"Just Barely" Pregnant PS''ers

[PetitiePoire]

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Love all of the early baby pics. So precious!!

Really loving Kunzite's twin shot! It's just so amazing.

 

[amc80]

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AMC - Wow! I feel so sorry for you. Baby has been cooperating with me so well this whole time, I'm just praying he/she has the same attitude after he/she is born!

Thanks! I'm much better today...well, I was until it kicked in again a few minutes ago.

Have you guys given any thought to your registries? We had a destination wedding and I didn't feel right doing a registry for that, but I'm definitely doing one for the baby. There's just so much stuff to get! We've basically picked everything out already. Most of the items are available on both amazon and BRU. The price differences though are sort of crazy. Like the extra base for the car seat is $17 cheaper at BRU, but the bedding is $20 cheaper at amazon. We were already thinking of registering at both places anyway, and I think now we will for sure. Just on the 8 items I checked, we'd save over $100 by splitting the registries.

ETA- Hmm, error in my spreadsheet. Only 2 items are cheaper at amazon, and the difference isn't huge. Maybe we'll stick to BRU. Sort of shocking, I thought amazon would be cheaper!

 

[Skippy123]

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Oh just an fyi, if you do register, at the end both Amazon, Target and BRU give you a 10% discount on items that weren't bought off your registry.

Also Target was pretty easy w/returns.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

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Registries: How early do you do this?

Out of elation at being engaged, we registered *soon* after--made it feel official & it was fun. I'm not sure if there's a standard for baby registries though.

 

[Skippy123]

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Fisher, I would do it about at 20-25 weeks preggo? Then you can add to it as you remember stuff. Target, and BRU you can start online. But if you go in the store they give you coupons at both places which is nice that is why I did them in store. People do their showers at 30 weeks or so. I like earlier so you can be prepared?? Then it isn't too hard to organize the room too if you aren't too far along, or at least for me. I gave birth at 30 weeks and some days and my shower was at 29 weeks.

 

[missrachelk]

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Hi There! Still preggo here, made it 5 days without telling anyone!

Initially I thought we might wait longer but I want to tell parents once we get the next US and see the heartbeat (or whatever comes first) I'm also inclined to tell my boss relatively soon (not all coworkers, just her) so she'll know why I'm going to so many appointments and kind of give me a pass for being fatigued. WIll ponder that more this weekend. Friends I think we'll wait longer, but my birthday is in another montha nd it will be fairly tricky to play off no champagne or anything without telling, and I think I'll enjoy telling when we have people together already. I'll play that by ear. Any thoughts on telling vs waiting?

So I'm wondering if anyone else has had JBP acne? I was dealing with some PCOS acne that had cleared a lot but it seems to be breaking out a bit in the last week. I'm really hoping it will clear over the next 10 months, not ontinue to bug me : (

My nails are also very peely. I need a manicure but I thought pregnancy hormones are good for hair and nails? Maybe they need a good grooming then they'll be off to the races.

I have an accupuncture appt tomorrow so looking forwrad to talking to her about pregnancy and her perspective.

Then the countdown to Wednesday!!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

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20 weeks? Oh no way-- I can't handle waiting that long.

 

[stephbolt]

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20 weeks? Oh no way-- I can't handle waiting that long.

fisher, you should register whenever you want! You can create a hidden registry on amazon which I started pretty much as soon as I got pregnant. I didn't want any nosy friends/family who we hadn't told yet searching for my name and stumbling upon the registry. I don't know if you can hide the registry like that at big box stores. But once you are out and public with your pregnancy, then I say go for it!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

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My aunt (the one we told right away) is hyper excited for us to register. I'm not going to do it right yet, but I don't think we're 1/2 way in, either. I'm gonna sure enjoy it when we do, though.

 

[megumic]

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amc, we just started talking about registering last night. I think we will do BRU or Amazon as well. THe nice thing about BRU is that friends and family can go physically pick out the gift, whereas Amazon you cannot -- I know for me I sometimes like to hold and touch and select the gift I am purchasing. So we will probably go with BRU. We also want this ridiculous rocking/gliding arm chair from PB kids that is like $1000, which we may just ante up and buy ourselves, but otherwise everything will likely be registry items.

Missy, that is SO COOL you're feeling tons of kicks! We can't wait for that stage and are so excited. I think DH will enjoy connecting with the baby. He made a face and got upset the other day and said, "But you get to take the baby to work EVERYDAY!" Silly DH.

Missrachel - I think sharing the news is a very personal decision. My first preg we shared right away but we ended up with a m/c so then it was difficult to turn around and tell the story. This time, we kept mum to nearly everyone except one friend and our parents until 12 weeks, then we slowly began sharing and still haven't fully shared at nearly 14 weeks. It's funny because I thought I'd be super excited to share, but I felt like people knowing created a lot of stress and pressure on me. So I've been doing it at my own pace. Once we told DH's grandparents we knew the cousins would explode us on FB, so I ended up removing commenting ability on my wall until I'm ready for the whole world to know. So, basically, I think it's really a personal decision.

How are the rest of the JBP's???

AFM, I've been feeling like I've got some energy back -- not sure if that's b/c I'm now in the 2nd tri or b/c I have been taken off my thyroid meds, but I'm loving being able to stay up past 8:30pm again! However, with the good comes the bad. I've been waking up in the morning with debilitating heacaches about 3 x week. Ugh. I try and have a little coffee and stave off the head ache and if it doesn't calm down by 11 or so, I turn to tylenol as a last resort. Any other suggestions for these mean and nasty headaches???

In other news, I decided it was time to get mat jeans just to have on hand. I can just predict I'll wake up and have somewhere to go and an outfit planned and then all of a sudden my jeans won't fit. So this weekend we went all over looking for mat jeans. Old Navy didn't have my size in store or online so that was a bust! (Although they did have a ton of other cute stuff and I had a $10 off $50 or mroe coupon so we got like 4 mat tanks, 4 work mat shirts and baby pants for $50 - a bargain!) Then I tried Motherhood MAternity out of MAcys. Well, they had a good sale and some cute stuff, but even the larges the pants were already feeling snug in the hips/thighs. I am more of a pear shape and I have a butt, and hips and thighs that I am certain will not be getting smaller any time soon! So I felt that although the belly region was fine, the leg region wasn't stretchy enough or have enough give that it was worth buying. So we sacked up and went to Pea in the Pod. Well, she first tried to sell me $190 Sevens. Those didn't fit so great. THen I found the sale rack. Buy one get one free. THat sounded good. I found two pairs of mat jeans there for $60. Done and done. One needs hemming, the other doesn't. They're a great start and I think they'll be cute for the spring. Glad we went in there despite feeling like everything was super expensive!

 

[Buttons]

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Hello all!

I've nothing to add re registries as we don't do them where I am - sounds like fun though!

missrachel we told our parents at 7 weeks. Next weekend I have a date with my two closest girlfriends and I will tell them then (I'll be almost 10 weeks). DH is spending the weekend with his two closest friends and he'll probably tell them too. We'll tell our siblings after the first scan (which will be at 11 weeks 4 days), and give the parentals the OK to tell the relatives after that, and everyone else we'll probably just tell as we see them. MIL actually said to me to hold off telling people for as long as you can as the pregnancy will feel very long with if you have everyone asking you constantly from very early on about how it's going and how much longer you have left. I thought that was a good point actually.

megumic I've heard a lot of people swear by a thing called '4Head' for headaches. It's a stick you roll on your forehead that contains levomenthol. I suffer from horrible headaches too, particularly at night, and they prevent me sleeping. I haven't seen the 4Head thing in a store yet but I happened to have a pot of Vicks Vapo Rub at home and that also contains levomenthol so I've been putting that on my forehead or temples (depending on where the worst of the pain is) at night! It doesn't get rid of the headache completely but it is soothing (probably because it's distracting!). Obviously if you have sensitive skin be careful about putting menthol on it as it can be an irritant. Hope the headaches ease up soon.

AFM I hope I'm not jinxing myself here but I think I've turned a corner with the morning-noon-and-night sickness. I've been much less nauseous the last three or four days. Still dealing with exhaustion and headaches and some passing queasiness but I've been vertical the last four days without spending the whole time feeling like I was going to faint, which is a big improvement! I'm amazed by the change in my appetite - I've always been a grazer and have always been a 'little and often' kind of eater but the last few weeks I've been experiencing this 'must eat NOW!' kind of hunger that I've never felt before in my life. I've been trying to fend that off with crackers and fruit etc but sometimes I end up caving when all I want is French bread and cream cheese...

9 weeks on the nose today

Hope you are all well today

 

[monkeyprincess]

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Hi everyone! I'm 5 weeks and 3 days today. I still don't feel completely comfortable posting here since my first week of pregnancy was a roller coaster and it is still so very early, but I had a quick question and was hoping someone could put my mind at ease. Am I the only one who has pretty much zero symptoms of pregnancy? Yesterday I thought my bbs were maybe starting to get sore, but today they don't feel very sore at all unless I poke them repeatedly, which probably have made them sore pre-pregnancy too! Every once in awhile (like a couple times a day) I'll get a strange cramp, but other than that, I don't feel any different. I know not everyone has symptoms this early, but I'd like to feel SOMETHING now that I'm not getting any more blood tests and my husband has forbidden me from taking any more pregnancy tests!

 

[Buttons]

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monkeyprincess first and foremost congratulations! I had no symptoms at 5 weeks other than a bit more tiredness than usual. The nausea, sore boobs, bloating etc kicked in with a vengeance at 6 weeks!

 

[stephbolt]

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Hi everyone! I'm 5 weeks and 3 days today. I still don't feel completely comfortable posting here since my first week of pregnancy was a roller coaster and it is still so very early, but I had a quick question and was hoping someone could put my mind at ease. Am I the only one who has pretty much zero symptoms of pregnancy? Yesterday I thought my bbs were maybe starting to get sore, but today they don't feel very sore at all unless I poke them repeatedly, which probably have made them sore pre-pregnancy too! Every once in awhile (like a couple times a day) I'll get a strange cramp, but other than that, I don't feel any different. I know not everyone has symptoms this early, but I'd like to feel SOMETHING now that I'm not getting any more blood tests and my husband has forbidden me from taking any more pregnancy tests!

MP, so glad to see you here! Other than a tiny bit of bb soreness I didn't feel much until six weeks. That's when the nausea hit with a vengance for me, and the exhaustion didn't hit until closer to 8 or 9 weeks.

 

[Missy0483]

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MP - I'll make you feel better again!!! I literally had NO morning sickness, nausea, food adversions, or hightened sense of smell at all this whole time. I had slight cramps up until about 6 weeks or so. Also, felt bloated until about 7 weeks, but looked bloated until about 13 weeks. My bbs we never all that sore until now because it took them this long to actually get bigger! It seemed like everyone besides me had all these symptoms and with only having one ultrasound at 6 weeks and not another one until 20ish weeks I was worried something was wrong! But here I am and still feeling pretty wonderful

-23 weeks 1 day!

 

[lliang_chi]

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Monkey, FWIW, I had no symptoms of pregnancy in my first tri. Not a whole lot of fatigue, zero nausea, no sore boobs. I took temps for 18 DPO and POAS maybe once every 2 days. But after that there was nothing I could do. I know it sounds trite but just keep your faith. And talk to your DH about your worries. He might see it as, "You're driving yourself crazy, you already know you're pregnant." But you see it as, "We've been wanting this for so long, I need something to reassure me that I'm still pregnant." And truth be told, even POAS-ing won't give you that reassurance. But your DH can try to give you as much reassurance and love as possible, and if anything it'll help you feel safe and supported.

Just keep in mind that 1) You're amazing no matter what. 2) You guys GOT pregnant with the IUI 3) There are things in life you cannot control. You have to accept that. But you can control your relationship with yourself and your DH and you should focus on that.

Hugs MP. I know you're anxious and worried and all that. There's nothing anyone can say or do to make that go away.

Lots of dust to all the JBP ladies!

~LC

 

[amc80]

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Hi guys! Okay, new weird problem I'm having and am wondering if any of you have it. I'm having problems with my arms going numb when I sleep. If I lay on my right side, it's the left side that goes numb, and vice versa. It's usually my upper arm but sometimes goes all the way down to my hands. I think I'm going to order a snoogle today and see if that helps. Anyone else have this problem?

We bought our stroller/travel system over the weekend. Yes, I realize it's super early...but we had a 20% off coupon so we went for it. Had fun putting it together and figuring out how to use it. Practiced with some stuffed animals, ha.

M/S has made a reappearance, and it's bad. No barfing, but severe nausea that kicks in around 2-3pm and stays until I go to sleep. I tried to eat chinese food the other night and had maybe 5 bites and had to call it. About to call in another refill on my zofran.

Have you guys been weighing yourselves? I don't want to rely on the doc's scale because it's in the afternoon, I'm clothed, and always have a full bladder. They can rely on it all they want, but for my peace of mind I'm using my scale at home (first thing in the morning, naked...of course). Anyway, I'm up about 6lbs. I think that's okay for 14 weeks, right? I was up 4lbs the morning of my last appt (11 weeks), so I've gained another 2 in the past 3 weeks. I know the recommendation is around 5lbs for the 1st trimester, but I'm not sure what it is after that. When does the "1 lb a week" thing kick in?

Whenever DH and I are shopping I always browse the maternity section. Yesterday at Target I browsed forlike 10 seconds and moved on. He said "You know you're going to have to buy some of that stuff eventually, right?" I will say my pants are pretty tight this morning. Usually they are fine in the mornings and don't feel tight until the afternoon. I guess 14 weeks is right about that time...

So I'm wondering if anyone else has had JBP acne? I was dealing with some PCOS acne that had cleared a lot but it seems to be breaking out a bit in the last week. I'm really hoping it will clear over the next 10 months, not ontinue to bug me : (

Yes. My skin is horrible right now. It's usually pretty clear, but I'm broken out all over. It's been like this since about week 7-8.

[quote="monkeyprincessAm I the only one who has pretty much zero symptoms of pregnancy? [/quote]
I had sore boobs/nips, but that was it...until 6 weeks when the m/s kicked in.

 

[monkeyprincess]

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Thank you ladies. I can be really logical about it one minute, and then panic the next. So it's reassuring to hear others were not feeling much of anything at this stage either.

LC, you are so right! DH has been good so far and has talked me off the ledge more than a few times this past week. He is far better at accepting that this is something we just have to wait out for now. I, on the other hand, want to control everything, know ever piece of information I can and to pretty much see into the future. That's not too much to ask, right? Thinking of you LC as the big day approaches!

 

[lliang_chi]

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MP, I'm glad your DH is there for you. Early on, my DH would say things like, "Whatever happens, it's okay and we just have to accept it." But as the person who's pregnant, I felt if something happened *I* did something wrong. I can only imagine how much MORE AMPLIFIED that feeling is for you since you've waited for SO LONG to get this BFP. And I know there's no one that can make you feel better, but just know that there's NOTHING you can do wrong (well, except for binge drinking and using illicit drugs etc), and you have a bunch of friends here on PS thinking of you, and your DH, friends and family IRL are there for you too. Remind yourself of that support and love and I dunno, it made me feel a little better. Not at ease, but a little better.

~LC

 

[ChinaCat]

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HI MONKEYPRINCESS! I never felt anything before 6 weeks. And like Missy, some people never feel much. I know the waiting has been terrible for you, but the 12 week wait of the first tri is hard too. This second go-round I pretty much was worried the whole time. But like others said, there is nothing you can do and you just have to try and ride it out. Chances are unless you have bleeding (not spotting but real bleeding) and severe cramps (not mild stretching cramps, but painful cramps) then all is fine. Your little bean seems like a fighter to me. Hang in there!

Fisher- I think I registered around 20 weeks last time? But I started researching and all of that beforehand. There's no rule about it- but yeah, if you aren't telling people IRL yet, I'd wait so someone doesn't accidentally find it.

Rachel- My general rule on telling is if something went wrong, would I feel comfortable explaining/sharing? So for example, I would tell my mom and my BFF's and my sister even if I had a m/c. When I had my m/c I told WAY more people than I wished I had. It wasn't so much that I wanted to keep it a secret- I think women should be more open about it as it's very common. But it was like I had to remember who I told and send out this sad email and you'd forget who you told and ugh. Most people I was ok with, but I had told some people at work and wished I hadn't. I think just your boss sounds ok though.

Meg- Ugh, sorry about the headaches. I had them too. I really just had caffeine and suffered through, nothing seemed to help much. Good news is mine have gone away! Bad news is they didn't until about 23 weeks.

 

[monkeyprincess]

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Unfortunately, I think I am losing the baby. I had some bleeding when I used the restroom just now, and it feels like I'm about to get my period. Waiting for a return call from the nurse to see what they want me to do. So very sad, but I guess I kind of knew this pregnancy was not a healthy one after getting that initial low beta.

 

[lizzyann]

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OH MP, what a roller coaster ride this has been! Please try to stay calm and wait to hear from your doctor. How much bleeding are we talking? One thing that has always stuck in my mind is the fact that you could have had a twin and lost one. My friend was originally pregnant with twins, then lost one very early on. Her betas actually went down for a bit due to the loss. She thought for sure she wasn't pregnant and then all of a sudden the betas went back up. She then experienced some bleeding and it was due to the loss of one of the twins. Please hang in there. Keep us posted. Sending you a hug from Massachusetts!

 

[lliang_chi]

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Monkey, hugs my friend!!! Please wait to hear back from your NP. It's OK to feel anxious, but I'm keeping all my fingers crossed for you and sending you all the sticky dust I can muster.

 

[choro72]

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Oh MP, major hugs and sticky dusty for you with all my heart!! I was (still am) plagued with cramping and bleeding too. Wishing for a good update.

 

[monkeyprincess]

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Hi ladies, I went in for another beta, and it came back at 4200, which is still within the normal doubling range. It was 1400 three days ago. I haven't heard from the NP yet to see what she recommends. The nurse thought she might want me to have an ultrasound at the end of the week.

Lizzy, it wasn't a lot of blood. I just felt kind of crampy so I checked internally (which I shouldn't be doing I'm sure), and I saw a bit of redish blood. Nothing has hit the liner, and there is just a little brown spotting when I really look for it. I don't have cramps per se, but I do feel bloated and gassy just like I do before AF. If it weren't for that and the complete lack of any other symptoms, I would feel a lot better about this.

Thanks for the dust everyone. I'll keep you posted.

 

[amc80]

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MP- not trying to be all Pollyanna about this, but it really does sound like nothing. I think if you have to go searching for it then it doesn't count as bleeding. The fact that it was brown is a great sign as well, as are your betas.


AFM- Got my NT scan results back. You know, after I called them to find out why I hadn't heard anything from my scan that was on 2/2. Odds of downs is 1:5100 (she said anything over 1:4500 is considered negative) and trisomy 18 is less than 1:10000, so definitely negative. I have to go in after Feb 17 to get my second blood draw done.

 

[missrachelk]

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Hi MP - Stick baby, stick! Here's hoping that the little bleeding was not a MC happening but jsut a blip.

FWIW I'm another one that feels hardly any symptoms. I am really shocked that I have no nausea and really no smell aversions (well amybe a slightly elevated sense of smell the last few days) My symptoms are sometimes sore BB's, some light intermittent crampy feelings, and oddly enough - Hunger! I am very hungry, not like wanting huge meals, but wanting lots of snacks. I wake up ravenous and have had several middle of the night glasses of milk and graham crackers. In a way I almost feel left out that I don't have MS and it makes me slightly worried. I'm stll not sure how far along I am so I may be eating those words in another week or so. I had one pregnancy in my early 20's (ended up terminating and it was a very good life decision for me at the time, to be tied to the man I was with then for the rest of my life would have been horrible) and I remember being VERY sick so I wonder when / if it will kick in.

I am tired, but not extremely so, and honestly I've been tired and fatigued for months. I'm also (TMI) constipated, gassy, bloated, but again pretty much par for the course. I suppose pregnancy really is different for every person, and every pregnancy.

AMC - I have felt some odd numbness in my arms when sleeping too. Weird feelings in my fingers. I think new pillows and definitely a body pillow or something will be coming soon.

AFM on the clothing front, I hate to admit it but I'm either going to have to get maternity jeans right away or just get some in bigger sizes. I was already right to the point where most of my jeans were tight that just a little bloating is pushing me over into uncomfortably tight territory. I had really wished I could lose 10 pounds before getting pregnant, but OH WELL! I think one size up should hold me for another month or two till I'm ready for Maternity wear. Work pants are fitting me much more comfortably, so even though I can wear jeans to work I'm wearing the dress pants basically every day.

Still having the next US on Wednesday! I'm pretty nervous to see the heartbeat (what if it's not there?) there's no really good wat to know how far along I am so if we don't see it I don't know how we might know if it's just too early or if it's a bad sign. And I made my first midwife appointment for the first week of March, actually on my birthday! I already had the day off, so I figure I'll do that so that I can wait on telling my boss if that's what I decide. I think once we tell our parents I'll be better prepared to keep mum for more weeks with everyone else.

Hope everyone else is doing great!

 

[PilsnPinkysMom]

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Hi ladies, I went in for another beta, and it came back at 4200, which is still within the normal doubling range. It was 1400 three days ago. I haven't heard from the NP yet to see what she recommends. The nurse thought she might want me to have an ultrasound at the end of the week.

Lizzy, it wasn't a lot of blood. I just felt kind of crampy so I checked internally (which I shouldn't be doing I'm sure), and I saw a bit of redish blood. Nothing has hit the liner, and there is just a little brown spotting when I really look for it. I don't have cramps per se, but I do feel bloated and gassy just like I do before AF. If it weren't for that and the complete lack of any other symptoms, I would feel a lot better about this.

Thanks for the dust everyone. I'll keep you posted.

Lots of dust to you! I know that internal spotting and ANY sign of red blood can mean bad things, but it can also be nothing at all. I had red droplets that I noticed in the toilet after using the restroom, and my babe is now 17w4d. Have hope!

 

[lizzyann]

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MP, beta looks really good. Maybe it was just some lingering old blood from your first round of spotting? I'd go for that u/s as I think it will put you more at ease. With a beta that high, you should definitely be able to see something at your scan. I"m thinking all is well. The first couple weeks of pregnancy are such an emotional time, just take it one day at a time. Deep breath!

Edited to add - that gas and bloating are also pregnancy symptoms. Trust me, the gas never stops...ask my poor husband

 

[megumic]

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MP I had bleedin twice during this preg. The first was just a little blood that was reddish brownish and my dr thought it was implantation bleeding. The second time was after DTD and we were very concerned. However, both turned out to be nothing. Unless the cramping continues to get worse, I wouldn't necessarily worry, especially if the bleeding lets up. Many many women experience bleeding during the first tri and it often cannot be explained. I say sit tight and monitor your symptoms. I know how crazy you feel and how stressful it can be, but you've got to hold on to a tiny bit of hope. Also, I too had no symptoms til at least 6-7 weeks...Hang in there lady!