Let’s Get Real - Topic about Big Ol’ Diamonds

[mrs-b]

I like larger stones a lot. It does seem like a normal size for here is getting close to the 5 to 7 carat mark for stones, which isn't something in the budgetary cards for me. I made the decision to spend a lot less- or no time here for periods- because of the whole comparison is the thief of joy, where it made me not want what I had or feel it was garbage. I'm probably getting ready to take another break again for that reason, even though I have not hung around very long this time recently.

I'm not unhappy with what I have and I used to think I wanted a larger stone. But, I honestly changed my mind on it because I don't wear what I have, but at the same time, I have been feeling as though what I have is kind of crappy, due to the size issue. The best way I have found to deal with that is to not post, view or go on IG.

@elizat - no. Just...NO. Your earring thread alone is like a masterclass in design and proportion. Your pieces are GORGEOUS and I always race to see any new piece you list! Crappy? GARBAGE?? Lady - seriously - are you nuts? I mean - if that's how you feel, then that's how you feel and I apologize if my words sound to be belittling to your experience. But - honestly - your Sako ring, for example - I mean - WOW! Gorgeous!

If you need to take a break - take a break. But please - taste is not comparison and PriceScope is NOT a competition. My new Beloved three stone is 6.31ctw. Yet I LIVE in the 'under 1 carat' thread. Size isn't everything. Cost isn't everything. Only YOU can determine what's 'everything'...to *you*. Don't let anyone determine your values for you; you know what you value, you know what's important to you - go with that.

And for what it's worth - I never go to Pre-Loved or LoupeTroop anymore, and I've found that that's a very good way of keeping things under control.

Do what's right for you - but if you disappear, I will miss you - that's all I can say. <3

 

[mrs-b]

@RetroQT -

For me, it was useful and seminal to realize that one piece of jewelry will never hit all bases - and then to work out how I would respond to that. Did I want one ring that was perfect "for its kind"? Or did I want multiple rings to hit all bases differently? Or did I just not care? In the end, I decided that jewelry was fashion, so what I wanted was jewelry that went with different looks. To that end, I did my capsule collection - a 'set' (rings, pendant, earrings, bangle or bracelet) in each of the yellow, rose and white metals. Within each of those capsules, I had 2 levels - 'dressy' and 'casual'. Then I added 2 more capsules - Christmas and pearls. Once I filled all the slots, I was done, but while I was filling all the slots, I quickly learnt that, altho no one piece would scratch all itches, it was a money saver to get each piece done to the best standard I was able FOR WHAT I WANTED IT FOR - and not to compromise.

To that end (the 'what I wanted it for' proviso), I don't have large diamond bracelets or necklaces. Why? I was real about who I was, and what fitted my lifestyle. I also know I love great metalsmith work, so to me, a solid gold bangle has more value than a diamond bracelet.

I upgraded my ering - a lot! But most of that was based on my finger size and shape, and I've now gone as far as I intend to go. I bought what I thought would be my ultimate diamond (it was) and sat with it in a solitaire for a while before plonking down another 20k+ for side stones - just to make sure I got it right! My Beloved 3 stone goes from one side of my finger to another - so I'm done. I've been a 3 stone lover since I was a little girl - and I love them in ALL sizes - but my Beloved takes up all the real estate I have. So - story complete,

Years and years ago I started a thread asking whether people thought PS seduced people to spend money they really couldn't afford on jewelry, and I got a lot of interesting answers - plus some considerable push back! But a lot of people said they thought it did, and it made for an interesting read. I've found that, as I've grown older (ok - just old!), my interests have somewhat switched. I still love jewelry and I still get the occasional piece. But in general, my acquisition has slowed, and my interest has waned. I love looking at the pieces bought by others, but Beloved really is my dream ring and I got rid of a number of other rings (very nice rings, too) so I was left with only the rings I wore - not just things I was using to fill my jewelry box.

My guess is that you *are* a ORTRTA kinda gal, and that you've never quite scratched the itch you want to scratch. I only have 2 diamond rings at this stage - my Beloved Past Present and Future (yellow gold) and my gorgeous cluster (platinum). They're very different rings, they're both perfect, and I love them both! But I don't want any more than those 2, and I don't want to spend any more money on endless amounts of jewelry. I have a bunch of lovely things - and that, for me, is the definition of 'enough'.

 

[Garnetgirl]

Comparison can be the thief of joy!

Yes !
I feel that I know myself. I know what jewellery I like and would wear and what I can comfortably afford.
I just LOVE looking at everyone’s jewellery on Pricescope. It is such a pleasure for me. There is so much beauty here.
But that doesn’t make me envious, doesn’t make me decide to go bigger, doesn’t make me feel inadequate.
I feel fortunate to have what I have, and if others have more, so be it. I’m happy for them too