Invite Wording

[largirl]

How would you word an invitation where the bride and the groom are paying for the wedding, but you also want to include your parents and his mom and deceased father? Do you ever include the name of the deceased on an invite? Or would it just be his mom?

 

[Pandora II]

It isn''t normal to include the name of a deceased person.

Most normal is just

X and Y, together with their parents...

There was a thread on exactly this subject about 4 months ago.

 

[cara]

Dead men cannot issue invitations or host parties, but they can be acknowledged as fathers, a description that is presumably still accurate after their death.

Since it is his father that has passed, you could place your parents in the host role and his parents in the "parent" role:

Mr. and Mrs. Largirl
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
Largirl
to
Larguy
son of Mrs. Larguy and the late Mr. Larguy

Saturday, blah blah blah.

This is the most traditional.

Hosting is not the same thing as paying, but if you want to have your parents listed only as parents and not hosts, it would be:

Largirl
Daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Largirl
and
Larguy
Son of Mrs. Larguy and the late Mr. Larguy
request the honor of your presence at their marriage....

Last, there is the inclusive option that does not list parents by name:

Together with their families
Largirl
and
Larguy
request the pleasure...


OK, really the last option, if larguy did not like his father he could be left off entirely by having all the living parents co-host:
Mr. and Mrs. Largirl
Mrs. Larguy
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their children
largirl and larguy

 

[largirl]

Haha, I love "Larguy".

He was very close to his father and I do want to include our parent''s names on the invite even though we''re paying for it ourselves, so I like the "daughter of/son of" idea...both my parents and his mom are going to be heavily involved (my family is making all the flower arrangements, his mom is making my dress, and everyone is doing the centerpieces and favors) so I don''t want to put one family down as the host and leave the other as just parents, if that makes sense, and because of that I also feel it''s important to have their names on it.

Thanks guys!