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[Blair138]

Did you talk about it at all with him after it happened? That''s horrible that he just blurted it out...

On a side note(trying to cheer you up)-is your ring gold by any chance? If so- dig it out of the garbage, sell that sucker and get some money at least!!!

 

[FrekeChild]

Smurfy, I''m so sorry. What a dooshbag (no thats not the correct spelling, but more my BFF''s spelling for jerky guys-taken from douche). I''m glad that you didn''t marry him as well. What a horrible horrible thing to go through...

We''re here for you my dear.

 

[austinite]

That''s terrible!

But like the rest of the ladies have mentioned, we are here for you if you need to vent. I know it''s cliche to say this, but I truly do believe that everything happens for a reason and one day you''ll see how much better off you are.

*big hug*

 

[moderatelypoorstudent]

Smurfy I''m so sorry to hear this!

I think it took great strength for you to leave right away and stay at a friend''s place and get another apt all in 2 days. You should be proud of yourself for moving forward so quickly. I know perhaps what motivates you is how angry you must be and maybe the sadness is already setting in, but I think you''ve done yourself a favor getting out of there so quickly and it will help you to move on.

If I remember correctly, this is the guy who didn''t even want to get you a card for your anniversary even after you said you just wanted to do a little something because it was important to you. In the end, when all is said and done, who would want to be with a boy who couldn''t put his SO''s happiness as a priority?

I say sell all the jewelry, or trade it all in for something nice for yourself. Your self worth and beauty is all from you.

Please come back and talk with us!

 

[alli_esq]

Everyone is right, Smurfy--good for you for getting out so fast and moving on with your life. You deserve nothing but unfettered happiness, and if that guy can''t help you get it, you need to get out of there.

You''re a smart, witty girl if your posts here are any indication, and although this must be a very difficult time, you will be better off in the end. I wish you all the best.

 

[Diamond*Dana]

I am so sorry Smurfy, I wish that there was something more that I could say. Hang in there sweetie.

 

[Allison D.]

sometimes men speak before thinking.

I've found that when a person (man or woman) blurts something without thinking, it's usually truer to how s/he really thinks/feels. They actually disclose what they really feel instead of what they think you want them to say.

The only times I've found this untrue is when people react because they feel hurt. Then, it's more likely that 'blurting' out contains information not necessarily true but meant solely to hurt back.

Smurfy, sorry and regrets to you for having to learn of his feelings in such a hurtful way. Hope all goes well for you.

 

[INdmbLove]

Date: 4/24/2008 7:34:07 PM
Author: alli_esq
Everyone is right, Smurfy--good for you for getting out so fast and moving on with your life. You deserve nothing but unfettered happiness, and if that guy can''t help you get it, you need to get out of there.

You''re a smart, witty girl if your posts here are any indication, and although this must be a very difficult time, you will be better off in the end. I wish you all the best.

I 2nd this- i''ve seen too many people stick around and put up with that BS!

 

[Deelight]

smurfy sorry that this happened but I wish you the best for the future

 

[Octavia]

Smurfy, I''m so sorry. You''ve seemed really unhappy lately and I hope that the worst is now over, and that you can move forward. You deserve to be happy, and you will be (perhaps sooner than you may think). I know it''s the most horrible cliche, but time really will help. Please let us know how you''re doing when you have the chance.

 

[honey22]

Smurfy - I am so sorry that your SO feels this way. You must be devastated. Good on you girl for picking yourself up, brushing yourself off and moving on with life. You deserve to be happy! I am positive that a special person who is just meant for you is waiting in the wings, hopefully it won''t be long until he steps into your life and makes you feel special again.

Hugs! We are always here if you need to chat, vent, smile, cry whatever.

 

[TravelingGal]

Smurfy, I am very sorry to hear this. He''s always sounded like a bit of an ass to me, and I think you deserve much better. Kudos to you for not wasting any time and moving on. Here''s hoping the next one will be the right one...someone who cherishes you and makes you happy.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

thanks for all the well wishes ladies
as soon as i move into my bachlorette pad ill post some pictures

 

[lliang_chi]

Smurfy, I''m glad you''ve found a place. And you''re really fortunate to have wonderful parents like you do. And we''re all here. I''m sure I speak for all that we love having you on PS and your sense of humor and wit are really entertaining.

 

[dogmama]

I know you''re probably hurting, but know that you have friends and a wonderful support group here on PS. He was completely tactless the way he said that. I hope that you''re sitting in your lovely new apartment and thinking about ways to decorate it than wasting your time thinking about him! Its a new beginning!

HUGS! HUGS! HUGS! HUGS! HUGS! HUGS!

 

[Jewels305]

Oh wow, I am so sorry to hear this news. Like the other ladies have said, I am glad that you have been able to find a new place as quickly as you have so you can begin to piece things back together. I want you to know that I wish you all the best and I hope that you will stick around the forum because we would miss you if you left!!

*hug*

 

[emilina22]

i am so sorry...

but your a strong woman who doesn''t need to be dragged down by an idiot like him!!

B.I.G hug!!

 

[Nitza1124]

OMG im sooo sorry, i know that your probably hurting right now, but like everyone has said you deserve better. He''s a jerk and you dont need someone like that in your life...I wish you the best

 

[bee*]

sorry to hear that Smurfy. You deserve better.

 

[Cravin My Emerald cut]

Glad you found another apartment and clearly have friends and family that are there for you.

Get your furniture ASAP and let that ba****d use milk crates as a coffee table.

 

[CrookedRock]

Smurfy, I am so sorry that you are going through this. Een though it''s what''s best for you, I know it isn''t easy.
He has been putting you through the ringer for a while now, and you really do deserve better. Take some time to yourself and have fun, find "you" again! Keep us posted on how you are! Hugs!

 

[Dani511]

Smurfy, I am very sorry to hear this! The other ladies are right- it takes great strength to move out and on with your life very quickly, as you did! I wish you the best of luck- you will certainly find better!!

 

[Smurfysmiles]

so my parents are buying me new furniture and a new tv (im the youngest child and spoiled lol) bc they dont want me to have bad memories when i look at the stuff we had together which is really thoughtful. so ex so is getting the furniture we literally dug out of a trash dumpster lol.
also i have a guy friend who told me when im ready he''ll take me on a real date because my SO never treated me that great so that''ll be fun.
oh and im getting a plant.

i was gonna sell the old ring but its not really worth much, it was only 125 to start with

 

[Bashful]

I''m so sorry for all that''s happened, Smurfy

, but trust that this too shall pass and that you''ve reached bottom when he told you that (how tacky!!); with all the new furniture and new apartment, you''re really starting a new life. I remember you were not completely happy with him and you really deserve some one who puts your feelings before his own.

Your ex SO seems quite insensitive and immature. Starting all over again might seem like a feat at the moment but you''ll look back and smile

Besides, you''ve got great parents, great friends (and tequila), and we''re all going to be here cheering for you. Chin up

 

[Mediterranean]

You know what? I wrote up this whoooole post about how sorry i was about what had happened, and I put in these little emoticons

Well, you know what? I fricken erased it.


Because I''m NOT sorry this happened. I''m GLAD this happened. I''m GLAD you''re free to find the right man for you, I''m GLAD this guy didn''t string you along until you were 32 or 33, or, heck, even 35 (some guys do that). I''m GLAD he didn''t propose only to call your wedding off later, and I''m GLAD he didn''t marry you only to divorce you.


Oh, honey. I''m NOT glad that you''re in pain, and I''m NOT glad that you''re disappointed and hurt. You absolutely didn''t deserve this. Not at all, not one bit. He will realize he''s made a stupid mistake and when that time comes, I hope you''re strong enough to tell him to go play in traffic.


Listen. It''s summer, girl! My favorite time of year!!! And it''s time for you to focus on yourself. A brand-new life starts today. You''re going to work out, and start eating better, and you''re going to get yourself a pretty new hairstyle (but don''t cut it all off----no drastic decisions allowed while in crisis mode..) get a manicure and a pedicure. Treat yourself to a new, cute summer outfit (complete with sweet shoes and a nice purse). You are going to look HOTT.

Repeat after me: Looking good is the best revenge.


Boys are Stooooopid. You''re lucky....

 

[surfgirl]

I just wanted to Word! Mediterranean's entire above post...

And to add this...do NOT let the douchebag keep your furniture, even if it's very secondhand. He should FEEL some pain over this, even if it's only the pain of inconvenience and financial loss. Yeah, I'm petty that way...I would like to encourage you to renta U-Haul and have your guy friend(s) go with you to your/his place and pick up every mofo piece of furniture and/or decoration that you actually own, purchased, etc. Then, take them all and dump them at a Salvation Army or a Good Will or donate them to some charity that helps people furnish their new places. Let him PAY for his own freaking furniture.

There...Even I feel better now

 

[alli_esq]

I have never agreed with anything more than both Mediterranean and surfgirl''s posts.

The ladies on here are so flippin smart. I''m REALLY glad you''re getting new stuff to help start your better life, Smurfy! This is just the beginning of great things happening for you.

 

[ListlessLiz]

Better yet - go pick up the furniture and sell every last piece of it at a yard-sale. At least then you can make some money to get yourself a much-deserved new pair of ass-kicking heels. I''m sure FrekeChild can help you pick some awesome ones.

Hey, maybe you could take out an ad in the paper advertising "Douchebag furniture - will sell cheap."

Seriously though, this is a truly sh!tty situation he''s put you in - so I say to hell with letting him keep anything that was yours, he''s already taken enough.

Please keep us posted, and as many ladies have said before, you are more than welcome to come vent to us whenever need be.

 

[surfgirl]

Liz, yes! Sell the crap furniture and buy yourself something frivolous, a nice pair of "freedom earrings" or something like that! Excellent idea!

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 4/25/2008 12:58:06 PM
Author: ListlessLiz
Better yet - go pick up the furniture and sell every last piece of it at a yard-sale. At least then you can make some money to get yourself a much-deserved new pair of ass-kicking heels. I''m sure FrekeChild can help you pick some awesome ones.

At your service. I''d love to.

And I totally agree with not giving him the old furniture. He doesn''t deserve that act of kindness.