PS Mommy Thread-Newborn to 12 months!

[fieryred33143]

Ebree-Do you like the cruisers? I bought a gigantic box of baby dry and hate it. This is TMI but it makes her urine smell really bad. When she wakes up in the morning its awful when before we never noticed.

I''m not bfing anymore

. Well I am to an extent but I''m just not producing anymore. I pump like crazy. I have her on the breast as much as possible. I''ve done fenugreek and increased my liquid intake. Nothing is working. She transitioned over to formula well and we''ve been lucky to not have any tummy problems (although her poop is lethal

).

I talked about it yesterday with FI. It wasn''t really his decision to make but I needed someone to listen. I even cried over her not having yellow poop anymore

. I just keep telling myself over and over that the most important thing is that she eats. But still

 

[ChargerGrrl]

tao, mustang & fiery- what precious babies! Sophia is so festive- LOVE IT!

Sorry to hear about the bfing, fiery. HUGS, hun

 

[sunkist]

HI All! I don''t remember if I''ve officially posted in this thread yet as a new mommy... I think I have mommy brain now instead of prego brain... But anyways, now that little Wes is 3-1/2 weeks old I guess I''d better post! Life is just so busy now, I know you all know that already

China, sorry your''e not feeling so good. I hope hubby''s trail is over soon and can spend more time with you. My hubby works late hours too, and doesn''t get to spend too many hours with us either. But I hope you get some help to feel better!

Fiery, Sophia''s photos are adorable!! I love that one that you want to frame too. She is so perfect!

Hi Mandy

re: being alone with your babies soon, you are going to be a pro in no time I''ll be praying that those little boys treat you well! Really you are my hero taking care of two of these things

i have taken Wes out in our Phil&Ted''s stroller already and it worked great! It''s such a smooth ride. That''s awesome your parents gave you a Bob dualie! I just used a little blanket wrapped up like a snuzzler to keep his head stable and warm and it worked great! I hope you can get out with your two boys more Mandy!

Wes has been getting the worst gas and burps. He makes noises like it''s painful! So I try a bunch of things, positions, activies to relieve his pain and finally something will make him stop. But then next time he''s in pain that way of calming him doesn''t work anymore! I don''t know if I should try one of those over the counter medicines or gripe water or something. I''m trying to just burp him more during our feedings. It sounds like he''s gulping air when his sucking. And I can hear noises in his tummy when he''s eating. I wonder if that''s the airbubbles I''m hearing??

I got our birth announcements ordered and I"m thrilled! Can''t wait to see how they turn out in person. Now I just hope I get them out before Christmas! Just smudged out our names there, Front-

 

[sunkist]

Back-

 

[taovandel]

Love the announcements!

 

[sunkist]

Dreamer question for you - what kind of a wrap carrier do you use?? Wasn't it like a 3 piece wrap?? I tried looking back in a thread a while ago but couldn't find it. And if you do use a wrap like this, do you still like it/ recommend it? I have a Moby and I really like it, but it just takes time to put it on and I can't really put it on when I'm out of the house or it drags all over the ground.

Thanks!

ETA: Thanks Tao!!

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 12/8/2009 2:36:29 PM
Author: Mandarine

My dad and step mom are here for one more week. They''ve been coming every morning at 6am so that I can get a couple more hours of sleep. After that, I am on my own!. I''m a little scared

...it''s really just not that easy to venture out with the boys all by myself. Even hen we go for walks, sometimes the walk is cut really short because one (or both babies) decides to freak out. I know I will figure it out, but I foresee a LOT of alone time at home with the boys...which can get very exhausting.

You have to get over your fear!!! Everything is so so much worse if you don''t get out and let the twins keep you inside.

I KNOW you can handle both of them by yourself. If I can do it anyone can. And the more you practice by getting out with them the better you''ll be. It really does wonders for both me and the boys to go out during the day. I know I am a lot happier when we''ve taken a day trip to the mall or to a cute town to walk around, or to meet a friend at the park, whatever.

If things get cut short-who cares! Don''t freak out. It happens. If you get to a store and a baby starts crying do what you can to stop it and take them outside if you need to! Who cares!

Almost everyone has been there and will totally sympathize with you especially because you have TWO. So just keep a smile on your face, do your best, and apologize if you are potentially infringing on someone''s space or calm. An apology goes a LONG way even if both boys are screaming.

I promise you-although it seems daunting it really is pretty easy to take both of them when you get the hang of it. And if you don''t get the confidence to do it now while they are easy and portable you''ll be stuck in your house for years with them. That''s scary! But I promise if you take them out frequently right now you''ll be a pro in no time!

 

[nycbkgirl]

Date: 12/8/2009 8:48:06 PM
Author: neatfreak

Date: 12/8/2009 2:36:29 PM
Author: Mandarine

My dad and step mom are here for one more week. They''ve been coming every morning at 6am so that I can get a couple more hours of sleep. After that, I am on my own!. I''m a little scared

...it''s really just not that easy to venture out with the boys all by myself. Even hen we go for walks, sometimes the walk is cut really short because one (or both babies) decides to freak out. I know I will figure it out, but I foresee a LOT of alone time at home with the boys...which can get very exhausting.

You have to get over your fear!!! Everything is so so much worse if you don''t get out and let the twins keep you inside.

I KNOW you can handle both of them by yourself. If I can do it anyone can. And the more you practice by getting out with them the better you''ll be. It really does wonders for both me and the boys to go out during the day. I know I am a lot happier when we''ve taken a day trip to the mall or to a cute town to walk around, or to meet a friend at the park, whatever.

If things get cut short-who cares! Don''t freak out. It happens. If you get to a store and a baby starts crying do what you can to stop it and take them outside if you need to! Who cares!

Almost everyone has been there and will totally sympathize with you especially because you have TWO. So just keep a smile on your face, do your best, and apologize if you are potentially infringing on someone''s space or calm. An apology goes a LONG way even if both boys are screaming.

I promise you-although it seems daunting it really is pretty easy to take both of them when you get the hang of it. And if you don''t get the confidence to do it now while they are easy and portable you''ll be stuck in your house for years with them. That''s scary! But I promise if you take them out frequently right now you''ll be a pro in no time!

wow - i sooooo relate Mandy!
if u can retrace my posts...i was hysterical (as i usually am

) the beginning is the toughest part...i needed all the help i could find! it took until they were 4 mos old for me to figure it out...i was then able to feed them together, play together, burp, change etc..the walks and outings were still iffy for me and i totally understand...but i think theres nothing wrong with taking ur time and easing into it..u dont need to do what ur not comfortable with..it took me a while but i did it my way and now its a breeze

 

[Blenheim]

My post just got eaten and I don''t have the energy to retype. Urgh. I think the main things I wanted to say were:

Tao - it hurt for me too, but got better after a couple? a few? weeks.

China - 4 months was such a hard time, as far as BFing went. He just could not stay focused. Trying to nurse with no distractions, like in a dark quiet room, helps to some extent. I also just kept at it. If he only stayed latched on for 20 seconds at a feed and then got distracted, then I''d offer again in 15 minutes. There was a while in which I don''t think he ever had a good, long feed, but he was grazing enough that he got enough milk. And after a few weeks, I think the novelty of there being so much new stuff around him that he could look at and listen to started to wear off, and it was much easier for him to focus.

 

[Mandarine]

Thank you guys

I know you are right...and it will get easier and I just have to start doing it!. I do go for walks by myself (and the dog) now..it''s kind of tough, but I don''t have a choice because the dog needs to go for a walk!...so it forces me to do it. I want to try to venture out to the mall once my family is not here....I find that I always think things are harder than they actually are!.

I did buy snuggler for the BOB...the boys look super comfy in them and we''re using the stroller now for the daily walks!! I figured it would be a while before I could go jogging with them...6 months seems like a LONG time though!.

Just had a major blowout with DH

...It''s been a while since I cried so hard. I''m sad to say I think I needed a good cry!. This is just so tough. It''s crazy because as the babies have gotten easier (compared to the first month), everything else seems to get harder....particularly the relationship with DH. He feels I treat him poorly...and I feel the same way about him. I admit (and he knows) that I''m resentful about a few things...so I know I have gotten snippy. It''s just hard

. At the end we both tried to have a more calm conversation and my last words were that we both just need to try harder. My sister always said the hardest time with her husband was when their first boy. I now see why. I just hope we figure things out before we say things we don''t mean and hurt each other with silly stuff. We just have to find how to our lives our new lives as a couple and parents. I know we love each other and we both want things to be happy around here, so hopefully we both now just start trying our best.....

Anyway. I have a puffy face, a red nose and an empty stomach...so I better go eat something and take a shower before the babies wake up to eat!.

Good night ladies


Sunkist Congrats mama!!!! He is so precious and I love the announcements!!!!

 

[neatfreak]

Hang in there Mandarine! I have confidence in you that you can do it! It does get easier with time I promise. And it's totally ok to be overwhelmed the first few months-it is HARD work raising twins! Give yourself a big pat on the back girl. And then go to the mall and buy yourself something nice. With the babies.

 

[Blenheim]

Date: 12/8/2009 8:47:32 PM
Author: sunkist
Dreamer question for you - what kind of a wrap carrier do you use?? Wasn''t it like a 3 piece wrap?? I tried looking back in a thread a while ago but couldn''t find it. And if you do use a wrap like this, do you still like it/ recommend it? I have a Moby and I really like it, but it just takes time to put it on and I can''t really put it on when I''m out of the house or it drags all over the ground.

Thanks!

ETA: Thanks Tao!!

baby k''tan?

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 12/9/2009 12:27:17 AM
Author: Blenheim

Date: 12/8/2009 8:47:32 PM
Author: sunkist
Dreamer question for you - what kind of a wrap carrier do you use?? Wasn''t it like a 3 piece wrap?? I tried looking back in a thread a while ago but couldn''t find it. And if you do use a wrap like this, do you still like it/ recommend it? I have a Moby and I really like it, but it just takes time to put it on and I can''t really put it on when I''m out of the house or it drags all over the ground.

Thanks!

ETA: Thanks Tao!!

baby k''tan?

Buddha Baby wrap. I used it when he was under 3 months, but after that it wasn''t very good tbh. I got the one made of bamboo and I think that was a mistake because it was too stretchy and so when he got heavier I couldn''t use it anymore. But it was great for the first 2-3 months.

CDT and fiery I''m sorry about Bfing. I think most moms who go back to work run into this problem

 

[TravelingGal]

Sunkist great announcements! I don't think I told you, but Wes (the first pic you posted) really reminded me of Amelia for some reason (maybe the half thing), so of course, I think he's adorable.

Mandarine, as neatfreak says, hang in there. I won't pretend to know how stressful it must be to bring up twins in the early days, but I think many new moms can relate to the big cry, feelings of resentment, and a bit of a bumpy ride with DH.

Think about one or two easy, tangible things that he could do to make your day better, and ask him to do it. And when he does, show him APPRECIATION for doing so. A smile, a big hug and kiss and a thank you. You can also let him know that, "look, I do need x, and x. I'm not saying that I am 100% rational right now, and I need you to make allowances for my emotions - please do this for me."

Many new fathers are simply at a loss for what to do. He's probably watching you become more and more competent with handling two babies while he is feeling less and less sure of himself and your relationship to him. Perhaps that's a bit of psychobabble, and he himself wouldn't be able to tell you exactly what he's feeling, but I do think new dads go through a weird period too. It's hard to feel sympathetic to their plight when, HELLO, *I* just gave birth to babies and am dealing with all kinds of changes in my body AND the kids! *You* need to put up with *ME* kind of thing. But their feelings are valid too and I found that a little appreciation and kindness went a long way.

When around Amelia was 5 weeks, I lost my plot. I think I remember screaming something to the effect of "ARGH! I didn't sign up for THIS SH*T!" TGuy probably thought I was nuts but was smart enough not to tip the crazy lady over the edge. He listened. I sobbed. He awkwardly patted my back. I sobbed even harder. And it felt good.

I honestly don't remember if he said anything that helped; if he said the right things or not. I just remember I needed to scream and cry and rant about the injustice of it all...that somehow, we had sex and 9 months later I was saddled with the huge responsibility of caring for a baby and no one could really help me or lighten that burden in my heart.

Things do get better Mandarine - all the PS moms here are proof of that. You find your stride somehow. As you find it, it is important not to leave your husband behind. At the end of the day, you have no control over his behavior, but you do have control over yours and as I said, I have found a little bit goes a long way. It has to. He married you because he loves you and sometimes we have to remind them why it is that they love us so much. And when that light comes in that dark tunnel, (which it will), it is so much more gratifying to find you made it through together loving each other.

 

[sunkist]

Dreamer, yes that''s what you got. So, it got too stretchy, huh? Ok, well thank you so much! And Blen the K''tan looks interesting. Everyone has so many variations of that wrap!

TGal, I think it must be the half thing that makes him remind you of Amelia Wes''s pic really reminded me of a friend''s half Asian baby too. ("half baby", sounds so funny...)

Mandy *big hugs*. I like what TGal said re: the hubby situation and getting used to our new roles. I have been watching my hubby and me and see us having to learn to relate to eachother in a new way. Never stop saying "I love you" to him. That always helps me, when I vocalize it.

 

[cdt1101]

Sunkist I love the annoucements!!! So cute!!!!!!!!

 

[phoenixgirl]

Sunkist, your announcements are so classy and beautiful! I''m in the process of sending ours out now too. I made mine combination holiday card/birth announcement too, hee hee. (And sometimes even thank you note if the person sent a present recently.)

Mandy, hugs. I can totally relate! When my DH did his crazy "back to life as usual" schedule which involved him being gone every single night, 10 hours on the weekend, etc., I told my sister about it, and she brought up a passage in a memoir by a single mother which she had just sent me. The mother (Anne Lammott -- sp?) is talking to a girlfriend who is married with a newborn about how she wishes she had a husband, and the married lady is like, no way, it''s just as hard having the baby and then you have this man to think "I hate the way you floss" about. Then my sister cracked me up by telling me how she told my BIL this story when she was irritated with him, and he said, "Aren''t you glad I don''t floss?" Ew, BIL!

But in all seriousness, I saw on FB that you are getting to go the gym . . . was that something that he came around on? That''s a start, at least. It took my DH a little while to get a clue in terms of how our lives had to change and supporting me; a big factor was talking to other fathers who told him things like, "Her job is to feed the baby; your job is to feed your wife" and "You just have to take time away from work to exercise; you don''t take away from family time" (hopefully we won''t wind up in the poor house based on this advice; what we''ve done is gotten a new laptop and gotten DH remote access from home so he can be here and still be working while I''m exercising). It''s a learning curve and I have to cut my DH some slack for not realizing how much things would change; I didn''t realize either. I was like, oh sure, we''ll both still see our friends all the time, work out 5 days a week, sure you can keep going to concerts an hour or two away on week nights . . . I was an idiot! But we are trying to make sure we still do those things to a reasonable extent.

I haven''t taken Claire shopping by car yet because, I''m embarrassed to admit, I didn''t bother to find out how to fold up her Snugrider Stroller until yesterday. I''ve walked her to the store, but I couldn''t buy that much because of storage issues. The bottom of the stroller just doesn''t hold that much!

 

[E B]

fiery- You can only do what your body allows you to. Blen is right- BFing in a quiet place is key for us, but if you''re having trouble producing, please don''t feel bad. You''ve given her five months of breast milk, which is fabulous. (And we like the Cruisers so far! But we''ve been pleased with Pampers overall.)

sunkist- Those announcements are beautiful! And so is your baby boy. Do you burp him during feedings, or after? I''ve heard that stopping every now and then to burp can help (esp. if he''s in noticeable pain).

Mandarine- Everyone else has given great advice. You''re doing great, and I hope your husband feels more comfortable with his new role now that you''ve told him how you feel. Hugs to you.

I think I mentioned a while ago that kiddo is SO ready for not only solids, but to drink from a glass (and walk, but that''s a bit later). Here''s a photo of him suctioning himself to the side of one I''m drinking from. He moves his mouth and tongue like he''s "drinking" while suctioned. It''s pretty funny.

 

[Blenheim]

We had a rough night last night. George woke up at 5 am or so, and while I think he could have put himself back to sleep, I realized that his diaper was pretty wet and changed it. And then that got him all riled up, and he refused to go back to sleep. Big mistake on my part. I laid in bed half-comotose until 7:30, while he grabbed onto my shirt and used it to pull up to standing, sit down, pull up to standing, sit down, repeat ad nauseum. And now I'm TIRED.

Fiery - I meant to say last night that I'm sorry that you're not really producing anymore. You've done a GREAT job so far balancing working, MIL and FI, and taking care of Sophia, which could not have been easy, and you were able to BF her for 5 months throughout all that. That's something to be proud of. Hugs.

Mandy - thinking of you. Great advice from NF and TGal, as usual.

Ebree - LOL.

Sunkist - love the announcements!

 

[janinegirly]

Fiery, great photos..where did you get them done?

Mandy, oh hang in there! I hear you and I don''t even have twins. The marriage changes and it becomes like 2 business partners just trying to survive--not very romantic! Some DH''s retreat and have to adjust, others love that they don''t have to deal with all the maintenance and talks anymore (that''s how mine reacted!). You guys will settle in a happy medium, but things won''t be the same, at least not for sometime. But it''s worth it and you had lots of years beforehand alone right? (if you include dating, LIW''itus, etc. haha). I''m sure your DH came around by now and you guys are better than you were when you first posted. Hugs and congrats on the gym, I''m still trying to make it there, lol.

 

[NovemberBride]

Fiery, Sophia is gorgeous and those pictures are amazing. I feel for you on the bf''ing thing, but it sounds like you''ve done a great job for quite a while. I am very nervous about being able to pump enough to EBF when I go back to work at 3 months. My job is pretty fast-paced and a lot of times I am in all day meetings where I think it will be hard for me to run out and pump, not to mention hard for me to even remember to do so (I tend to get caught up in work and look up amazed at how many hours have passed).

Sunkist, I love your birth announcements and Wes is such a cutie. I am using a peanut shell sling with Olivia

Mandarine, I hope you are feeling better today. When Olivia was born, a good friend of mine told me that at some point a few weeks the baby is was born every woman hates her husband. She was totally right. DH is great and he helps me out a ton with Olivia, but there are some things he just doesn''t understand. And I know for me personally, it has been very hard to be home all day. I bundled up Olivia and went to the mall on Monday to get some Christmas shopping done. It was tiring to get everything together and get her there, but it was so worth it to get out of the house. I am sure it''s harder with twins, but if you can manage to get out of the house I would highly recommend it.

 

[ChinaCat]

Thanks for the BF advice everyone. Problem is I''ve tried the dark room, no distractions thing and it still doesn''t work. So basically I nurse him 1x a day if I''m lucky- and that''s if he gets up in the middle of the night. So all I''m doing is pumping which sucks b/c well, we all know pumping sucks, but also I''m not getting that time with O. I am surprised by how much this makes me sad. If I was home with him, I could try to let him eat for a few minutes and then feed him again an hour later or so, but I have such limited time since I am working. And my supply is definitely diminishing. I am going to keep it up as long as I can get milk, but I think this is the beginning of the end.

My goal was 4 months and then if that worked, six months. Why oh why do we feel so GUILTY about this? O clearly is fine and it''s his choice not to nurse.

Blen- Sorry about your rough night! That''s exactly what O did to me night before last, except I didn''t even try to go back to bed with him. I was so happy to see the nanny at 8 am!!!

Fiery- BIG HUGS. I know exactly what you are going through and I will tell you what I want to be told right now: You are a great mom, and just stop torturing yourself and let things be. You''ve given her 5 months of BF, which is such a great start in life. She is happy and healthy and has no problem with formula. Give yourself permission to stop BF and stop feeling guilty. There are tons of moms on here that don''t BF and their kids are doing fantastic. Wish I could come over and have a big margarita with you to celebrate the end of pumping! And a big congrats to 5 months of BF!!!

Mandarine- Yep, been there done that. Often. My sadness/frustration is definitely being displaced onto DH. Partly b/c men are clueless and partly b/c I can''t be mad at O, so who else can I cry to? It''s a huge adjustment and you will find your roles. I keep forgetting that I was exactly like my DH before we had O and the only reason I know any different is b/c I have been in the trenches with O all day and all night for months now. DH hasn''t and it''s not fair of me to expect him to know what I need. I have had a really hard time telling DH what I need b/c I feel selfish. But you know what, he got me into this mess and it''s his baby too!

I have just started telling him what I need and he''s stepped up to the plate admirably. Remember guys like to fix things and be given a plan of action, we just can''t expect them to know. If I were my DH I''m not sure I would want to come anymore sometimes! But I always remember to say thank you when he does something (even if it''s just as much his job as mine)- being appreciated makes it easier to do things with a smile. And I always tell him I love him (even when I want to strangle him). Just remember that this is the hardest part and you guys will find a new normal. I found that once I just let myself cry and tell him how hard it was, things got so much better. Keep us posted.

Ebree- Are you kidding me with that picture? So. Freaking. Cute!!!! Melts my heart.

WELCOME to Sha, Amber and Sunkist! Sunkist, adorable picture of Wes! I still haven''t sent out my birth announcements. Or finished my thank you notes.

Lysser and Mela- Hi friends, if you''re out there lurking.

I miss you girls.

 

[fieryred33143]

Thanks everyone on the photo comments.

Sunkist-love the announcements

Janine-Thanks! A friend''s husband did the pictures for us. He is starting to kick off his photography business and did them as a gift since he knew I would take his business cards to work. He already has 3 new clients

.

November-Thanks for the comments on bfing. My only advice when you get back to work is to pump, pump, and then pump some more. My reduction in milk is my fault. I got really sick at the same time that Sophia got really sick so she was hardly nursing and I wasn''t exactly jumping out of bed to get her to nurse because I had a fever. It really messed me up and I haven''t been able to bounce back.

Ebree-Love the pic!!

Mandarine-I feel for you, I really do. FI and my relationship took a huge hit which was sad after 7 years of always being a team. He is now, at 5 months pp, helping out a lot. He gets up at night and shuts off the monitor and only wakes me if he has a hard time putting her back to sleep. But in the beginning it was awful. I think in his case he just didn''t know what to do even though I felt like there was a TON of things he could do to help out. Communication is key. I spent a really long time feeling angry towards him so I think doing what you did is a great start to making things better.

And it really does get easier. I can''t tell you when, but it does. I remember one day waking up and feeling like I was just in control of everything. I didn''t feel sleep deprived anymore and the anxiety was gone. I ditto just getting over the fear of being out in public with the kiddos. I could only imagine how much harder it is with twins but if they cry when you''re in the mall, then they cry. If people around you can''t understand that HELLO they''re babies x2 then there isn''t much use in caring about what they are thinking at that moment

 

[cdt1101]

Ebree - that pic is so cute and hilarious! Have you tried giving him water out of a water bottle? Lex is obsessed w/ water bottles, so I''ll let him drink some of my water and I just get a kick out of him sticking his tongue in the bottle and the faces he makes....but he loves it! He gets seriously pissed if I take it away...hehehe.....these little ones are such characters

Manadarine - Hang in there girl, it WILL get easier. Just keep talking to your DH so you both are on the same page. And like everyone else said you are a GREAT mommy!!!

China & Fiery - mommy guilt sucks! Definitely don''t feel guilty about having to give up BFing sooner than you''d like. My little one is one of those "formula kids" and he''s doing great!! You''ve done a great job so far!!!

 

[fieryred33143]

Date: 12/9/2009 12:32:47 PM
Author: ChinaCat
Thanks for the BF advice everyone. Problem is I''ve tried the dark room, no distractions thing and it still doesn''t work. So basically I nurse him 1x a day if I''m lucky- and that''s if he gets up in the middle of the night. So all I''m doing is pumping which sucks b/c well, we all know pumping sucks, but also I''m not getting that time with O. I am surprised by how much this makes me sad. If I was home with him, I could try to let him eat for a few minutes and then feed him again an hour later or so, but I have such limited time since I am working. And my supply is definitely diminishing. I am going to keep it up as long as I can get milk, but I think this is the beginning of the end.

My goal was 4 months and then if that worked, six months. Why oh why do we feel so GUILTY about this? O clearly is fine and it''s his choice not to nurse.

I hear you on the time thing. I''ve been putting Sophia to bed around 7:30/8PM now because its better for her but that means that I''m usually walking into the house and taking her clothes off for a bath before I even get to say Hi to FI or put my things away.

************

Blen I think it was you that mentioned babies being too busy to eat. Sophia is going through that now and it''s both hilarious and annoying. Our morning feeds have turned into:

Eat .5oz
Oh hi mom, I like your necklace. Can I reach your earrings? Nope but that''s ok because there''s a bird I want to look at outside in the tree. Oh yeah I have a bottle.
Eat .2oz
Was that daddy I just heard? Where is he? Why can''t I see him? Let me sit up. Hey my toy is on the floor. Gimme gimme. Wait, I''m hungry.
Eat 1oz
Random laugh at God knows what

And so on until she finally finishes the bottle maybe 30 minutes later.

 

[natalina]

Mandarine- oh girl, I feel ya. I had a long conversation about this with a couple of my friends that have kids a few weeks ago. I started by saying to them, "WHY didn''t you guys tell me that a child is by default the mother''s responsibility? Or is it just my DH that wants to be super involved as long as she''s fed, changed, and HAPPY?!?!?! Like, why is it okay for me to not have time to wash my hair for 3 days yet he makes it to the gym daily?" They assured me all of the things that NF and TGal have said. And it IS getting better. Ditto everyone''s comments on getting out of the house, too. It is a hassle (and I am just speaking for having ONE baby!) but I feel so much better after. I am currently suffering from cabin fever because we are having a blizzard that is supposed to last through the end of the week and I will be stuck inside. And Dh is in Chicago so it''s just me and Ellie for the long haul. Ugh. So at least you have nice warm weather to get out and about

. But really, I am in awe of all of you twin mamas. I truly just don''t know how you do it, and I really think you are amazing. Lots of hugs*****

EBree- too cute! Funny, I always imagined you as blonde. Isn''t it funny how you create an image of online buddies you''ve never seen? Henry is a doll! And your ring is gorgeous

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China- thinking of you with the back-to-work, sleep, and BF struggles. It must be so hard. I don''t have any advice as we aren''t there yet, but I am worried about it already. I hope it gets better.

Fiery- OMG, Sophia is adorable! Just LOVE those pics! Sorry to hear about the BF''ing. I think you have done such an amazing job! All the pumping while working and travelling, etc. You should be really proud that you were able to keep it up as long as you did. Good job, mama!

Sunkist- welcome and congrats! Wes is so cute! I love the announcements!

Tao- cutie patootie! Love the pic!

Uh oh- Ellie''s up. Gotta go feed her!

 

[ChinaCat]

Um, so I just started to pump at work. Felt something dripping on my leg.

Yep, I forgot to attach a bag or bottle so the milk was flowing into my lap.

Motherhood.

 

[Blenheim]

I had JUST gotten G down for a nap and started to type, and then the blasted dog ran in the room and started barking and woke him up. UGH. He''s finally down again.

China - oh no! LOL.
What worked for us, as far as balancing distractable baby and working, was that my one job when I got home was to work on feeding George and putting him to bed. That was it. DH took care of making dinner. Once George was in bed, we''d share things like washing bottles, getting laundry started, etc. I won''t lie, it was draining. But I''m personally glad that I stuck with it, as it got better with time and as he wasn''t particularly doing any better with bottles. But then again I wasn''t having supply issues at the same time, and he was nursing - albeit very very slowly here and there - and so I didn''t have the pumping-and-not-seeing-him issue. In the end, I''m sure that you''ll make the choice that''s best for you and that he''ll do fine with it, you know? You''re doing your best and there''s really no need to feel guilty over that.

Fiery - yup, sounds about right. Daycare had an hour to feed him a bottle from the time that they warmed it up (per licensing), and for a stretch there it took them the full hour. And that was for the 5 oz bottles, we didn''t even try to go for more than that.

 

[taovandel]

Wanted to make a little update on my TMI topic from earlier. Had my 6 week appointment today. The doctor said it isn''t hemmoroids and to just give it a couple more weeks. So I''m assuming it''ll be like Cdt said and it''ll just disappear in a couple of weeks.

Off to take Evan to see Santa!

 

[rockpaperscissors67]

Drive by posting!

Love all the baby pics -- what beautiful kids you all have!!

Fiery, do not feel bad for stopping bf. Five months is awesome and I know you''ve been juggling a LOT. I know you worked really, really hard to get to this point!

Thank you for the laugh with Sophia''s thoughts during feeding. I love that age and how they are just so aware of their surroundings, frustrating as it can be.

Blen, I''m sorry George had you up so early this morning. Hope you''re able to catch a nap! Just keep telling yourself that there will come a day when you will actually miss that private time with him.

China, thank you for the second laugh while I was reading! I don''t think I''ve ever forgotten to attach a bottle, but I did tip over a bottle once on my desk and came thisclose to crying. I''m sure the person who coined the phrase "don''t cry over spilled milk" was not a pumping mom.