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allycat0303 I had deleted my original post but after a couple of days away from PS (nothing to do with you or this thread) - I’m glad you saw it. If anything in there helps that will have been worth posting.

The thing is. You have control over how you feel. You have control over your own happiness. You have control over how you cope with tragedy and happiness. You have agency over feeling empty vs. not. We all do.

To take that control you’ve got to make a conscious decision to use the health and assistance platforms that are available to you. And you’ve got to make the conscious decision to prioritize it. And you’ve got to acknowledge that it may require sacrificing aspects of your career - letting go of some of the stuff that makes you miserable but masquerades as fulfilling.

I totally understand that that is SO much easier said than done. For anyone, and for you more than most, in your pressure cooker job.

But that’s what “taking care of yourself” looks like. All the sympathy in the world doesn’t eliminate the fact that your well-being, emotional and physical, is ultimately your choice.

So no. Don’t buy the diamond in lieu of addressing these very real and very-really-damaging emotions. Which is what it sounds like this would be. The amount of self-flagellation you’ve expressed in this thread - honestly, it’s bad for you and it’s bad for your patients. Buy the diamond in a few years, maybe… To celebrate feeling better, being happier, being in a better place.

You have control. You’re the only person who has control. That’s all there is to it.

 

[oncrutchesrightnow]

That turtle is cuuuuute!

For the ring, whatever you decide to do, get something that you really like. Do you have a dream ring? Tell us about it.

For the job, you have my sympathy and admiration. My advice would be to define an objective marker of success (years put in, salary earned, publications, etc.) and then commit to leaving when you have met that goal. Then get a different job that lets you have time for therapy and crochet.

 

[JoJa12345]

Whatever diamond you decide on, I hope it brings you joy every time you look at it!

 

[Pomelo]

@allycat0303

Firstly, thank you for everything that you do. I’m late to this thread and most of what I want to say has been said (much more eloquently!) by others.

The one thing I might be able to add some value on is how a large RB solitaire looks on a size 4-4.25 finger.

Just to say - none of these diamonds are mine! I have tried on a couple of 7.5ct+ in the past year at auction viewings here in London. None of these are MRB or super ideal, but hopefully you’ll get a feel for proportions.

First up, and my favourite - a 7.5ct transitional solitaire. I don’t have the diameter but it pretty much spans my finger. If I had the funds, I would’ve been very very very tempted.


Video also on my Instagram and comparison to my toi et moi ring:

View this content on Instagram

View this content on Instagram

Next up, 8 carats


This I think was a 9-10 carater but the performance was poor so I didn’t pay much attention to it.



In all - if a bigger ring makes *you* happy, go for it! I personally wouldn’t mind rocking that 7.5ct solitaire and would be thrilled if my husband had offered to buy it for me (I dropped lots of hints but none were taken haha).

However if I may - the way I read your original post, it sounded like a decision that your husband was making rather than something that you wanted.

If *you* would love an upgrade to a larger stone and you have a very enthusiastic enabler, then do what’s right for you

(sorry to bring this thread back “down” to a bling appreciation post - the discussion on here has been amazing )

 

[Mreader]

@allycat0303

Firstly, thank you for everything that you do. I’m late to this thread and most of what I want to say has been said (much more eloquently!) by others.

The one thing I might be able to add some value on is how a large RB solitaire looks on a size 4-4.25 finger.

Just to say - none of these diamonds are mine! I have tried on a couple of 7.5ct+ in the past year at auction viewings here in London. None of these are MRB or super ideal, but hopefully you’ll get a feel for proportions.

First up, and my favourite - a 7.5ct transitional solitaire. I don’t have the diameter but it pretty much spans my finger. If I had the funds, I would’ve been very very very tempted.


Video also on my Instagram and comparison to my toi et moi ring:

View this content on Instagram

View this content on Instagram

Next up, 8 carats


This I think was a 9-10 carater but the performance was poor so I didn’t pay much attention to it.



In all - if a bigger ring makes *you* happy, go for it! I personally wouldn’t mind rocking that 7.5ct solitaire and would be thrilled if my husband had offered to buy it for me (I dropped lots of hints but none were taken haha).

However if I may - the way I read your original post, it sounded like a decision that your husband was making rather than something that you wanted.

If *you* would love an upgrade to a larger stone and you have a very enthusiastic enabler, then do what’s right for you

(sorry to bring this thread back “down” to a bling appreciation post - the discussion on here has been amazing )

Whoa thanks for sharing these - amazing! Also that giant one is such a poorly cut stone - it goes to show that bigger isn't always better. But the transitional is tdf.

 

[yennyfire]

Whoa thanks for sharing these - amazing! Also that giant one is such a poorly cut stone - it goes to show that bigger isn't always better. But the transitional is tdf.

Methinks “recut”….can you imagine how stunning it *could* be if it made it to the right hands for a little nip/tuck (and then onto the gorgeous hand of a PSer of course!)??

 

[MissGotRocks]

@allycat0303

Firstly, thank you for everything that you do. I’m late to this thread and most of what I want to say has been said (much more eloquently!) by others.

The one thing I might be able to add some value on is how a large RB solitaire looks on a size 4-4.25 finger.

Just to say - none of these diamonds are mine! I have tried on a couple of 7.5ct+ in the past year at auction viewings here in London. None of these are MRB or super ideal, but hopefully you’ll get a feel for proportions.

First up, and my favourite - a 7.5ct transitional solitaire. I don’t have the diameter but it pretty much spans my finger. If I had the funds, I would’ve been very very very tempted.


Video also on my Instagram and comparison to my toi et moi ring:

View this content on Instagram

View this content on Instagram

Next up, 8 carats


This I think was a 9-10 carater but the performance was poor so I didn’t pay much attention to it.



In all - if a bigger ring makes *you* happy, go for it! I personally wouldn’t mind rocking that 7.5ct solitaire and would be thrilled if my husband had offered to buy it for me (I dropped lots of hints but none were taken haha).

However if I may - the way I read your original post, it sounded like a decision that your husband was making rather than something that you wanted.

If *you* would love an upgrade to a larger stone and you have a very enthusiastic enabler, then do what’s right for you

(sorry to bring this thread back “down” to a bling appreciation post - the discussion on here has been amazing )

Love your pictures! The size is one part but between those two diamonds, it is clearly so apparent that you must have contrast in a diamond. We talk about it often and yet to see it in these pictures is amazing!! I am sure @allycat0303 appreciates the pictures but I am loving them too!

 

[evergreen]

@Pomelo OH that TRANSITIONAL. Thud. I mean, they also tend to face up a bit larger for their weight, so also an economical choice.

 

[hazeleyes29]

alleycat0303
I would go with what you feel is best for you. On this forum in Lab diamonds there are plenty of people with larger stones than the one you want. We only have one life to live and I know for myself I'm planning to get the largest stone I can afford.