oh man :(

[Cehrabehra]

I just got a call from the jeweler I was working with and they wanted to know if I was going to finish my ring.... I told them that since I hadn''t heard from them since early december that I just assumed we were no longer working together (I mean come on, it''s been almost 5 months with no contact). Anyway... then I asked if I could talk to the jeweler I had been working with and she told me that she hadn''t been there since december - on leave because she is still so sick

I feel horrible. I''m glad I didn''t wait for her, and I bet knowing this woman she is harboring guilt because she couldn''t finish it... I mean all in all I''m far happier with Ocean, she''s better on a bad day than the other jeweler was in the beginning when she was doing well... by a lot. but I just feel so bad that she''s so sick, you know? I guess I know why she never called........ but its for the best, I know this... but still....

 

[KimberlyH]

That''s a bummer Sara, I understand why you''d feel bad.

 

[Skippy123]

Date: 4/28/2007 2:39:15 PM
Author: KimberlyH
That''s a bummer Sara, I understand why you''d feel bad.

me too. I would feel bad too. I am sorry.

 

[FireGoddess]

That''s unfortunate but it has been 5 months and you don''t need to feel bad. At least now the project is terminated and frankly, your assumption is one anybody would have made! I hope that woman feels better though, being sick is no fun.

 

[widget]

I completely agree with FG...it''s too bad, but YOU shouldn''t feel bad. Who wouldn''t have assumed the project was terminated after so long?


widget

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 4/30/2007 12:52:47 PM
Author: FireGoddess
That''s unfortunate but it has been 5 months and you don''t need to feel bad. At least now the project is terminated and frankly, your assumption is one anybody would have made! I hope that woman feels better though, being sick is no fun.

oh I''m sorry - I don''t feel bad even a *tiny* bit over the termination of the project, I just feel bad that the woman is so sick and I''m worried about *her*. I did like her very much.... but as far as the ring goes - NO regrets or guilt! I just thought she''d been working all this time and we''d taken a mutual leave from the project, I didn''t realize she''d been out ill all this time. She has very very bad diabetes (type 1) and is as thin as a rail and kept getting strep and sepsis... she looked like she was dying and all of the pain I feel about the situation is just about her well being.

 

[doobao]

I''m so sorry to hear that. It sure isn''t fun to be sick.
Cehrabehra, I totally understand how you feel that a nice person you know is suffering.

Sending prayers to this nice lady~~

 

[FireGoddess]

Date: 4/30/2007 1:47:16 PM
Author: Cehrabehra

Date: 4/30/2007 12:52:47 PM
Author: FireGoddess
That''s unfortunate but it has been 5 months and you don''t need to feel bad. At least now the project is terminated and frankly, your assumption is one anybody would have made! I hope that woman feels better though, being sick is no fun.

oh I''m sorry - I don''t feel bad even a *tiny* bit over the termination of the project, I just feel bad that the woman is so sick and I''m worried about *her*. I did like her very much.... but as far as the ring goes - NO regrets or guilt! I just thought she''d been working all this time and we''d taken a mutual leave from the project, I didn''t realize she''d been out ill all this time. She has very very bad diabetes (type 1) and is as thin as a rail and kept getting strep and sepsis... she looked like she was dying and all of the pain I feel about the situation is just about her well being.

Okay good - anyone with compassion would and should feel bad for the woman, because long term illness sucks. But I didn''t want you to think you should feel bad for terminating the project!!

 

[mrssalvo]

cehra, I didn''t want to start a whole new thread so i figured I''d bump this one:

but, I''ve been waiting to read your reaction to surfgirls ring over in the SMTR forum..

have you seen it yet??

https://www.pricescope.com/forum/op-requested/at-last-my-antique-ering-t61580.html

 

[Ellen]

Sara, where ya been woman?

 

[mrssalvo]

bumping again in hope''s sara will see this

 

[Skippy123]

don't be sad; I bet it is tough though. Just think when it gets to you it will be so amazing and totally worth the wait!!!

 

[Ellen]

Sara, I can only imagine how you feel. If it makes ya feel any better, I am ringless at the moment. My OMC is being tended to, and I just dropped my round off yesterday to be sized and rhodium plated. I feel nekkie.


If you haven''t, I think it''s quite appropriate to call and ask how long. I mean, really, how long can it take??

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 5/9/2007 3:20:57 PM
Author: Ellen
Sara, I can only imagine how you feel. If it makes ya feel any better, I am ringless at the moment. My OMC is being tended to, and I just dropped my round off yesterday to be sized and rhodium plated. I feel nekkie.


If you haven''t, I think it''s quite appropriate to call and ask how long. I mean, really, how long can it take??

It takes as long as it takes... and sometimes I get very frustrated. If I just look at the calendar I can convince myself that I am again allowing too much time to pass, but there is much more to it than that. I don''t want anyone to think that Ocean takes forever to get things done, the pendant she did for wink was done in a matter of... I don''t even know, 2-3 weeks?

I do notice I am feeling quite jealous lately though... I didn''t feel much in a hurry all this time, but I have seen so many people come here like jeff and he is just looking for a stone, finds a stone and then waits WEEKS for leon to make it and I''m still ringless. I feel honored that my stone made that favorite ring thread, but it''s not even a ring LOL I find myself being more envious than genuinely happy for others and I just hate that in myself. I feel very self centered.

But on the other hand this is a journey - and not just a ring making journey... it is many things. One being an attempt to find peace and balance and reconcilliation with my diamond. I love my diamond, and the other day I went through some videos and was really wowed by it! It has been gone for 10 weeks now and in my memory it has started to fade and become dull and lifeless and I am forgetting the sparkle... and then looking at the videos reminded me of what it does and made me miss it more... but it is also TOTALLY incongruent with my lifestyle and those of my friends and acquaintances. I''ve kept my stone my little secret from most people, but recently I have been feeling compelled to warn people that it is coming and let them know I am still the no makeup wearing (most of the time) birkenstock shod, sweats wearing slob I''ve always been lol this is a fairly big stone and I just want to have the right balance in myself before I wear it. I don''t want to feel ashamed or shy or like I need to hide it... but I also, even moreso don''t want to feel like I''m being flashy or braggy or a showoff and I''ve worn some stand in rings to kind of prepare, and I think I''m ready and I really want it now, more than I did before.

I know this all sounds weird and silly by PS standards, but it is where I am. The strength to enjoy it without the abuse of power and status. It is hard to appear humble wearing 2.71 carats on your finger. I am not a designer flashy sort of person, nor do I wish to be. But I love the stone and will find a way to wear it I think I''ll go get some tattoos to bide my time lol

 

[Ellen]

Oh Sara, first of all, you''re not a slob! lol

Secondly, I don''t think anyone here would begrudge you feeling twinges of jealousy right about now. Good lord, I don''t have a jealous bone in my body, and I think even I would be a bit jealous.

You know, I was thinking about how long this is taking, and now what you just said about not wanting us to think Ocean takes this long all the time. Thing is, I don''t/didn''t. What I''m wondering is, and PLEASE don''t take this the wrong way (it''s just a mere observation!), could it be taking this long because you are allowing it to? You have such visions, and understand the artistic process involved, and are so thoughtful to not want to impede that. But I wonder if that has caused things to move slower than normal?? I don''t know, maybe, maybe not. I just think enough time has passed that it could have been done, I mean, we''re not painting a Picasso here.

Just a thought, take it with a cannister of Mortons.

And about feeling funny wearing it, I did too. Mine''s only half your size, but large for my crowd. While people knew it was coming, I didn''t say a word after I got it. I just wore it, and let people notice. Did I get the reaction I''d get from all of you? no. Did it bother me? a bit. Did I get over it? yup.

And please post more often, you are missed!!

 

[boston_jeff]

Date: 5/10/2007 4:52:35 PM
Author: Cehrabehra
I do notice I am feeling quite jealous lately though... I didn''t feel much in a hurry all this time, but I have seen so many people come here like jeff and he is just looking for a stone, finds a stone and then waits WEEKS for leon to make it and I''m still ringless. I feel honored that my stone made that favorite ring thread, but it''s not even a ring LOL I find myself being more envious than genuinely happy for others and I just hate that in myself. I feel very self centered.

Me getting my ring before you is only the universe''s kind way of saying that I do not have the patience that you do, and would not have been able to handle the wait with as much understanding and hopefulness as you. This is definitely the flip side of the "life journey" that your ring represents, whereas for me (younger, and more importantly, a man), the ring creating experience has been a little more utilitarian and subject to external time constraints, even though I put a lot of time and thought into it.

If you wanted to speed up the process, you know that you could. But you have made a meaningful judgment that the physical and spiritual benefits of the wait outweigh your moments of jealousy or restlessness. I know that you have chosen the path that is best for you, and that you will change that path if and when you decide it is no longer the best. In the meantime, continue to enjoy the ride and let the weaker moments come and go...

 

[Cehrabehra]

Ellen - thank you so much for your kind words, and I know how it looks like I''m super picky and I am super picky about *one* thing and that''s the prong placement... I love my crown and don''t want anything covering up any part of the kite/bezel facets. Everything else I will negotiate, though I do want the basic ring to be generally what I showed you guys before. The rest of the story is VERY long though kinda interesting from a communication stand point LOL

Jeff - you''ve nailed it of course and thank you - but I don''t think you can quite so easily blow yourself off by saying you''re young and a guy LOL I think you''ve really embraced the spirit of cushions especially and I get such a tickle of pride when I see you and neatfreak giving advice so that I don''t have to! LOL!!

 

[Ellen]

Date: 5/10/2007 7:48:22 PM
Author: Cehrabehra
Ellen - thank you so much for your kind words, and I know how it looks like I''m super picky and I am super picky about *one* thing and that''s the prong placement... I love my crown and don''t want anything covering up any part of the kite/bezel facets. Everything else I will negotiate, though I do want the basic ring to be generally what I showed you guys before. The rest of the story is VERY long though kinda interesting from a communication stand point LOL

I was coming back here to post something else, as I was thinking about my post while making dinner. (Screw the pork chops, what about Sara''s ring!

) I wanted to make sure my message was conveyed well, and after your post, I''m thinking maybe it wasn''t.

I don''t "think" anything about you and your vision, except I think you know what you want, and I think you want to give her time to get it right (equals patience of Job). I see NOTHING wrong with that. Here''s what I was trying to get at and failed.

Say I''m a designer, I''ve got several clients going at once. Most of these women want their creations like yesterday. Only one sweet, laid back chick doesn''t mind waiting. Whose work is going to get done first? And this scenario could just keep going and going....

That was what I was getting at when I said you might be allowing this process to be taking so much time.

However, there seems to be more to this, so I''ll leave it at that, as you DO know best.

I''ll shut up now.

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 5/10/2007 8:03:45 PM
Author: Ellen

Date: 5/10/2007 7:48:22 PM
Author: Cehrabehra
Ellen - thank you so much for your kind words, and I know how it looks like I''m super picky and I am super picky about *one* thing and that''s the prong placement... I love my crown and don''t want anything covering up any part of the kite/bezel facets. Everything else I will negotiate, though I do want the basic ring to be generally what I showed you guys before. The rest of the story is VERY long though kinda interesting from a communication stand point LOL

I was coming back here to post something else, as I was thinking about my post while making dinner. (Screw the pork chops, what about Sara''s ring!

) I wanted to make sure my message was conveyed well, and after your post, I''m thinking maybe it wasn''t.

I don''t ''think'' anything about you and your vision, except I think you know what you want, and I think you want to give her time to get it right (equals patience of Job). I see NOTHING wrong with that. Here''s what I was trying to get at and failed.

Say I''m a designer, I''ve got several clients going at once. Most of these women want their creations like yesterday. Only one sweet, laid back chick doesn''t mind waiting. Whose work is going to get done first? And this scenario could just keep going and going....

That was what I was getting at when I said you might be allowing this process to be taking so much time.

However, there seems to be more to this, so I''ll leave it at that, as you DO know best.

I''ll shut up now.

no, no no.... don''t do that!! I think you''re right, actually. I think to some extent it is about doing the easiest ones first, but it is also about having a clear head to really devote her whole self to. Plus there was a miscommunication on a ridiculously small detail that was basically a lynchpin for the entire design LOL

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 5/10/2007 8:03:45 PM
Author: Ellen
I was coming back here to post something else, as I was thinking about my post while making dinner. (Screw the pork chops, what about Sara''s ring!

)

You know, I think of so many of you at such odd times... so, were the porkchops good?

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Cehra, I just wanted to say that I know how you feel about the bling issue. I am also a pretty regular person who happens to like diamonds! My 1.63 is larger than most of the girls I am around as well. I turn my hand a little when handing a store clerk my money. I have never wanted to be showy. I know I am saying this in good company since Ellen is the same way. I even emailed Jonathan this week about maybe trading for a stone in the 1.4 range (my original parameters) but he sorta talked me out of it. I really should have stuck with that size and then .60 or so for each earring. Those still would have been larger than average where I live. It is hard to bridge the real world and the PS world. My stone is not large by PS standards, but it is large here. Like Ellen, I told no one about my rings. I get complements here and there, but no one has specifically asked if they are new, and I am glad!

I guess all that was just to say I understand at least partly how you feel. And I would not have been as patient as you have been on your setting. Of course, I really gave up on trying to find the perfect setting and set mine anyway. But I am still searching for the elusive permanent setting!

 

[Ellen]

Date: 5/10/2007 8:27:50 PM
Author: Cehrabehra

Date: 5/10/2007 8:03:45 PM
Author: Ellen
I was coming back here to post something else, as I was thinking about my post while making dinner. (Screw the pork chops, what about Sara''s ring!

)

You know, I think of so many of you at such odd times... so, were the porkchops good?

LMAO!! Yeah, they were.

Well, I''m glad things are HOPEFULLY moving now.

 

[Kaleigh]

Cehra,
Your stone is one of the prettiest I have seen on here. It speaks to me. I pray you get your ring soon. I think you have been very patient, this has not been easy. Having to switch designers, etc... But I know once you get it, the wait will WELL be worth it. Hang in there!!!

 

[Ellen]

ds, I missed your post til now. Honestly, there wouldn''t be any point in going to a 1.4, it would look too much like the one you have now.

(is that what Jon said?)

 

[dianne]

Date: 5/10/2007 4:52:35 PM
Author: Cehrabehra

Date: 5/9/2007 3:20:57 PM
Author: Ellen
Sara, I can only imagine how you feel. If it makes ya feel any better, I am ringless at the moment. My OMC is being tended to, and I just dropped my round off yesterday to be sized and rhodium plated. I feel nekkie.


If you haven''t, I think it''s quite appropriate to call and ask how long. I mean, really, how long can it take??

It takes as long as it takes... and sometimes I get very frustrated. If I just look at the calendar I can convince myself that I am again allowing too much time to pass, but there is much more to it than that. I don''t want anyone to think that Ocean takes forever to get things done, the pendant she did for wink was done in a matter of... I don''t even know, 2-3 weeks?

I do notice I am feeling quite jealous lately though... I didn''t feel much in a hurry all this time, but I have seen so many people come here like jeff and he is just looking for a stone, finds a stone and then waits WEEKS for leon to make it and I''m still ringless. I feel honored that my stone made that favorite ring thread, but it''s not even a ring LOL I find myself being more envious than genuinely happy for others and I just hate that in myself. I feel very self centered.

But on the other hand this is a journey - and not just a ring making journey... it is many things. One being an attempt to find peace and balance and reconcilliation with my diamond. I love my diamond, and the other day I went through some videos and was really wowed by it! It has been gone for 10 weeks now and in my memory it has started to fade and become dull and lifeless and I am forgetting the sparkle... and then looking at the videos reminded me of what it does and made me miss it more... but it is also TOTALLY incongruent with my lifestyle and those of my friends and acquaintances. I''ve kept my stone my little secret from most people, but recently I have been feeling compelled to warn people that it is coming and let them know I am still the no makeup wearing (most of the time) birkenstock shod, sweats wearing slob I''ve always been lol this is a fairly big stone and I just want to have the right balance in myself before I wear it. I don''t want to feel ashamed or shy or like I need to hide it... but I also, even moreso don''t want to feel like I''m being flashy or braggy or a showoff and I''ve worn some stand in rings to kind of prepare, and I think I''m ready and I really want it now, more than I did before.

I know this all sounds weird and silly by PS standards, but it is where I am. The strength to enjoy it without the abuse of power and status. It is hard to appear humble wearing 2.71 carats on your finger. I am not a designer flashy sort of person, nor do I wish to be. But I love the stone and will find a way to wear it I think I''ll go get some tattoos to bide my time lol

Sara...I ditto the fact you are missed. I''m still fairly new here but I have grown accustomed to seeing your responses often and I was wondering where you were, as well.

I''m not used to your postings to be so...well....down, I guess is the right word. I am concerned by the tone of your post...it seems like the lively Sara we are used to is missing. But there seemed to be a lot of heart in your post, as well. You have a wonderful gift of expressing yourself so well and I think I understand what you are saying. You want your ring to be perfect (and I think you should) and that, in itself, is absolutely exhausting....and missing your diamond is depressing. That''s tough enough, but then you are also dealing with an internal struggle of what seems like guilt because you have something fabulous that you have waited a long time for and totally deserve... but you don''t want anyone to think that one fabulous thing has changed you. I''m afraid you are going to guilt yourself right into not fully enjoying your ring when it is complete and on your finger...or even feel a little shame for having something so nice. I hate the thoughts of your joy being censored in front of others.

I cannot imagine anyone would think you are a changed person because of a ring.... an incredibly fabulous ring but, nonetheless, a ring. You will still be the same person only you will have a long-awaited, well-deserved sparkle on your finger. Not a thing wrong with that!!

Not to appear harsh but if someone has a problem with it they''ll get over it. Please allow yourself permission to enjoy this.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Date: 5/10/2007 9:15:44 PM
Author: Ellen
ds, I missed your post til now. Honestly, there wouldn''t be any point in going to a 1.4, it would look too much like the one you have now.

(is that what Jon said?)

Yeah, basically I''d go up a notch in clarity (which is not necessary) and down in size, which he couldn''t see the point in. The diamond I got was graded H but scores low G on his color machine, so there was no real advantage to changing to a smaller G stone. I got a better value in the stone I now have. I do love it, and it really only looks big to me when I compare it to others around me. What made me start thinking about it is that my daughters both have tiny earlobes and I am not sure either of them would ever be able to wear my studs. But I wasn''t really thinking about that when I bought them! Of course, I guess they could each take one diamond and make a pendant! I don''t know....I just second guess everything!

 

[Ellen]

Well, I do think it''s sweet that you''re thinking of your daughters, but I wouldn''t base your jewelry decisions on them.

Trust me, they''ll figure something out.

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 5/11/2007 7:39:49 AM
Author: Ellen
Well, I do think it''s sweet that you''re thinking of your daughters, but I wouldn''t base your jewelry decisions on them.

Trust me, they''ll figure something out.

not to mention they could have serious bling lust by the time its an issue

 

[Ellen]

Date: 5/11/2007 12:37:06 PM
Author: Cehrabehra

Date: 5/11/2007 7:39:49 AM
Author: Ellen
Well, I do think it''s sweet that you''re thinking of your daughters, but I wouldn''t base your jewelry decisions on them.

Trust me, they''ll figure something out.

not to mention they could have serious bling lust by the time its an issue

Yer right.

ds, your stuff may not be BIG enough. Maybe you should upgrade.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Date: 5/11/2007 5:51:56 PM
Author: Ellen
Yer right.

ds, your stuff may not be BIG enough. Maybe you should upgrade.

Oh you girls are bad, bad, bad!