Quick question about etiquette and gifts at reception only events

[violet02]

My stepbrother wants us to include something about this at the end of the invite, he said:
"people will want to know about gifts as well. Gifts should be optional and should include a donation page in our name."

I said that if you dont attend the wedding then you dont need to gift. asking for gifts on an invite isn''t proper etiquette and his mom can do the word of mouth thing.

Thoughts/Opinions?

 

[VRBeauty]

I'm with you on mentioning gifts in any way on an invitation... huge no-no!

Ideally, gifts have nothing to do with attending the wedding or not... it's a question of wanting to honor/delight/whatever the couple or to help them as they start their life together. I mean, if someone close to you decided to elope or to have a small, family-only wedding, and didn't have any sort of reception... wouldn't you want to give some sort of gift to celebrate the event anyway?

BTW, when I was a kid, my mother always gave practical, household oriented wedding gifts. None of us were particularly well off, and I'm sure the gifts were appreciated!

 

[meresal]

Nothing about gifts on/in the invitation at all.

ETA: People have been to weddings before. If they want to give a donation, they will know what to do already.

 

[Clairitek]

I think you told him the correct thing. People will ask if they want to get a gift for the couple.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Oh no, no, no...I am with everyone else who said no mention of gifts or a donation on the invite. If people want to do, they will...but it should be an option left open.