need suggestions for ring (new setting) ceremony

[katiedid]

Hi everyone, I''ve gotten such amazing advice and feedback here on the purchase of my new ering/wedding band set (which is due to arrive next week) that I wanted to ask another question. Here''s the history... I got married a little over 2 years ago and my original ering and wedding band are white gold with diamonds in them. I''ve had to continuously have them rhodium plated--and they still turn yellow-looking very quickly. Apparently, some people have a body chemistry that wears off the rhodium more quickly. And some rings have a thinner plating on them to begin with. Regardless, we decided we were tired of paying to have these rings dipped and would go ahead and upgrade to platinum. I found the new set at Signed Pieces and they are making me the ering semimount and wedding band right now. Assuming that I love it when it gets here, we''ll have my original center stone reset in this new setting.

Here''s my question--we''ve both been a little torn emotionally about doing this. It feels odd to be doing away with my original set--especially the wedding band. But the current band does not go at all with the new ering mounting. My husband told me to just try to sell the original set (minus the center stone) to get $ to put towards the new set. He is fine with the new set and really thinks we should do this. I think it''s a great buy, beautiful, and will be perfect. But I''d like to somehow make the bands "special" to us, as the emotional significance of them will be missing if we just pop the old stone into the new setting and I start wearing it.

I thought about asking the minister to do a little private ring ceremony of some kind with us--to say a few words about the meaning of the ring(s) and to make the new ones feel "blessed" or whatever. Neither of us are religious people but I mentioned this idea to my husband and he really liked it. I think it could make both of us feel a little more settled with this swap.

Please give me suggestions and ideas! I need to figure this out soon!

 

[ladyciel]

I bet telling your minister what you just told us would be plenty of material for him to come up w/ some ideas. Considering a large portion of his/her job is helping people find/understand meaning, often through the form of public speaking, a minister is probably one of the best qualified people to develop a ceremony with/for you. Good luck! I think it''s a lovely idea.

 

[Kit]

My 100% honest opinion is that I don''t get why you''d want/need a blessing on your jewelry if you''re not religious...do you believe in god or a higher spritual power? And how will this make you feel any differently about what you''re doing? I feel like from your post, the main driver behind your decision is the constant dipping and has little to do with spiritual meaning behind rings. Are you using the dipping as an excuse to "upgrade" to a better setting or setting that you actually find you now prefer? And because of this do you now feel guilty about not loving your original set?

Sorry, just don''t get it.

Maybe it''s the lapsed catholic in me...

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 5/3/2007 1:52:22 AM
Author: Kit
I feel like from your post, the main driver behind your decision is the constant dipping and has little to do with spiritual meaning behind rings. Are you using the dipping as an excuse to ''upgrade'' to a better setting or setting that you actually find you now prefer? And because of this do you now feel guilty about not loving your original set?

WOW. I didnt get that from her post AT ALL. Some people are very attached to the idea of a "forever band" and the symbolism of the rings -- that doesnt always pan out in a practical sense when it comes to body chemistry etc ... Practical meets Romantic ... whats not to understand?

I totally get it -- you want the "THIS is the symbol of my love" moment ... *that* might have been, but *that* didnt work out so well -- so now THIS is gonna do the job. Somehow its more official if the intent is SPOKEN & not just ASSUMED.

God, spiritual whatever ... its respecting the symbolism of the ring to the committment & transferring that meaning to the new ring.

I''m sure a clergyman can help out! Even if its just the two of you & him/her.

 

[surfgirl]

I agree with deco...and I totally understand why you''d want that even though you might not be "religious". I''m not religious at all, but I have a spiritual side that would probably cause me to feel the same way. For me, I''d probably just have a little ceremony with my partner somewhere special to us. Do you have to have a minister since you''re not religious? If you do want a more formal "blessing", then just tell the minister what you''ve told us. I''m sure s/he''s got little ceremonies for that sort of thing. It sounds sweet that you want your rings blessed as they were during your wedding!