PS Mommy Thread-Newborn to 12 months!

[ChinaCat]

Tao- Notwithstanding Vizla's experience, I think that if you don't heat up the formula, you're good. I don't use formula much, but I do know that the opened can can stay in the fridge for 48 hours. Obviously ask your doc, but all the stuff I read is talking about after you heated it up.

What an awesome picture of E! LOVE his expression, it's like "What? Like YOU don't take your pants off when you nap?"

So cute.

V- Thanks for sharing that. I admit I had a bad habit of not always rinsing out my nipple shields, etc., when I was home with O and always thought "What's the worst that can happen?" Now I know.

Will be much more diligent from here on out. And I really wouldn't worry about a bedtime yet, Charlie doesn't have a bedtime. I promise he will soon and it will make sense. O JUST started having a bedtime routine at 5 months. Also, O was only 11 pounds at his 4 MONTH appointment. So yeah, obviously I'm here to make you feel better.

As for the sleeping thing, no advice b/c sounds like you are doing your best. What is his schedule like during the day?

Oh, and I have to admit, O is a lot easier to predict now that we have the nanny there. She keeps him on schedule for sure and it helps tremendously. I noticed over this past 3 day weekend that if we aren't diligent about keeping O on his feeding/napping schedule, then his nighttime sleeping is off. So I do think once he's in daycare (after you both adjust, of course), you might see more of a sleeping pattern and it will get easier for you. I also admit that I use my nanny as my guinea pig.

So when it was time to stop swaddling, I had her try it for naps first.

ETA: Charlie is SCRUMPTIOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Is it just me, or does he kind of look like Mela's Romy???

Sunkist- I am with you on the DH thing. Though be careful b/c for awhile there my DH would always hand O to me when he got fussy or it was time to get him to sleep because "you do it better". Well, yeah, because I do it ALL the time and you quickly learn what works. Once DH started doing the shift while I went to bed, he quickly figured out how to soothe him. So you have to let them learn.

 

[taovandel]

ahhh sorry for posting so much!


Apparently I misunderstood about the refrigeration of formula.

You can refrigerate unused but mixed formula for 24 hours in the fridge.

But once it is used it's only good for an hour because the saliva mixes with it and can create bacteria.

Evan hasn't been affected by it (and we only have it refrigerated for less than 3 hours before reusing it).

I was looking at things online and other mothers are doing the same thing we are with the refrigeration of leftovers....and others are like 'NO!!!!"

Maybe I will ask the Ped at our next appointment.

ETA: Hmmm, sounds like this information was also for heated formula......so confused!!!!

ETA: Thanks for the comment on his picture....he looks so serious in it.

 

[ChinaCat]

Tao- I know, so confusing. Let me know if you figure it out. FWIW, I always throw out formula that he has drank from if I don''t use it within the next hour. BUT I mostly BF and he rarely has formula, so I''m not much help. But we will be weaning soon, so will be interested in the answer as well.

 

[fieryred33143]

Date: 1/20/2010 4:39:09 PM
Author: Mandarine
I also give them their bottles room temperature...no way I was going to be heating up bottles for these two monsters!

So if I don''t heat it up, it is ok to re-use it?

Here is the info from WHO:

Minimizing the time from preparation to consumption is an effective measure for controlling the risk of
infection with E. sakazakii. Prepared feed should be discarded after two hours, unless it has been stored in the
refrigerator since preparation (see Section 3.1.3). Leftover feed should never be saved for later, or added to a
freshly prepared feed, as harmful bacteria may have had the chance to grow during the feeding period.
It is recommended that formula is not held at room temperature for more than two hours, even if water at
no less than 70 °C is used to reconstitute PIF. This is because the feed may have become contaminated during
preparation, or harmful bacteria may have been introduced into the cup or feeding bottle from the infant''s
mouth. Also, hot water (70 °C) may have activated bacterial spores of harmful bacteria in the formula. Holding
prepared feeds above refrigeration temperature for extended periods provides the opportunity for such bacteria
to grow.

I''m assuming the bold part goes for any bottles given but not sure.

 

[fieryred33143]

Charlie and Evan are so adorable!!

We need more baby pics here

.

 

[taovandel]

you next fiery for baby pics!

 

[Pandora II]

Commiserations to all!

Viz - TDM and I both had/have non-sleeping monsters. I tried everything I could to sleep-train Daisy and although I did manage to figure out her sleep signals during the day it didn''t help a huge amount.

I went back this week and copied all my posts since Daisy was born and geez, it was worse than I remembered! Even though things aren''t perfect now we get on pretty well with my rather vague routine and bed-sharing.

Part of me thinks that DD may well be right in that some techniques will work well with some kids and not others. Could it be that parents who like routines would have kids who do well with them and parents who avoid having routines would have kids who aren''t really bothered by having them or not...

For example, I just go out with Daisy whenever I need/want to. If she gets tired when we are out then she takes a nap, if she doesn''t want to nap then she doesn''t. Bedtime seems to always be the same sort of time now - around 7.30pm. I don''t know if this is working because she''s older or because she''s that kind of kid. I do try hard to minimise ''excitement'' around bedtime (Blen I would murder ''Grandpa''

) as it''s not fair to get her wound up and then expect her to sleep.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 1/20/2010 6:00:20 PM
Author: Pandora II
Commiserations to all!

Viz - TDM and I both had/have non-sleeping monsters. I tried everything I could to sleep-train Daisy and although I did manage to figure out her sleep signals during the day it didn''t help a huge amount.

I went back this week and copied all my posts since Daisy was born and geez, it was worse than I remembered! Even though things aren''t perfect now we get on pretty well with my rather vague routine and bed-sharing.

Part of me thinks that DD may well be right in that some techniques will work well with some kids and not others. Could it be that parents who like routines would have kids who do well with them and parents who avoid having routines would have kids who aren''t really bothered by having them or not...

For example, I just go out with Daisy whenever I need/want to. If she gets tired when we are out then she takes a nap, if she doesn''t want to nap then she doesn''t. Bedtime seems to always be the same sort of time now - around 7.30pm. I don''t know if this is working because she''s older or because she''s that kind of kid. I do try hard to minimise ''excitement'' around bedtime (Blen I would murder ''Grandpa''

) as it''s not fair to get her wound up and then expect her to sleep.

Could be Pandora...I suppose it''s a what came first, chicken or the egg kind of thing. I have seen fiery kids on routines and doing well and easy going kids breaking down in no routine families, so it probably isn''t always true, but truth is, we''ll neve really know. I think it''s pretty even with nuture and nature...the key is finding a balance that works well for the family, and finding out what that formula is is what is so tricky.

Oh and copying posts is a great idea. I went back this afternoon and looked at the period between May and July in 2008, to make sure my memory of Amelia''s sleep training wasn''t faulty.

 

[fieryred33143]

Pandora I''m doing the same thing! I''m up to March 2009

. I just came across Mandy''s first post about the u/s results with twins!

Here it is for Mandy:

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/calling-all-the-pregnant-psers.47081/page-542


As for routines, I kind of feel that eventually things fall in place. I wasn''t strict on schedules and routines but Sophia developed one anyway. She''s up for 2 hours and then needs a nap. It doesn''t matter where she is or what we are doing. If it''s been two hours, she falls asleep.

 

[Pandora II]

It was weird reading back - and amazing how different the reality was from what you often remember.

As TG says, none of us can get away with saying our kids were walking at 3 months or STTN at 3 weeks... it''s all there in black and white!

I''d planned to do a diary but it never quite happened so I''m really happy I have my PS posts - and they''re far more truthful than I probably would have been if I''d been writing it ''for'' Daisy.

 

[Sha]

Thanks for the feedback, Tgal and Blen. I think making sure Dalila doesn't nap too much during the day, and maybe rousing her when she falls asleep during a feed are things I'll have to try again. Blen, I have tried tickling her cheek with my nipple and then sticking it back in her mouth, and that didn't work, but that was after she'd gotten groggy. I'll try it again when she's more alert with a wet washcloth instead.

Re: breastmilk. I've reused leftover breastmilk after a feeding, but only within 3 hours or so. It seems like such a shame to throw it away.

tao- what a cute smile on Evan!

 

[E B]

Eeeeeeeek. So, SO behind.

NB- What a beautiful photo of a beautiful baby girl!

tao- How funny! Evan's adorable.

viz- What a handsome little guy! I'm sorry he's not sleeping well. Routines (natural or scheduled) take time to form, so I'm hoping things get better for you soon. I recommend "The No Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley if you haven't already read it. It might be of some help.

dreamer- Your post to Mandarine was so freakin' spot on.

There's so much to take into account when evaluating sleep: growth spurts, illness, teething...and all babies are affected in different ways. I've got Henry on a loose schedule (first nap at ~10 a.m., second at ~2:00 p.m., bedtime at approx 7:30 p.m.) that he himself created- I watched his cues and we put the 'schedule' into place together. He's been sleeping horribly the last several weeks, but he's teething AND getting over a cold. I wouldn't sleep well either.

China- Oliver has the cutest smile!

Took Henry in for his almost 7 month checkup/vaccs last week (we were out of town for his 6 month). Stats: 20 lbs, 29 inches. A friend of mine on Facebook has a 1 year old who weighs 21.5 lbs, so I'm not sure if her son is small or mine is huge. Guessing the latter.

Not much pre-crawling progress. He hates tummy time and will simply barrel roll when placed on the floor. Maybe he'll just learn to walk without crawling? He's wanting desperately to move on his own, but doesn't seem to have to patience to try to crawl. Rolling's so much easier!

As I mentioned earlier, he's currently cutting four (!!!!) teeth, so sleep has been rough. I'm up with him every ~2.5-3 hours, but it isn't too bad since we co-sleep. Last night he was up every hour from his bedtime (7:30 pm) to around midnight, so we gave him some Tylenol and he slept a four hour stretch. Plus, he's getting over his very first cold (which he gave to me). Poor little guy's had a rough few weeks.

I'm sorry to anyone I've missed! After we move (less than 2 months!) and settle in, I'll be able to truly catch up.

And since fiery requested more pics, here's my happy little chub at his level:

 

[Sha]

vizla and Ebree - such cute babies!!

 

[Blenheim]

I got some pouting and sulking from Grandpa about how he had to rush home in order to get even 12 minutes in with George (I told him earlier no rough-housing after 6 but then when he got home at 5:48 I let them play until 6:15), BUT - he''s asleep!!! As of 8:10.

Ebree - just adorable. Love his smile! And your kid is big.

Viz - I think I meant to write earlier, but was kind of skipping around as I typed and then G woke up - I am SO sorry that you had such bad mastitis. I can''t even imagine.

 

[littlelysser]

Hola ladies. I''m sorry I''ve been MIA. I''m totally lurking though. Because that is how I roll.

Mandarine - I hope things improve soon regarding sleep. I don''t have any words of advice, just that it stinks.

China - O is so cute. And I agree with Mela that he TOTALLY looks like you! What soaps do you watch? My mom got me hooked on the Young and the Restless while I was prego and I''m STILL watching it. Just add it my rotation of CRAP t.v. When are you going to start O on solids? What are you going to start with? I''m thinking of adding some BM to a bit of avocado for Calvin''s first food? Maybe?

BLen - I''m glad George is feeling better. And yay for early bedtime!!!

Fiery - How is Sophia doing?

Tao - I puffy heart the pantless photo. Awesome!

Sunkist - My DH gives Calvin a bottle of BM every night before bed. He doesn''t do things like I would, but he figured it out and it is SO nice to be off the clock at 7:30.

Anchor - Boo on baby acne. It''ll go away on its own - My doc said not to do anything to it and it eventually disappeared...Poor Calvin got the acne and lost his hair the same week. It was not an attractive look!

Natalina - My bestie in the whole world wrote something that really resonated with me. Basically, she said to take every day and enjoy it because they change so fast. Don''t worry about the pacifier and the swaddle...it''ll work out...Before we had to deswaddle Calvin (he rolled over onto his belly while swaddled), I used to joke that we were going to swaddle him until he went to college. Moral of the story, just enjoy your daughter while she is so tiny...she''ll be walking and talking before you know it.

Sabine - I hear you on the rut thing. I am really enjyoing being home with Calvin, but it can get a bit boring. At this point, I''m just making sure I get out of the house and I joined a mom group from meetup.com. I haven''t met up with them yet, but I figure it is something. I agree with Mela that having a schedule of sorts helps...Calvin likes the routine and so do I!

Swaddling Mamas - We transitioned Calvin from a swaddle to the Woombie. Basically, it allows baby to move a decent amount, but takes care of the startle reflex. You can google it and find it. It worked great. We used that for about a month and last week, deswaddled him completely, with NO problems at all. It is a really nice transition, for whatever that is worth.

Also I LOVE LOVE LOVE THE PICTURES. PS has some adorable freaking babies. LOVE THEM ALL!!!

Everyone else, Hello!

As for us...we are doing well. Calvin is 4 and 1/2 months old. Which is just nuts. He talks CONSTANTLY. How someone that is only four and half months old has that many opinions is beyond me...but man, he is a world class babbler! He''s already said "yes" and "uh oh." DH was very impressed until he realized that given the number of sounds that come out of Calvin''s mouth, eventually one or two were bound to be real words...ya know, the whole enough monkeys typing on a typewriter will eventually write Shakespeare. Anyway, he''s sleeping really well at night, but is currently of the mind that napping is for suckers. I am just enjoying the heck out of him.

I''ve attached a pic of him listening to DH telling a story.

 

[littlelysser]

And one more, because I love his hat.

 

[Sabine]

I''m way behind, but just saw that Vizsla was asking about Jacks, so I''ll chime in about his sleep issues!

It does sound like C is similar...colic, reflux, and sleep issues, as well as being really alert/interested in what is going on around him. I think he just really wanted to be awake and involved in things all the time (still does actually) so he never wanted to sleep. But he was so tired he''d be miserable, and so was I.

Things that I found that helped...sometimes...swaddling really tight (use a double swaddle if you have to) and then holding really tight against my chest in a dark room with NO stimulation at times when you''re trying to get him to sleep. Continuing to hold the paci in his mouth while he cried because eventually he''d take it (sometimes I''d give him my finger to suck on to get him sucking first). Using a white noise machine to block out the other noises.

We also have him on Prilosec for reflux and Nutrimagen formula, but since you are bfing, that won''t help much.

Basically I became a sleep nazi. I did HOLD him on my chest for all naps and overnight from basically 2 months till we sleep trained at 4 months. But in doing so, I did get him to take 1-2 hour naps 3x a day and he did sleep well overnight until he got really restless near 4 months (although I still didn''t sleep well overnight). And keeping his awake periods REALLY short (an hour I think at 2 months). The colic really stopped as soon as he started sleeping well. By 3 months he was easy to get to fall asleep, but I had to still hold him and bounce him/shush him at the 45 minute mark to keep him asleep and had to give him the paci multiple times overnight. But when he was awake, he was soooo much more pleasant, which really made my life much more bearable in my sleep deprived state.

It really seemed that he was such a light sleeper that every time he cycled into the light sleep stage (around 45 minutes after falling asleep) he would totally wake up and not be able to get himself back asleep without my help. Now he definitely self-soothes and can get himself back asleep, but sometimes still only takes 40ish minute naps because he wakes up and just wants to play/be a part of the action. I''ve finally been able to stop stressing about it though because he sleeps so well overnight and I know that if he really needs the sleep he will get it, as evidenced by his 3 hour nap yesterday.

 

[NovemberBride]

All these boys are so handsome! Where are the other girl pics? I know there aren''t that many, but there are a few of us! Fiery, I know you must have some more of Sophia, I never get tired of looking at her (by the way, how do you take such beautiful pictures? Mine come out terrible!).

Sha and Anchor,

I wanted to share what I did to get Olivia sleeping better. She was not an easy baby in that department to start. At first, I was letting her sleep wherever she could (swing, bouncer, my arms, DH''s chest). The problem was, she never slept for very long in any of those places. So I was getting some sleep, but it was sporadic. So I decided to try to implement a bedtime routine (very simple, pjs and sleepsack, lights out and last feeding - sometimes I include a bath or story depending on the night). The main thing was that after bedtime the only place she could sleep was her pack n'' play (she''s still sleeping in our room). It was rough going the first week or so, we basically followed the pick up, put down method and the first few nights that basically lasted all night. But no matter what, we would not leave the room to put her in the swing or bouncer or turn on the lights. Initially, we''d try to get her all the way to sleep before we put her down. After a couple days, it started getting easier. She''d go down around 12 and wake up at 3 and again at 6. After a week or so, she dropped the 3 am feed by herself (DH and I were amazed when she started crying and we realized it was 6 am). We have had a few bad nights, but basically she sticks to this routine. There have also been a few nights that she went much longer, like 8 or 9 hours, but since she is EBF and only 10 weeks I don''t expect that to be the norm for a while. I still let her nap in the swing or bouncer during the day sometimes, although naps in her pack n'' play during the day much better now. During the day I also leave on the lights and tv or music so that she knows it''s day time. I hope some of this is helpful to you!

 

[Mandarine]

Sha and Anchor, I second NB in getting into a bed time routine as soon as you can!. I started with my guys at about 3 weeks and it's made a huge difference. I also think that's why they naturally moved to an earlier bed time. I shared how I implemented our bed time routine in Sunkist's thread about keeping the house with a 2 month old.

NB, all I can say is

What a beauty!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tao, I just love that picture of him without pants. His expression is priceless!!!

Charlie is so adorable!!!!!!

Fiery, thank you!!!!!

It's so crazy to go back and read about my two little beans, finding out, etc. Thanks!!!. My boys are consistent with bed time, but as for naps, they are sort of like Sophia...they are up for about 1.5 hours and then need a nap.

Ebree, that picture is adorable!!!!!!!/. I hope he starts feeling better soon! poor little fella.

Blen, Yay for early bed time!. I swear it's the only way I keep my sanity!. MIL also doesn't like that their bed time is so early, as she doesn't have time to come after work and see them before it's almost time for them to go to bed....but oh well!

LL, I looked into the Woombie but was scared that I would have to deal with two transitions rather than just one (miracle blanket to woombie and woombie to nothing). Hmmm....it looks good though! I wish I would have started with that instead of the miracle blanket!. He's just so cute! Love his eyes!!!



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As for me, Lucas did ok last night...up only once, at 2am and then up for the day at 6:30am. Alex was another story. He was up at 10:30pm (he's been pushing it by an hour earlier each night!) and then again at 4am....up at 7am.

Of course then Alex doesn't want to eat in the morning...why would he if he chugged down 9 ounces during the night?

What should I do? Give him a full bottle the first time he wakes up and then maybe only like 2-3 oz the second time???


ETA: Before this whole sleep regression thing they were both eating 4 oz one time per night.
ETA2: it's just a bad cycle, now he won't eat much during the day...and he'll be hungry tonight. Have to break it somehow!!!

 

[taovandel]

Evan seems to have fixed his sleeping on his own (thank god!)....He doesn''t get up at 1 or 2 anymore (for now!)...and he was up today at about 7:30.

I can''t believe he is nearly 3 months now...it''s just insane to me.

I''ve started a low-carb diet (Started on Monday) Hopefully the pounds will start to fall off. I definitely am too out of shape to even attempt the 30 Day Shred (she is seriously the devil) which I learned the other day when I was about 5 minutes in and I was sooooooo happy that E woke from his nap screaming... so I''ve been doing some other things, including Pilates which I used to do and loved...so I''m really happy to be getting back into that.


Also, my parents want to get professional pics done in the next few months....I don''t want them to spend the money on an expensive photographer...but I''m dreading the whole Sears Photo Studio thing.....I just keep picturing tacky posed pictures....anyone know of any big name chain like places that aren''t going to be cheesy but won''t be expensive either?


Fiery/Pandora: I hadn''t even thought about copy and pasting my posts about being pregnant with E....I also did some blogs on another site---Now I''ll probably go back and find my posts and start compiling them for him.

 

[vizsla]

sabine-
thanks so much! i basically have the same baby as jacks! we do all of those things, swaddle, white noise, dark room, etc.. but he still suffers from that 45 min monster, which is why most of the time it is so much easier to hold him and get him thru that sleep cycle transition than putting him down by himself and fighting to get him back to sleep for another hour. he does sleep for 1 to 2 hours during the day if held. p.s. have i mentioned how much i love dr.sears? sometimes it seems like he is the only one who understands a high needs baby.
c is on nutramagin and bm (ive eliminated milk and soy) and zantac and prilosec, it just doesnt seem to help w the reflux. while i dont want to rush anything im really looking forward to him getting bigger and growing out of these issues.

 

[fieryred33143]

Mandarine-how many ounces do they get per feeding?

 

[vizsla]

i meant to write out his schedule but the little booger nose is up, be back soon.

 

[Mandarine]

Fiery,

They eat about 4-5 oz per feeding every three hours (7am, 10am, 1pm, 4pm and 7pm)...then they WERE eating 4 oz like at 4am. Now it''s 5oz twice per night for Alex

...but he won''t eat more during the day.
They weigh about 14 lbs (according to our scale and having hubby holding each baby while stepping on it!).

When you guys say your LOs don''t sleep more than 45 minutes, do you mean for naps?. Mine don''t either...are they supposed to?. They eat, play, then down for like 45 minutes and up again (sometimes cranky sometimes not). I can''t really hold them both until they fall back sleep so I just pick them up when they wake up from a nap (usually at the same time)...

 

[Blenheim]

I''m feeling frustrated. My mom was complaining earlier today that we''re not able to get together for dinner anymore now that he has a 8pm-ish bedtime. I told her that a lot of my friends (meaning you guys

) implement 7-7:30 bedtimes for their babies, and we specifically chose a later 8 pm bedtime so that we are able to go out and have dinner with people. It just needs to be on the earlier side, which I know that she can do all but one or two days of the week. But she''s acting like we can''t even get together for a 6 pm dinner with an 8 pm bedtime, and so she now wants to meet for breakfast on Saturday morning so that she''s "able" to see us. I''m fine with breakfast, but seriously! 8 pm is not unreasonable on our part. Right?!?

 

[Mandarine]

Not at all Blen!

I think babies need an eralier bed time (just my opinion)...they are tired from the day and sleep better when they get to rest earlier. The book healthy sleep habits healthy baby explains it better than I do

Can they come to your house for dinner after the baby is down? MIL comes for dinner once a week, she helps me bathe them and do bed time...then we have dinner.

You guys could also do lunch on weekends...

 

[MustangGal]

Just popping in a sec...

Tao - I''ve had Kyle''s pics done at JCPenny several times now (3 weeks, 3 months, 7 months , and we''re doing them again in a few weeks), and they''ve all turned out really well. Just check the website for the coupons they put out all the time. I''ve never spent more than like $60 total!

 

[taovandel]

ooo thanks MG---I''ll check into it...

 

[ChinaCat]

Ebree- Hey lady. Was wondering what you've been up to. Thanks for the pic of Henry! He looks like such an old soul to me compared to O. So cute. Who does he look like? I see you in him, but I've never really seen a pic of your DH. Methinks Henry is big!!!!! Though O is small, so we both have skewed perceptions. Saw your move mentioned on another thread- what precipitated the move, can I ask? I dream of picking up and moving, but we're stuck here for now. And I forgot- are you a SAHM now, or are you working from home?

LYSSER!!! Hi there. We've missed you!!!! Hmm, well I've been watching Y&R since I was little cause my mom watched it. And when I was on mat leave I got sucked into General Hospital. I stopped watching Y&R when I went back to work, but my mom keeps me updated and now that Victor's back and Sharon is figuring out that Faith is hers, I think I am going to start DVR'ing again! As for solids, I am planning to wait till O is 6 months but he clearly is ready for food, he keeps trying to eat ours. O is 6 months by "months" on Feb 18, but is 6 months by weeks in 2 weeks. So we'll see. But I think I will start with avocado too, seeing as how I craved it so much when I was preggo with him. When are you starting? We can start together! Can't believe Calvin is "talking"- O is too I guess, but really only sounds like "hi" and "bye" - but of course he isn't really saying that yet. He still loves to scream and screech. LOVE the pics. For some weird reason, he reminds me of O. They don't really look alike, but have the same faces or something. I think they'd be good friends IRL.

Mandarine- OMG, I was cracking up at your post on FB that you got the twins mixed up! I was actually wondering about that since you think they could be identical. How DO you tell them apart? By their clothes? Too funny.

Ok, ladies, need your help. If you are friends with me on FB, I posted a status about voting for the Gwendolyn Strong Foundation. Chase Community Giving is going to donate $$$ to the charity that gets the most votes. A friend of mine's daughter was born with SMA, which is heart-breaking and the #1 cause of death in infants. She is the most beautiful thing- you can read about her at www.scarlettshope.com. Anyways, you can vote at www.voteforsma.com. You may have to become a fan of Chase Community Giving first. Anyways, if you aren't voting for some other charity, please help out! And stepping off my soapbox now....

ETA: Blen, I think 8 is plenty of time to have dinner. And not unreasonable of you at all. Why don't you let your mom babysit and keep G up and then let her see what it's like to deal with if he misses his bedtime? And she should have to babysit all night and get up with him, etc.! Then I am sure she will never miss his bedtime again!

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 1/21/2010 11:50:34 AM
Author: Blenheim
I''m feeling frustrated. My mom was complaining earlier today that we''re not able to get together for dinner anymore now that he has a 8pm-ish bedtime. I told her that a lot of my friends (meaning you guys

) implement 7-7:30 bedtimes for their babies, and we specifically chose a later 8 pm bedtime so that we are able to go out and have dinner with people. It just needs to be on the earlier side, which I know that she can do all but one or two days of the week. But she''s acting like we can''t even get together for a 6 pm dinner with an 8 pm bedtime, and so she now wants to meet for breakfast on Saturday morning so that she''s ''able'' to see us. I''m fine with breakfast, but seriously! 8 pm is not unreasonable on our part. Right?!?

Hunter goes to bed at 7pm! I have had some family members be poopy jerks about it too, when I have said we couldn''t go places because we have to be home by 6:30 for wind down, nursing, bedtime. It hurts when they say such things, but I ignore it as best as I can because I know that he does better with an earlier bedtime. How is G sleeping at night? Our world changed when we moved his bedtime earlier, if he naps poorly in the afternoon he is in bed by 6:30. No one says anything now though because they spent some time at our house and witnessed a) how easy he falls asleep when we put him down at 7, and b) the meltdown and hour or more of crying/nrusing/crying/nursing that happens if we miss the window by even 30 minutes.