Opinion - Bridesmaid?!

[RoseAngel04]

Well since there seems to be a lot of bridesmaid thread''s out there I''ll ask ya''lls opinions on my situation as well.

For starters, FI and I don''t want a huge bridal party. We are hoping for 3 BM 3 GM, 4 at the most.

So I have my 3 that I am pretty sure about wanting to ask. The problem comes in about a friend I have who isn''t included in that 3 who is also engaged, planning to get married in summer-fall 2008 (a year later than when we are planning to get married) and has already informed me that she would like me to be one of her bridesmaids. I do not have a problem at all being one of her BM, and am happy to be apart of the bridal party.

The 3 BM that I have in mind are closer to me, and I just don''t want there to be this weird tension since i''m in her wedding and the fact that I won''t be asking her to be in mine. Does this makes sense?! Thoughts?! I just don''t want her feelings to be hurt.

 

[sumbride]

It''s not a reciprocal arrangement... she asked you to be in hers for her reasons, but you have valid reasons not to have her in yours. I think you should talk to her about it though because she may be expecting you to ask her. Tell her that you only had a few spots and that you had more close friends than bridesmaid positions, that it was a tough choice to make and that you really value her friendship and would like her support during your wedding planning. Hopefully that will help her feel special but not "dissed".