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Let it all hangout -- The Grumpies, whinies, complainies Get It Off Your Chest Thread....

MamaBee said:
@Arcadian What about faking the collar? Put the loose collar on but also the harness..Maybe you can rig it to the harness where it doesn’t put any tension on her neck.
Your dream made me laugh..FWIW I would take a snake over a palmetto bug. When we lived in Missouri I had a huge snake on top of our pool cover. Water had collected on top of it..I ran inside to get my son’s hockey stick. I was able to shoot that snake pretty far out of the pool into the grass..I never saw a snake slither away so fast! :lol:
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We've tried that and she will just lay down. She really hates the harness that darn much. Because she's a greyhound, I got one thats sight hound specific (i.e, expensive of course) but is very comfortable. Her sister doesn't mind it at all. Lucky on the other hand is just not having it, even after watching me put it on her sister!

The good is that its quite cool here and has been the last few days, so she's able to get outside and enjoy it.
 
Arcadian said:
We've tried that and she will just lay down. She really hates the harness that darn much. Because she's a greyhound, I got one thats sight hound specific (i.e, expensive of course) but is very comfortable. Her sister doesn't mind it at all. Lucky on the other hand is just not having it, even after watching me put it on her sister!

The good is that its quite cool here and has been the last few days, so she's able to get outside and enjoy it.
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I’m happy she’s getting outside while the weather is beautiful. It’s cool here too..
 
@Arcadian , what about putting the harness on specifically when you are NOT wanting to take a walk? For instance, an hour or two before meal time. Let her throw her "tantrum" just laying around the house, and when she gets hungry enough she may get up and walk to her dish, thereby getting a little more used to it.
 
I'll try this. I hope it dosen't backfire...lol (we had a period of time where she lost nearly 10 lbs and she wouldn't eat the same thing no matter what, even if it was her favorite)

I'll add some french fries and rotisserie chicken to her bowl and see how that works. (these are favorites)
 
I was recently diagnosed as a carrier for Alpha-1, which is a genetic disorder that can lead to lung and liver disease. I am not what they call a "full Alpha" with the ZZ gene mutation, but I'm an MZ, which has its own risks, albeit much less. I'm 39 and watched my grandmother suffer through this horrible disease before she passed at the age of 71. She was also just a carrier and had been on oxygen for years prior to her death. My second cousin (her niece) was a full Alpha and passed at the early age of 54. It's a scary thing to be faced with, even though the diagnosis could've been far worse. I feel like no one is taking it as serious as me, almost like I'm overreacting. I need to avoid any irritants like cigarette smoke, fumes, chemicals, dust, etc. yet my boyfriend still smokes. I understand you don't typically quit overnight, and I just got this news earlier this week, but it's a little disheartening and I think I have every right to be upset about it, even if temporarily.

Rant over. Thank you for listening!
 
michellelynn9175 said:
I was recently diagnosed as a carrier for Alpha-1, which is a genetic disorder that can lead to lung and liver disease. I am not what they call a "full Alpha" with the ZZ gene mutation, but I'm an MZ, which has its own risks, albeit much less. I'm 39 and watched my grandmother suffer through this horrible disease before she passed at the age of 71. She was also just a carrier and had been on oxygen for years prior to her death. My second cousin (her niece) was a full Alpha and passed at the early age of 54. It's a scary thing to be faced with, even though the diagnosis could've been far worse. I feel like no one is taking it as serious as me, almost like I'm overreacting. I need to avoid any irritants like cigarette smoke, fumes, chemicals, dust, etc. yet my boyfriend still smokes. I understand you don't typically quit overnight, and I just got this news earlier this week, but it's a little disheartening and I think I have every right to be upset about it, even if temporarily.

Rant over. Thank you for listening!
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If he won't quit, then he needs to do all his smoking outside. Set up a little outside area with small cafe table and chair, so he doesn't feel too ostracized. He must do it for your health.
 
stracci2000 said:
If he won't quit, then he needs to do all his smoking outside. Set up a little outside area with small cafe table and chair, so he doesn't feel too ostracized. He must do it for your health.
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Oh he’s NEVER smoked inside. It’s always either in the garage far from the house or at the patio furniture. He’s been wanting to quit anyway so I’m hoping this will help motivate him! I understand he can’t just lay them down, but I’m having a bit of a pouty moment and probably being unrealistic. I want to make it clear that he’s incredibly kind and supportive, I’m just venting.
 
Well, he has to be the one to make the decision to quit and sometimes pushing people backfires. But if he's been wanting to quit, maybe this will be just what he needs to take that next step. Maybe he can try using the patch and seeing if that helps, or getting the prescription drug that is used. I've heard that works pretty well (but may have side effects).
 
michellelynn9175 said:
I was recently diagnosed as a carrier for Alpha-1, which is a genetic disorder that can lead to lung and liver disease. I am not what they call a "full Alpha" with the ZZ gene mutation, but I'm an MZ, which has its own risks, albeit much less. I'm 39 and watched my grandmother suffer through this horrible disease before she passed at the age of 71. She was also just a carrier and had been on oxygen for years prior to her death. My second cousin (her niece) was a full Alpha and passed at the early age of 54. It's a scary thing to be faced with, even though the diagnosis could've been far worse. I feel like no one is taking it as serious as me, almost like I'm overreacting. I need to avoid any irritants like cigarette smoke, fumes, chemicals, dust, etc. yet my boyfriend still smokes. I understand you don't typically quit overnight, and I just got this news earlier this week, but it's a little disheartening and I think I have every right to be upset about it, even if temporarily.

Rant over. Thank you for listening!
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I am an MZ too.

I think my grandmother died of this (lung affected) but she was only diagnosed with asthma. But she died unexpectedly in 1992. And in hindsight, after my dx, I think she definitely had this.

I just had a liver fibroscan and complete abdominal US and am doing pulmonary tests next month. To see if I am lung and/or liver affected. I lead a super clean life but my ALT has been elevated for over 15 months now. And I have EPI. My specialists all say it is due to my alpha one anti trypsin deficiency status. And for now there is nothing I can do. Until it gets worse and then there are treatments. But short of a liver transplant no liver treatments yet. Just lung treatments involving infusions weekly. \

And the most important thing you can do right now is AVOID all second hand smoke and pollution as best you can. Your very life could depend on avoiding all secondhand smoke and any pollution you can avoid. I am not exaggerating. MZs exposed to secondhand smoke get lung disease. COPD, emphysema etc. I am sorry you are in this situation and sending you all the best.

PS I get how you are feeling. People who aren't going through what we are don't really get it. I don't even tell most of my (offline) friends anything about my health because no one would understand. That is why I appreciate online groups who are going through exactly what we are and who truly get it. And TG for my DH. He understands completely. If you ever want to talk about this reach out to me. ((((Hugs))))
 
missy said:
I am an MZ too.

I think my grandmother died of this (lung affected) but she was only diagnosed with asthma. But she died unexpectedly in 1992. And in hindsight, after my dx, I think she definitely had this.

I just had a liver fibroscan and complete abdominal US and am doing pulmonary tests next month. To see if I am lung and/or liver affected. I lead a super clean life but my ALT has been elevated for over 15 months now. And I have EPI. My specialists all say it is due to my alpha one anti trypsin deficiency status. And for now there is nothing I can do. Until it gets worse and then there are treatments. But short of a liver transplant no liver treatments yet. Just lung treatments involving infusions weekly. \

And the most important thing you can do right now is AVOID all second hand smoke and pollution as best you can. Your very life could depend on avoiding all secondhand smoke and any pollution you can avoid. I am not exaggerating. MZs exposed to secondhand smoke get lung disease. COPD, emphysema etc. I am sorry you are in this situation and sending you all the best.

PS I get how you are feeling. People who aren't going through what we are don't really get it. I don't even tell most of my (offline) friends anything about my health because no one would understand. That is why I appreciate online groups who are going through exactly what we are and who truly get it. And TG for my DH. He understands completely. If you ever want to talk about this reach out to me. ((((Hugs))))
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Thank you so much for all of this. It’s the thought of someone having to watch me go through what my Nanny did that scares me. Her specialist said her lungs were basically tissue paper and just fell apart. She had asthma, COPD, emphysema, Bronchiectasis, and of course a carrier for AATD.

My cousin who was a ZZ, had two of the huge oxygen concentrators in her house that she had to Y together because one wasn’t enough liters. Luckily her husband was incredibly wealthy and could easily afford the $40k PER CONCENTRATOR and I believe if it hadn’t been for him and his financial means, she wouldn’t have lived nearly as long as she did, and still was only 54. She had weekly infusions as well because her AAT level was 0. I think the highest it ever was may have been low teens? My Nanny never had infusions but I’m unsure of her levels. My test was done through the University of Florida so I could be part of their research study they’re conducting and hopefully help in their search for a cure. The lab results show your AAT level, and mine was a 90.2.

I haven’t had symptoms per se, but about 3 winters ago, I got sick and simply could not kick it. I was miserable with respiratory issues for literally months and people that had the same thing were recovering in a couple of weeks, whereas I was going on 2-3 months. I was 36 at the time and the same thing has happened every year since. This year I got a cold early on and when it turned into bronchitis and I had to start using an albuterol inhaler for relief, my mom finally stepped up and said ok, it’s time you got tested. I think she wasn’t wanting to say anything and scare me but she had been thinking maybe it was due to AATD since it was every single year. Now it all makes sense, unfortunately. This is the same mom that refuses to get tested because she doesn’t care and it won’t make a difference to her if she knows. Also the mom that nearly died from Covid last year and was at home on oxygen for weeks because of it. The same mom whose brother died from Covid back in February. I still believe he had it and was undiagnosed, leading to his death. They found spots on his lungs when he was in the hospital and think it was a mild case of emphysema. It’s all just very very frustrating, and frankly quite scary.

Thank you for the foundation link! I follow them on IG and FB and at my Nanny’s funeral we asked for A1F donations in lieu of flowers. It’s so true that no one really gets it. It feels strange talking about it because people’s eyes glaze over, so I’ve just stopped. I’m incredibly grateful I can come somewhere as random as a jewelry forum and find such solidarity. You have no idea what it means to me to just be able to talk about it openly. Thank you!
 
First one...

A recruitment consultant whom I had kept in touch with, badgered me to have an early lunch with her tomorrow when I am up in the Big Smoke to see Grease the stage version.

She assured me she would not forget as she had added it to her diary, etc. etc...

I booked my train tickets right away after agreeing to it on 19 August 2022.

I reminded her this morning to check if it is still happening as I have not heard anything from her.

No surprise at all that she is now not available, citing being asked to attend some conference in Europe (I just checked the conference dates and they are next week not this Saturday!), and thought I was coming up to London the following week, etc. etc...

It was not my mistake to make, and have the conversation trail to prove it.

Not an issue as such, just a sad and a tad annoyed that my initial hunch about her being a social butterfly was correct. :roll2:

Second one...

Having found the seat I pre-booked and paid for on a plane was in the row of an emergency exit by the wings, which meant I could not have my hand luggage stored under the seat in front of me, I made sure I do not make the same mistake again for future trips.

To find I was in such a seat again on a flight coming back from a business trip yesterday.

When I complained, I was informed there was a late plane replacement. I was offered to move seat, however, the available ones did not appeal.

Life is good honest.

DK :))
 
HI:

Ticks me off the way toothpaste gets hard around the lid! Crusty, can't close it...what the heck!! :rolleyes: :tongue:

cheers--Sharon
 
I hear you @canuk-gal!

I went out to the curb to bring in my empty garbage can and someone threw in their dog's poop bag (sorry for the gross phrasing but I can't think of another way to say it.) Not a lot bothers me these days but it really irks me when people do this. Now I have to hold onto this stinky bag in my garage for a week. Grrr.
 
Ugh @junebug17 that’s gross. I always bring my poop bags home.

I’m really pissed off (and being pissed on). Another holiday season ruined by in-laws who refuse to bring their 90yo mom to their homes for the holiday. So it’s either we leave her alone in her assisted living or have her with us again. They all know how sensitive I am to the holidays after losing my own parents, yet no one will do the right thing for their own mother!! :angryfire: /rant
 
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Frigging keyboard warriors in FB, report and block as harassment with no hesitation!

DK :angryfire:
 
Being hit on by random stranger, usually male of a certain age, on FB.

Block with no hesitation.

DK :roll2:
 
dk168 said:
Being hit on by random stranger, usually male of a certain age, on FB.

Block with no hesitation.

DK :roll2:
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I had the employee at the Domino’s drive through hit on me last week. Had the nerve to ask me how old I was like it was some compliment. My boyfriend and I aren’t engaged yet, so I even moved my ring from my middle finger to my ring finger because you can normally spot that type a mile away, and he STILL did it! Ick. No class.
 
HI:

-13C on my way to work... :rolleyes: ;(

not so cheery--Sharon
 
junebug17 said:
I hear you @canuk-gal!

I went out to the curb to bring in my empty garbage can and someone threw in their dog's poop bag (sorry for the gross phrasing but I can't think of another way to say it.) Not a lot bothers me these days but it really irks me when people do this. Now I have to hold onto this stinky bag in my garage for a week. Grrr.
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get a box of baking soda and empty it in there. I say this as someone who puts poop in the outside garbage can (my own only!) all the time, but even though we have garbage pickup twice a week, it can be a bit funky especially height of summer. I get the big giant bags and just dump about a cup in there a week during the summer months. My dogs are poop machines. (3 times a day but when you have 2 dogs thats 6 poos!!)
 
That's a great idea @Arcadian, thanks! Poop machines :lol-2:
 
Woke up this morning, checked my texts to find a fraud alert that my favorite card was hacked. I hate when that happens. Some minor charges occurred overnight and it's all fixed. New card on its way but it's a hassle because now I have to change all the recurring payment sites to new #. A pox upon hackers.
 
Matata said:
Woke up this morning, checked my texts to find a fraud alert that my favorite card was hacked. I hate when that happens. Some minor charges occurred overnight and it's all fixed. New card on its way but it's a hassle because now I have to change all the recurring payment sites to new #. A pox upon hackers.
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Same happened to us yesterday, 2nd time in the past couple of months with the same bank, same account, different cards. I think they must have had a breach and not bothered to tell us.
 
Power is out from a big windstorm. We have a generator. Haven't ever turned it on since we bought the house because DH says it is too hard to pull out (it is a pain) and didn't see any point to clearing the area to get it through or putting in a drainage cover so it sits buried in stuff and no clue if it works because there was no point to doing anything if it wasn't to pour a cement pad and build a soundproof surround then underground the wires....

So instead of no heater (but a great wood stove with fan), we have no heater, nothing but lanterns, and NO WATER. Yeah... I am irritated. I'm also irritated because he does this with every project! And irritated all over again because I know I do it too. :rolleyes:
 
What kind of person decides to go ahead to take the power outage map down for maintenance when some large percentage of the entire county is down!?! Seriously!?! Can't see how many are still without power or any hint of an ETA on restoration.

Now off to check that my 3 week old chicks are warm enough with the heater and the ducks aren't too warm.
 
If you ever get around to it, look at zombie boxes. Mine stays out year round, but I've got a giant generator! certainly its worth it if you want to have it set and ready to go at all times.
 
Arcadian said:
If you ever get around to it, look at zombie boxes. Mine stays out year round, but I've got a giant generator! certainly its worth it if you want to have it set and ready to go at all times.
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That might be the one he was wanting. I'd love to get there, but was hoping to get the basic roll it out and see it run first before going to the trouble. If we didn't have a dozen other projects taking time and $. Hoping one of those is much smaller than feared so we have extra resources to work with. I'm definitely concerned not knowing how long the window has been leaking. It has gaps somewhere that are big enough for slugs to crawl through :eek-2:
 
TooPatient said:
That might be the one he was wanting. I'd love to get there, but was hoping to get the basic roll it out and see it run first before going to the trouble. If we didn't have a dozen other projects taking time and $. Hoping one of those is much smaller than feared so we have extra resources to work with. I'm definitely concerned not knowing how long the window has been leaking. It has gaps somewhere that are big enough for slugs to crawl through :eek-2:
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Oh my goodness, I would be losing my sh*t...lol I hate slugs so much! I can tell you that I do love mine. Mine is the XL though (it was pricy but worth it)I've had it outside for now, 5 years? but the window and slugs, yeah that should definitely come first.
 
Thankful and trying hard not to grumble IRL. 37+ hours with no electricity still. I did get our indoor safe heaters picked up and brought home and DH was able to get the "full" propane tanks actually filled so we have had heat since yesterday evening. Still no water, but we have bottles for us and the animals so we are okay there too. I am hungry. No way to make any food. Usually, I would toss a pot of soup to heat on the wood stove. Can't have a fire until chimney gets cleaned (I tried. It didn't go well.). Local guy is going to do it around 1. Another guy cleaning our roof and gutters. I can't leave to pick up food because the roof guy is probably close to done and will need paid. Chimney guy coming around 1. Not sure how to fit picking up my food in there. Even if I left now, it would be 12:45 or later by the time I got home with food. Had a banana. Not much else to do.

I am grateful to have someone coming for the chimney and a good experienced person handling cleaning the roof and gutters. I'm also thrilled that the roof guy and the chimney guy are both experienced generator repair types. Between them, there is a good chance that we will have a working generator too. Unless DH gets it going first. Either way, good hope for water and flushing toilets soon. But.... I need to remember this and keep some sort of food for such instances :wall:
 
michellelynn9175 said:
Oh he’s NEVER smoked inside. It’s always either in the garage far from the house or at the patio furniture. He’s been wanting to quit anyway so I’m hoping this will help motivate him! I understand he can’t just lay them down, but I’m having a bit of a pouty moment and probably being unrealistic. I want to make it clear that he’s incredibly kind and supportive, I’m just venting.
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This is really concerning. As a former smoker I know exactly how difficult it is to stop. I cannot count how many times I tried to quit. I was a closet smoker, too, as in I wouldn’t smoke at work or around anyone who didn’t also smoke and know that I did, too. Didn’t smoke inside, kept it to garage when it was freezing outside and outdoors, never in the car, when it was warmer. I was terribly ashamed of my habit. I had a great-aunt die of lung cancer, (no one ever knew she smoked either!) my maternal grandfather died of lung cancer, and my dad had COPD among other things from decades of smoking. What finally helped me was Wellbutrin. It used to be marketed as Zyban for smoking cessation but it’s all bupropion. No one knows exactly how it works, but it does work. It takes several months to take effect, during which you can continue to smoke. One day I was just having a cigarette and halfway through, I looked at it and put it out, and I never picked one up again. That was almost 7 years ago! I never have cravings and I never even think about smoking. If I smell cig smoke today it makes me almost ill.

But I was ready to stop. Your bf may not be. Even if he’s not smoking inside it’s on his skin, his clothes, in his hair, facial hair, and inside him. I do not envy the position you’re in with this and I hope for both your sakes he decides to stop.
 
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