luckystar112
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Anybody looking for a good vent? Here's one.
Background: As most of you know, we were supposed to get married in Virginia and just recently changed our minds and decided to have a small destination wedding in Jamaica. What you may not know is that my cousin is getting married at the same resort two days before us (which is why we picked it). She and her FI were planning on eloping...just them, no one else...period. They have two children who will be staying home with her mom (my aunt). They've had this planned since last May. Obviously, things have changed and they are thrilled that FI and I will be joining them and that we'll be able to attend eachother's weddings. It was their idea...we never would have imposed on them.
So, FI and I are hoping that our wedding guests will consist only of my parents, his parents, my cousin and her new DH, and my FI's brother and his wife...a total of eight guests. The plan is for my cousin and I (and our men, obviously) to stay at the sandals, and everyone else will stay at the beaches resort right next door or somewhere else.
Fast forward
My mom is looking for a resort. She books at the RIU, and then realizes that Sandals charges anywhere from $85-$130 per person to step foot on the property if you aren't staying at another sandals or beaches resort. So, in order to go to both weddings, my mom could have been spending up to $520. She cancelled her reservation at the RIU and tried to book at the beaches, but the lower level rooms are all booked so she couldn't afford it. So she books at OUR resort. She didn't tell me--she told my cousin first and then my cousin called me flipping out. I was upset at first, but I've pretty much gotten over it. My cousin on the other hand is still pretty darn annoyed (my mom is even on the same flight as them). After all, they WERE trying to elope, and now my mom is going to be there while her own mom is at home? Things have died down a little bit...but that's not even where it gets bad.
A little bit more background information
I'll fully admit it. I'm still bitter about FI's family (particularly his dad) this past Christmas. As awful as this sounds, I really felt like he was cheaping out on our wedding...plans we had set he kept on suggesting we change (including the venue, which he OWNS, I mean, wth)...and he just says the most outlandish, RUDE, things sometimes that make me SO mad I could scream. Example: My parents drove 10 hours down there from Maine. They arrived in Virginia the day before us because FI's parents accidentally told them the wrong day we were arriving. So my parents had to meet Fi's parents without us, which I heard was awkward. Fi's parents didn't even think to turn the heat on for them at the house (my parents were staying at the lake house). There's a lot more rudeness there but I'll spare you. Outlandish comments though..let's see...he constantly talked about how he could never live in Maine...how it must be so awful there...how you have to be stupid to live in the cold...blah blah blah. When our flight was late and I realized that the ONE DAY I had with my mother (who, again, had driven 10 hours to see me and who hadn't seen me in over a year) was dwindling away, his dad told me it "wasn't a big deal" and to "calm down".
The man just really boils my blood sometimes. So...yeah, I'm still bitter. Not to mention that I really feel like they treat Fi's brother and his wife different from us, but that's a whole other story.
Fast forward again (pretty please!)
So FI talks to his parents and finds out that not only are they going...but so is his grandmother, a bunch of aunts and uncles, and some family friends...bringing the total on his side to FIFTEEN.
Not a big deal, I guess. What bothered me about it is that, for one, it's not what we wanted--and two, a few of those people FI has never even MET before. Nothing like using our wedding as an excuse for a vacation. Whatever...we got over it. They said they were staying at a different resort, so it's not like we'll see them.
Fast forward to today
Yeah. They're all trying to stay at our resort. Nice huh?
My cousin is going to flip out. Heck, I'm flipping out! I kind of threw a mini fit to FI because I do NOT want all of those people there...especially his parents. Am I a brat because I want a little bit of privacy at our resort? I'm not trying to be rude about it, but I mean, there are 94 resorts in Negril. Why OURS? I don't get it. We're staying at a couples resort. If we wanted everyone in our family there, we would have picked a family resort. FI feels the same way as me, but didn't say anything when they told him. He said he was shocked. Now he's planning on calling them tomorrow morning before they book and tell them "no way". I'm assuming that this is going to make me look like a huge b#%$^ since things were obviously honky dory today but all of a sudden NOT okay now. I hate looking like the bad guy, ESPECIALLY since I know that FI feels the same way. I'm just afraid they are going to think that I put him up to this. I guess I did, in a way...but it's not all me.
I just feel like for the last three years every vacation we have taken has been to see his family. I'm done, and I need a break. That is why I'm kind of glad that my mom is staying at the resort. I miss her! But that can't look good...to have my mom at our resort and not his family. So I'm the bad guy.....again. Sigh.
Background: As most of you know, we were supposed to get married in Virginia and just recently changed our minds and decided to have a small destination wedding in Jamaica. What you may not know is that my cousin is getting married at the same resort two days before us (which is why we picked it). She and her FI were planning on eloping...just them, no one else...period. They have two children who will be staying home with her mom (my aunt). They've had this planned since last May. Obviously, things have changed and they are thrilled that FI and I will be joining them and that we'll be able to attend eachother's weddings. It was their idea...we never would have imposed on them.
So, FI and I are hoping that our wedding guests will consist only of my parents, his parents, my cousin and her new DH, and my FI's brother and his wife...a total of eight guests. The plan is for my cousin and I (and our men, obviously) to stay at the sandals, and everyone else will stay at the beaches resort right next door or somewhere else.
Fast forward
My mom is looking for a resort. She books at the RIU, and then realizes that Sandals charges anywhere from $85-$130 per person to step foot on the property if you aren't staying at another sandals or beaches resort. So, in order to go to both weddings, my mom could have been spending up to $520. She cancelled her reservation at the RIU and tried to book at the beaches, but the lower level rooms are all booked so she couldn't afford it. So she books at OUR resort. She didn't tell me--she told my cousin first and then my cousin called me flipping out. I was upset at first, but I've pretty much gotten over it. My cousin on the other hand is still pretty darn annoyed (my mom is even on the same flight as them). After all, they WERE trying to elope, and now my mom is going to be there while her own mom is at home? Things have died down a little bit...but that's not even where it gets bad.
A little bit more background information
I'll fully admit it. I'm still bitter about FI's family (particularly his dad) this past Christmas. As awful as this sounds, I really felt like he was cheaping out on our wedding...plans we had set he kept on suggesting we change (including the venue, which he OWNS, I mean, wth)...and he just says the most outlandish, RUDE, things sometimes that make me SO mad I could scream. Example: My parents drove 10 hours down there from Maine. They arrived in Virginia the day before us because FI's parents accidentally told them the wrong day we were arriving. So my parents had to meet Fi's parents without us, which I heard was awkward. Fi's parents didn't even think to turn the heat on for them at the house (my parents were staying at the lake house). There's a lot more rudeness there but I'll spare you. Outlandish comments though..let's see...he constantly talked about how he could never live in Maine...how it must be so awful there...how you have to be stupid to live in the cold...blah blah blah. When our flight was late and I realized that the ONE DAY I had with my mother (who, again, had driven 10 hours to see me and who hadn't seen me in over a year) was dwindling away, his dad told me it "wasn't a big deal" and to "calm down".
Fast forward again (pretty please!)
So FI talks to his parents and finds out that not only are they going...but so is his grandmother, a bunch of aunts and uncles, and some family friends...bringing the total on his side to FIFTEEN.
Fast forward to today
Yeah. They're all trying to stay at our resort. Nice huh?
I just feel like for the last three years every vacation we have taken has been to see his family. I'm done, and I need a break. That is why I'm kind of glad that my mom is staying at the resort. I miss her! But that can't look good...to have my mom at our resort and not his family. So I'm the bad guy.....again. Sigh.
so she won''t necessarily have anything to do with FI''s family, aside from seeing them at the wedding...
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