesnt really matter" I said ok and walked away and he said "why are you argueing with me?" this made me furious and at the time we were at his parents house so I just went into a bedroom and cried because I just dont know what to think anymore I feel like anything I say or do he complains about or starts to make comments! I feel very put out and frustrasted and everything seems to be my fault!
What the hell did I do?????????

UGHHHHHH!

He used to comfort me when I cried and ask me whats wrong but now its like he barely cares everything else is ok but I think were having communication problems, were under alot of stress right now but that really shouldnt affect us that much how can I make this better since apperntly its all my fault hes being this way!?

 

[firebirdgold]

Oh sweetie! I''m so sorry this is happening!

I don''t know what to say other than

**HUG** **HUG**

 

[robbie3982]

Awe, I''m sorry. Maybe he handles stress the way I do. I''ve definitely been snapping at FI a lot lately. You should definitely talk to him. He probably doesn''t realize how he''s acting.

 

[anchor31]

I''m sorry you''re going through this... *hugs* It sounds like both of you are under a lot of stress, and you definitely need to talk about this.

Sometimes when a couple becomes engaged or married, one member of the couple (or both) unconsciously stop making the extra effort because a commitment has been made. When that happens, they have to realize that they may be committed, but it doesn''t mean they have to stop working on the relationship! It may not be what''s happening to you, just throwing the idea.

 

[codex57]

We were under a lot of stress while planning the wedding. Lots more fights, etc. We were both involved and trying, it''s just that planning the wedding creates all sorts of issues and stuff.

I''ve heard it''s common and for us, we''ve both remarked how much better it''s gotten once the wedding was finished. I think that''s the real reason for the honeymoon now. To get that spark back after struggling through the wedding stuff.

 

[KimberlyH]

My husband and I got along great until about a month before the wedding. I turned into a total crab. I wasn''t angry with him just a bit stressed and nervous about all of the changes that were taking place. Have a sit down with him and share a bit of how you''re feeling with him. That ought to open him up a bit and perhaps he''ll be willing to share what is going on with him. Marriage is scary, perhaps he''s just a bit overwhelmed. Much luck to you!

 

[GarysBride]

Thanks everyone for your input both of us have talked and now were a bit better. While we were laying together in bed last night he appologised about jumping on my case about nothing which made me happy becuase its usually me whos saying sorry haha; and today he told me that he has the day off on Weds. so we can go look at some wedding sites YAY! all better hehe! im sure there will be more spifs down the line but im sure we can work it out! thanks again oh and ill be sure to take pictures of the sites for everyone to see!

 

[anchor31]

I''m glad you''ve talked and things are better! Good luck with the venue scouting!

 

[budgetbride]

oh I love it when the couples make up.