Post Wedding Blues?

[Tybee]

I just thought I''d start a thread on this, because I didn''t think I had any warning.

My wedding was a dream, and we were engaged for almost two years, so we had
tons of time to plan for it and dream about it.

I was just wondering if anyone else experienced post-wedding blues? I really never thought
I would, I thought I''d just be happy that there wasn''t anything else to worry about,
but it was like the day after Christmas when you''re a child--- but times 10!

I have to admit that I got kind of sad! It didn''t last long, and soon we got into the swing of
being "happily married" but I must say, that I really felt like I needed something to plan for!
We only just returned from our honeymoon, and I felt like we needed to plan another trip so
that I could have something to look forward to.

Anyone else hear of this or experience it?

Tybee

 

[decodelighted]

Hey Tybee!

Well your wedding was purty as X-mas morning! I can see why you might need a second to shift focus etc ... Def. have heard of that happening (with childbirth too)

Here''s a place you might wanna check out The Indie Bride -- "Life After Marraige" message board threads. I remember reading a lot about the issue over there (even though I''m not married yet! 10/7 - kinda soon though)

FWIW -- I think it''s a great idea to plan a new trip. We''re actually not planning our honeymoon ''til after the wedding ... maybe that will help the let down .. something fab to look forward too & plan AFTER the big party etc...

Great idea for a thread!

 

[tanyak]

No, it''s fairly common. A lot of brides go through this.

Frankly, I''m getting married this Saturday, and I won''t miss it one bit. I''m tired of spending money, running into craft stores and e-mailing vendors. But, really I''m in the minority.


I hope you feel better soon.

 

[Tybee]

thanks ya''ll!
I''ll definitely check out that board, Decodelighted!
Thanks for the link!
I was really just curious, because it really surprised me!
Tanyak,
I honestly feel fine now,
happy as a clam, actually!
but I did feel a little guilty about it-- hard to explain.

I just wasn''t sure what to do with myself.

We''re happily planning a winter ski trip, though, so I guess that helps!
And married life has been great!
I just thought I''d bring it up as a discussion because of how much it suprised me.
I certainly knew how to roll with the punches about most things from my experiences
here at PS!

 

[FireGoddess]

I''ve heard of this happening, but didn''t experience it. It was a nightmare planning and paying for that thing, and I was glad when it was over!!!!

LOL.

 

[qtiekiki]

You are definitely not alone. I felt the same way after I got married. I think it''s the fact that you have so much to do while planning for the wedding, and now that it''s done, you are not used to not having things to do or you don''t know what to do for the extra time. See if planning a trip would help you? For me, I started doing scrapbooks with our wedding pictures. But I have to say if someone close to me were to get engaged, I would jump on the wedding planning wagon right away. I really enjoyed wedding planning.

 

[KimberlyH]

I was a bit sad when we got home from Hawaii, mainly because I''ll never have a reason to wear my dress again, so I totally understand how you''re feeling.

I just found some house projects (I restained all of my wood office furniture) and it helped me get over it!

Hope you''re feeling better.