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PS Mommy Thread-Newborn to 12 months!
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George went to sleep easily tonight at 8 pm but has already woken up 4 times. Grandpa came in once to help by rubbing his back... I think he''s catching on!!
Mandarine - you are cracking me up today! First the pics on FB, now hampsters.
<-- the perfect smily for such things.
Amber - awwww!
2nd (or 3rd) babies - We were constantly saying that we wanted another ASAP... and then he got mobile. Now I am scared. How do you keep up with TWO of them? In the amount of time it takes me to wash my hands, he can unroll an entire roll of toilet paper (if I trap him in the bathroom with me, to prevent him from making it all the way to the head of the stairs.... lesser of two evils and all that).
Mandarine - you are cracking me up today! First the pics on FB, now hampsters.
Amber - awwww!
2nd (or 3rd) babies - We were constantly saying that we wanted another ASAP... and then he got mobile. Now I am scared. How do you keep up with TWO of them? In the amount of time it takes me to wash my hands, he can unroll an entire roll of toilet paper (if I trap him in the bathroom with me, to prevent him from making it all the way to the head of the stairs.... lesser of two evils and all that).
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Amber and Tao- thanks for the FB help! It's fun! I am such a dork! Funny, there are a few people that I see are friends with several of you so I figure they must be from PS, but I can't figure out who they are so I didn't send friend requests b/c I don't want them to be like "who's this crazy?"
Mandarine- when I read what your DH said about the bottle I immediately thought "OMG- like a hamster?!?!?" and then laughed out loud to see that's what you thought too! That is seriously hilarious! And its so cool that all 3 boys in your family have the same birthmark.
LL- I got the Beaba Babycook and the recipe book that goes with it, but Ellie is still too little so I haven't tried it yet. Looking forward to hearing how the avocado goes!
Sunkist- I couldn't find you! And the Woombie is really cool. I am mad at myself because I ordered 2 when Ellie was brand new and then forgot about them because we got hooked on the Kiddopotamus swaddle because it can be done really tight. I got the Woombie out tonight thinking that it was a good idea as a transition to no swaddle and DARN IT- THEY DON"T FIT ANYMORE! And they weren't cheap! Shoot!
Re: next baby- I'm thinking about it too! DH thinks I am crazy, but I'm 33 and he just turned 39, so we can't wait too long. And I think as hard as it will be to have 2 in diapers, etc. at least you get through that phase faster. And if Mandarine, NF and all the other twin mamas here can handle 2 NEwboRNS, I should be able to handle 2 under 2, right?!? Of course, I take for granted that TTC #2 will be a piece of cake like it was with Ellie (Jerkstore!), but we may not be so fortunate. That's something to think about, too. What if we wait and then TTC takes a long time? Ah well, only time will tell. As of now, I'd like to start trying when Ellie is just under a year old I think.
Random question: Do all of your babes sleep with nightlights in their room? Ellie always had one, then last night I decided to turn it off. She slept SO much better! Now, it could be a coincidence, but it's off tonight and she went down at 8:15p and hasn't made a peep yet. None of the 'up every 30 minutes' we had been dealing with...man, I hope I didn't just jinx it!
ETA: Think I might have found DD- if her real name stars with D,too... Sunkist- where are you?
Mandarine- when I read what your DH said about the bottle I immediately thought "OMG- like a hamster?!?!?" and then laughed out loud to see that's what you thought too! That is seriously hilarious! And its so cool that all 3 boys in your family have the same birthmark.
LL- I got the Beaba Babycook and the recipe book that goes with it, but Ellie is still too little so I haven't tried it yet. Looking forward to hearing how the avocado goes!
Sunkist- I couldn't find you! And the Woombie is really cool. I am mad at myself because I ordered 2 when Ellie was brand new and then forgot about them because we got hooked on the Kiddopotamus swaddle because it can be done really tight. I got the Woombie out tonight thinking that it was a good idea as a transition to no swaddle and DARN IT- THEY DON"T FIT ANYMORE! And they weren't cheap! Shoot!
Re: next baby- I'm thinking about it too! DH thinks I am crazy, but I'm 33 and he just turned 39, so we can't wait too long. And I think as hard as it will be to have 2 in diapers, etc. at least you get through that phase faster. And if Mandarine, NF and all the other twin mamas here can handle 2 NEwboRNS, I should be able to handle 2 under 2, right?!? Of course, I take for granted that TTC #2 will be a piece of cake like it was with Ellie (Jerkstore!), but we may not be so fortunate. That's something to think about, too. What if we wait and then TTC takes a long time? Ah well, only time will tell. As of now, I'd like to start trying when Ellie is just under a year old I think.
Random question: Do all of your babes sleep with nightlights in their room? Ellie always had one, then last night I decided to turn it off. She slept SO much better! Now, it could be a coincidence, but it's off tonight and she went down at 8:15p and hasn't made a peep yet. None of the 'up every 30 minutes' we had been dealing with...man, I hope I didn't just jinx it!
ETA: Think I might have found DD- if her real name stars with D,too... Sunkist- where are you?
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Thank you all for the compliments about my baby monkey-child. I love him so.
Lysser- Calvin's absolutely precious!
Blen- Not unreasonable at all. I've read the earlier the bedtime, the better (within reason).
China- Hey you! I like the idea of H as an old soul, but it's funny to think about as I watch him bounce up and down in his jumper, drooling and giggling.
I think he looks more like me, but he's HUGE like his father. As for the move, we decided to because at some point (in the near future), our families all want to move to be together, and no one wants to live where we live now. Too much rain. NC was a compromise we came to. Luckily, my husband works from home, so we can live wherever we want, but we wanted an area that'd be affordable AND appealing to the grandparents. Is a move likely for you in the (hopefully) not-too-distant future? Where would you want to go?
Amber- That hair! She's such a doll. To be honest, I don't remember what time H went to bed at Piper's age. I'll have to flip back through the archives to check. I remember him being similar to Oliver with a three hour schedule, but that could be new mom daze talking.
natalina- The author of the 'No Cry Sleep Solution' said a light as dim as 25 watts (how much light this is, I have no idea!) can signal "wake up time," so you might be on to something. We have a super dim light on in our bedroom so we can change a diaper without having to turn on a brighter light, but I may try switching it off tomorrow night to see if it helps at all.
RE: Second baby- Starting to get the itch for real. Not that we could do anything about it, as I haven't yet seen AF. I really want H to be able to communicate with words before #2 is born, so we might wait a bit. Perhaps we'll start 'not avoiding' around his first birthday.
I'd write more, but both of my boys are snoozing next to me and I don't want to wake them with my typing. Hopefully more tomorrow (or in the next few).
ETA: China- I voted, and I urged my husband to join so he could vote too. Poor baby Scarlett. What a heartbreaking thing to have to go through.
Lysser- Calvin's absolutely precious!
Blen- Not unreasonable at all. I've read the earlier the bedtime, the better (within reason).
China- Hey you! I like the idea of H as an old soul, but it's funny to think about as I watch him bounce up and down in his jumper, drooling and giggling.
Amber- That hair! She's such a doll. To be honest, I don't remember what time H went to bed at Piper's age. I'll have to flip back through the archives to check. I remember him being similar to Oliver with a three hour schedule, but that could be new mom daze talking.
natalina- The author of the 'No Cry Sleep Solution' said a light as dim as 25 watts (how much light this is, I have no idea!) can signal "wake up time," so you might be on to something. We have a super dim light on in our bedroom so we can change a diaper without having to turn on a brighter light, but I may try switching it off tomorrow night to see if it helps at all.
RE: Second baby- Starting to get the itch for real. Not that we could do anything about it, as I haven't yet seen AF. I really want H to be able to communicate with words before #2 is born, so we might wait a bit. Perhaps we'll start 'not avoiding' around his first birthday.
I'd write more, but both of my boys are snoozing next to me and I don't want to wake them with my typing. Hopefully more tomorrow (or in the next few).
ETA: China- I voted, and I urged my husband to join so he could vote too. Poor baby Scarlett. What a heartbreaking thing to have to go through.
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Ok, I just got back from a 1-1/2 hour drive to get Wes asleep for the night
At least he''s asleep. I''d been trying to get him down for 1-1/2 hours already and he kept waking up. Last night he did this and didn''t fall asleep until midnight and I didn''t want him to do that again. So driving around it was! I feel so bad right now, like I''m never going to learn how to do this.
It doesn''t help that hubby works evenings and isn''t home to put him down at a decent bed time with me.
But I got HSHHC in the mail today, so I guess i"ll go read that now that he''s down.
But I got HSHHC in the mail today, so I guess i"ll go read that now that he''s down.
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Real quick note since I have to get ready for work.
Sunkist-please don''t feel bad. Bedtime is really frustrating with a new baby. I remember how I used to cry as soon as the sun would set because I didn''t know what my night was going to look like. But it does get better.
Have you tried giving Wes a warm bath with the night time soap before bed? We used to have that as part of our bedtime routine. We don''t anymore because it was too complicated to giver her a bath every night but in those first few months it really helped.
Hang in there and know you aren''t doing anything wrong. You and Wes will figure it out.
Sunkist-please don''t feel bad. Bedtime is really frustrating with a new baby. I remember how I used to cry as soon as the sun would set because I didn''t know what my night was going to look like. But it does get better.
Have you tried giving Wes a warm bath with the night time soap before bed? We used to have that as part of our bedtime routine. We don''t anymore because it was too complicated to giver her a bath every night but in those first few months it really helped.
Hang in there and know you aren''t doing anything wrong. You and Wes will figure it out.
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will come back later with more...but I have breaking news!!! from twin night shift central!!!
Both babies night bottle: 6:30pm.
Bed time: 7:30pm.
NOT A PEEP UNTIL:
Alex: 4:15 am
Lucas: 6:15 am
Then up for the day at 7:30am
I hope I''m not jinxing it, but maybe they''re over their little "phase"!!! Please, please, please!!!
Both babies night bottle: 6:30pm.
Bed time: 7:30pm.
NOT A PEEP UNTIL:
Alex: 4:15 am
Lucas: 6:15 am
Then up for the day at 7:30am
I hope I''m not jinxing it, but maybe they''re over their little "phase"!!! Please, please, please!!!
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Sunkist - I''m the Woombie fan. We were really happy with the Woombie. We switched to that from a regular swaddle because Calvin would try to get his hands free and I woke up, turned on the monitor, and saw that his face was COMPLETELY COVERED by the swaddle. Being that I''m already paranoid about SIDS, that did not make me so happy. So I did some looking around, and the Woombie seemed like it would git the bill, because there was no fabric he could wiggle over his face. It also allows them to move more than a swaddle (but it sort of returns to its original shape, if that makes sense) - so there wasn''t really any transition from woombie to free baby. As for how long to swaddle, really, as long as you want. I''ve heard that once a baby can roll from back to tummy, they probably shouldn''t be swaddled anymore so they don''t suffocate because they can''t use their arms to roll back over or move themselves, etc. Good luck with HSHHC. Everyone I know who used it has a great sleeper!
Mandarine - YAY!!!
China - First Meals is a baby cook book. My best friend made all of her daughter''s food and really recommended it. I looked at it yesterday and it seems like it should be doable. Hopefully! I''m not much of a chef at all...so we''ll see how it goes! I''m really not sure when we are going to start. He''s definitely watching us eat, but doesn''t seem overly interested - and he''s doing great on just BM. I''m not sure if we''ll wait until 6 months, but it''ll probably be close to that. Oh, and I LOVE Sharon too. I think my mom is redonkulous with the Sharon hate. Oh, and my mom is so old school she fast forwards through the stuff involving the "youngsters" like daniel and amber and that whole crowd.
Amber - How old is Piper? I''m a moron and can''t remember. I know until like 6-8 weeks of age, babies aren''t so into the early bedtime. Have you tried moving things up like 15 minutes at a time? ALso, I want to squeeeeeze her.
Nat - We have a little nightlight in Calvin''s room...it is attached to the monitor. We use it only because his room is so dark without that we''d never be able to find his paci and put it back in his mouth when he wakes up in the middle of the night...
Fiery - How is Sophia doing?
As for another baby...I don''t know. I LOVE LOVE LOVE the Calvinator...but I was so bad at being pregnant. 10 months of horrid anxiety was a bit much...also, I''m old as the hills and I''d like Calvin to be at least four...which means I''d be 103 when I tried to get pregnant with the next one. We may be good with one.
Mandarine - YAY!!!
China - First Meals is a baby cook book. My best friend made all of her daughter''s food and really recommended it. I looked at it yesterday and it seems like it should be doable. Hopefully! I''m not much of a chef at all...so we''ll see how it goes! I''m really not sure when we are going to start. He''s definitely watching us eat, but doesn''t seem overly interested - and he''s doing great on just BM. I''m not sure if we''ll wait until 6 months, but it''ll probably be close to that. Oh, and I LOVE Sharon too. I think my mom is redonkulous with the Sharon hate. Oh, and my mom is so old school she fast forwards through the stuff involving the "youngsters" like daniel and amber and that whole crowd.
Amber - How old is Piper? I''m a moron and can''t remember. I know until like 6-8 weeks of age, babies aren''t so into the early bedtime. Have you tried moving things up like 15 minutes at a time? ALso, I want to squeeeeeze her.
Nat - We have a little nightlight in Calvin''s room...it is attached to the monitor. We use it only because his room is so dark without that we''d never be able to find his paci and put it back in his mouth when he wakes up in the middle of the night...
Fiery - How is Sophia doing?
As for another baby...I don''t know. I LOVE LOVE LOVE the Calvinator...but I was so bad at being pregnant. 10 months of horrid anxiety was a bit much...also, I''m old as the hills and I''d like Calvin to be at least four...which means I''d be 103 when I tried to get pregnant with the next one. We may be good with one.
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Making baby food I made most of A's. I used the book Cooking for Baby link It's a cool book but I didn't even really need it. I just made the kind of things that I saw available as prepared baby food by steaming them, pureeing them, and freezing them.
The beaba babycook seemed really cool but I decided I'd try without it and see if I really needed it. I did just fine by steaming with a steamer insert (from grocery, cost about $
and then the Cuisinart Mini Prep which I already had but costs around $40. I made things in bulk and froze them first in ice cube trays and then bought the silicone storage thing that is made by Beaba (which is really nice). So if you are thinking of making baby food but don't want to buy the $150+ gizmo, it is totally doable.
Funny, I didn't read up on the Baby Led Weaning that Pandora and Blen are doing, but A kind of went there all on his own! He has no interest in being fed baby food anymore. Now I feed him pretty much what I am eating, minus any potential allergens or choking hazards. He feeds himself and is hugely messy but I figure it's a learning process!
The beaba babycook seemed really cool but I decided I'd try without it and see if I really needed it. I did just fine by steaming with a steamer insert (from grocery, cost about $
and then the Cuisinart Mini Prep which I already had but costs around $40. I made things in bulk and froze them first in ice cube trays and then bought the silicone storage thing that is made by Beaba (which is really nice). So if you are thinking of making baby food but don't want to buy the $150+ gizmo, it is totally doable. Funny, I didn't read up on the Baby Led Weaning that Pandora and Blen are doing, but A kind of went there all on his own! He has no interest in being fed baby food anymore. Now I feed him pretty much what I am eating, minus any potential allergens or choking hazards. He feeds himself and is hugely messy but I figure it's a learning process!
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Natalina - I have no idea why, but I always pictured you a brunette! Maybe because you''re avatar has your heads cut off, so I had to "imagine" your head all this time - and I imagined it brown. lol. Now that I see you on FB...I''m struck by how beautiful and BLONDE you are!!!! Not that I''m surprised...one look at Ellie and it''s clear that her Momma is a looker. lol. Anyways, you and China both fooled me by being blonds.
I wish I could say that I could keep up with this thread...
...I''ve skimmed but thats it. I''m just going to jump in now and go foward. Alas....
I make all Romeo''s purees too, and freeze them in these - http://www.babycubes.com/ I love them. I also give him some "real" peice of food to play with at mealtime, like a steamed broccoli stalk or steamed carrot, because I do like the concept of BLW...but I also like feeding him.
So I''ve been battling a weird "drama" every single night since Romeo was about 5 months. I though it was going to be a passing "phase", but here we are, 2.5 months later, and he''s still doing it. After his bath, once I start the "routine" he starts screaming and crying until he''s on the boob. Then he settles right down and nurses to sleep. It''s just so grating on the nerves to have him SCREAM the whole time I massage and dress him for bed. Does anyone else''s LO do this? I hate it.
He''s awake. Gotta run! TTYL
I wish I could say that I could keep up with this thread...
I make all Romeo''s purees too, and freeze them in these - http://www.babycubes.com/ I love them. I also give him some "real" peice of food to play with at mealtime, like a steamed broccoli stalk or steamed carrot, because I do like the concept of BLW...but I also like feeding him.
So I''ve been battling a weird "drama" every single night since Romeo was about 5 months. I though it was going to be a passing "phase", but here we are, 2.5 months later, and he''s still doing it. After his bath, once I start the "routine" he starts screaming and crying until he''s on the boob. Then he settles right down and nurses to sleep. It''s just so grating on the nerves to have him SCREAM the whole time I massage and dress him for bed. Does anyone else''s LO do this? I hate it.
He''s awake. Gotta run! TTYL
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Popping out of lurkdom for a sec –
Mela- our son (13 weeks old) does the same exact freak out every night immediately following his bath, before he gets fed. He SCREAMS when getting dressed, lotion, etc and it only happens at night following his bath. During the bath he is an angel. I’ve just attributed this obnoxious behavior to him being tired after the long day. Once he’s being fed, the normalcy returns…
ETA: All of the babies on this board are absolute dolls. Since having our first son in October, I’ve followed this board religiously, I just don’t have as much as I’d like to chime in. Hopefully that will change now that I’m back to work and in front of my computer most of the day
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sheesh, i missed so much!
since i have abou 2.5 seconds until the little one stirs - please forgive for my general post.
announcement - i''m admitting to a ''bad mom'' move (although in truth it *was* suggested by our pedi - she actually said "as a pedi i can not recommend this, but as a parent have you tried putting charlie to sleep on his stomach?") i''ve been resisting until now b/c he still needs to be totally swaddled to fall asleep, but (knock on wood, totally going to jinx it) he''s on his belly (i''m sitting next to him typing to you ladies) aaaannnnndddddd he''s passed the 45 min mark without waking himself up!
mandy -to answer your question, yes, i was saying that c never takes naps longer than 45 mins. my understanding was that babies at his age probably needed 1.5-2hr naps every 3 hr cycle. we try really hard to do the eat, awake, sleep - sometimes it''s eat, awake, sleep, awake, eat, awake, overtired, wont fall asleep, fights sleeping, eats, finally naps for 45 mins, cranky pants, eat etc. which is why i''m so nuts-o about him sleeping longer than 45mins - he never falls into that ''restorative'' sleep phase. i guess if he slept for long stretches at night i would be less concerned about his daytime sleeping, but alas.... last night he was up every 2 hours to eat! i''m thinking this 2 hour thing is maybe coupled with his 3 month growth spurt, but lord help me if this is his new ''thing''! i go back to work in 1 week
speaking of... today we check out the daycare w/ c. i try not to burst out in tears at the mere thought of it, but i have to grasp onto the little silver lining that there is a lot the daycare workers can teach me. i''m not too proud to say that i need guidance in the ''should dos'' of being a mom. heck, i''ve never had a baby before... somedays i feel like i don''t know diddly about what is best for c. i guess it''s all part of becoming a parent.
thanks for all your support about my mastitis. it did stink BIG TIME! my only psa would be to make sure- if you get a clogged duct -you do the warm compress, massage, ice afterwards at every feeding until it unclogs so you don''t risk the chance of it turning into something more serious. it was NO FUN. i don''t know if i mentioned this but before i went to the hospital i had not left c for more than a few hours... and i was there for 3 days! yuck-o! after all of that i decided to quit BF.... because i''m so scared that my abscess will return. unfortunately my surgeon is totally against it... i have to pump every 4 hours for at least another month. which would be totally cool if c didn''t totally refuse the boob now, and when he does latch he doesn''t drain me out
so i''m feeding him every 2-3 hours, pumping every 4 hours, trying to get him to sleep longer than 30 mins every 3 hour cycle. i can''t imagine doing this with 2 babies... twin mommies are saints.
re: having another baby... like burk, i will probably have to cut out dairy and soy around week 33 to make sure the next one doesn''t go thru the same bloody bowels like c did. but i tell dh every time we talk about #2 - there is no way we went thru all of these craptastic things to waste our ''knowledge'' on 1 baby. we owe it to ourselves to have another one, maybe just so next time we will be less anxious.
speaking of anxious...... because we''ve had such a rough go of it the past 3 months... i totally notice myself getting overly anxious about everything i do with c.... like i''m constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop, or the next ''issue'' to come up. does parenting make anyone else anxious all of the time?
well, let''s see he''s been down almost an hour and NO waking.... please please please let this be the ''thing'' that works.
later taters!
off to find you on FB
since i have abou 2.5 seconds until the little one stirs - please forgive for my general post.
announcement - i''m admitting to a ''bad mom'' move (although in truth it *was* suggested by our pedi - she actually said "as a pedi i can not recommend this, but as a parent have you tried putting charlie to sleep on his stomach?") i''ve been resisting until now b/c he still needs to be totally swaddled to fall asleep, but (knock on wood, totally going to jinx it) he''s on his belly (i''m sitting next to him typing to you ladies) aaaannnnndddddd he''s passed the 45 min mark without waking himself up!
mandy -to answer your question, yes, i was saying that c never takes naps longer than 45 mins. my understanding was that babies at his age probably needed 1.5-2hr naps every 3 hr cycle. we try really hard to do the eat, awake, sleep - sometimes it''s eat, awake, sleep, awake, eat, awake, overtired, wont fall asleep, fights sleeping, eats, finally naps for 45 mins, cranky pants, eat etc.
which is why i''m so nuts-o about him sleeping longer than 45mins - he never falls into that ''restorative'' sleep phase. i guess if he slept for long stretches at night i would be less concerned about his daytime sleeping, but alas.... last night he was up every 2 hours to eat! i''m thinking this 2 hour thing is maybe coupled with his 3 month growth spurt, but lord help me if this is his new ''thing''! i go back to work in 1 week
speaking of... today we check out the daycare w/ c. i try not to burst out in tears at the mere thought of it, but i have to grasp onto the little silver lining that there is a lot the daycare workers can teach me. i''m not too proud to say that i need guidance in the ''should dos'' of being a mom. heck, i''ve never had a baby before... somedays i feel like i don''t know diddly about what is best for c. i guess it''s all part of becoming a parent.
thanks for all your support about my mastitis. it did stink BIG TIME! my only psa would be to make sure- if you get a clogged duct -you do the warm compress, massage, ice afterwards at every feeding until it unclogs so you don''t risk the chance of it turning into something more serious. it was NO FUN. i don''t know if i mentioned this but before i went to the hospital i had not left c for more than a few hours... and i was there for 3 days! yuck-o! after all of that i decided to quit BF.... because i''m so scared that my abscess will return. unfortunately my surgeon is totally against it... i have to pump every 4 hours for at least another month. which would be totally cool if c didn''t totally refuse the boob now, and when he does latch he doesn''t drain me out
re: having another baby... like burk, i will probably have to cut out dairy and soy around week 33 to make sure the next one doesn''t go thru the same bloody bowels like c did. but i tell dh every time we talk about #2 - there is no way we went thru all of these craptastic things to waste our ''knowledge'' on 1 baby. we owe it to ourselves to have another one, maybe just so next time we will be less anxious.
speaking of anxious...... because we''ve had such a rough go of it the past 3 months... i totally notice myself getting overly anxious about everything i do with c.... like i''m constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop, or the next ''issue'' to come up. does parenting make anyone else anxious all of the time?
well, let''s see he''s been down almost an hour and NO waking.... please please please let this be the ''thing'' that works.
later taters!
off to find you on FB
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Re: mastitis – I, too was hospitalized for a week w/severe mastitis 2 weeks after I had my son. They put me back in the maternity ward and I was “forced” to watch all of the newborns and happy parents celebrating while I was hooked to an I.V. and couldn’t see my son. TORTURE
Viz- I give you tons of credit for sticking through breastfeeding. I gave it up immediately after my breasts returned to normal. The stress of the whole mastitis ordeal plus pumping, making bottles etc. along with the stress of being a new parent was just too overwhelming for me! Kudos to you!
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Viz - Not a bad mom... George has always slept much better on his tummy. I was nervous about it until he could easily roll both ways though.
As far as the anxiety and doubt goes, I think (and hope, for my sake) that it''s normal. Parenting can be so confusing, as everybody has their opinion about what''s right and every kid responds differently. Even little things like sleeping on the tummy versus the back. And I keep forgetting to brush G''s teeth in the evening, and then feel like I''m a bad mom because I don''t get that done and it''s important and it only takes two minutes. I also keep second-guessing my decision not to transfer to a hospital during birth once we learned that he was breech, even though it''s 9 months later and everything turned out okay. DH has told me that he doesn''t feel like he can really feel like a good dad until George is grown and he can see that he''s, like, a happy functioning member of society.
We had a fabulous daycare, and they gave me some ideas that I''ve continued to use. I put him in the high chair yesterday and let him finger paint, which is something that he enjoyed there. We also hung a mobile over the changing table because of them. So there is a silver lining.
That pump/feed schedule sounds brutal. I also have no idea how twin moms do it.
Generational differences regarding attitudes about sleep - I asked my MIL last night what the advice about bedtime was when she had little kids, and she said that she had a hard time remembering exactly but she thought that they were really just emphasizing getting enough sleep. So 6 pm to 5 am and 10 pm to 9 am were equally "good". I was curious because I think that someone was wondering earlier if that could be part of the reason PSers have been getting flack for early bedtimes.
As far as the anxiety and doubt goes, I think (and hope, for my sake) that it''s normal. Parenting can be so confusing, as everybody has their opinion about what''s right and every kid responds differently. Even little things like sleeping on the tummy versus the back. And I keep forgetting to brush G''s teeth in the evening, and then feel like I''m a bad mom because I don''t get that done and it''s important and it only takes two minutes. I also keep second-guessing my decision not to transfer to a hospital during birth once we learned that he was breech, even though it''s 9 months later and everything turned out okay. DH has told me that he doesn''t feel like he can really feel like a good dad until George is grown and he can see that he''s, like, a happy functioning member of society.
We had a fabulous daycare, and they gave me some ideas that I''ve continued to use. I put him in the high chair yesterday and let him finger paint, which is something that he enjoyed there. We also hung a mobile over the changing table because of them. So there is a silver lining.
That pump/feed schedule sounds brutal. I also have no idea how twin moms do it.
Generational differences regarding attitudes about sleep - I asked my MIL last night what the advice about bedtime was when she had little kids, and she said that she had a hard time remembering exactly but she thought that they were really just emphasizing getting enough sleep. So 6 pm to 5 am and 10 pm to 9 am were equally "good". I was curious because I think that someone was wondering earlier if that could be part of the reason PSers have been getting flack for early bedtimes.
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Glad to hear I''m not the only one...but don''tcha think it''s weird that my kid is 7.5 months old and still throwing these FITS every night? Like, when will he just accept that he has to get dressed before he gets the boob (and sleep). I''ve tried moving his bedtime up, but he still does it. I think he''s exhausted, since he naps only 30-40 mins in the afternoon. eye roll.
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hey ladies!
All the baby pics are so cute!!
I seriously cannot keep up w/ this thread
Lex has been sick (sinus infection), I feel horrible now too...w/ taking care of him and me I've missed a whole week of work
Not good, but my little man needed me this week.
Real quick -
Mandarine - you are doing great!! You are seriously a super woman taking care of 2 little babies! I'm in awe of twin mommies, since sometimes I feel like I'm losing my mind w/ just 1.
baby number 2 - well, I've got the itch really bad! In fact, we kind of just let it loose this month to see what would happen, but I'm pretty sure AF will show her ugly face in a few days. I have no idea when I'm ovulating since I'm not charting or anything, but figure in a few months may pick it up again. At this point, we just kind of have the attitude that if it happens great, if not ok too (for now
).
Since I haven't posted a pic of my little guy here in awhile, I thought I'd post one
Right after his bath...the only time I can get his hair to stay like that!
ETA: I've say this all the time, but my kid is HUGE! At almost 8 months...he's 22 lbs and 28.5 inches
All the baby pics are so cute!!
I seriously cannot keep up w/ this thread
Real quick -
Mandarine - you are doing great!! You are seriously a super woman taking care of 2 little babies! I'm in awe of twin mommies, since sometimes I feel like I'm losing my mind w/ just 1.
baby number 2 - well, I've got the itch really bad! In fact, we kind of just let it loose this month to see what would happen, but I'm pretty sure AF will show her ugly face in a few days. I have no idea when I'm ovulating since I'm not charting or anything, but figure in a few months may pick it up again. At this point, we just kind of have the attitude that if it happens great, if not ok too (for now
Since I haven't posted a pic of my little guy here in awhile, I thought I'd post one
ETA: I've say this all the time, but my kid is HUGE! At almost 8 months...he's 22 lbs and 28.5 inches
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CDT-Lex is adorable!!!!!
Viz-Tacori can give you some really good tips for bfing with mastitis since she went through the same thing.
Mela-Do you think that maybe he''s cold? That must be frustrating. Is his bath usually right before he nurses? Maybe he has associated bath time with feeding time and gets frustrated. I give Sophia a bath before bed and sometimes she''ll cry because a) she''s hungry and b) she''s really tired and the bath makes her even more tired.
Viz-Tacori can give you some really good tips for bfing with mastitis since she went through the same thing.
Mela-Do you think that maybe he''s cold? That must be frustrating. Is his bath usually right before he nurses? Maybe he has associated bath time with feeding time and gets frustrated. I give Sophia a bath before bed and sometimes she''ll cry because a) she''s hungry and b) she''s really tired and the bath makes her even more tired.
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Blen- Hilarious with the TP story. This is why I am in no hurry for O to be mobile. Interesting about the generational differences, I wonder about this a lot. My mom just seems so laid back about everything and everyone her age is very amused by our books and schedules and such and I often wonder what it was really like. There is no way it was just easier for them- so either they forgot or perhaps they know something we don''t!
Natalina- O has always slept with a night light but only so that I can see when I go in there. B/c of your post, I turned it off last night- we''ll see if it makes a difference!
Ebree- Sounds great! Lucky that your DH works from home, the reason we are where we are is b/c of DH''s job and no chance of moving anytime soon. His company is only based here. Not sure where we''d go. Before O I would have said back to CA in heartbeat. But now I don''t want to be far from my parents (who live in the city where we both grew up). I am not sure I would want to go back there, but I do have tons of friends and family there so I would. Plus CA is so expensive and dealing with schools for O would be a nightmare. But I miss my friends and the ocean and O just seems like a little surfer dude already.
We would do Austin but jobs there aren''t great for what we do. Big sigh. I think we''re stuck here for now.
Sunkist- NOT a bad mom. Before I had kids I would have thought that (maybe!) but now I know you just have to do what you can to survive! And he''s still little enough that you aren''t really developing bad habits yet.
Mandarine- So happy you got a break last night. And your commentary of your boys plotting is so genius, I''ve read it a few times.
LL- Ha on the youngsters. I can''t stand Amber and am pretty bored by all of their storylines actually. I thought the new Colleen was the only interesting one and then they killed her off. I would wait till 6 months- only reason I''m even thinking about it is cause O is so interested. For example I was eating tiny PB crackers last night and he tried to grab them out of my hand and put them in his mouth! He was so mad when I took it away. But we''re so close to 6 months, no reason we can''t wait.
Mela- So Romy has a bit of the drama queen in him, interesting!!! Funny where it comes out. O sometimes does this when I try to change him if he''s starving. Do you think he''s just hungry, or is it the whole routine that sets him off? Can you try to feed him first, then do the rest? It works best for us if I feed O, then put on his jammies, read him a story, bedtime. Of course, that doesn''t always happen and if I can tell he''s tired I put his jammies on first in case he falls asleep while eating.
Lizzard- Welcome!
Vizla- You know, if sleeping on his stomach works, then go for it. It obviously makes him feel better and how can that make you a bad parent? How old is C now? Your pumping/eating cycle sounds miserable and pretty unsustainable. How long do you have to do that for? And do you really have to???? Btw, O NEVER took a 1.5/2 hour nap, forget what the books say. Now sometimes he takes an hour nap and once or twice has done 2 hours, but 45 mins is the norm for him too. You can''t force them to nap. As for being anxious, I really was for the first 3 months or so. I am not an anxious person by nature so it was strange for me. I felt like I always had an anxious feeling in my stomach of what he was going to do next that I couldn''t control. Finally I just learned to let it go and relax and it got so much better. I know it''s hard now b/c you are in the middle of some really hard times but you will get less anxious overtime. You will learn C''s habits and will trust yourself more and will start to enjoy more of it. I promise!
Another kiddo- I agree with Lysser AND Natalina AND Vizla AND Blen! I want another but would prefer to wait till he''s 3 or 4 but I''m too old for that, so then I think might as well get it over with and have a few years of hell. Then I think why, we have a perfectly sane life with just O, but then I think I could do it so much better the 2nd time around (and I just am not yet ok with giving up the idea of having another). So we''ll see. Not now though, that''s for sure!
CDT- Cute pic!
Natalina- O has always slept with a night light but only so that I can see when I go in there. B/c of your post, I turned it off last night- we''ll see if it makes a difference!
Ebree- Sounds great! Lucky that your DH works from home, the reason we are where we are is b/c of DH''s job and no chance of moving anytime soon. His company is only based here. Not sure where we''d go. Before O I would have said back to CA in heartbeat. But now I don''t want to be far from my parents (who live in the city where we both grew up). I am not sure I would want to go back there, but I do have tons of friends and family there so I would. Plus CA is so expensive and dealing with schools for O would be a nightmare. But I miss my friends and the ocean and O just seems like a little surfer dude already.
Sunkist- NOT a bad mom. Before I had kids I would have thought that (maybe!) but now I know you just have to do what you can to survive! And he''s still little enough that you aren''t really developing bad habits yet.
Mandarine- So happy you got a break last night. And your commentary of your boys plotting is so genius, I''ve read it a few times.
LL- Ha on the youngsters. I can''t stand Amber and am pretty bored by all of their storylines actually. I thought the new Colleen was the only interesting one and then they killed her off. I would wait till 6 months- only reason I''m even thinking about it is cause O is so interested. For example I was eating tiny PB crackers last night and he tried to grab them out of my hand and put them in his mouth! He was so mad when I took it away. But we''re so close to 6 months, no reason we can''t wait.
Mela- So Romy has a bit of the drama queen in him, interesting!!! Funny where it comes out. O sometimes does this when I try to change him if he''s starving. Do you think he''s just hungry, or is it the whole routine that sets him off? Can you try to feed him first, then do the rest? It works best for us if I feed O, then put on his jammies, read him a story, bedtime. Of course, that doesn''t always happen and if I can tell he''s tired I put his jammies on first in case he falls asleep while eating.
Lizzard- Welcome!
Vizla- You know, if sleeping on his stomach works, then go for it. It obviously makes him feel better and how can that make you a bad parent? How old is C now? Your pumping/eating cycle sounds miserable and pretty unsustainable. How long do you have to do that for? And do you really have to???? Btw, O NEVER took a 1.5/2 hour nap, forget what the books say. Now sometimes he takes an hour nap and once or twice has done 2 hours, but 45 mins is the norm for him too. You can''t force them to nap. As for being anxious, I really was for the first 3 months or so. I am not an anxious person by nature so it was strange for me. I felt like I always had an anxious feeling in my stomach of what he was going to do next that I couldn''t control. Finally I just learned to let it go and relax and it got so much better. I know it''s hard now b/c you are in the middle of some really hard times but you will get less anxious overtime. You will learn C''s habits and will trust yourself more and will start to enjoy more of it. I promise!
Another kiddo- I agree with Lysser AND Natalina AND Vizla AND Blen! I want another but would prefer to wait till he''s 3 or 4 but I''m too old for that, so then I think might as well get it over with and have a few years of hell. Then I think why, we have a perfectly sane life with just O, but then I think I could do it so much better the 2nd time around (and I just am not yet ok with giving up the idea of having another). So we''ll see. Not now though, that''s for sure!
CDT- Cute pic!
so cal girl
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Okay, I am behind, as so many of us are. I''m guessing having young children has something to do with that!
On swaddling- I sometimes wish we would have swaddled longer, but little E could break out of all pre-made swaddles I tried, and he got long for all the blankets I had by the time he was 2 months old. I wonder if I could re-introduce the swaddle now? He is having real trouble getting to sleep this week.
Example: Last night I put E to bed at 8:30, as usual. He went to sleep right away, but woke up 20 minutes later. So I''d go in and soothe him back to sleep, only to have the same thing happen again. He didn''t fall asleep for good until 11:00! he only woke up once after that (at 2:25), and went to bed fairly easily after that feeding, but it was just so frustrating. I think we may start an earlier bedtime, and see if that helps matters at all.
Wanting another one - Before we had E, I thought I''d wait until he was two years old to try to have another, but now I''m thinking we''ll try closer to the time he is one. I may change my mind once he actually starts moving, though
China - I voted on Facebook as well. Reading about SMa made me so sad. I think that now that I have a kid, seeing sick children affects me much more. I couldn''t figure out how to vote more than once, though...
Facebook - I am going to try adding people who I can find. I know I mostly lurk, so you guys don''t "know" me as well, so I won''t be offended if you ignore the request. By the way, my name is Stephanie and my last name starts with H.
Nightlights - I wonder if that does cause problems with sleeping... Ours is pretty low, but maybe I will try turning it off tonight and see what happens. I also leave the hall light on, and just open his door a crack when I go in. That way I can feed him not in total darkness and can see enough to change a diaper.
Mandarine - Sounds like your night went well last night! Congrats!
Pics - You all have the cutest babies! I absolutely love the pics. Keep them coming. maybe we should have a Baby Pic Friday, just like we had Belly Pic Friday on the preggo thread.
On swaddling- I sometimes wish we would have swaddled longer, but little E could break out of all pre-made swaddles I tried, and he got long for all the blankets I had by the time he was 2 months old. I wonder if I could re-introduce the swaddle now? He is having real trouble getting to sleep this week.
Example: Last night I put E to bed at 8:30, as usual. He went to sleep right away, but woke up 20 minutes later. So I''d go in and soothe him back to sleep, only to have the same thing happen again. He didn''t fall asleep for good until 11:00! he only woke up once after that (at 2:25), and went to bed fairly easily after that feeding, but it was just so frustrating. I think we may start an earlier bedtime, and see if that helps matters at all.
Wanting another one - Before we had E, I thought I''d wait until he was two years old to try to have another, but now I''m thinking we''ll try closer to the time he is one. I may change my mind once he actually starts moving, though
China - I voted on Facebook as well. Reading about SMa made me so sad. I think that now that I have a kid, seeing sick children affects me much more. I couldn''t figure out how to vote more than once, though...
Facebook - I am going to try adding people who I can find. I know I mostly lurk, so you guys don''t "know" me as well, so I won''t be offended if you ignore the request. By the way, my name is Stephanie and my last name starts with H.
Nightlights - I wonder if that does cause problems with sleeping... Ours is pretty low, but maybe I will try turning it off tonight and see what happens. I also leave the hall light on, and just open his door a crack when I go in. That way I can feed him not in total darkness and can see enough to change a diaper.
Mandarine - Sounds like your night went well last night! Congrats!
Pics - You all have the cutest babies! I absolutely love the pics. Keep them coming. maybe we should have a Baby Pic Friday, just like we had Belly Pic Friday on the preggo thread.
Sabine
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Quick question...did any of your LO''s have really bad cradle cap? Jacks has had it since I think2 months (he''s almost 6 months!) and NOTHING seems to help it! I''ve tried oil, but it was really messy so now we put "Disney Cradle Cap Care" on his head to comb out the flakes every night and use dandruff shampoo every 3 nights, but it doesn''t EVER seem to get any better.
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so cal girl
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And since Jacks is happily staring at the computer screen currently, a quick post to Viz!
Yay about sleeping on his stomach, and I REALLY hope it works for you, but for us, it worked for like 2 days, and then Jacks was back to waking up even if he was on his stomach. We never tried it overnight though because dh was really against it, so I continued to hold him overnight, so maybe that made it worse, when he fell asleep for me he just didn''t want to be put down (and would NOT fall asleep on his own on his belly). However, his naps and overnight sleep both really improved once he could roll on his own and he now only sleeps on his belly.
Yay about sleeping on his stomach, and I REALLY hope it works for you, but for us, it worked for like 2 days, and then Jacks was back to waking up even if he was on his stomach. We never tried it overnight though because dh was really against it, so I continued to hold him overnight, so maybe that made it worse, when he fell asleep for me he just didn''t want to be put down (and would NOT fall asleep on his own on his belly). However, his naps and overnight sleep both really improved once he could roll on his own and he now only sleeps on his belly.
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So cal I was just coming on here to confirm the request was a PSer! LOL I''m part of another site and sometimes I''ll get requests from there and do not want them on my friend''s list lol. Yay for new friends!
Cradle cap: I''m no help really. We just used baby oil and left it on over night and it seemed to go away. She still has a little bit and every once in a while I''ll do the oil treatment.
Cradle cap: I''m no help really. We just used baby oil and left it on over night and it seemed to go away. She still has a little bit and every once in a while I''ll do the oil treatment.
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Viz, I hope the stomach sleeping works!!!!...and you''re not a bad mom.
I thought 45 minutes was a great nap! hahaha...they never sleep more than an hour (unless we''re out or if they miss a nap)
crankiness after bath Mine are ok during the bath and while I put the diaper...Once I even show them the PJs they FREAK out!...the freak out lasts until the bottle is in their mouths. I was hoping this would go away but if Romeo (Mr happy!) is still doing it...mine will be doing this until they''re 3 years old!
SoCal woohoo! You found me!
I''m not sure if you can introduce re-swaddle...but maybe try the woombie since it''s less restrictive!?
China I was laughing while putting the commentary on the pics...their faces were just so funny and they looked like they were up to something!...I got the camera too late, but right before those pics they were both laughing.
Cdt he''s so cute...and so BIG!!!! Love the big eyes!. My guys are pretty big too (I think)...the 3-6 month stuff is getting tight and they''re just 3 months!
I thought 45 minutes was a great nap! hahaha...they never sleep more than an hour (unless we''re out or if they miss a nap)
crankiness after bath Mine are ok during the bath and while I put the diaper...Once I even show them the PJs they FREAK out!...the freak out lasts until the bottle is in their mouths. I was hoping this would go away but if Romeo (Mr happy!) is still doing it...mine will be doing this until they''re 3 years old!
SoCal woohoo! You found me!
China I was laughing while putting the commentary on the pics...their faces were just so funny and they looked like they were up to something!...I got the camera too late, but right before those pics they were both laughing.
Cdt he''s so cute...and so BIG!!!! Love the big eyes!. My guys are pretty big too (I think)...the 3-6 month stuff is getting tight and they''re just 3 months!
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After reading Viz''s "confession" on being a "bad mom", I just thought of something that may be funny
I declare Fridays are "Mommy confession days: No flame zone"
So basically...every Friday we all post a confession of something we did (as moms) that you never thought you would do, or you thought was funny, etc. It doesn''t matter what it is...because part of the rule is that there will be no flaming on the confession!
You in??
I''ll go first:
If one baby doesn''t eat the whole bottle, I feed the rest to his brother....in the same bottle. I figured a little germ sharing never hurt anyone.
Also...if I''m too tired I use the same water in the baby tub for both babies...UNLESS the first baby pee''d in it!. Poor baby #2 gets the colder and already soapy water...
I declare Fridays are "Mommy confession days: No flame zone"
So basically...every Friday we all post a confession of something we did (as moms) that you never thought you would do, or you thought was funny, etc. It doesn''t matter what it is...because part of the rule is that there will be no flaming on the confession!
You in??
I''ll go first:
If one baby doesn''t eat the whole bottle, I feed the rest to his brother....in the same bottle. I figured a little germ sharing never hurt anyone.
Also...if I''m too tired I use the same water in the baby tub for both babies...UNLESS the first baby pee''d in it!. Poor baby #2 gets the colder and already soapy water...
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