question for ALL brides - wedding drama!

[cleokizzy]

okay.... maybe this is a stupid question but i will still ask it:

would you rather have ALL the drama BEFORE or AFTER you get married?

lately i''m experiencing drama overload from both sides of the family and i don''t think i can take it anymore.

part of me is saying that it''s better that all the drama is coming out before i get married but... the other side of me is already complaining how much more drama i can possibly take?!? apart from the stress of planning my supposedly dream wedding, other people just want to add more stress in my life!

 

[sba771]

For me I think I would rather have it before the wedding as it would shape whether or not I decide to proceed with it. In my case this in fact happened, luckily time was on our side and we were able to deal with it, but there was a while when I was this close to canceling everything because drama over a videographer is just not worth it to me.

 

[FrekeChild]

I think before. After the fact, you can''t do anything about it.

This topic sooooo makes me want to vent.

 

[MeowMeow]

I think I agree. I''d rather have it BEFORE so I could see if it was drama I could handle or not. My fiancee has ALOT of drama with his family but considering my own, I''ve decided its something I can handle. I hope you feel better soon CleoKizzy!

 

[MonkeyPants]

So sorry to hear that there''s drama Cleo! My drama was in the very beginning when both sides of the family had lots to say but didn''t want to contribute anything...

We have about 7 months till our wedding and we make sure not to bring up any wedding planning related topics when we see my family or the FILs.

I think it''s better to have the drama in the beginning because once the wedding happens everyone will forget about why they were annoyed in the first place or it''s no longer relevant after the wedding. Usually the drama before is related directly to the wedding. Drama after the wedding is likely a bigger issue than the wedding...

I''ve had a couple glasses of wine so forgive me if this post isn''t clear...

 

[honey22]

I had a bit of drama before the wedding, and then everything went perfect for the day and all was forgotten!!! As MP said, drama after the wedding is probably a sign of something bigger, best to get it over with early

 

[bee*]

We were lucky in that we had no drama at all before the wedding (or after) but if we were to have had it, definitely before would be better. I''m sure everything will work out fine for you in the end. Weddings seem to bring out the worst in families sometimes. Sorry that you''re having lots of stress with the planning.