Nothing is easing my mind...

[dawnabee]

Ok girls I''m really becoming a basketcase! Need a chill pill... mega dose. I''m worrying everyday and its affecting my sleep and my mood and I''m probably getting on the FF nerves too. I already know he will propose by October and that he is choosing the setting I want but now I am worrying about the diamond and the setting warranty which I am waiting for a response about. I don''t know what to do to keep my mind of this subject its like all consuming! How am I supposed to deal with waiting for another six months and not run myself of my FF ragged? I''m happy but at the same time I just want it to be over... eventhough it keeps me looking forward to something.

 

[jewelz617]

Are things really going to change *that* drastically once you''re engaged? No, not really. Just trust me, enjoy this time before engagement, marriage and kids (should you choose to have them). It goes by fast and can never be repeated.

Take long walks together, enjoy each other''s company, go enjoy some nice quiet dinners, go bar hopping. No need to rush. Let the engagement go at it''s own pace... breathe... there is no faster way to ruin an engagement than constantly nagging about it.

 

[LadyJane83]

I know how you feel...you''re definitely not the only one...

I was the same way with my e-ring. Now, I am stressing over the wedding (there are a lot of open questions) and we''ve only been engaged two weeks.

You really just have to try to get it out of your mind. Don''t spend your all your time looking at rings and wedding-related magazines, or even on these forums.

Just try to concentrate on the here and now and keep yourself busy with non-ring/proposal related stuff. I really wish I had better advice to give, but I feel your pain!

 

[dawnabee]

Pink-- i know nothing will really change per se its just the wait that is killing me! as much as i try to just put it out of my mind im sucked right back in anytime i see an ad on tv or the computer! its everywhere



LadyJane--ooo wedding plans... i know i say after engagement ill relax but i think i will be the same.. i was born worried lol glad im not the only one as i have read on here too! maybe i should cool it here for a bit since i think its adding to the tension but everyones so friendly and its great to just chat or give advice


work doesnt help cause its boring as heck sooo i must find a new hobby

 

[getting excited]

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I think my ff will probably not propose until around Septmeber or October but once I got the go ahead to look at rings, I have been obsessing! Many around me would probably say it is a little unhealthy At least you know you are getting the setting you love. I think that is a big weight off your shoulders. Let your ff take care of the diamond. I am sure he will get some help and pick out a wonderful stone! You will love it and I am sure it will be worth the wait!

I promised myself today I that was going to relax about this and not go on pricescope....oops

 

[PumpkinPie]

Date: 4/16/2010 2:24:06 PM
Author: dawnabee
work doesnt help cause its boring as heck sooo i must find a new hobby

That''s a great idea.. seriously - get a new hobby! Not only will you learn something new and maybe find a great passion, you''ll also stop driving both of you crazy

 

[FutureMrsMRS]

Ditto!

I knew that FI was ready to propose & I was there when he picked up the ring. I didn''t obsess too badly until I knew the ring was IN THE HOUSE!!!

We picked it up on 3/18 and he proposed on 4/2. That was the longest 2 weeks EVER.

Just try to relax. Don''t stress over the ring itself. Because as much as we may love rings, jewels, diamonds, etc...most of us would take a "lesser" ring from a great man over a "beauty" from a creep anyday!

@ladyjane - I think you got engaged the day before I did. I went crazy with planning. Now that we have the venue & caterer I''m over it - for now good luck planning!

 

[dawnabee]

Aww thats soo sweet FutureMrs! Your right I would take a piece of coal from my man then a gorgeous diamond from a creeper! Good luck with your wedding plans!

I''m calmer now finally... The future hubby and I had a heart to heart tonight and it seems he has more up his sleeve then I assumed. I really thought he was just gonna go out one day and buy a diamond w/o any knowledge.. and since I want a cushion cut I know that could be tricky. But he has a plan! And I got to show him on here exactly what I was looking for (chunkish brilliant cushion) and he had the same taste too I even showed him videos on GOG and stuff... let me tell ya soooo much stress flew right off my shoulders!!

Hopefully I can sleep tonight!

 

[Nomsdeplume]

Ah, I''m so excited for you!!!
Enjoy this time before getting engaged, because you will never get it back, and it''s something to treasure, because this part of your relationship is just as important as when you get engaged.

 

[dawnabee]

Thanks kribbie! everyone on here is so nice, helpful and supportive i love PS!!! lol

I am excited too! I am just going to enjoy the moment

 

[KittyGolightly]

Yay! GOG is awesome. They won''t steer your boyfriend wrong.

 

[merbear1215]

You sound like me! My bf says "I''m really worried about what you will do after we get engaged. What the heck are you going to have to obsess over and worry about"

 

[TooPatient]

Date: 4/19/2010 12:49:23 PM
Author: merbear1215
You sound like me! My bf says ''I''m really worried about what you will do after we get engaged. What the heck are you going to have to obsess over and worry about''

If only they knew the details involved in wedding planning...

There is plenty to obsess over and worry about. (but I don''t obsess -- I plan: really carefully

)

 

[beezygal]

Date: 4/19/2010 12:49:23 PM
Author: merbear1215
You sound like me! My bf says ''I''m really worried about what you will do after we get engaged. What the heck are you going to have to obsess over and worry about''

Just yesterday, my bf said "once we''re married, there''s nothing for you to plan.. so.. are you gonna plan our funeral then??? awwwww." (we say "awwww.. so sweet" to everything)
then.. i''m said.. "no... I''ve already planned our funeral, so.. we''ll plan about having kids... " he said.. ''oh god"

lol

 

[luckynumber]

one mega dose chill pill coming up....

actually, i''m the opposite about the planning thing: can''t wait for it to be over (engagement, wedding etc), so i can start living a normal life again!!

 

[dawnabee]

yessss I just want it to be over tooo... but in the meantime planning helps! haha

I found out that the e-ring comes with a lifetime warranty!! yippiee so no more worries about loosing pave stones! me and the FF are going to check it out at the store they have which is an hour away from us but no biggie.. im glad im going to get to know what its like! they have to order it in though bc they dont have it there which is fine.. i know he''s not in any rush... unlike me hehe

 

[legallyspoiled]

I too became obsessed by the process of "hunting" for the perfect ring and then setting and then head and then.... (you get the point, lol).

I actually went through a slight withdrawal period after the ring was ordered. I think that is when my lady waiting in the dark status really began to get to me. But I took the advice of other pricescopers and found other things to focus on. I''ve been focusing on making him happy, enjoying time together, and doing preliminary research on vendors. I''m not really contacting anyone (except the wedding planner that I met in January who hasn''t returned my email in 4 days

... but I digress).

My point is that there is tons of stuff around you to take your mind off it! Start checking out websites for venues and photographers. You should book those early on and it will be good to have the research out of the way.

Throwing glittery purple dust your way!

 

[dawnabee]

Legally---OOOhhh how''d you know purples my favorite color! It must have worked because we heard back from the place and I am happy to say theres a lifetime warranty on the setting and we should be ordering it sometime this week or next!!! Still will take 2-3wks for the ring to be made so I know theres more waiting especially for the diamond but I am finito with the process after now.

I was good this past weekend I didn''t come on here as much and I just enjoyed the time spent with my BF. He is so wonderful and I am just so happy to have someone who is everything I need.

Boooo on your wedding planner! Ahhh venues and suchhhh I can''t imagine... I have a few ideas but we plan on having a long engagement (marry in Spring-Summer 2012) so the pressure isn''t to great to start that search!

 

[dawnabee]

beezy thats funny! My BF would fall off his seat if I mentioned kids

 

[legallyspoiled]

Date: 4/20/2010 2:14:18 PM
Author: dawnabee
Legally---OOOhhh how''d you know purples my favorite color! It must have worked because we heard back from the place and I am happy to say theres a lifetime warranty on the setting and we should be ordering it sometime this week or next!!! Still will take 2-3wks for the ring to be made so I know theres more waiting especially for the diamond but I am finito with the process after now.


I was good this past weekend I didn''t come on here as much and I just enjoyed the time spent with my BF. He is so wonderful and I am just so happy to have someone who is everything I need.


Boooo on your wedding planner! Ahhh venues and suchhhh I can''t imagine... I have a few ideas but we plan on having a long engagement (marry in Spring-Summer 2012) so the pressure isn''t to great to start that search!

He he he. Purple is my favorite color too.

I''m glad you enjoyed your weekend.

That is a long engagement! April 2011 is long for us. FF doesn''t want a long engagement at all. We were aiming for 6-8 months after being engaged. But that isn''t happening!

 

[beezygal]

Date: 4/20/2010 2:14:18 PM
Author: dawnabee
Legally---OOOhhh how''d you know purples my favorite color! It must have worked because we heard back from the place and I am happy to say theres a lifetime warranty on the setting and we should be ordering it sometime this week or next!!! Still will take 2-3wks for the ring to be made so I know theres more waiting especially for the diamond but I am finito with the process after now.

I was good this past weekend I didn''t come on here as much and I just enjoyed the time spent with my BF. He is so wonderful and I am just so happy to have someone who is everything I need.

Boooo on your wedding planner! Ahhh venues and suchhhh I can''t imagine... I have a few ideas but we plan on having a long engagement (marry in Spring-Summer 2012) so the pressure isn''t to great to start that search!

I was telling my bf that we should think of a potential day for our 2011 wedding. I want it to be a special date.. like.. 11/11/11... but it''s a remembrance day (or veterans day). Then my bf was like "who said.. we''ll get marry in 2011?

I hope he''s just teasing me.. lol. I want to be married by 26-27.

 

[beezygal]

Date: 4/20/2010 2:16:15 PM
Author: dawnabee
beezy thats funny! My BF would fall off his seat if I mentioned kids

I think the funeral part is funny. I was telling him my "plan". married by 26/27... first baby by 30. This way, we get to spend a few years of quality time together before having a kid. He was like "why do you have to have a plan like that... I hate that... " lol.. oh well... aren''t girls like that? or am I the only one???

 

[dawnabee]

I knowwww its a long engagement but we are both young 24-25 yrs and we still have to search for condo to live in after the engagement! So in order to start the wedding we must recoup our finances from the engagement and moving out!! Its okay by me though to do it this way it feels like the right order of things for us.

B- I am sure he is just teasing.. he probably knows your antsy since you are about to get engaged and pulling your leg!


I think we 3 need some dust and chill pills... i prefer a cold drink!

 

[beezygal]

Date: 4/20/2010 4:51:55 PM
Author: dawnabee
I knowwww its a long engagement but we are both young 24-25 yrs and we still have to search for condo to live in after the engagement! So in order to start the wedding we must recoup our finances from the engagement and moving out!! Its okay by me though to do it this way it feels like the right order of things for us.

B- I am sure he is just teasing.. he probably knows your antsy since you are about to get engaged and pulling your leg!


I think we 3 need some dust and chill pills... i prefer a cold drink!

cool dawn. We have lots in common. We''re around the same age. I''m 25. My FF is two years older.. at 27. I just realized you''re LIW #105 and I''m #104. We''re both waiting for our bfs to propose. We''re like.. PS twins.. lol

yes.. the next step for us.. is to buy a condo. We''ve been looking since last summer.. and then.. we stopped. I think we''re ready to look at more condos again.

 

[legallyspoiled]

Date: 4/20/2010 4:51:55 PM
Author: dawnabee
I knowwww its a long engagement but we are both young 24-25 yrs and we still have to search for condo to live in after the engagement! So in order to start the wedding we must recoup our finances from the engagement and moving out!! Its okay by me though to do it this way it feels like the right order of things for us.


B- I am sure he is just teasing.. he probably knows your antsy since you are about to get engaged and pulling your leg!



I think we 3 need some dust and chill pills... i prefer a cold drink!

I''m an old maid...I turned 30 in November. I''m ready to get this show on the row so we can get on with it and start the baby factory.

FF is on the same page...thank goodness.

You ladies have plenty of time. Your plans sound like what I would do at that age.

Beezy - Haven''t you realized? Nothing has changed since we were kids. Boys still like to pick on the girls.

 

[beezygal]

Date: 4/20/2010 4:57:00 PM
Author: legallyspoiled


I''m an old maid...I turned 30 in November. I''m ready to get this show on the row so we can get on with it and start the baby factory.

FF is on the same page...thank goodness.

You ladies have plenty of time. Your plans sound like what I would do at that age.

Beezy - Haven''t you realized? Nothing has changed since we were kids. Boys still like to pick on the girls.

legally.. 30 is not old. I just want to get married sooner...

I''m don''t think I''m ready to have kids until I''m at least 30. I think I''m a kid myself. My bf always say he has a kid already... ME... lol.. see... he''s picking on me.. lol

 

[legallyspoiled]

Date: 4/20/2010 4:59:20 PM
Author: beezygal

Date: 4/20/2010 4:57:00 PM

Author: legallyspoiled



I''m an old maid...I turned 30 in November. I''m ready to get this show on the row so we can get on with it and start the baby factory.

FF is on the same page...thank goodness.


You ladies have plenty of time. Your plans sound like what I would do at that age.


Beezy - Haven''t you realized? Nothing has changed since we were kids. Boys still like to pick on the girls.

legally.. 30 is not old. I just want to get married sooner...

I''m don''t think I''m ready to have kids until I''m at least 30. I think I''m a kid myself. My bf always say he has a kid already... ME... lol.. see... he''s picking on me.. lol

Correct. 30 is not old but it is older than 25! And I''m 30 and ready for the kids. I don''t want to be chasing around rugrats when I''m 40. Hopefully, they will be at least 7 and some what independent by that point. But we digress. No need to talk about kids if I''m not married. No need to talk about being married if I''m not engaged. No need to talk about being engaged unless....

Your boyfriend sounds hilarious. I''m totally going to steal that line and use it on FF.