Let it all hangout -- The Grumpies, whinies, complainies Get It Off Your Chest Thread....

[TooPatient]

I'm feeling lonely and tired.

My DH is on business travel and the house seems awfully quiet.

I'm also still fatigued from having Covid in early August and then as soon as I was well from that, I got a summer cold. Energy is not back yet, even though life is full speed ahead.

Feeling soooooo behind in all my work. Don't feel like I can ever get my head above water with even my house chores let alone my real work.

And all I think about and all I want are SPARKLIES! (And having a clean, organized house. I HATE disorder.) I am working towards getting a sparkly at Christmas, but I don't know if it will be small, medium or large. All depends on how much work gets done and what $ comes in.

Mostly missing my DH. And physically exhausted. Thanks for letting me talks about it.

Does anyone else feel this way? Like they are drowning in work (house work, plus job work) and can't catch up no matter how hard they try? I just want to lie in bed or on the couch with my dogs and google my next sparkly purchase or rewrite countless sparkly wishlists, trying to rank order them.

Yes! I definitely feel that way. We still have stacks of boxes from the move (December 2020) plus I have 8 ducks and 3 chickens still needing coops & runs so they have time to adjust before winter. Add to that the need to get prepared to start interviewing and working and a very large project my grandfather's brother desperately wants to see done (as does DH) and it is insanity. All while doing physical therapy trying to avoid another back surgery, helping my grandmother here and there, and volunteering to get local cats altered. Drowning is a great description!

It helps that we have embraced the long view and are realizing it won't be all done this week or even this month. One step at a time!

 

[canuk-gal]

I'm feeling lonely and tired.

My DH is on business travel and the house seems awfully quiet.

I'm also still fatigued from having Covid in early August and then as soon as I was well from that, I got a summer cold. Energy is not back yet, even though life is full speed ahead.

Feeling soooooo behind in all my work. Don't feel like I can ever get my head above water with even my house chores let alone my real work.

And all I think about and all I want are SPARKLIES! (And having a clean, organized house. I HATE disorder.) I am working towards getting a sparkly at Christmas, but I don't know if it will be small, medium or large. All depends on how much work gets done and what $ comes in.

Mostly missing my DH. And physically exhausted. Thanks for letting me talks about it.

Does anyone else feel this way? Like they are drowning in work (house work, plus job work) and can't catch up no matter how hard they try? I just want to lie in bed or on the couch with my dogs and google my next sparkly purchase or rewrite countless sparkly wishlists, trying to rank order them.

Feel better soon. It is easy to be overwhelmed, especially when you are under the weather.

 

[Matata]

This past week: Monday pipes under kitchen sink broke; Tuesday air conditioner broke, Friday main water line broke. First two were fixed fairly quickly.

I called 5 allegedly 24 hr. plumbers to try to get main water line fixed -- water running in a river down the driveway -- one came, looked at it & said he couldn't fix it without special equipment; 3 said they'd put me on their long long waiting lists; one said he might squeeze me in on Sunday. Ron the plumber did show up yesterday and fixed the leak. It wasn't great fun going 2.5 days without water.

Yesterday DH discovered the washing machine wouldn't work -- no water coming in through the lines. Called repairman who came today and said washing machine is perfectly fine but there's not enough water pressure for the machine to fill. Called Ron the plumber back who will try to get here tomorrow.

In the meantime I threw myself a major pity party, found myself looking at Pearl Paradise and next thing I knew I got a confirmation email for purchase of a necklace. I don't really like pearls that much, especially white ones which look horrible on my skin. Luckily in my fugue state, I purchased a multicolor 18" strand. Hope I like it when it gets here.

I'm actually afraid to get out of bed in the morning for fear of what broken thing we'll find next. All of this is on top of the new roof we had to get in June and a new fence around the property in May because the old one fell down.

 

[tyty333]

Of course, I had two different Dr. apts scheduled for tomorrow and Thursday. Canceled...thank you, Hurricane Ian!

 

[dk168]

I hate being dumped and have a social engagement cancelled by a friend in favour of another social engagement, when the meal was arranged days in advance!

It is the second time it had happened, the other time was he did not feel like it.

There won't be a third time - I would rather dine on my own than being ditched unless it is life and death emergencies!

And I shall not invite him again to go out to eat.

DK

 

[tyty333]

I hate being dumped and have a social engagement cancelled by a friend in favour of another social engagement, when the meal was arranged days in advance!

It is the second time it had happened, the other time was he did not feel like it.

There won't be a third time - I would rather dine on my own than being ditched unless it is life and death emergencies!

And I shall not invite him again to go out to eat.

DK

I have found that there are some people that feel that this behavior is ok. I don't mesh well with them.

I had a girlfriend show up late for a lunch date with me and another friend. We were 2/3rds the way done with our meal
when she shows up. We only had an hour's lunch give or take a few. She worked from home and could make her own
schedule. So she shows up really late and we now have to stay and make pleasantries while she eats a quick lunch. Of course,
we were super late getting back and all I could think of the whole time is what can I say to get us out of here. I was really
annoyed with her. Like she could care less about our time (she knew our work schedule).

That was the last time I went to lunch with her. That was over 20 years ago...can you tell I'm still mad about it??? Let it go tyty333...
let it go!

 

[dk168]

@tyty333 my limit of waiting is 15min, if someone is late beyond that, then I shall start to order/eat without him/her.

I would leave when I have finished if he/she arrives much later than being 15min late.

I had done that on two occasions for meals that I organised for a group of people whom I did not know well, which is why I state loud and clear the need to be on time or I shall start without the latecomers, etc. etc...

DK

 

[stracci2000]

My auto insurance just went up $279.00! For two not-new cars.
Of course I called Geico to b!tch about this, but they just said rates have gone up across the board.
So if I drop my coverage to the next lower level, I will save a whopping $30.00----!!!! Really? Ridiculous. What a racket.
Those b@stards!

 

[YadaYadaYada]

My auto insurance just went up $279.00! For two not-new cars.
Of course I called Geico to b!tch about this, but they just said rates have gone up across the board.
So if I drop my coverage to the next lower level, I will save a whopping $30.00----!!!! Really? Ridiculous. What a racket.
Those b@stards!

Drop what coverage though? Don’t go with lower liability and property damage or uninsured motorist coverage. You could in theory raise deductibles for comp and collision but then you are on the hook for more out of pocket.

How long have you been with Geico? Any claims? I would shop around if your record is clean, can’t hurt!

 

[stracci2000]

Drop what coverage though? Don’t go with lower liability and property damage or uninsured motorist coverage. You could in theory raise deductibles for comp and collision but then you are on the hook for more out of pocket.

How long have you been with Geico? Any claims? I would shop around if your record is clean, can’t hurt!

I've been with Geico for 6 years, no claims. I have all the discounts they offer, like Good Driver, loyalty, multi-vehicle, etc.
I have 100,000/300,000/50,000, and $1000 comp/collision deductible.
I inquired about lowering that to see how much difference it would make. If I dropped to 100,000/200,000/25,000, I would only save $30 per policy period. What a joke! So of course I didn't do that.

 

[YadaYadaYada]

I've been with Geico for 6 years, no claims. I have all the discounts they offer, like Good Driver, loyalty, multi-vehicle, etc.
I have 100,000/300,000/50,000, and $1000 deductible.
I inquired about lowering that to see how much difference it would make. If I dropped to 100,000/200,000/25,000, I would only save $30 per policy period. What a joke! So of course I didn't do that.

Geico is really doing customers a serious disservice recommending that people lower their limits like that, all is does is put you at financial risk. In fact, I would suggest not only shopping around, but also bumping up your property damage to at least 100k, it doesn’t take much with the price of cars these days to total one in a serious accident and you are on the road a lot. 100/300/50 is the bare minimum we recommended to customers who owned property.

I hope this comes across in a helpful way, not trying to be a know-it-all or anything.

 

[stracci2000]

Geico is really doing customers a serious disservice recommending that people lower their limits like that, all is does is put you at financial risk. In fact, I would suggest not only shopping around, but also bumping up your property damage to at least 100k, it doesn’t take much with the price of cars these days to total one in a serious accident and you are on the road a lot. 100/300/50 is the bare minimum we recommended to customers who owned property.

I hope this comes across in a helpful way, not trying to be a know-it-all or anything.

They didn't offer to lower my limits, I asked them, just to see what the difference would be.
Do do you think I don't have enough insurance? Gosh I'm so confused.....and it costs so much! If I increased property damage, then it would be even more.
And you're not a know it all! I need all the info I can get and I appreciate your input!
Edit: I just increased property damage liability to 100,000, a difference of only $6.00. thanks for the tip! I'll remember you next time I'm following a Tesla!

 

[pearlsngems]

My guess is that we will all see premium increases due to inflation. (Car parts cost more so repairs cost more etc.)

But if you want to see if you can get a better deal, we use Select Quote. They do the shopping around for you at no cost to you.

 

[stracci2000]

My guess is that we will all see premium increases due to inflation. (Car parts cost more so repairs cost more etc.)

But if you want to see if you can get a better deal, we use Select Quote. They do the shopping around for you at no cost to you.

I will look into this, thanks!
Car insurance really leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I can't help but feel like I'm getting screwed over.

 

[TooPatient]

On the bright side, I won't have to make any excuses to miss Thanksgiving. I always thought my grandmother is the glue that keeps the family together. Nope. My grandfather was the glue. Without him, the whole mess is devolving into an episode of bad daytime TV. Police may or may not have been called. Someone said they were but none showed up.

Watching my grandmother lose her mental capacity is hard. We are in that awful stage where she seems okay sometimes and very confused others. The worst are the in between where she looks clear minded but then seems like she may or may not actually be following the conversation. More and more I think she isn't.

 

[dk168]

I had a verbal exchange in a food-related FB group that resulted in the other person being blocked by me.

Don't tell me I am wrong without backing it up with objective evidence and not subjective opinion.

DK

 

[YadaYadaYada]

@stracci2000, well you’ve seen my house, nothing fancy, I have 250/500/100 and the same 250/500 limits for uninsured motorist coverage. It’s probably a bit of overkill but I would rather have too much insurance than not enough.

 

[Arcadian]

Lucky is at the vet for xrays. I'm hoping for the best, preparing for the worst. Laryngeal Paralysis is a given but to what degree is the question. There's also some pain in the left leg which is not being helped by adequan.

I'm more than a little scared today.

 

[RMOO]

Lucky is at the vet for xrays. I'm hoping for the best, preparing for the worst. Laryngeal Paralysis is a given but to what degree is the question. There's also some pain in the left leg which is not being helped by adequan.

I'm more than a little scared today.

Sending positive thoughts for your dog(?) and hope for the best results!

 

[tyty333]

Lucky is at the vet for xrays. I'm hoping for the best, preparing for the worst. Laryngeal Paralysis is a given but to what degree is the question. There's also some pain in the left leg which is not being helped by adequan.

I'm more than a little scared today.

Hoping for the best @Arcadian ...we always hurt when our babies are not ok.

 

[Arcadian]

Hoping for the best @Arcadian ...we always hurt when our babies are not ok.

Yes we do.

And I have my answers. Its a good and not so good.

The good, no cancer anywhere. She's got a corn on her left foot thats causing the limping. It sucks but we can handle that with a booty (if she'll keep it on) and foot softeners. Her vet advised against surgery for it because it rarely works and has too much downtime.

I'm good with that.


The not so good is she absolutely has laryngeal paralysis. Its bad as its both sides.

For those who want to know what it is https://vcahospitals.com/know-your-pet/laryngeal-paralysis-in-dogs

So.... I will consult with a surgeon to see how viable it is to do a tie back at her age. It comes with its own set of risks however. As of now, she's on a lot of restrictions, but even with the tie-back, she'll have restrictions but, it will improve her breathing at least, and she'll have better quality of life. Its a lot to think about.

 

[RMOO]

Yes we do.

And I have my answers. Its a good and not so good.

The good, no cancer anywhere. She's got a corn on her left foot thats causing the limping. It sucks but we can handle that with a booty (if she'll keep it on) and foot softeners. Her vet advised against surgery for it because it rarely works and has too much downtime.

I'm good with that.


The not so good is she absolutely has laryngeal paralysis. Its bad as its both sides.

For those who want to know what it is https://vcahospitals.com/know-your-pet/laryngeal-paralysis-in-dogs

So.... I will consult with a surgeon to see how viable it is to do a tie back at her age. It comes with its own set of risks however. As of now, she's on a lot of restrictions, but even with the tie-back, she'll have restrictions but, it will improve her breathing at least, and she'll have better quality of life. Its a lot to think about.

It's good to know there is something that can be done. After reading the article you posted, I realized this is what my SIL's dog had. They did the surgery and it helped him. I hope you get some good news from the surgeon.

 

[Arcadian]

It's good to know there is something that can be done. After reading the article you posted, I realized this is what my SIL's dog had. They did the surgery and it helped him. I hope you get some good news from the surgeon.

Thank you, I hope I do too! I scheduled something for next week with them as they're really just on the other side of the freeway from me (thats also good!) I'm hopeful but being she's a Sr. dog with a heart murmur I don't know...its a risky surgery for a dog who doesn't have that.

 

[monarch64]

My auto insurance just went up $279.00! For two not-new cars.
Of course I called Geico to b!tch about this, but they just said rates have gone up across the board.
So if I drop my coverage to the next lower level, I will save a whopping $30.00----!!!! Really? Ridiculous. What a racket.
Those b@stards!

Mine also went up, nothing bank-breaking, but still! Do you remember when, during the height of the pandemic, many insurance companies gave some grace periods? I think we’re all paying for those now. I’m trying to keep that in mind as my increases happen this year and my investments are effed.

 

[stracci2000]

Mine also went up, nothing bank-breaking, but still! Do you remember when, during the height of the pandemic, many insurance companies gave some grace periods? I think we’re all paying for those now. I’m trying to keep that in mind as my increases happen this year and my investments are effed.

Yeah, I thought of that too....that they are trying to recoup the reduced rates that they gave us back then.
It always works that way. They claim to give you some type of wonderful discount, but then subsequently increase your rate, and take it right back.
I hate 'em, I really do.

 

[MeowMeow]

This one is just me being first world whiney right now lol. Ok so to get this out of the way. Over the last 6 or 7 years I have managed to develop a case of crazy contamination anxiety. So with that out of the way.

I had ordered a diamond dazzle stick from walmart and it arrived with bent hairs. So I obviously threw that b in the trash since I couldn't tell if the gel was coming out faster than a new one should. Decided to try a different brand from Amazon. Welp. It had a whole saga trying to get to my house. And THEN I opened the package and took it out and it had this weirdo rusty coloured fingerprint at the bottom. I was like x.x Tried to wash it hoping I could convince myself that it was ok and it didn't mean someone used it and returned it just because it had a scary fingerprint. Nope. Could not. Also trashed that sucker. Might try again hoping for a non scary stick next month or might just stick to my ultrasonic and clean previously unused soft toothbrush xD

 

[tyty333]

@Arcadian Keep us posted. I think our neighbor's dog had this. She was/is a senior dog. They had the surgery and she seems fine.
She is quite spoiled though. Her "walks" are now rides in a stroller, or in the back basket of a 3-wheeled bike. They stop and take
her out so she can smell and do her business. She is not a big dog though. She is a cute little westie. Must be about 15 y.o now.

 

[MamaBee]

Yes we do.

And I have my answers. Its a good and not so good.

The good, no cancer anywhere. She's got a corn on her left foot thats causing the limping. It sucks but we can handle that with a booty (if she'll keep it on) and foot softeners. Her vet advised against surgery for it because it rarely works and has too much downtime.

I'm good with that.


The not so good is she absolutely has laryngeal paralysis. Its bad as its both sides.

For those who want to know what it is https://vcahospitals.com/know-your-pet/laryngeal-paralysis-in-dogs

So.... I will consult with a surgeon to see how viable it is to do a tie back at her age. It comes with its own set of risks however. As of now, she's on a lot of restrictions, but even with the tie-back, she'll have restrictions but, it will improve her breathing at least, and she'll have better quality of life. Its a lot to think about.

I’m sorry Lucky is having a hard time. I hope the surgery helps her. You’re a good mama…

 

[Arcadian]

I’m sorry Lucky is having a hard time. I hope the surgery helps her. You’re a good mama…

This is so hard. And I try to be. I hope I am anyway.

I've been trying to switch from a collar to a harness. Each time we put on the harness she will lay down and NOT get up

Just ornery!

So for now, we put on a collar (very very loose) and nix the harness because she hates them that damn much. We mostly keep her in line because she can't move so fast anymore plus, vocal commands (though she will act like she can't hear me at times in the house...)

Surgical consult is Wednesday. Blood work came back and liver enzymes are high so yet another thing that could be an issue.

Last night I had a dream she reincarnated as a horse. I woke up thinking "how the hell Imma get a horse in my house?" I told her if she's coming back it has to be something mommy can fit in the house. But no snakes or palmetto bugs.

 

[MamaBee]

This is so hard. And I try to be. I hope I am anyway.

I've been trying to switch from a collar to a harness. Each time we put on the harness she will lay down and NOT get up

Just ornery!

So for now, we put on a collar (very very loose) and nix the harness because she hates them that damn much. We mostly keep her in line because she can't move so fast anymore plus, vocal commands (though she will act like she can't hear me at times in the house...)

Surgical consult is Wednesday. Blood work came back and liver enzymes are high so yet another thing that could be an issue.

Last night I had a dream she reincarnated as a horse. I woke up thinking "how the hell Imma get a horse in my house?" I told her if she's coming back it has to be something mommy can fit in the house. But no snakes or palmetto bugs.

@Arcadian What about faking the collar? Put the loose collar on but also the harness..Maybe you can rig it to the harness where it doesn’t put any tension on her neck.
Your dream made me laugh..FWIW I would take a snake over a palmetto bug. When we lived in Missouri I had a huge snake on top of our pool cover. Water had collected on top of it..I ran inside to get my son’s hockey stick. I was able to shoot that snake pretty far out of the pool into the grass..I never saw a snake slither away so fast!