imagine what would happen if PS wasn''t a moderated forum .....

[Dancing Fire]

like other message boards.they don''t show any mercy,they give you a piece of their mind. PS is a very civilize forum.

 

[sjz]

I''m glad I don''t frequent those other message boards, then.

 

[decodelighted]

In the last couple days all this talk of the "mean" boards has me facinated. Who? What? When? Where? I likes trouble! (just kidding - but, you know, sometimes I like Court TV too ... drama/murder/missing people!!)

 

[Mara]

deco I really like you!!!

I personally like it when things are lively, and that includes lots of funky discussions and debates and even some arguments. That's just how life is...nothing can be peachy keen all the time. Greg always says I should have been a lawyer, but that would have been way too much schooling.

I have my own unique way of seeing the world. I always respect blunt honesty over anything else...and always have. I *want* you to tell me if my butt looks big in those jeans!!!

The funny thing is that people will always SEE what they want to see, what suits them. Especially when it's an online forum and interpretation is key. Some of the best arguments or debates we had in the past came from disagreeing with each other, and some of those people still hang around here today and are long-timers. But because we HAVE scrapped in the past and been able to come out and be like..okay that's done...it's almost like you feel closer to those people. And some of the previous stuff got nasty as well. That is why in my opinion getting down and dirty is not always a horrible thing like others think it is. Sometimes it helps you know the other parties better and respect them more when all is said and done. And well...other times you just get bored with the self-righteous and go from there.

 

[MelissaSue]

i agree!!
theknot.com (for wedding planning) is a baaaad one.. no moderators at all..
FI goes on a lot of car forums.. and there is alot of personal attacks around there too.. even though they try to moderate it!

 

[Mara]

The knot is VERY bad...but then again I never have used them like a PS..they were more a basic resource where I asked what I needed to and searched to find what else I needed, rather than a 'I want to hang out here'. But then again I was never really into 'hanging out' at an online forum. I originally only decided to stick around PS because it was filled with such great diamond knowledge and I was fascinated by the math and intricacies of diamond cutting and the like. You can go anywhere on the net and hang out in random forums to talk about other stuff, they are everywhere, but PS was special because it was one of the only ones about diamonds!!

 

[Kaleigh]

This is my one and only forum. I haven''t been on any others. I love PS and have learned a great deal. I personally love it when things get heated around here, it''s great entertainment for me. But then I love a good argument now and then. There is nothing wrong about speaking your mind.

 

[ammayernyc]

You want to see bad, you should go to Craigslist. My goodness, so incredibly mean. I go there just for entertainment value!

 

[Kaleigh]

Amandapanda what kind of forum is that??? All kinds of topics or what???

 

[Mara]

Oooh now I am tempted AP!! I have to check it out.

 

[ammayernyc]

It''s a wedding forum. Here''s the link: http://forums.craigslist.org/?forumID=15

You don''t have to be regitered to post. I have never in my life experienced such meaness!

 

[Madam Bijoux]

Here''s one:
http://p082.ezboard.com/fthecrowesperchfrm5
l

 

[curlygirl]

This is the only forum I post on and I originally came here just to do research--not really to contribute anything. But after reading so much, I felt like there was a really great community here, almost like a family. I finally emerged from lurkdom and although I don''t post too much unless I have something to say, I read pretty much everything. I avoided all the drama lately but I was sitting at my computer laughing and egging everyone else on. Yes, I agree with decodelighted and Mara--a little spirited conversation/debating can be very entertaining and informative!! I''m kind of a sh*$-stirrer so it was hard for me to refrain from posting but most of the things I was thinking were already posted much more eloquently than I could have! Anyway, the point is that I love coming here and reading and learning and feeling like I''m part of a fun group of people who are helpful, honest and supportive--even when the discussions get a little heated!!

Special thanks to Leonid and Irina for keeping things running so smoothly here.

 

[laney]

Well I for one must stand up for theknot! NOT THE P&E board (planning & ettiquette) That''s by far the worse one.

But I found the destination weddings board FABULOUS - just as nice and friendly as can be. Made some very nice internet aquintences there. Sure, we''d have a troll every six to eight months - but for the most part - the crazies on the theknot when to other boards.

Now our group graduated to thenest. Which we propmtly found our own "board" to stay away from crazymarriedbrides.

Here is pretty darn nice too. I don''t think I''ve been privy to a troll here. Maybe a bad temper or two - but that''s all. Not like other boards..

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 8/11/2005 12:51:14 PM
Author: kaleigh
This is my one and only forum. I haven''t been on any others. I love PS and have learned a great deal. I personally love it when things get heated around here, it''s great entertainment for me. But then I love a good argument now and then. There is nothing wrong about speaking your mind.

i agree

btw; before you go to those other message boards,you better know all the 4 letter words in the book.

 

[sarita]

Wow? People at a message board for marriage fighting worse than at a DIAMOND board where women are comparing/competing their rocks? That''s hard to imagine for me. I mean, I think it makes less sense. I don''t get it.

MelissaSue, my BF hangs out a car message board and he says there is no drama there at all. Granted they are mostly all guys, and older. He says it''s just that the people are nicer, and I tend to agree.

I have never been to craigslist message board but even in the classifieds I have seen people post threads to bad-talk other sellers. I guess that''s just like eBay though.

As much as I instigated things at DT and stood like a bi*ch for my convictions - which I don''t regret standing for BTW but I was a often a B in my approach - I feel I have graduated and am not looking forward to SSDP (same ___, different place).

FWIW, back in early highschool after I first got AOL my best friend and I had an awesome time going to chatrooms acting stupid and picking fights with anyone who would join in, getting tossed out of some places in the process. No regets for those days. I had some huge laughs!

 

[decodelighted]

Right backatcha Mara & fellow fiesties. I''ve loved peeping in on this crowd for awhile & am glad to pipe in now a bit! A certain degree of passion''s probably how we all embarked down the diamond trail - why shouldn''t it spark up in other areas from time to time? I might have to check out these dirty, dirty b.b''s ... send a search party if I don''t come back!

 

[Kaleigh]

decodelighted we are glad to have you among us!!!!!!

 

[LadyluvsLuxury]

I''m sorry I just peeked over at the craigslist forum...I am rolling on the floor laughing over here....wow!

my thoughts on buying a ring 08/11 14:45:59

if you have to make payments for it then you can''t afford it.noticed several posts on this forum from people planning to do this.

putting yourself into debt for a ring means you need to reevaluate your priorities.

LOLOLOL, this person started a thread JUST to make that point. Maybe I should start that topic over here....that would be VERY interesting...

 

[aljdewey]

Date: 8/11/2005 7:24:31 PM
Author: sarita

MelissaSue, my BF hangs out a car message board and he says there is no drama there at all. Granted they are mostly all guys, and older. He says it''s just that the people are nicer, and I tend to agree.

I''ll go waaaaaaaaaay out on a limb here and take a CRAZY guess. Maybe....just maaaaaaaaaaybe......I''m guessing the lack of drama is because

1) guys don''t get their feelings hurt when someone posts a picture of another''s car while ADMIRING it.
2) guys can call each other every unsavory name in the book and then go drinking together like nothing happened.
3. guys don''t interpret an opposing opinion as a complete invalidation of their own....it''s just another (whacked) opinion they don''t agree with. Que sera, sera.

 

[AGBF]

Date: 8/11/2005 12:25:15 PM
Author: decodelighted
In the last couple days all this talk of the ''mean'' boards has me facinated. Who? What? When? Where? I likes trouble! (just kidding - but, you know, sometimes I like Court TV too ... drama/murder/missing people!!)

I have just one word for you: USENET.

Deb

 

[belle]

Date: 8/11/2005 9:49:27 PM
Author: aljdewey

Date: 8/11/2005 7:24:31 PM
Author: sarita

MelissaSue, my BF hangs out a car message board and he says there is no drama there at all. Granted they are mostly all guys, and older. He says it''s just that the people are nicer, and I tend to agree.

I''ll go waaaaaaaaaay out on a limb here and take a CRAZY guess. Maybe....just maaaaaaaaaaybe......I''m guessing the lack of drama is because

1) guys don''t get their feelings hurt when someone posts a picture of another''s car while ADMIRING it.
2) guys can call each other every unsavory name in the book and then go drinking together like nothing happened.
3. guys don''t interpret an opposing opinion as a complete invalidation of their own....it''s just another (whacked) opinion they don''t agree with. Que sera, sera.

hehehe...you called it

 

[mrssalvo]

Date: 8/11/2005 10:29:25 PM
Author: belle

Date: 8/11/2005 9:49:27 PM

Author: aljdewey

Date: 8/11/2005 7:24:31 PM

Author: sarita


MelissaSue, my BF hangs out a car message board and he says there is no drama there at all. Granted they are mostly all guys, and older. He says it''s just that the people are nicer, and I tend to agree.

I''ll go waaaaaaaaaay out on a limb here and take a CRAZY guess. Maybe....just maaaaaaaaaaybe......I''m guessing the lack of drama is because


1) guys don''t get their feelings hurt when someone posts a picture of another''s car while ADMIRING it.

2) guys can call each other every unsavory name in the book and then go drinking together like nothing happened.

3. guys don''t interpret an opposing opinion as a complete invalidation of their own....it''s just another (whacked) opinion they don''t agree with. Que sera, sera.

hehehe...you called it

yep, i definitely agree with you al. sounds like my guy all the way

 

[Mara]

Date: 8/11/2005 10:57:47 PM
Author: mrssalvo

Date: 8/11/2005 10:29:25 PM
Author: belle

Date: 8/11/2005 9:49:27 PM

Author: aljdewey

Date: 8/11/2005 7:24:31 PM

Author: sarita


MelissaSue, my BF hangs out a car message board and he says there is no drama there at all. Granted they are mostly all guys, and older. He says it''s just that the people are nicer, and I tend to agree.

I''ll go waaaaaaaaaay out on a limb here and take a CRAZY guess. Maybe....just maaaaaaaaaaybe......I''m guessing the lack of drama is because


1) guys don''t get their feelings hurt when someone posts a picture of another''s car while ADMIRING it.

2) guys can call each other every unsavory name in the book and then go drinking together like nothing happened.

3. guys don''t interpret an opposing opinion as a complete invalidation of their own....it''s just another (whacked) opinion they don''t agree with. Que sera, sera.

hehehe...you called it

yep, i definitely agree with you al. sounds like my guy all the way

i third fourth and fifth agree. maybe men are onto something.

 

[canuk-gal]

Date: 8/11/2005 9:49:27 PM
Author: aljdewey

Date: 8/11/2005 7:24:31 PM
Author: sarita

MelissaSue, my BF hangs out a car message board and he says there is no drama there at all. Granted they are mostly all guys, and older. He says it''s just that the people are nicer, and I tend to agree.

I''ll go waaaaaaaaaay out on a limb here and take a CRAZY guess. Maybe....just maaaaaaaaaaybe......I''m guessing the lack of drama is because

HI:

Although not frequented often, some of the most sophmoric verbal sparring we''ve experienced has been on sterero and car message boards. Lack of drama?? Or perhaps my DH/I were on the "wrong ones"...but in general I not sure I can say in the same sentence that men + these subjects and pedantic are not mutually exclusive.......

cheers--Sharon

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 8/11/2005 9:49:27 PM
Author: aljdewey

Date: 8/11/2005 7:24:31 PM
Author: sarita

MelissaSue, my BF hangs out a car message board and he says there is no drama there at all. Granted they are mostly all guys, and older. He says it''s just that the people are nicer, and I tend to agree.

I''ll go waaaaaaaaaay out on a limb here and take a CRAZY guess. Maybe....just maaaaaaaaaaybe......I''m guessing the lack of drama is because

1) guys don''t get their feelings hurt when someone posts a picture of another''s car while ADMIRING it.
2) guys can call each other every unsavory name in the book and then go drinking together like nothing happened.
3. guys don''t interpret an opposing opinion as a complete invalidation of their own....it''s just another (whacked) opinion they don''t agree with. Que sera, sera.

Alj
101% correct.

 

[Rockchick]

sorry

I just had to check out The Knot and the infamous P&E board..

OMG! here is one response:

"Um, maybe the reason no one responded to your silly little post is that they just didn''t want to.
P.S. A post like this will get you flamed all the way to hell. Let it go."

Another:

"Random posts get ignored all the time. Suck it up!!"

 

[sarita]

Date: 8/12/2005 10:25:32 AM
Author: canuk-gal

Date: 8/11/2005 9:49:27 PM
Author: aljdewey

Date: 8/11/2005 7:24:31 PM
Author: sarita

MelissaSue, my BF hangs out a car message board and he says there is no drama there at all. Granted they are mostly all guys, and older. He says it''s just that the people are nicer, and I tend to agree.

I''ll go waaaaaaaaaay out on a limb here and take a CRAZY guess. Maybe....just maaaaaaaaaaybe......I''m guessing the lack of drama is because

HI:

Although not frequented often, some of the most sophmoric verbal sparring we''ve experienced has been on sterero and car message boards. Lack of drama?? Or perhaps my DH/I were on the ''wrong ones''...but in general I not sure I can say in the same sentence that men + these subjects and pedantic are not mutually exclusive.......

cheers--Sharon

I agree with you. I don''t think it''s just because they''re guys, although I do agree that men in general seem to be more easy-going. Each board seems to have its own personality, based largely on the personalities of its core members. I have seen car boards where there is plently of drama - but the members are mostly younger and also bold and obnoxious types (at least their online personas) who don''t care if they offend anyone.

I think sparring occurs online because some people say things they would never say in the same situation in person. Also, if tone is not construed correctly things can sound more offensive.

 

[TheTankMan]

Well, I wouldn''t really respond with "I''ll go waaaaaaaaaay out on a limb here and take a CRAZY guess. Maybe....just maaaaaaaaaaybe......" to someone I don''t know well. At our car board, we might use that kind of sarcasm if an old regular said something really dumb or missed an obvious point, but it''s all in fun. I know at least I am more cautious with newcomers and even regulars that I know are more sensitive than most. Something that makes our car board different than some competing ones is that we make an effort to be nice to new members. Many come and ask questions that have been discussed several times before, and some boards would just post a link or tell them "go search the archive," but that''s not the right feel for a message board. It''s nice to get a human reply to your post even if it''s an "old question." It''s that kind of attitude that makes our board pleasant to be at.

 

[aljdewey]

Date: 8/13/2005 4:49:41 PM
Author: TheTankMan
Well, I wouldn't really respond with 'I'll go waaaaaaaaaay out on a limb here and take a CRAZY guess. Maybe....just maaaaaaaaaaybe......' to someone I don't know well. At our car board, we might use that kind of sarcasm if an old regular said something really dumb or missed an obvious point, but it's all in fun. I know at least I am more cautious with newcomers and even regulars that I know are more sensitive than most.

Before you gallop a full lap on the high horse, TankMan, perhaps you should consider a few things:

1. My post was intended to be facetious.....outrageous understatment....which it appears most people got.

2. Someone I don't know well? I've been posting and talking with most of the participants in this thread for a very long time.....they know me quite well, and I know them quite well--as evidenced by the fact that most of them knew it was an understatement.

3. You wouldn't respond that way? Congratulations....marvelous for you. I'm not you, though, and I have history with these people that you don't.

4. As far as I'm concerned, newcomers are always welcome, but that doesn't mean everyone has to modify their norms to suit them. Since I'm not an approval-seeker, it's really not a huge concern to me. For those who are, feel free to do whatever you think is appropriate.

We all seem to manage just fine.

If you decide to stay..........welcome to Pricescope.