PS Mommy thread with toddlers 12-36 months

[lover in athens]

hi guys!!

i love reading the disciplining techniques. what an awesome resource you all are. i always pictured myself as the semi-strict type of mom, but so far i''m a total pushover. coby is pretty darn good, so it''s working ok, but i''m worried about what''s to come! i loved the idea of the chin grab, so i tried it the other night...it made him laugh hysterically. not kidding. he''s had that reaction to my "discipline" in the past too. guess i''m just not that scary!!!

sorry to be so me-centric (i think i have a tendency to do that), but i have another quick question for you guys...

can any of you guys give me some good weaning tips? coby is down to just 2 nursing sessions a day (first thing in the morning and last thing at night), but i just don''t know how to cut them out. i try going shorter and he just cries and signs for more more more. i try distracting him, but he keeps patting his chest (this is a new thing!). i think you all know that i''m a newly preggo (7 weeks), so i really need to get him weaned by 2nd trimester. i''m a bit worried since he REFUSES to drink milk. i feel like i''ve tried everything (including -gasp- chocolate milk...an even that didn''t work!)... the chocolate milk was my pedi''s rec. coby has his 15 mo appt this week so i''m going to see if there is anything else she suggests, but thought i''d try you guys as well!!

TIA!!!

 

[qtiekiki]

Puffy
A necklace would be nice. Can’t wait to see what you get.
So cute that B tell daddy about his day being mommy’s little helper.
M will definitely be curious and exploring the baby. She likes to look at babies in their infant seats when we go to. But if you ask her who’s the baby, she’ll point to herself. Hehe.

Tacori
Thanks. I hope she’ll adjust and sleeps on her own again. Yesterday night, I lied on the bed with her but not holding her, and she flopped all over the bed for an hour before finally falling asleep.
How funny Tessa put her doll in time-out. We haven’t tried time-out yet, mostly b/c we don’t have a spot where she could be contained.
Nephew’s daycare did the little report card too. I love reading it to see what he did and ask him about it. Sounds like T is doing fine in daycare, and the hardest part for her is just getting up and you leaving.

Lili
How’s J feeling? Poor thing keeps getting the bug.
Yeah no names yet. DH had been throwing names, especially when he is watching sport or TV. We can’t agree on one. There’re some that he threw out that I like, but nothing that I love yet. And he vetoed most of the ones I like. I told him that we should get at least a short list together, and we can decide after the baby is born.

Burk
No other idea for PP really. I didn’t get one for M, and it really wouldn’t bother me too much if I didn’t get anything for this baby. DH was the one who mentioned PP this time. I guess it’s b/c SIL kept asking him if he got me a PP last time.
Can’t wait to see some maternity pics on FB.
Hope you feel better, and so glad that T didn’t get the bug.

MrsS
Glad you got some you time back.

Jas12
We are working on a short list. I would find out the gender just for naming, so much easier to come up with one name than two. Hehe.
Awww hope you feel better. Second pregnancy is definitely harder. I felt heavier much earlier on and just exhausted, even though this pregnancy had also been relatively easy and symptoms-free.

LIA
No advices on weaning. I basically just stopped offering M the breasts when I was around 10 weeks pregnant, and she didn’t put up a fight. She refused to drink regular milk, and she never did. She drinks soymilk now, but just around 14 oz a day. I hope others will have more tips for you. Good luck.

 

[Jas12]

LIA--i am trying to think back to what i did to wean those final 2 sessions. Co was 16 mos and def. knew what he wanted so i found the AM session hardest to break. I think going away is what did it (i went on a 3 night trip with DH and just never resumed nursing). That''s probably not an option for you, so i would try distraction. Does he bathe at night ? Maybe you could try to nurse, then bathe and start getting him to associate bath as the last thing he does before sleep instead of boob with sleep, then, just go straight to bath after a week or so. Oh and Co wouldn''t go to any sort of milk right away either. I just weaned to water with a teeny tiny bit of %100 juice (i did this b/c breast milk is sweet and i wanted to ensure that he wouldn''t get dehydrated, but i omitted the bit of juice once he was easily downing fluid that wasn''t from me). A month or two after being weaned he started drinking almond milk and some goat''s milk. He''ll now drink almond milk from his cereal bowl! he loves it. So i just think it''s natural they don''t want another milk source when they have access to the best

The nice thing about late weaning is no bottles! I never had to break that habit and some babies go straight to a regular cup (i did sippy, but he''s regular cup now and it was a natural transition)

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Puffy, oh what a good boy B is. I cannot imagine Tessa saying or doing the things B does!

Lili, thanks friend. I also realized I have the same color clothing more than I thought. I posted the last two I had from my camera (I think). I need to get better about taking them. I love the two I posted when she was 6 months old with her chubby limbs and fluffy hair. So cute.

Burk, love the kids rooms. Is T in her new crib now? Did she notice a difference?

MrsS, I will keep my fingers crossed that J has school on Friday! You need a break mama!

Jas12, I am envious of you mamas with laid back kids. Oh well. T keeps me on my toes. So you think you will find out now?

Lia, I did not know you were pregnant! Congrats! My kid laughs with the chin grab too.

I have no weening tips since my kid is a freak and weened herself. Sometimes i think she is plotting to move out.

QT, I was shocked b/c today I had to give T a time-out b/c she would not let me change her diaper and she sat on her chair the whole time screaming "diaper, mommy! Change diaper!" It is amazing how willing she is AFTER she gets punished. I have been counting to three after the warning to give her the chance to make the right decision. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn''t. We are both learning.

 

[mrssalvo]

hi all, just wanted to share that the pathology came back on my sister and it was not a molar pregnancy

so they will be able to try again in a couple of months.

jake''s upset about something gotta run...be back in a bit!

 

[puffy]

jas12 do you think you will find out what you guys are having? hope you get to feeling better!!

LIA sorry no real advice as i kinda just let B wean cold turkey. but wanted to say CONGRATS again!

qt good work last night not holding M to sleep. hopefully she''ll get used to you not holding her. did she wake up last night?

tacori haha, T will be just like B soon i''m sure. that is so funny that when she is in timeout, she''ll want to do whatever it was that she didn''t do that got her in timeout. she is a funny girl for sure.

mrsS that is such great news for your sister!!!

 

[lover in athens]

JAS12: thanks so much! it''s nice to hear that coby was not the only crazy kiddo that didn''t want to drink other milk. he loves water, thank goodness, so that''s mainly what he drinks throughout the day. it gives me hope that maybe he''ll start drinking milk after he''s weaned too. i''ve been worried that i shouldn''t wean him before getting him to take another calcium-rich drink. also, i think the nursing prior to bathtime is a great idea, and one i''ve been thinking about trying. he gets a bath almost every night, but i figure on the nights he doesn''t i will at least nurse before pjs and see what happens...

QT: i will ask my pedi if i can try soymilk. thanks for the suggestion! hope you''re feeling well!

TACORI: LOL on plotting to move out!! the fb videos are so cute! i love the one from when she was a little baby. hard to remember them being so small!


MRS S: that''s GREAT news about your sister. i was really hoping it wasn''t a molar (they can be scary!).

LILI: hope J is feeling better. now that coby started in daycare, he has had a persistent runny nose and cough. it SUCKS

BURK: hope you''re feeling well!! love the pics on the nursery thread.

PUFFY: meant to tell you earlier that i LOOOVE your pressies! we are in this ridiculous legal dispute that''s costing us a fortune and dh joked the other day that it meant my presents were going to decrease in number. we both laughed b/c i think the last time i got a "real" present was my engagement ring almost 4 years ago! my birthday gift this year was a magazine, book, and chocolates from barnes and noble. he is NOT good at presents!!

 

[mrssalvo]

puffy-forgot to say, i think a necklace would be a great 2nd push present!

LIA-start planting the seeds now for a 5 year anniversary gift

my hubby and I will be celebrating 10 years this sept. and we were out to dinner last week at a Buffalo Wild wings where they have trivia going on some of the TV''s and the question came up as to what the 20 year anniversary gift is. Which brought up the "wonder what the 10 year is" and I chimed in "it''s an eternity band" Of course my hubby looked it up and the traditional gift is Tin but the modern gift is diamonds

Obviously it''s months and months away but I want him to be aware well in advance that an eternity band is what I want!

 

[mela lu]

LIA - I didn''t know you were expecting - CONGRATS!!!! So many second time Mommies here. Makes me jealous

I''m also interested to hear how people weaned. I plan on BFing exclusively at least until 1 yr old...but I want to keep the morning and night boob, well, indefinetly (sp?). How do you wean the daytime feeds? Just stop offering and give them other milk instead?

I can see how that could be problematic when they KNOW that the yummy milk is hiding under my shirt.

My BFF is preggo again and (being half French-Canadian) is considering the name Anais for a girl. SO PRETTY!

Mrs. Salvo - glad to hear about your sister

Tacori gulp. Tessa just makes me sweat a bit. Man, I have a deep apprieciation for your role as her mom. She''s adorable, which probably makes all the challenges worth it. phew.

 

[DivaDiamond007]

Re: Discipline. We tell James "no touch please" or just "no" depending on what he''s getting into. It''s getting tough because he is into throwing tantrums. When I say no I mean it and sometimes it makes him cry big crocodile tears

I know it''s good for him to set boundaries though so I try to be tough. His new game is to pull out the dining room chairs and get on top of the table

We take him down and say no sternly, he''ll cry crocodile tears for a few minutes and then go right back to it.

DH is much more of a pushover than I am tough!

Tacori - James'' daycare provider sends a report home with him too. She includes his temperment throughout the day, what he ate and how much, diaper changes, and whatever she had scheduled for him to do - books, crafts, outside play, etc. Even though he''s the youngest she has she still has specific activities planned for him when she has him which I love. It''s more like pre-pre-school

The older kids do age-appropriate things too.

Mrs. S. - I am so relieved to hear that your sister is doing well!

James had his 18 month well check last week and all is well. He''s 34" (90%) amd 30lbs (90%) - still a big boy!

 

[Burk]

mrss~Great news for your sister!!

puffy~That''s great that Noah is doing well. It was around 3 weeks that Tayva became a terror (food intolerance started to rear it''s ugly head, ect) so that''s all I know...so hoping Kade doesn''t go through the same stuff!! I know I might regret not doing the maternity pics but at this point I just don''t really care. Bad, I know!

Can''t wait to see the pics of the boys!

Jas12~Yea, big preggo lady, horrible weather, crazy toddler and sick is not my idea of a good time!! Sorry you''re not feeling well either. At least the weather will improve as you get further along so you won''t have to carry Co as much! Does Charlie want to find out boy/girl? I am so excited to hear what you''re having so I''d rather not wait until June if my vote counts!!

LIA~No advice on the weaning since I stopped BFing long before 1 year but wanted to say hello and congrats again on your pregnancy!

QT~If you have no other ideas for a PP take the laptop lady!

No maternity pics for me....cancelled my appt. Just don''t feel like it.

Tacori~Thanks. Both rooms are still a work in progress but they''re livable at least. T is in the new crib now and she is doing great now but the first nap she took in it was pretty rough because she new it was different and then for a while she kept going into Kade''s room and wanting to get in her old crib.

So with all this discipline talk my child has decided to test mine the past couple days!

She was in time-out at least 4 times today and it''s like she pushes just to see how far she can go and then once she''s actually IN time-out all she wants to do is whatever she was supposed to do in the first place (much like Tessa). This morning she refused to put her hat on. It''s 20 degrees outside. No hat is not an option. And we were late. So annoying!

 

[puffy]

LIA haha!! my DH SUCKS with gifts, most of the time. i started a long time ago to just give him a list of things i wanted and he would just pick off the list. then he became too lazy to go get me gifts so i go get them myself and say it''s from him. haha. but he did a wonderful job this christmas. good luck on the weaning!!

mrsS i''m liking the modern 10 year anni pressie!! hope you get the eternity band.

diva james IS a big boy!!

burk i don''t want to jinx things, but hopefully noah will continue to be somewhat easy just so i have tons of extra time with B. lately, i just feel bad for him. i know i give him all my attention when i can and i know he enjoys every minute we spend together, but i just feel like he feels like he doesn''t matter anymore. i know that''s not how he feels, but i don''t know.... hopefully it''s just a little stage that T is going through to test you. it does not sound fun at all! hope you are feeling better.

question for those mommies with 2 or more kids. like i was telling burk, i get the feeling lately like B feels like he doesn''t matter. i know he doesn''t feel that way. he''s as happy as can be ALL the time. ever since we bought noah home, he''s been helping me with everything, he''s tantrums have calmed down a lot, he loves noah to death, he kisses and hugs and wants to hold him all day long. it''s just ME...i feel bad for B. is it in my head?? when B asks me to do something with him or to hang out, and i am busy with noah, i feel bad for B. but i do make it a point to hang out with B right when i am free, and i never tell him i can''t because of noah. i just say that i''m busy and will be there soon. how do i get over this. i just get sad when i look at B sometimes even though he is laughing and just being his happy self. TIA!!

 

[janinegirly]

hi ladies!

LIA: congrats!! will you continue to work after #2? That is so exciting and can''t believe you are already preggo w/#2! I didn''t BF very long so no advice. How about mixing the 2 to start so he doesn''t notice the regular milk as much?

Burk: oh, T is testing you for sure! Hope she comes out of it soon..

puffy: aww, no advice since obviously only have 1, but I''m sure it is natural and it sounds like you''re doing the best you can! Once Noah''s a bit older it might feel more balanced. And B will be so much more well rounded since he has to learn a bit of independence too. And I doubt your DH was ever bad with gifts .

MrsS: sounds like an awesome anni gift to me..wow you''ve been married awhile!

so anyone have tips on how to pick up a reasonably priced 2nd carseat? Im looking at Maxi Cosi Prioris since I like the look and that it''s compact. I''ve looked at Albee Baby and haven''t found anything for cheaper so far. We''ll be using it for my mom''s car since she watches her regularly. She can''t squeeze into the infant one anymore, even if it''s for a short ride.

C''s new phrase is "there it is!". It''s so funny and reminds me of Jas12''s "there are you" video! She said it to my mom the other day...not sure my mom was too happy about being called "it"! hehe

 

[Jas12]

MrsS. --great news about your sister

and i do hope you get your eternity band!!! I want to upgrade to a 2c RB (maybe for my 5th wedding anni, 15th anni of being a couple), but that is a couple of years off and will require a trip to NYC to see mark T. But you gotta plant the seed early right?

Puffy--i think i am going to feel the same way when my # 2 comes along. The thing i try to remember is it''s only for a few months, really. Before you know it Noah will be crawling and playing and you can divide your time more evenly. The first months are so ''full on'' that you can''t avoid the extra attention on noah. B sounds like he is adjusting just fine, so at least you are lucky in that regard.

Burk--i feel for you. Would be nice if we could get together and whine over a decafe latte!!! Winter + toddler + pregnant + sick is just a bad combo all around & misery loves company! I hope T cooperates for you today!
Charlie does not want to find out the gender, but will do what makes me happy

. I change my mind from day to day. I have about 24 hrs to decide. May end up deciding when i am in there!

 

[lover in athens]

Thanks Mela and Janine for the congrats!

JANINE: yes, i will continue to work. i''m hoping to take 3 months off again (hopefully after the baby is born and not before too, like last time!). i only work 2 half days, and one full day a week so it''s pretty manageable!

MRSS: i LOOOVE your idea! dh definitely needs serious direction in the gift giving arena. another one of my favorites was a random book on running and some running shorts.

PUFFY: when i read what you wrote about b, it broke my heart. i''m having a lot of trouble grasping the idea of another little one...i don''t want coby to feel like he has to fight for my attention! dh tells me that i don''t seem as excited about this pregnancy, but that is totally the reason why. but i guess millions and millions of kiddos have gone through it before and survived. so i don''t really have any suggestions, but you have my sympathy. and it sure sounds like you''re doing everything right, and b really sounds like he''s thriving! hang in there!!

hope everyone is having a good day!!

 

[mrssalvo]

puffy, it sounds like you are doing exactly the right things. I have 3 kids and it''s hard finding one on one quality time with each of them. I have Jake all day so he''s not an issue but my time with the girls is much more limited. A lot of times I will do special things with each of them while Jake is napping. I also stagger bed time so I get about 30 minutes of one on one time with each of them to chat, read books, etc. before bed. Try not to feel guilty. B sounds likes he''s adjusting great and really b/f you know it Noah will turn into more of a playmate for B. Just keep carving special time for him and he''ll be fine. My hubby will often take one of our kids for a drive to a local old fashioned candy store and let them pick something out. he''s usually gone 20 minutes or so but the kid he takes feels so incredibly special to have that personal time with daddy. There is a book a read a few years ago on Love Languages for children that really helped me figure out what I could do that would make each one feel special and loved. my oldest is all about quality one on one time or words of affirmation, like notes on her napkin in her lunch. Lily really could care less about having one on one time but loves little gifts. So, figuring out what really speaks to B might help you so you can do those things and not worry so much about how much actually time you are spending with him or having him wait for something while you are attending to Noah. A baby''s needs are immediate and there isn''t anything you can do about that really. I did from time to time allow Jake to cry in his crib or something for a minute so I could finish if I was in the middle of something with one of girls. I just didn''t want them to think I would drop anything right away to rush to jake when I knew he''d be okay if he cried for a minute. It made the girls feel special and important and let them know that Jake didn''t always come first.

jas12-I always wanted to know the sex of my babies, I just couldn''t handle the suspense of waiting until the birth but I do think it''s cool for those that can and do! Can''t wait to find out what you decide!!

LIA-congrats on your pregnancy too!

burk and tacori-I feel for you gals. Jake is not there yet in the testing dept. He''s not as strong willed so I''d be surprised if it turns out to be a big issue but as both of know my LIly was and still is another story. My only advise is to stay consistent and follow up on any threat. I can remember wanting to just give in and get it over with b/c whatever was going on was so silly but it became more about a battle of the wills and me winning that the issue at hand. Mommies and Daddy''s must always win. So no matter what, make sure you win!

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 1/13/2010 11:41:15 AM
Author: mrssalvo

burk and tacori-I feel for you gals. Jake is not there yet in the testing dept. He''s not as strong willed so I''d be surprised if it turns out to be a big issue but as both of know my LIly was and still is another story. My only advise is to stay consistent and follow up on any threat. I can remember wanting to just give in and get it over with b/c whatever was going on was so silly but it became more about a battle of the wills and me winning that the issue at hand. Mommies and Daddy''s must always win. So no matter what, make sure you win!

LOL, that''s why I''ve learned to pick my battles...I''ve been there, done that, sitting there and thinking, ugh, I don''t want to duke this out with her! The one I decided not to pick was food/eating. That would would have been a battle royale. Thankfully, it has gotten so much better, but I''m still of the mindset of if you wanna eat, eat. If you don''t, starve.

re: children exploring - I think it''s still possible to set firm boundaries while letting them explore. The boundaries don''t have to put them in a box or anything. In our house, we do have some rules. No kitchen, no jumping on furniture, and no throwing toys except balls. There''s still plenty to explore. And there are other places where I don''t have any boundaries on her. The park for instance. Fortunately my child doesn''t eat sand, so I don''t have to worry about that, but she can explore to her heart''s content as long as she isn''t hurting anybody.

Oh, and to the no jumping on furniture thing - I told TGuy I am far more inclined to let Amelia jump on the bed than on the couch. First, I loved jumping on the bed when I was a kid, and for some reason I think those mini trampolines are more a recipe for disaster. Secondly, kids usually don''t encounter beds when they are out and about. My friends let their kids jump on the furniture and it''s really hard for them to keep their kids from doing it when they are out and about. This includes places like our other friends'' who don''t have kids homes (and they hate kids jumping on the furniture), the tea room at the Pennisula Hotel in Beverly Hills, and the lumpy booths at our local hole in the wall cafe where any shift in your body weight can be felt by the irritated person sitting behind you.

 

[Burk]

Puffy~Sorry you''re having a hard time. I think there really is no right answer because there''s only1 of you and 2 of them. One of my good friends had her two boys 20 months apart and she felt so horrible (like called me crying) for her infant son because she felt like since he was so easy she kind of ignored him to spend time with her older son....so I think as moms we''ll always be wanting to do more even when we physically can''t! Keep doing what you''re doing. It sounds like B is adjusting just fine.

janine~It doesn''t help that she''s testing me when I have very little patience (hugely preggo, sick, tired....

). As for second carseat, all of our seats are the Evenflo Triumph advance and we love them. I think I saw a couple patterns on Albee Baby on clearance right now too?

Jas12~Oh, I wish we could get together to complain!!

T had a better morning today...no timeouts at least. She''s a stubborn, indy girl so I guess I should just prepare myself for more of the same. What an excellent hubby doing what makes you happy! Game-time decision it may be. Can''t wait to hear!!!

mrss~I am so hoping Kade has a more laid back personality than Miss T....not sure I can handle TWO like this!

I feel like a broken record telling T "Mommy is in charge" over and over again. I agree, it''s important for her to know who''s boss and that I have to win...so far I''m in the driver''s seat but I worry about my DH!!

 

[snlee]

LIA, congrats again! Glad to see you around here more often too! I too am TERRIFIED of having PTL again. The thought of going on bedrest with a toddler around is so depressing to me but I know that whatever happens happens and we''ll deal with it. It''ll all be worth it in the end! I would try to wean the night time feeding first. Good for you for nursing so long! Good luck!

MRSS, great news about your sister! Hope you get that eternity band! You deserve it!

DIVA, wow James is a big boy! Funny how he''s more than half your size now. D is about half my size now. Crazy how fast they grow!

PUFFY, sorry to hear you''re feeling mommy guilt. No advice but I think what you''re feeling is normal. I think a lot of people feel that way, I''m pretty sure I will too. Hang in there!

JANINE, we just bought D a second car seat for the grandparents car. He had been using the infant car seat too. I bought the Cosco Serena since it has good reviews and is pretty cheap. Best part is I had a $50 gift card (from cash back) and only had to pay $2.50 more! Compared to Britax it really sucks (not much padding) but I knew that from reading reviews. He won''t be sitting in it that often and for only short car rides so I figure it''s okay if it''s not the comfiest.

 

[Burk]

Tgal, I totally agree with you about furniture! T is not allowed to stand/jump on couches or chairs. Now, in her bed....that''s another story. She was jumping on the bed(crib) the other day when she was supposed to be sleeping and that is just not a battle I''m will to fight. She''s contained in the crib so can''t get hurt and she apparently just needed to release some energy before sleeping.

 

[janinegirly]

Date: 1/13/2010 11:14:15 AM
Author: lover in athens
Thanks Mela and Janine for the congrats!

JANINE: yes, i will continue to work. i''m hoping to take 3 months off again (hopefully after the baby is born and not before too, like last time!). i only work 2 half days, and one full day a week so it''s pretty manageable!

MRSS: i LOOOVE your idea! dh definitely needs serious direction in the gift giving arena. another one of my favorites was a random book on running and some running shorts.

PUFFY: when i read what you wrote about b, it broke my heart. i''m having a lot of trouble grasping the idea of another little one...i don''t want coby to feel like he has to fight for my attention! dh tells me that i don''t seem as excited about this pregnancy, but that is totally the reason why. but i guess millions and millions of kiddos have gone through it before and survived. so i don''t really have any suggestions, but you have my sympathy. and it sure sounds like you''re doing everything right, and b really sounds like he''s thriving! hang in there!!

hope everyone is having a good day!!

Gosh that''s a great schedule, I''m jealous!!

 

[puffy]

janine awww, so cute with her there it is! it''s so fun to watch them learn new things isn''t it?

jas12 are you going to find out? it would be fun either way. i think it''s my problem more than B''s issue. i know he''s just fine and happy as can be. it''s just i feel guilty that i am not giving him all my attention all the time like it used to be. but yes, hopefully in a few short months, things will be better.

LIA i knew it would be kinda like this when i was preggo, but i guess i thought i was superwoman and could care for noah and play with B at the same time. apparent i am not! my brother and i are a few weeks shy of being 1 year apart and i think we both turned out pretty well, at least i did. how are you feeling?

mrsS thanks for sharing your experience. i know he loves for me to color wit him. he''ll color one page and i''ll do the opposite page, so today i went to get him a new coloring book and colored with him while noah was still snoozing.

burk yes, you are right! i know i''m doing things as best a can and anything more would just be about physically impossible, but i always want to do more for the kid. i was hanging out with B earlier when noah was crying so B told me to feed him...he said, "mommy, baby noah is hungry, you have to give him milk now." so i know B understands i have to tend to noah as well. how is T? still testing you?

snlee thanks! how are you and D?

today after the gym, i took B out to a quick breakfast. i pumped some milk and my mom gave a bottle to noah so B and i could have some extra time together. we went to one of his favorite local cafes, he loves their pancakes. so we shared some pancakes and eggs. it was a nice start to the day, even though i had to drag him out of bed.

 

[Jas12]

MrsS--ah, you are such a great mommy! I like all your ideas, esp the staggered bed time. Based on your other kids, do you think the temperment of a kid as a toddler is an indication of what they will be like as an adult? Was it true for your girls.?I hope our boys stay mellow and sweet

Puffy--yay for pancake time with B, that is so cute.

Burk--hope you are feelin better today & your indy chick cooperates. Maybe some day we''ll meet IRL !


I have a conference call at work this AM and then i am off to my 19 week scan. Still haven''t made the gender decision yet. Man, i am sooo terrible with decisions

 

[Burk]

puffy~I''m sure I''ll feel the same way when this baby arrives. You are just trying to do what''s right for your kids because you''re a good mommy!! You''re so lucky that B is doing so well....helps he''s a smarty pants!

T is doing good. She is testing her limits here and there like usual, not constantly like earlier in the week thank goodness. She has been asking me when she gets to go to the doctor to check on baby Kade all week....the appt is today so she''s so excited. She asked if we could go this morning at 8am!

Jas12~You better check in after your appointment!! I am so excited to hear the big news!

 

[mrssalvo]

Date: 1/14/2010 9:45:01 AM
Author: Jas12
MrsS--ah, you are such a great mommy! I like all your ideas, esp the staggered bed time. Based on your other kids, do you think the temperment of a kid as a toddler is an indication of what they will be like as an adult? Was it true for your girls.?I hope our boys stay mellow and sweet

Jas, I have found that their temperaments have remained very much the same from the toddler age on. Lily was a very quiet, easy, docile baby but by her toddler years she found her passionate/spirited side and it''s pretty much stuck. C was a higher maintenance baby/toddler but not one to push limits and a people pleaser and is still that way today. Both of them are love bugs though and love to cuddle, hug and kiss

Jake is a lover baby too and I fully expect him to stay being the sweet little man he his. My hubby said he is very similar in personality to his oldest son and he will be 20 on friday. He is such a gentleman and an all around nice guy so if Jake keeps those traits and ends up like his big brother I''ll be very happy. I would say Co will probably will keep on being mellow and sweet. oh and I love doing the staggered bedtime. It really is a special time for the kids and even for me. It also helps b/c the girls share a room and many times Lily is asleep b/f C even gets into bed which makes bedtime so much easier b/c they aren''t tempted to talk to one another.

speaking of Lily, on the way to school this morning my girls asked me why there is so much talk about Haiti. I explained the situation there and that the US and other countries are sending aid etc. Lily then chimed in that she wanted to send all her savings money to help. She has been saving for a new toy she really wants but changed her mind and wants to give it all to a charity to help Haiti. My spirited/strong willed girl also has the biggest giving heart which is so precious. I love when she turns uses her passion for good!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

T did great at preschool yesterday. The teacher said she loved that T doesn''t let the other kids push her around b/c she is the new kid.

Is it strange that makes me proud? Watch out kids, there is a new sheriff in town. Her teacher was also impressed by her verbal skills. I also met her music teacher who said T was great. Very into it. T didn''t want to leave. She wanted to play with a puzzle with me.

puffy, T IS a funny girl. You are missing out on all of our videos! You an awesome mom. I can only imagine how difficult it is to juggle two kids. It will work out!!!

LIA, it is difficult to remember her as a baby. Makes me kinda sad.

Mela, I will tell you what. It isn''t ALL bad having a spirited kid. There are advantages or at least that is what I tell myself to keep my sanity. She is tough for sure but she is so sweet, so funny, so kind. I love watching how she is becoming a little person and I never have to worry about someone pushing my kid around. She can hang with the boys, older kids, who ever. She is not intimidated or easily scared. That being said if I ever have a second I would love to try my hand at a mellow, laid back kiddo who loves to just chill and hang out.

Diva, I love the little reports. They also e-mail us (both the teacher and the elective teachers). T is difficult to discipline too. She will keep doing whatever she is not suppose to over and over and over again.

Burk, isn''t it funny when they are in timeout all they want to do is what you asked of them to begin with!?!

Tough little girls we have.

MrsS, I know you have a tough girl on your hands too. Just goes to show you it is the child not the parenting. Thanks for the advice. Everything is a power struggle with us.

Jas12, did you find out?!? Good luck with the job stuff!

 

[lili]

Burk--
Hope you are feeling better.
That's good T didn't catch what you had.
Oh, hush up...you may not feel attractive...but you are plenty attractive and sexy as a preggo.
I'll hold you to your words about posting more pictures on FB then

Jas12--
Ack, poor you.
Preggo, cold weather, and carrying a 27 pound toddler do not go well together.
How long is your winter up there?
I hope you can get some relief for your hip pain.
Oo....so did you find out the gender?

LIA--
Is Coby not drinking milk because he doesn't like the taste or is he just fighting you?
J was like that until I tried the munchkin straw cup for the whole milk.
She took to it and sure made weaning a whole lot less crying.
As for weaning techniques, let me see if I can recall the details since it's been more than half a yr ago when she was 14.5months.
I weaned cold turkey -- basically just cut both morning and night sessions.
The nighttime session was a bit more tearful since she can't be distracted w/ it.
She'd cried and ask for mama's milk and I let her eat a little....then pulled her off and told her that it's running out "no more milk, but plenty of cow's milk".
She cried and went to sleep.
Second night, she cried and I told her again....."mommy has no more milk, you'll have to drink cow's milk".
Third night, she asked for milk and I gave her the bottle. She didn't like it, but she didn't cry.
She'd be drinking the bottle but still caressing my boobs
And that was it. I was surprised by how fast she weaned.
Unless Coby is not eating during the day, I think you may just need to let him cry it out the first 2 days and tell him that you have no more milk because he understands.
Even now when J sees me changing, she'll point to my chest and said "mommy's boobs...no more milk"
Good luck w/ the weaning and congrats again on expecting #2.

QT--
Better get that short list ready cuz he may be here sooner than you think.
How is M doing w/ the bed?
Is she able to sleep her daddy by her side instead of you?

Tacori--
That's great that they send them home w/ a progress report.
Always nice to know what and how your kid like the activities.
Hehe...can't say I'm surprised that T is no pushover.
The teachers must be in love w/ that little firecracker.
Love the new videos.
T was so tiny then and her eyes were and still are gorgeous.
She'd lost alot of her baby rolls....but there are still alot of baby chub on her

MrsS--

So happy for the good news.
Hope she's preggo soon.
And good to hear that Jake is napping again.

TGal--
Haha, you are probably looking at what J is doing on the videos and shaking your head -- climbing on chairs and sofa and knocking things down.
You'd probably give my DH a lecture to know that he encourages J to jump on beds

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J is doing much better today, but still doesn't have her full energy back.
When she goes down for a nap w/o a fight, we know there is something wrong w/ her.
As I've mentioned on FB, Dr. thought that it was a stomach flu, but the last symptom (rash) appeared after the appt.
Turned out J had roseola.

 

[puffy]

jas12 did you find out?

burk how was the doc appt toady? did T go with you? if she did, i''m sure she enjoyed herself.

mrsS awww, what a sweet girl lily is with such a big heart.

tacori awww, that''s great that T did so well at school! and good thing she doesn''t let the other kids push her around!! i''m sure everything will work out. i guess i was just feeling a bit of mommy guilt for not being 100% with B all the time. but at least B understands and helps out with noah. i''m lucky i have B.

lily glad to hear J''s doing better.

 

[lili]

Date: 1/14/2010 3:52:48 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
...I love watching how she is becoming a little person and I never have to worry about someone pushing my kid around. She can hang with the boys, older kids, who ever. She is not intimidated or easily scared.

haha, just like her mama.

 

[lili]

Puffy--
Awww...what a big and helpful brother B is.
He''s so mature and understanding.
Yay for pancakes and eggs.
It must have been good for him and you.
How is Noah? Is he looking more or less like B now?

Janine--
Wow, 3 words phrases already?
That C of yours is going to be a talker ^.^
Can''t wait to hear her on tape

snlee--
No 2 pregnancies are alike

My sister was strickened w/ m/s for most of her first pregnancy, but the second was easy peasy with only a few weeks of nausea.
D needs a playmate