It''s not only the girls that have to wait!!!

[s2k]

I have been with my gf for 2.5 years now and am 27 years old (she is 25 turning 26 this month) she has expressed in the open that i am the one she wants to marry and even if I proposed tmw she would say yes. she has also expressed that she doesn''t want to be married until we have lived together for a little bit (we are buying a place together in august of 0 which is fine but this is all two years away and i do not want a long engagement! if it were up to me i would ask her tmw and be married next year but i have to respect her wishes as well. I will most likely ask her sometime in the spring

I have a 1 carat GIA ideal solitaire ready to go...... *sigh* at least i have all this time to think of the perfect proposal

She has no idea i have the ring i just couldn''t hold out any longer.. i had to buy it.... i have been paying very close attention to what she likes and when she tried on this band for fun at the jewelry store she kinda hinted how much she loves it so i and the exact one custom made for the loose diamond i purchased. SOOO EXCITED!!!!!

 

[justageek]

Welcome, s2k!! The ring looks absolutely beautiful, and she''s lucky to have a guy that loves her, is ready to commit, and put a lot of thought into what she wants

Also, congratulations on the buying-a-place decision! That sounds like an exciting next step for both of you


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On an aside, I hope you don''t get turned off by all the sex stereotypes we use (e.g. "boy" soon vs. "girl" soon, "men just don''t want to commit", etc.) Forgive us for our slips and sweeping generalizations -- we just get upset sometimes, is all... !! Let us know if we ever cross the line; we do know that there are many many men out there who don''t fit the description

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[s2k]

generalize all u want!! you have to get frustrations out somehow..

this is why when men cheat or something the common response is "ALL men are pigs"

which is usually what i say to my friends whom have had this unfortunate incident happen to them. for some reason its comforting.

 

[gwendolyn]

Hahah, that is great! You sound a bit like my boyfriend, who''s said that he''d be married to me already if he''d have his way (although I know for a fact mine doesn''t have a ring hidden anywhere because he''s kinda terrified of diamonds

). But yeah, way to represent for all the MIWs out there!

 

[amy_dub]

Hi s2k! Thanks for posting.. it''s nice to have a guy''s perspective in here with all of our hormones

I guess most of the time we hear a lot of the guy being the one not ready to "take the leap", so like justageek said, we often make hasty generalizations. Feel free to butt in at any time and tell us we''re being a little overly judgemently of the male species.

I can see where your GF is coming from. A house is a very expensive purchase, so i''m sure she wants to be a little financially stable after making that purchase before having to pay for a wedding. Have you hinted to her about a long engagement? What''s her stance on it? If she''s ok with it, and you really want to propose, maybe having a long engagement isn''t so bad after all? If you start planning now and start booking things, you might get better pricing. As i''m sure you''re well aware, prices just keep going up with no end in sight.

Either way, congrats on your purchase

It is beautiful and ANY girl here would be absolutely thrilled to be presented with it!

 

[s2k]

Date: 12/19/2007 11:02:13 AM
Author: amy_dub

I can see where your GF is coming from. A house is a very expensive purchase, so i''m sure she wants to be a little financially stable after making that purchase before having to pay for a wedding. Have you hinted to her about a long engagement? What''s her stance on it? If she''s ok with it, and you really want to propose, maybe having a long engagement isn''t so bad after all? If you start planning now and start booking things, you might get better pricing. As i''m sure you''re well aware, prices just keep going up with no end in sight.

this would make sense but we are both financially stable and able to afford a place + wedding (although i think our parents will be helping with that) the reason i dont want a long engagement is because whats its announced i have the type of family to hound me to set a date....