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@mrs-b are you OK?

Hi @mrs-b I hope you are having a better day today. I also have chronic pain and I am sorry you have to deal with it.

I thought I might offer a suggestion to distract you--have you thought about having Beloved made back into a solitaire, and then having DK create two different wraps/enhancers so you can have a solitaire, 3 stone, and 5 stone when you want? I remember someone here had a beautiful wrap that was so seamless you could not tell it was separate from the original ring. This way, you can have it all! :)
 
Matata said:
You are a trooper and all my digits are crossed that your pain is eased by the surgery.

In the meantime, the idea of you high on drugs posting things for sale in preloved is very appealing :bigsmile:
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Yes..I think it would be a good idea to have Tim bring you your jewelry so we can help you decide what to sell..:lol-2:
 
Wow! So much going on for you, @mrs-b!

My DH has chronic pain, with occasional flares that send him straight to horizontal, and the med cabinet. I really do have lots of compassion for you. Sending all manner of warm wishes, and the highest and best healing dust/vibes to you. Plus gentle "air hugs", because there's no way you would be able to tolerate a real hug...

I'm so glad that you have the idea of a re-set for Beloved to carry you somewhat through these dark times. The glorious sparkles and light from your ring can brighten you days, literally and figuratively.

No need to respond to this. :kiss2: Save your strength.
 
Matata said:
You are a trooper and all my digits are crossed that your pain is eased by the surgery.

In the meantime, the idea of you high on drugs posting things for sale in preloved is very appealing :bigsmile:
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Priceless! :lol:
 
I've actually wondered if this is the dutch courage I need to let it all go.

Things I'm thinking of selling are:
Cluster ring
Cluster earrings
Opal and diamond ring
Pearl and diamond drop earrings (the big ones)
Golden south sea pearl and diamond stud earrings
4,6ct diamond drop earrings in yellow gold.
A bunch of gold necklaces
A few metal bands
4,2ctw sapphire and diamond platinum band
Various studs and rings.


I'd keep:
Joy
Gold bangles
Diamond bangles
Both lockets
Memorial pendant to my dog
Eternity ring
Gold rings
Beloved
Gold studs
5 stone ring
Wedding necklace
Asscher banGold hoops
Pearl studs

There are a few other things, but that's the majority of it. And the wheels are turning....
 
mrs-b said:
I've actually wondered if this is the dutch courage I need to let it all go.

Things I'm thinking of selling are:
Cluster ring
Cluster earrings
Opal and diamond ring
Pearl and diamond drop earrings (the big ones)
Golden south sea pearl and diamond stud earrings
4,6ct diamond drop earrings in yellow gold.
A bunch of gold necklaces
A few metal bands
4,2ctw sapphire and diamond platinum band
Various studs and rings.


I'd keep:
Joy
Gold bangles
Diamond bangles
Both lockets
Memorial pendant to my dog
Eternity ring
Gold rings
Beloved
Gold studs
5 stone ring
Wedding necklace
Asscher banGold hoops
Pearl studs

There are a few other things, but that's the majority of it. And the wheels are turning....
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Omg!!!!
Also, I don’t see the gypsy on either list :lol: :lol: :devil:
 
I am personally a big fan of paring 'things' down (wether it is in the kitchen, the closet, the plants, the games, jewelry, etc...) because it makes me appreciate and use what I chose to keep all the more. And if paring down means you tweak something else to be even more spectacular than it already is - which is off-the-charts-spectacular so one wonders how it can be done, only to have you go and do it - well heck, who am I to dissuade you from that?!! :)

That said, my gut said - or rather, my brain screamed - no, not the cluster!! Something about your posts with regard to your cluster journey over the years tells me that piece holds a place in your heart. Even if you don't wear it, it is iconic in its own artful right and a joy to behold. Perhaps worth keeping on a little pedestal to admire as one would a sculpture? :razz: ;-)
 
Maybe you would like to put them away in a box temporarily and see if you reach for them at all? It just seems like a big decision to make to liquidate so many pieces, while you're heavily dosed up on pain meds. Several of those pieces look stunning on you. Especially the pairs of pearl and daimond earings.

I am really sorry to hear about the pain by the way, I slipped my L5 disc last year (just too much strain from caring for young kids/baby). It was excruciating, and I had a mild case. I can not imagine the kind of pain involved in not being able to see the sciatic nerve on the MRI.
 
rainydaze said:
I am personally a big fan of paring 'things' down (wether it is in the kitchen, the closet, the plants, the games, jewelry, etc...) because it makes me appreciate and use what I chose to keep all the more. And if paring down means you tweak something else to be even more spectacular than it already is - which is off-the-charts-spectacular so one wonders how it can be done, only to have you go and do it - well heck, who am I to dissuade you from that?!! :)

That said, my gut said - or rather, my brain screamed - no, not the cluster!! Something about your posts with regard to your cluster journey over the years tells me that piece holds a place in your heart. Even if you don't wear it, it is iconic in its own artful right and a joy to behold. Perhaps worth keeping on a little pedestal to admire as one would a sculpture? :razz: ;-)
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Honestly, @rainydaze - every single word that comes out of your mouth is sensible, kind and encouraging! The truth is - I think I've worn the cluster twice in 2 years. Is that a good use of my money? I really don't know. I've worn my diamond drops in yellow gold once in 2 years and my pearl and diamond drops (the big ones) not at all!

I've been thinking about this overnight, and I love my gold bangle, my Beloved (in some form or another), my pearl studs, my gold hoops, my lockets, my wedding ring, my new heavy yellow gold ring which I wear on my right hand, and my new yellow gold eternity. I'd keep my opal and diamond drop earrings and my ruby and diamond 5 stone (both rose gold). I'd keep a couple of pins, which I wear regularly in my scarves, my diamond bangles, my memorial pendant to my dog, and a platinum eternity I've wanted for a long time. I'd keep double diamond studs and a pair of diamond hoops - and that's it. Oh - and I *might* keep the peridot cluster I'm planning to make, which I think will be beautiful. But that's it. Anything else, I don't wear. I have expensive things in my jewelry box I haven't worn in 3 years or more - so what's the point, y'know?

Give me your thoughts on this pls? Because I really am considering this - and have been for years now.
 
mrs-b said:
Honestly, @rainydaze - every single word that comes out of your mouth is sensible, kind and encouraging! The truth is - I think I've worn the cluster twice in 2 years. Is that a good use of my money? I really don't know. I've worn my diamond drops in yellow gold once in 2 years and my pearl and diamond drops (the big ones) not at all!

I've been thinking about this overnight, and I love my gold bangle, my Beloved (in some form or another), my pearl studs, my gold hoops, my lockets, my wedding ring, my new heavy yellow gold ring which I wear on my right hand, and my new yellow gold eternity. I'd keep my opal and diamond drop earrings and my ruby and diamond 5 stone (both rose gold). I'd keep a couple of pins, which I wear regularly in my scarves, my diamond bangles, my memorial pendant to my dog, and a platinum eternity I've wanted for a long time. I'd keep double diamond studs and a pair of diamond hoops - and that's it. Oh - and I *might* keep the peridot cluster I'm planning to make, which I think will be beautiful. But that's it. Anything else, I don't wear. I have expensive things in my jewelry box I haven't worn in 3 years or more - so what's the point, y'know?

Give me your thoughts on this pls? Because I really am considering this - and have been for years now.
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I understand your desire to pare down and that is pretty much the way my jewelry sorting started, with the observation of all the pieces I hadn't worn in so long or not at all. I have no regrets of my purging other than one piece, my original wedding set. I'm not overly wrought about it, just think of it from time to time and wish I would have taken good pictures.

I do encourage you to reevaluate your decisions when you're back to normalcy and off the high power pain relievers before selling, distributing any pieces. A clear mind may change some of your decisions.

I know the days are getting closer to the procedure which you have scheduled. Praying for your continued ability to cope with all of the pain and affected aspects of your life. May the light at the end of this pain tunnel keep you hopeful and looking to the better days.
 
mrs-b said:
Honestly, @rainydaze - every single word that comes out of your mouth is sensible, kind and encouraging! The truth is - I think I've worn the cluster twice in 2 years. Is that a good use of my money? I really don't know. I've worn my diamond drops in yellow gold once in 2 years and my pearl and diamond drops (the big ones) not at all!

I've been thinking about this overnight, and I love my gold bangle, my Beloved (in some form or another), my pearl studs, my gold hoops, my lockets, my wedding ring, my new heavy yellow gold ring which I wear on my right hand, and my new yellow gold eternity. I'd keep my opal and diamond drop earrings and my ruby and diamond 5 stone (both rose gold). I'd keep a couple of pins, which I wear regularly in my scarves, my diamond bangles, my memorial pendant to my dog, and a platinum eternity I've wanted for a long time. I'd keep double diamond studs and a pair of diamond hoops - and that's it. Oh - and I *might* keep the peridot cluster I'm planning to make, which I think will be beautiful. But that's it. Anything else, I don't wear. I have expensive things in my jewelry box I haven't worn in 3 years or more - so what's the point, y'know?

Give me your thoughts on this pls? Because I really am considering this - and have been for years now.
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I really get it @mrs-b..I know you have been thinking of paring down your collection for a long time. My opinion for what it’s worth is that you are a very creative person. You enjoy the acquisition and designing of the jewelry you make. You pour your heart and soul into every piece. When it’s finished..your mind shifts gears and goes into designing another piece. Of course there are sentimental pieces you made that you could never sell…I think you should really consider starting your own high end jewelry business…..It would be a big hit..
 
For anyone concerned I might have a drug-induced basement sale - pls don't be! Firstly, I've been talking about doing this on these boards for YEARS. But secondly, it will probably be 2 months till I have the energy and mobility to sell anything, and the drugs will be long gone by then.

Alternately, for those hoping for an oxy-fuelled mega-bargain - sorry! I have a history of selling things very cheaply to get them moving, but this won't be that kind of sale. I'll be looking to get what these pieces are worth. If I sell, these will be my better pieces, and they deserve to be treated with respect. So no bargain-basement stuff going on here!
 
MamaBee said:
I really get it @mrs-b..I know you have been thinking of paring down your collection for a long time. My opinion for what it’s worth is that you are a very creative person. You enjoy the acquisition and designing of the jewelry you make. You pour your heart and soul into every piece. When it’s finished..your mind shifts gears and goes into designing another piece. Of course there are sentimental pieces you made that you could never sell…I think you should really consider starting your own high end jewelry business…..It would be a big hit..
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Good morning, J. :wavey:

When I told Brittany at WF what I wanted, and she got back to me, she described a 4.5ct G VS1 ACA as "a very rare and expensive diamond". I don't care so much about the very expensive part - but "very rare" is exactly what I want. I was looking at that thread about 'are you a collector or a wearer?' - and I'm both. I want a few very rare, beautiful pieces, that I also wear regularly.

I feel as tho my collection has gotten away from me. I'd like to get up in the morning and know EXACTLY what I'm going to wear. EXACTLY. Because that's "my jewelry". I don't want a zillion things - just a core group of high quality pieces that I love, and nothing more. Beautifully designed, perfectly made, high quality pieces that I will love forever. I'm hardly depriving myself! I mean - this collection involves 2 beautiful eternity rings, a pair of large diamond hoop earrings, 3 diamond bangles, and 2 of the most gorgeous lockets I've ever seen. And I want the best pair of pearl studs I can lay my hands on. And Joy - I forgot to mention Joy. She DEFINITELY stays!

So, as I said, lots of gorgeous pieces - but about only half of what I currently have. And that's enough.
 
mrs-b said:
Good morning, J. :wavey:

When I told Brittany at WF what I wanted, and she got back to me, she described a 4.5ct G VS1 ACA as "a very rare and expensive diamond". I don't care so much about the very expensive part - but "very rare" is exactly what I want. I was looking at that thread about 'are you a collector or a wearer?' - and I'm both. I want a few very rare, beautiful pieces, that I also wear regularly.

I feel as tho my collection has gotten away from me. I'd like to get up in the morning and know EXACTLY what I'm going to wear. EXACTLY. Because that's "my jewelry". I don't want a zillion things - just a core group of high quality pieces that I love, and nothing more. Beautifully designed, perfectly made, high quality pieces that I will love forever. I'm hardly depriving myself! I mean - this collection involves 2 beautiful eternity rings, a pair of large diamond hoop earrings, 3 diamond bangles, and 2 of the most gorgeous lockets I've ever seen. And I want the best pair of pearl studs I can lay my hands on. And Joy - I forgot to mention Joy. She DEFINITELY stays!

So, as I said, lots of gorgeous pieces - but about only half of what I currently have. And that's enough.
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Honestly, you sound extremely lucid. Are you sure you are taking your meds?;)2
 
mrs-b said:
Good morning, J. :wavey:

When I told Brittany at WF what I wanted, and she got back to me, she described a 4.5ct G VS1 ACA as "a very rare and expensive diamond". I don't care so much about the very expensive part - but "very rare" is exactly what I want. I was looking at that thread about 'are you a collector or a wearer?' - and I'm both. I want a few very rare, beautiful pieces, that I also wear regularly.

I feel as tho my collection has gotten away from me. I'd like to get up in the morning and know EXACTLY what I'm going to wear. EXACTLY. Because that's "my jewelry". I don't want a zillion things - just a core group of high quality pieces that I love, and nothing more. Beautifully designed, perfectly made, high quality pieces that I will love forever. I'm hardly depriving myself! I mean - this collection involves 2 beautiful eternity rings, a pair of large diamond hoop earrings, 3 diamond bangles, and 2 of the most gorgeous lockets I've ever seen. And I want the best pair of pearl studs I can lay my hands on. And Joy - I forgot to mention Joy. She DEFINITELY stays!

So, as I said, lots of gorgeous pieces - but about only half of what I currently have. And that's enough.
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Good afternoon H. :wavey: I have to get rid of jewelry that I had before PS. I have lots of bands, etc..They will definitely go by way of a fire sale! :lol:
 
I’m so sorry to hear about your back Mrs. B. I can’t imagine the pain you must have been in when that happened…and the pain you’re in now (even with the heavy load of prescription drugs). It’s unimaginable and couldn’t have happened to a nicer person. Not that I’d wish it on anybody but you get the sentiment. Here’s hoping that surgery day arrives before you know it.

On to the elephant in the room, I’m totally into you upgrading Beloved. She’s an icon, obviously, but a 4.5ct soli would be an icon too. Plus, as you mentioned, there is the rarity factor that can’t be denied. As for paring down your collection, I think we can all agree that 90% of PS will be waiting with bated breath. A Mrs. B piece is nothing if not quality. You always go the extra mile in your selection of diamonds and gems…not to mention how much care you put into each setting.
 
mrs-b said:
Honestly, @rainydaze - every single word that comes out of your mouth is sensible, kind and encouraging! The truth is - I think I've worn the cluster twice in 2 years. Is that a good use of my money? I really don't know. I've worn my diamond drops in yellow gold once in 2 years and my pearl and diamond drops (the big ones) not at all!

I've been thinking about this overnight, and I love my gold bangle, my Beloved (in some form or another), my pearl studs, my gold hoops, my lockets, my wedding ring, my new heavy yellow gold ring which I wear on my right hand, and my new yellow gold eternity. I'd keep my opal and diamond drop earrings and my ruby and diamond 5 stone (both rose gold). I'd keep a couple of pins, which I wear regularly in my scarves, my diamond bangles, my memorial pendant to my dog, and a platinum eternity I've wanted for a long time. I'd keep double diamond studs and a pair of diamond hoops - and that's it. Oh - and I *might* keep the peridot cluster I'm planning to make, which I think will be beautiful. But that's it. Anything else, I don't wear. I have expensive things in my jewelry box I haven't worn in 3 years or more - so what's the point, y'know?

Give me your thoughts on this pls? Because I really am considering this - and have been for years now.
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Aw man.... it's so hard to say! And I hesitate because you know your mind when it comes to jewelry, and it has steered you wonderful directions!

My two best shots:

From the outside looking in, I agree with @MamaBee that you are a creative and a collector which drives much of your desire to design new pieces or tweak existing ones. For some pieces this is what their purpose is, moreso than wearing them. Thus, it makes sense that when you feel you are satisfied with their journey, you are whole with letting them go and freeing your mind/creativity up for the next joy of discovery. So to that I say: set them free!

Anecdotal evidence: I think I got rid of a couple of watches that I hadn't worn in *years*. Now I am wishing I had two of them back. I loved them but they needed batteries. I had been wearing EcoDrives (which recharge by the sun). I rationalized that I wouldn't get the batteries changed out and wear them so what was the point of keeping them around? It was during a time when the mental relief of purging some things was much needed.... but now I regret it. It's not like they took up much space. Well, physically... mentally I guess they were weighing on me. The other watches and odds and ends that went with them I don't miss at all. But those two... I had an inkling as they were being shoved out the door that I should hang onto them *one more time* (they had made the purge pile a few times, and had been pulled back each time). I convinced myself that I'd been saying that for too long already and it was time to ignore that instinct. Well, the point of keeping them was that I loved them. It was enough to occasionally admire them without wearing them, and lo and behold that love did translate to one day wanting to put them back into rotation again. Getting a new battery doesn't seem like the pita it once did; certainly less of an imposition than buying those watches all over again. Which brings me to your comment about 'good use of my money'.... if there is any hint in your mind that you will someday wish to create another cluster should you let this one go, that will take up more money than keeping this one, even tweaking it. Which I know you know, just sayin' in case it helps to hear it! :)

I know my own experience doesn't apply to you or anyone else... however my gut is still suggesting that the cluster might be that piece amongst your 'let-go group' that is worth holding onto. I wonder if her journey is truly at its end just yet and/or if her purpose is fully served, for you.

I keep thinking of you. The days and nights are excruciatingly long when you are waiting for something... the 27th cannot get here fast enough!
 
@mrs-b I understand your surgery has been pushed up and I believe you are already in hospital -- you are in my thoughts and prayers and every day I am sending you comfort and healing vibes -- heartfelt wishes for best possible outcome
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marymm said:
@mrs-b I understand your surgery has been pushed up and I believe you are already in hospital -- you are in my thoughts and prayers and every day I am sending you comfort and healing vibes -- heartfelt wishes for best possible outcome
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I didn’t know it was pushed up!
 
Prayers for a smooth surgery and recovery Mrs. B!
 
Wishing you all the best @mrs-b!
 
We are here for you!
 
Dear H,

I will be praying for a smooth surgery and quick recovery. I’m so glad to read that your operation was moved up - hopefully this is a speedy path to freedom from pain!

Your husband and daughter will be thrilled to have you back home and recovering. Soon. Hang in there, dream sparkly dreams, and you’ll be feeling so much better soon.

❤️
 
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