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Ideal_Rock
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One of my friends from high school is supposed to be a bridesmaid for my wedding in May but I may be dropping her and asking her to just be a guest. I feel kind of bad about it but I don''t feel like I am getting any support from her and she''s only stressing me out. Here''s a little bit of background info:
She got married in December and kind of rushed to have the wedding so I know she had a lot going on but I felt like she was really inconsiderate. I drove 12 hours round trip to her shower, paid more than I could afford for her shower and group gift ( no one asked me my budget, opinion, or said that we were even doing a group gift even when I directly asked). The bride was impossible to get in touch with and I tried to call every couple of weeks to make sure I was doing everything needed and we were all on the same page. She changed the bridesmaids dresses and wedding date several times so I had to wait until the very last minute to order my dress and then I had to pay rush fees. I drove 8 hours to the wedding. Her wedding was at 6pm but she had us at her salon she worked at to get out hair and makeup done at 8am... I asked her what she had planned as far as lunch goes because FI was going to just drop me off at the salon and I would be car-less. She said we would probably go out or order something but we did neither of those things so by the time the wedding rolled around at 6 I was sick because I hadn''t eaten anything except some almonds all day. I sent her a wedding gift by mail and never recieved a thank you note for the shower or wedding gifts... not even a verbal thank-you. I had a bridesmaid get-together last august so the 3 of them could all get to know each other.... I let her know well in advance but she bailed at the last minute. My shower was this past sunday and she said she would come but she called the day of it and said she couldnt make it. I''m so frustrated with her! So I just sent her a myspace message (since thats the only form of communication she responds to!) telling her that I totally understand if she has too much going on to commit to such a big part in the wedding and I''d totally understand if she didn''t feel like she could do it. I tried to be really nice about it and I''m really hoping this will give her a graceful way out instead of me having to basically force her out. The other bridesmaids have been so helpful to me and I don''t feel its fair to them to have one bridesmaid who has done absolutely nothing. She was also supposed to help them with the shower gift they gave me (spa package) but since she didn''t come, she''s not going to pay her part. Oh, and I ordered her dress and she still hasn''t paid me back and its been like 8 months since I purchased it. It was shipped directly to her and I''ve asked her several times for the payment and so has another bridesmaid but she still hasn''t paid.
Sorry... I had to get this off my chest!
She got married in December and kind of rushed to have the wedding so I know she had a lot going on but I felt like she was really inconsiderate. I drove 12 hours round trip to her shower, paid more than I could afford for her shower and group gift ( no one asked me my budget, opinion, or said that we were even doing a group gift even when I directly asked). The bride was impossible to get in touch with and I tried to call every couple of weeks to make sure I was doing everything needed and we were all on the same page. She changed the bridesmaids dresses and wedding date several times so I had to wait until the very last minute to order my dress and then I had to pay rush fees. I drove 8 hours to the wedding. Her wedding was at 6pm but she had us at her salon she worked at to get out hair and makeup done at 8am... I asked her what she had planned as far as lunch goes because FI was going to just drop me off at the salon and I would be car-less. She said we would probably go out or order something but we did neither of those things so by the time the wedding rolled around at 6 I was sick because I hadn''t eaten anything except some almonds all day. I sent her a wedding gift by mail and never recieved a thank you note for the shower or wedding gifts... not even a verbal thank-you. I had a bridesmaid get-together last august so the 3 of them could all get to know each other.... I let her know well in advance but she bailed at the last minute. My shower was this past sunday and she said she would come but she called the day of it and said she couldnt make it. I''m so frustrated with her! So I just sent her a myspace message (since thats the only form of communication she responds to!) telling her that I totally understand if she has too much going on to commit to such a big part in the wedding and I''d totally understand if she didn''t feel like she could do it. I tried to be really nice about it and I''m really hoping this will give her a graceful way out instead of me having to basically force her out. The other bridesmaids have been so helpful to me and I don''t feel its fair to them to have one bridesmaid who has done absolutely nothing. She was also supposed to help them with the shower gift they gave me (spa package) but since she didn''t come, she''s not going to pay her part. Oh, and I ordered her dress and she still hasn''t paid me back and its been like 8 months since I purchased it. It was shipped directly to her and I''ve asked her several times for the payment and so has another bridesmaid but she still hasn''t paid.
Sorry... I had to get this off my chest!
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