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"Just Barely" Pregnant PS''ers

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Hi ladies (the few of us left!)

Dc: awesome news about the scan, and glad youre getting support at work. very excited you're jumping over to the bigger thread! Congrats and ill catch ya there.
pp: im so sorry you had an accident scare! Ugggh. Since the people are ok, are the cars ok, too? Such a cutie belly growing! How was the scan?
blen: im still hanging here with ya! + usy...as im sure you can imagine, but trying to take it all in stride.
lizzy: I started getting sick right at 6 weeks. It comes and goes, some days are fine, others not so much. Usually hits in the morning and evening, and more or less I just keep gagging.
basil: see you on the other thread! How much longer until you can spill?

Afm: as I said...sometimes not feeling so great. I had a girl at work ask me today if my husband and I were having any luck...so I shared the news. She said she could just tell, that I've been glowing and my boobs look huge...haha. I trust her, and was glad to share the news. I guess I should try to tell my other boss sometime soon. Its just hard bc she's unmarried, no kids, no plans for a family...not the easiest person to tell. But I have time, I just think she would appreciate knowing sooner to plan for my absence. Im only 8.5 weeks tho!
 
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Ladies, I am freaking out. I decided to pee on my last home pregnancy test this afternoon and it came back "Not Pregnant". I immediately called my Dr. and they are having me go in for a beta hcg today. I am 5 weeks today. i will call them tomorrow at 10 am for the results. I asked if progesterone suppositories can throw off the test and she said no. I have no cramping and no bleeding. I am so sad that I might be having a m/c.
 
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lizzy, maybe it was a bad test? I truly hope everything is okay. I'll be praying for you. Please let us know what happens.
 
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Lizzy try another test!

Hugs hon and I hope it is ok. You are still so early on that the test might not be sensitive enough.
 
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Thanks inhisarms and Dreamer, you are comforting me big time! I went for my beta to be drawn today. So I will have news tomorrow. When I spoke to my Dr's office earlier she said that it could be a couple of things. 1. that I am miscarrying (my worst fear), 2. that it was a bad test, or 3. because I took it later in the day after lunch my urine may have been too diluted. I hate waiting. I am trying to stay calm. I think because I have my DS to keep me busy is good for me right now. I debated on picking up some more tests but I just decided that I would wait till tomorrow. Dreamer, I got a positive home test when I was 3w5days, 10dpo. The test I used when I got the positive is from the same pack of tests that I used for today's test. It was a two pack. My beta was 31 when I was 3w6d, roughly 11dpo. I am still peeing frequently, have no cramping, and no bleeding. I dunno. I will just have to wait and see. I really thought things were going to go smoother this time around, but it is what it is. Good news is that I got a beautiful little man after the first time around so I know it will happen if I don't get good news tomorrow. I am staying really positive about it though. I still feel that I am pregnant, but we shall see.
 
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Lizzyann - I am thinking super sticky bean thoughts for you and I really hope that everything is ok and it was just a bad test. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hope that you have some good news tomorrow.
 
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LizzyAnn - I really hope that it was a defective test! Fingers crossed for those beta levels tomorrow, and big hugs to you.

DCGator - I was wondering where you went! And thank you. It's exciting that you are starting to pop - it's fun when you start looking pregnant and not just bloated.

Charbie - For some reason I don't really want to tell my boss either, and I feel like he's a more sympathetic, kid-friendly figure (4 kids, looked devastated when I told him I needed some time off for my m/c - which was the first time I mentioned that pregnancy to him, so that was probably a double-shock). Hopefully yours takes it well, when you do decide to tell.


On the flip side of people just guessing I'm pregnant, my SIL's BF is evidently pretty obtuse. We just had dinner with my in-laws and I was the only one who did not have a martini before dinner, the only one who did not have a glass of wine with dinner, and then when DH asked if I wanted a glass of champagne with dessert (it was a celebatory dinner, LOL), I said something about how I may be okay with half a glass later on for a special occasion, but so much is developing right now that I needed to decline. And only then I realized that we never told SIL's BF, and asked him if he knew, and he said, "Know what?" Heehee, men. :lol: We told my in-laws not to tell anyone, and whenever I say that I kind of expect that SO's will get filled in regardless, but I guess they took it pretty seriously! That's kind of reassuring actually.

I can feel my uterus. I don't think I could feel it this early last time (8 weeks exactly). I guess it's true about things stretching out faster the second time around!
 
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Bad news. My beta was 9. I am beyond sad and disappointed that this is happening again. I know I will get pregnant again, but now I have to wait to try. The Doctor wants me to go back in two weeks to be sure the HCG is cleared out, then wait one menstrual cycle, then try again. So I won't be able to start trying again till March, which seems like forever at this point. For anyone that has gone thru a miscarriage, I'm sure you know what I mean. You just want to start trying again you know? It's the only thing that keeps you motivated.
 
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lizzyann01|1296837001|2842905 said:
Bad news. My beta was 9. I am beyond sad and disappointed that this is happening again. I know I will get pregnant again, but now I have to wait to try. The Doctor wants me to go back in two weeks to be sure the HCG is cleared out, then wait one menstrual cycle, then try again. So I won't be able to start trying again till March, which seems like forever at this point. For anyone that has gone thru a miscarriage, I'm sure you know what I mean. You just want to start trying again you know? It's the only thing that keeps you motivated.
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Oh lizzy I am so sorry. Having been thru a m/c myself, I do understand the frustration and sadness. Go hug your little man, enjoy the extra time with just him around, and drink a big fat glass of wine. We are here for you to vent, be upset, and cry to. You know luck is on your side since you HAVE had an easy time getting pregnant, and luckily interventions don't need to be in place. But when the stars align and your able to conceive again, you'll get the perfect little baby again.
 
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So sorry to hear that news, Lizzy :(( I hope you recover quickly and are able to try again soon.
 
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Oh LizzyAnn. I am so, so sorry. ;( Huge hugs to you, and I hope that March is here before you know it.
 
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I only lurk in this thread, but I am so sorry to hear your bad news LizzyAnn. I will keep you in my thoughts and hope that you and your DH take care of each other during this tough time..
 
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Lizzy I'm sorry honey. Sometimes I think all these early pregnancy tests we have are not a good thing, ya know? back in the day women would not even have known they were pregnant until so far along, it took out so much of the worry and uncertainty in some ways, since very early losses are so so incredibly common -- and women would have just thought they were having a late period. Ignorance is bliss I guess. FWIW I don't think Blenheim waited to TTC again after her early m/c, and unless there is something specific to your circumstances to suggest waiting, apparently there is no medical reason to do so if you are ready sooner. Doctors like women to wait for dating purposes usually, but that concern is not very important with early u/s and charting now a days.
 
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Lizzy, I am so sorry. I'm sure March will be here for you know it. I will be sending you all the get pregnant quick and sticky bean dust there is in the world. While I'm sure it still doesn't take the pain away, we are all here for you and will be rooting you on. Can't wait for you to join us once again, which I am sure will be very soon!
 
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Ladies, thank you so much for the comforting words.

Charbie, you are so sweet. you brought tears to my eyes but in a good way. I have to say that I've taken this miscarriage much better this time around because I have my DS. I think it is harder when you want a baby so bad your first time around and wonder if it will ever happen. My DS gives me comfort and hope that it will happen.

Basil, thank you. I appreciate your future thinking. That's what I'm doing too. Looking ahead to the future....

Blen, thanks. I know you totally know what I am going thru here. Please remind me how far along you were when you had a m/c. Your doctor gave you the aok to try again then right away huh? I saw Dreamer's note and I was wondering if you could let me know what your Dr. said. Was it hard to figure out your dating this time around since you didn't have a true date of last period? Bless you and your little one. :)

Pumpkinpie, thank you. My DH is the best! Really he is and mentioned taking a vacation so I think I am going to put my energy into planning something.

Dreamer, you've been so supportive to me while TTC and thru this. I really appreciate it. I totally agree that with early tests it sometimes brings more worry/heartbreak you know? It's funny you mentioned TTC again, because I was thinking back to when I had the m/c's before having my son and I don't think my doctor had me wait. I only talked to his nurse regarding that part and she was the one actually that told me to wait a month. I assumed that he told her that but maybe not. But I also wonder if she said that because I had not started bleeding yet. The Dr. just said to have me come back in two weeks to be sure that my HCG had cleared out. So maybe with no signs of blood, they wanted to make sure that everything was"clear" before trying again? But I did start bleeding this morning. Which I was actually happy to see as I know the earlier I clear this, the sooner I can try again. So I think i may call my Dr. on Monday and give him the update and ask him his thoughts as to whether I should wait or should not wait to TTC this month. I'm wondering if my lining would not be quite ready if I try this month? What are your thoughts on this Dreamer? Technically, I would be due to O end of next week, but I'm not sure if things will be off now. But I use OPK's so I would know for sure if we got the ok to try this month.

Inhisarms, thank you for your dust! I hope to be back here again soon too!

I am so thankful to have the support from you ladies. Thank you again!
 
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lizzy, I'm so sorry for your loss. How upsetting it must be to be going through this again. I'm very glad to hear that you're handling it better this time though - it is indeed such a blessing that you have your DS and know that you can conceive with relative ease. I sincerely hope you're back here lickity-split like Blen was after her loss!! With respect to trying again, I think some others have suggested that some drs want you to wait a cycle to start trying again after a loss not because your body isn't ready, but because it helps them better understand how far along you are next time you conceive. I would suggest you speak directly to your dr about it to hear his thoughts.

sending support your way and to everyone here TTC! hang in there ladies!

Mrs
 
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Dreamer's right that I didn't wait. My loss was at 6 weeks, so early but a teensy bit further along than yours. And there are two more PSers who have suffered early losses (one was about 4.5-5 weeks and the other 6 weeks) who decided to start trying right away as well. I think that both got the go-aheads from their docs/midwives.

My PCP said that they typically recommend waiting a cycle or two, but didn't look like she really believed it and didn't cite any real reasons. My midwife said that after an early loss, there's no added risk or anything like that to a new pregnancy if you get pregnant right away. It's just easier if you wait a cycle for dating purposes, especially as some women ovulate 2 weeks after a mc and some ovulate 4+ weeks after one, but she proposed just taking a weekly pregnancy test so that I knew within about a week if I did want to go for it right away and I did happen to conceive again. My body gave pretty clear ovulation signs I think 18 days into the "cycle", and my beta levels supported that as a conception date -- not that the exact levels mean that much of anything, but they were low enough on the first draw that I'd be surprised if I conceived sooner, and I got a positive pregnancy test early enough that I couldn't be more than a day or two off in the other direction -- and so I didn't have any real dating difficulties. It sounds like you would get betas anyway as a result of your history, right? And there's always early ultrasound if you need that for dating purposes.

My one regret is that I didn't test to make sure that my hcg zeroed out, which led to that 5 day am-I-or-aren't-I stressful time while waiting for beta results after I did get the positive urine test. My midwife said that if it came back higher than my last miscarriage beta test than we would know, but I pointed out that it was last 228 and that I was only 11 dpo when I was in to see her - so that wasn't going to happen. But if your level is already 9 and you're getting negative urine tests, then I don't think you'd have to worry about that.

The other thing is that I don't know is if you have a diagnosed reason for the miscarriages? If it's anything to do with uterine lining or something, and not wonky chromosomes, then maybe your doc wanted you to take the extra cycle off in order to built everything back up. Although, I'm not that sure that early losses are really that much different than a heavy period as far as the uterine lining is concerned; this is all conjecturing on my part. Did your doc give you a reason for waiting?
 
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Mrs., thanks for your comments. I appreciate it. I think the nurse just said the common response which is "wait a month before trying again". I am going to call them on Monday.

Blen, thanks for all of the info. All of my miscarriages have been "unexplained" miscarriages. After my second one last time around, my Dr. ran Genetic/Chromosomal testing and everything came back fine. The only reason I waited to start TTC again after the second one was because we had the Genetic testing done and it takes a couple of weeks to get the results back so we decided to wait to see what they determined before TTC again. Also, once we got the go ahead, we had ultrasounds prior to ovulation as they wanted to see if my lining looked good and it did. I am going to call my Dr. on Monday and ask to speak with him directly as opposed to just thru his nurse. I think the standard answer for the nurse to give is to wait a month after a miscarriage but if there is no medical reason to wait, then I think with his approval I will go for it. They can give me an early u/s to date, but I will use OPK so that should help give an idea. When you say you ovulated 18 days into your cycle...what did you use as the start date to your cycle? First day of the m/c? I appreciate all of the info.
 
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That sounds like a good plan. From what you are saying, I'm inclined to think that it would be fine to TTC again immediately (and the OPKs would definitely help with dating), but it's always good to get your doctor's opinion.

For me, I counted from the first day of bleeding - for me that was my first indication of anything wrong. My ovulation was on the later end of my normal, but then again the bleeding lasted longer than my normal too.
 
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Thanks for this info Blen! If my Dr. can explain to me why I should wait other than dating, then I have no problem waiting, but if it is just to make dating easier then I am going to tell him that with his blessing I'd like to try again this month.

All you "just barely" pregnant ladies, I don't want to take away from your joy or cause you any worry so I started a miscarriage support Q & A thread where I am going to post questions. Thank you all of for your support and kind words. I wish you all the best in your pregnancies! Happy and Healthy babies for you all! I hope to be back soon with good news, but I will stop by because I want to see some belly pics and u/s pics! Take care!
 
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Lizzy when I was reading up on this stuff it really seemed to me that there is so little known about the cause of early losses. There is something different from a medical and biologial perspective about losing a pregnancy prior to 6 weeks as opposed to after, it is not even termed a miscarriage which to me suggests it is a different sort of process. But I am really suprised at how little is known about the processes of conception and implantation etc. It must be hard to have this happen again, especially after your last experience, but it does seem to me that your successful pregnancy with your son bodes really well for your future. Faith, right? YOu just gotta have faith.
 
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LizzyAnn - Best of luck to you. I hope that you are good to go for this month and that it happens really quick for you.

Dreamer - It's amazing how much we don't know.

AFM - I think I grew overnight. :shock:

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Thanks Dreamer. It is so true that there isn't much info out there to look into. I appreciate all your words of wisdom!!

Blen, you are the cutest little thing! How have you been feeling?
 
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Thank you, LizzyAnn! It's kind of funny to me that people are calling me little, as I am rather tall (but how would you know that?), but I will take the compliment. I've been feeling pretty good. Very tired, and cranky, but physically good at least. I took a nap today that did wonders.

Speaking of my height, I thought that tall women were supposed to be able to hide babies, like, forever in the expanse that is our torsos. Maybe I am a defective tall woman.
 
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So cute blen! My belly is still a bunch of flab :knockout: and when I ask dh if its grown at all, he just says I wont show for a few more months...like he knows. I am taking pics every two weeks and didn't notice much but my whole belly from the boobs down all bigger. Def not a bump.

I bought nursing sleep bras at target today. I hate wearing sports bras all the time, so I got these to sleep in and figured id go with the nursing ones to use after baby.
 
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Thanks, Charbie! :)) I think it's really variable when women start to show, and you hear some rules of thumb (short women show earlier because there's nowhere else for it to go, tall women can hide it longer), but I think it just completely depends on the person and it's something that you won't know until you're there. So you may not show for a few more months, or you may show in a month - others could tell based on my stomach by the time I was 12 weeks with George.
 
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Charbie my bumps are what you describe. It is unfortunate because frankly, I did not look pregnant with my first until I was about 25 -30 weeks! Prior, I just look fat :blackeye: I do not happen to normally have a ft belly, but lots of women do, and so it was conceivable that I was just one of those women. People who knew me knew, but not the geneal public. And that meant I did not get to enjoy being "the pregnant lady" for very long, only once I was really huge! This time my bump is the same but showing so much sooner, I am obviously pregnant now at 17.5 weeks. So hopefully you will pop out a little sooner! Otherwise, I find wearing maternity shirts really helps to make it clear I am pregnant and not just unfortunately shaped ;))
 
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Charbie and Dreamer, can I just tell you that when I was pregnant with my DS, I LOVED the maternity pants with the belly panel because it would smooth out my rolly, chubby belly and make my belly look more pregnant instead of fat! I too did not have the cute baby bump!
 
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lizzyann01|1297107514|2845754 said:
Charbie and Dreamer, can I just tell you that when I was pregnant with my DS, I LOVED the maternity pants with the belly panel because it would smooth out my rolly, chubby belly and make my belly look more pregnant instead of fat! I too did not have the cute baby bump!
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haha....

For me it is not chubb per se but just the shape of my belly... I carry very long and compactly. Not much to do about that!
 
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DD: im crossing my fingers that its just too early to have any real formings of a bump, but more than likely will fall into the category of bump you're talking about. I was hanging out with a preggo friends yesterday and she is carrying super long and just looks like she's gained 20 lbs between her boobs and belly....ill probably carry the same way.

Lizzy: thanks for the tip re: mat pants. I've got 3 pair of knit work pants (NY&C...I love you!) That are pretty much elastic waistbands that are super comfy...I wonder if I add a Bella band it'll smooth things out. I plan on wearing these pants for a while before supplementing with mat pants. Im guessing ill be too uncomfortable for any button up pants in the next few weeks, tho my jeans are feeling great.

I told my other boss today that im expecting in Sept. She actually was really happy for me, said there must be something in the water with two of us getting pregnant so close in time. I mentioned I was freaked out by the dream her boss had has and she was like, "oh thanks God it was you her dream must have been refering to and im not going to be pregnant soon! Whew!" So we got a good laugh out of it and that was pretty much it. I work in a predominately female field, so its bound to happen frequently. I felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders tho. 2 more weeks until the next scan, and then ill be comfortable to come out to the rest of the world...altho DH went into his buddys superbowl party and announced, "well guys...my boys can swim!" So all his buddys are now in the loop. It'll be my big coming on out facebook in a few weeks tho :bigsmile:
 
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