NOT engaged Wahhh!!! Need to Vent!

[CrookedRock]

So glad you came back!!! Also glad to hear that you are feeling better about the situation. I think eventually it becomes too exhausting to get all worked up about the proposal (at least for me), and it is so much better to sit back and relax, and know that he is wanting it to... Please feel free to come back and vent whenever you need to, believe it or not we don't normally bite...lol!
As for this planning thing? Is he crazy..lol!? Like 2 months to plan? Do you want a big wedding or something more private?

 

[HollyS]

Welcome back. It''s good that the two of you talked. He does know that you are expecting a decision from him, and he himself provided the timeline; this is a step in the direction you felt you needed. So, great! March really isn''t all that far away, is it? It''ll be here before you know it. Best wishes for a lovely spring proposal.

 

[MissErin]

BlueBubbles - I am so excited to see you back on the board!! I have missed you a ton and have worried about how you were feeling. I am so happy to hear you are doing well. I figured you just needed a little time to sort though things and feel better when you were ready. And even better is the fact that you got to talk to your boyfrtiend about what is going on. Things are looking up my dear!! So again, welcome back and I look forward to hearing more in the up coming months!!

 

[TravelingGal]

Happy to hear that after the vent you feel much better. Sometimes that''s all a vent is...blowing steam. And lord knows I have said some things I really didn''t mean when I vented. Fortunately, it''s only usually to the walls of my house - and I try not to do that anymore since I feel like TTot can hear me and I don''t want all that negative energy floating around an innocent little fetus!

My best wishes that you will get your proposal in the spring...but even more, that you will ENJOY this time being a girlfriend. Because in the scheme of things, if you two are together for the rest of your lives, you only get to be a girlfriend for such a short time.

 

[MissErin]

Date: 1/3/2008 8:36:19 PM
Author: TravelingGal

My best wishes that you will get your proposal in the spring...but even more, that you will ENJOY this time being a girlfriend. Because in the scheme of things, if you two are together for the rest of your lives, you only get to be a girlfriend for such a short time.

WOW!! This is so true and totally got me thinking. Thanks for the words of wisdom.

 

[FrekeChild]

BB, I am so glad that you checked in. I was afraid that you''d been scared off.

It sounds like things are going just fine in the proposal department, and I''m really glad to hear that you two can talk so openly about these things. He does seem to want to hurry things though! My friend managed to plan a wedding in a little over a month, but she didn''t get lots of things that she wanted because they were already booked and whatnot.

These men seem to think we either don''t need time to make it lovely or we''re miracle workers!

I think at one point or another all of the LIW need to vent at least once. My turn hasn''t come up yet, and likely won''t any time soon, but I''m glad I have all of these wonderful supporting ladies to turn to.

I am so glad you are back!

 

[chocolatefudge]

Welcome back bluebubbles! I''m sorry you didn''t get your NYE proposal BUT things are looking promising for you March isn''t far away at all, it''s very exciting!! I will wait with you as I have a proposal coming this year...... allegedly! Men eh?

 

[gwendolyn]

I too am very glad the two of you talked and that there''s a deadline in sight. Hopefully he will stick to his word and propose by March, and then you can turn to planning a wedding (I don''t know about in a few months, but whatev, first things first

). Glad to hear about your progress!

 

[bluebubbles]

Thanks girls. Even though it was a 5 minute talk I am okay now. But, honestly, if I didn''t vent earlier in the day, I would have not been satisfied with that 5 mintue talk. I think it''s true that girls are talkers and I am one of them. I am lucky that I was able to come to this forum to lash out my frustration or else it would have been lashed out at my BF and he wouldn''t know what hit him. Maybe worse, he''d re-think things and maybe even pushed his plans even back some more. Gosh, this platform is so vital and crucial to girls who just want to marry their man. hehe.

TGal, you made a really good point and gave me a different prespective and outlook on my "status". I guess I just want that committment sooner. hehe.

FrekeChile, I agree. I''m assuming guys in general aren''t really gun-ho about the whole wedding planning and wedding day thing. But, for me, this is my special day and my only wedding. I want to plan it to be glamorous and would like my BF to allow a good amount of time for planning. I''ll keep you guys posted. When I do, should I start a new post or add on to this one? hmm...maybe just add on, but I''m just afraid it''ll become too many pages. haha.

 

[MissErin]

BlueBubbles - I am so happy to have you back. I just wanted you to know.