Responses to your ring!

[iluvcarats]

Date: 12/24/2008 1:54:47 PM
Author: kaori
A cousin''s GF of DH has strong opinions about people in general, she especially made vicious comments back then when DH proposed to me wih his class ring. I recall her worst comment on my back then ering as ''the ghetto-est thing ever''

Lucky, I was too sick to hurt her when I heard her comment and I have been holding my regret ever since.

WOW! Not only is that comment mean and rude, it is also blatantly racist!

 

[Kelli]

Date: 12/24/2008 4:52:12 PM
Author: CdnBlingGal
I have a simple solitaire. I went into a local B&M and the jeweler had the audacity to say ''Your setting is boring. Anyone can have that.'' I answered, ''It''s timeless and classic. It won''t look gaudy in 10 years.'' After that, we thanked him for his time and left.

He was trying to up sell his own designs which are are his creations but IMO, they were chunky and ugly. He lost a potential customer.

Wow what an idiot!!

And Irishgrrrl I just adore your ring! The yellow gold looks so beautiful with all those sparkles!

 

[Madam Bijoux]

When I got my Royal Asscher, someone said to me "Like you needed that". Since when does need have anything to do with it?

 

[geckodani]

Date: 12/26/2008 2:47:38 PM
Author: Madam Bijoux
When I got my Royal Asscher, someone said to me ''Like you needed that''. Since when does need have anything to do with it?

LOL! Sheesh.

Just a funny story - At church on Christmas Eve, my pastor''s wife was talking to us, and said something along the lines of, "Oh my goodness, you''ve been married for a coupla years now haven''t you?"

I was answering that yes, we had been married a little over 2 years, when my mother grabbed my left hand, physically pulled my arm forward and shoved it under her nose saying, "Look! Look at her rings! She just got a new wedding ring! Isn''t it gorgeous!"

I was sooooo embarrased. Luckily my pastor''s wife is a cool lady and just oohed and ahhed. She did also comment that, "You must use some amazing cleaner on that ring because it is sparkling like MAD!" I smiled and said that yes, I was a bit obsessive about cleaning it.

I loved the attention, but really mother.

What''s she going to do when I someday get diamond earrings? Grab me and propel me forward by the ear?

 

[geckodani]

Just because I''m shameless, and this is pricescope, here''s the ring in question.

 

[Gullfoss]

I think guys can have green eyed monster syndrome too.

DH and I got engaged in college almost 9 years ago when neither of us had money but DH had a ring made that is very special to both of us. He and his older brother were roommates at the time. When DH told his brother about our engagement BIL looked ay my ring and said "It's so small. What is it, silver?"

What's wrong with plain old "congratulations"?

It's a .33ct rb set in white gold. A$$.

Oh well. DH and I have been married 7.5 years and he is still single and I have upgraded my center stone but still have the setting and a wonderful husband who put so much thought into it.

 

[NOYFB]

Luckily I have not gotten any rude comments. But I have had people mistaken it for a princess. I am always polite when correcting them, however. My friend, who knows nothing about diamonds, told me that a friend of hers likes "square diamonds, like yours" to which I had to explain that mine was actually octagonal, not square.

I personally am in the camp of "If you can''t say anything nice, don''t say anything at all". I just don''t understand how people can say such negative things about DIAMONDS!

 

[Irishgrrrl]

Date: 12/25/2008 11:46:34 PM
Author: Kelli

Date: 12/24/2008 4:52:12 PM
Author: CdnBlingGal
I have a simple solitaire. I went into a local B&M and the jeweler had the audacity to say ''Your setting is boring. Anyone can have that.'' I answered, ''It''s timeless and classic. It won''t look gaudy in 10 years.'' After that, we thanked him for his time and left.

He was trying to up sell his own designs which are are his creations but IMO, they were chunky and ugly. He lost a potential customer.

Wow what an idiot!!

And Irishgrrrl I just adore your ring! The yellow gold looks so beautiful with all those sparkles!

Aw, thanks, Kelli!

 

[HollyS]

I had a friend who designed (with her DH) her e-ring. It was a trillion set in yellow gold, in a very modern, artsy-fartsy way. I personally thought "Ugh." She told us that they had chosen a trillion because it symbolized the union of themselves and her daughter as a new family of three. Her new stepdad also gave the little girl a ring, and a public promise, during their wedding ceremony, because he said he was ''marrying'' her, too!

The point is . . . you never know WHY a particular style is important; why it has meaning. It is best just to say something vague and complimentary. And of course, it is never okay to openly criticize anyone''s bling. I don''t care how much you detest the other person.

 

[radiantquest]

i didnt read through them all, but wanted to post. most people said that it was unique, beautiful, antique looking. the rudest comment came from my mother. can you believe that? she said "hmm, is that anything like what you wanted? my reply was yes, it was exactly what i wanted, i picked it out.
i just thought she was being negative (as usual). it made me feel like she thought it was ugly and that my man did an awful job.

 

[Tuckins1]

Date: 12/26/2008 5:51:56 PM
Author: radiantquest
i didnt read through them all, but wanted to post. most people said that it was unique, beautiful, antique looking. the rudest comment came from my mother. can you believe that? she said ''hmm, is that anything like what you wanted? my reply was yes, it was exactly what i wanted, i picked it out.

i just thought she was being negative (as usual). it made me feel like she thought it was ugly and that my man did an awful job.

Sorry to hear that... Sometimes moms can be the worst offenders and not even realize it! I think they forget that they are speaking to another woman/adult... To them we''re still kids and they can say what they want.

 

[NeverEndingUpgrade]

Date: 12/27/2008 12:03:54 AM
Author: Tuckins1

Date: 12/26/2008 5:51:56 PM
Author: radiantquest
i didnt read through them all, but wanted to post. most people said that it was unique, beautiful, antique looking. the rudest comment came from my mother. can you believe that? she said ''hmm, is that anything like what you wanted? my reply was yes, it was exactly what i wanted, i picked it out.

i just thought she was being negative (as usual). it made me feel like she thought it was ugly and that my man did an awful job.

Sorry to hear that... Sometimes moms can be the worst offenders and not even realize it! I think they forget that they are speaking to another woman/adult... To them we''re still kids and they can say what they want.

AGREED! My mom has always been hyper-critical of me. I already know what she thinks about my jewelry habit. But then, she has a fine furniture habit so she really can''t say anything!

 

[elle_chris]

Date: 12/27/2008 12:03:54 AM
Author: Tuckins1

Date: 12/26/2008 5:51:56 PM
Author: radiantquest
i didnt read through them all, but wanted to post. most people said that it was unique, beautiful, antique looking. the rudest comment came from my mother. can you believe that? she said ''hmm, is that anything like what you wanted? my reply was yes, it was exactly what i wanted, i picked it out.

i just thought she was being negative (as usual). it made me feel like she thought it was ugly and that my man did an awful job.

Sorry to hear that... Sometimes moms can be the worst offenders and not even realize it! I think they forget that they are speaking to another woman/adult... To them we''re still kids and they can say what they want.

HUGE ditto to that! When my mom saw my e-ring, she goes "THAT''S WHAT YOU GOT" I was like, "what do you mean"? She goes on to say that''s not the setting she would have chosen. Gee, thanks mom.

 

[Harriet]

I agree!!!!!!!! My mum always wants to know how much I paid for something, be it a piece of jewellery or even an art lesson. Some of it is genuine curiosity because she''s never lived in the States, but some of it feels like a normative judgement. And, when I go home, the criticism starts at Arrivals.

 

[coatimundi_org]

Date: 12/27/2008 12:32:22 PM
Author: Harriet
I agree!!!!!!!! My mum always wants to know how much I paid for something, be it a piece of jewellery or even an art lesson. Some of it is genuine curiosity because she''s never lived in the States, but some of it feels like a normative judgement. And, when I go home, the criticism starts at Arrivals.

My long lost sis! I dare say we have the same mother...

 

[elle_chris]

Date: 12/27/2008 12:45:33 PM
Author: coatimundi

Date: 12/27/2008 12:32:22 PM
Author: Harriet
I agree!!!!!!!! My mum always wants to know how much I paid for something, be it a piece of jewellery or even an art lesson. Some of it is genuine curiosity because she''s never lived in the States, but some of it feels like a normative judgement. And, when I go home, the criticism starts at Arrivals.

My long lost sis! I dare say we have the same mother...

Same

The condemnation with me starts at: Phone rings- me, "hello" her, "didn''t you get my voicemail, why didn''t you pick up earlier, where were you??!!" me "sighs".

 

[Harriet]

Coats,
Maybe. That would explain a lot.

Elle,
Do you get those frantic calls and voicemails: "It''s nothing urgent, but call back if you can."

 

[elle_chris]

Date: 12/27/2008 3:06:39 PM
Author: Harriet
Coats,
Maybe. That would explain a lot.

Elle,
Do you get those frantic calls and voicemails: ''It''s nothing urgent, but call back if you can.''

Yes.

I''ve learned to ignore them.

 

[LuckyTexan]

A haven''t had anyone say anything to my FACE that was negative... of course things have gotten back to me...

"How can she wear that in this economy?" was my personal favorite.

Considering how much good I had done for that person... I won''t go into detail... it was quite insulting!


I don''t understand why people feel the need to ever criticize the choices of another person if those choices aren''t harming anyone else!

Jealousy? Who knows!

 

[LuckyTexan]

Date: 12/27/2008 10:39:12 AM
Author: NeverEndingUpgrade

Date: 12/27/2008 12:03:54 AM
Author: Tuckins1

Date: 12/26/2008 5:51:56 PM
Author: radiantquest
i didnt read through them all, but wanted to post. most people said that it was unique, beautiful, antique looking. the rudest comment came from my mother. can you believe that? she said ''hmm, is that anything like what you wanted? my reply was yes, it was exactly what i wanted, i picked it out.

i just thought she was being negative (as usual). it made me feel like she thought it was ugly and that my man did an awful job.

Sorry to hear that... Sometimes moms can be the worst offenders and not even realize it! I think they forget that they are speaking to another woman/adult... To them we''re still kids and they can say what they want.

AGREED! My mom has always been hyper-critical of me. I already know what she thinks about my jewelry habit. But then, she has a fine furniture habit so she really can''t say anything!

DITTO!!!
I forgot about what my mom said about my recent upgrade... "you have a perfectly good set already, why are you getting new ones?"... of course this was after I had reminded her of WHY I was getting new ones... so what she really meant was "I wish I had a husband who spent money on me like yours"... and "I wish I hadn''t just spent so much money buying this huge house in FL that I have to clean, cuz I''m too stubborn to hire anyone"... and "

"

 

[EyeElle]

Date: 12/27/2008 4:58:04 PM
Author: LuckyTexan
A haven''t had anyone say anything to my FACE that was negative... of course things have gotten back to me...

''How can she wear that in this economy?'' was my personal favorite.

Considering how much good I had done for that person... I won''t go into detail... it was quite insulting!


I don''t understand why people feel the need to ever criticize the choices of another person if those choices aren''t harming anyone else!

Jealousy? Who knows!

"How can she wear that in this economy?" haha that actually made me laugh because its so ridiculous.

I understand the economy is rough these days, but does that mean you can''t wear any nice things because of it?? Thats just crazy ... can''t wear a nice jacket, or drive that nice car, or wear your engagement/wedding set because of the economy ... complete nonsense!

Wear it with pride!!!!!

 

[onedrop]

I can''t believe how rude some folks can be!! We PSers are a gracious bunch aren''t we!

I was at a Christmas gathering with my girlfriends last week and they all were very complimentary about my recent re-set. One friend noticed it immediately saying that she thought my new setting sparkled more than the old one. I think they were surprised at the upgrade/re-set thing, but they took it in stride. Everything that was said (in front of me) was nice, but I found myself feeling uncomfortable with all the attention. Anyone ever experienced that?

 

[Bliss]

Date: 12/27/2008 8:23:15 PM
Author: onedrop
I can't believe how rude some folks can be!! We PSers are a gracious bunch aren't we!

I was at a Christmas gathering with my girlfriends last week and they all were very complimentary about my recent re-set. One friend noticed it immediately saying that she thought my new setting sparkled more than the old one. I think they were surprised at the upgrade/re-set thing, but they took it in stride. Everything that was said (in front of me) was nice, but I found myself feeling uncomfortable with all the attention. Anyone ever experienced that?

I have! It seems wasteful to some. But to others, it's totally understandable. Anyone can understand re-doing the kitchen, why not the sparkly? At a wedding recently, the bride kept saying how pretty my ring was and how it made her diamond look too small. It was very awkward, especially since her husband was standing right there among friends and family. I mean, at a wedding! Her own wedding! I kept saying how sparkly hers was and gorgeous. But that was really painful. We ran into them again the next day (resort) and she did the same thing over again! Her new hubby was really good natured about it. I think FI would have been incredibly hurt and humiliated had I done that to him in front of friends and family. Maybe it's a none too subtle hint for an upgrade?

 

[Tuckins1]

My friend who just recently got engaged had an encounter with a woman at her work who was quite snarky. My friend just received her ring on thanksgiving, and couldn''t be more excited! Her FI did the best he could with the budget that he had and got her something that she loves.(Linky)
This woman comes over to my friend''s desk and says "Oh! Can I see your ring?... And proceeds to place her left hand (she''s right handed) right on top of my friend''s hand. (She has quite a large ring herself) She says... "What is that, like a quarter carat? Third carat?" My friend replies "Actually, it''s a half carat, and I love it! I would have been happy with just a band! My baby loves me so!" The other woman was really trying to get my friend and the other employees to notice her ring and make comments... Clearly trying to steal her thunder! I hate when people do that! It''s just rude!

 

[October2008bride]

Date: 12/27/2008 8:23:15 PM
Author: onedrop
I can''t believe how rude some folks can be!! We PSers are a gracious bunch aren''t we!

I was at a Christmas gathering with my girlfriends last week and they all were very complimentary about my recent re-set. One friend noticed it immediately saying that she thought my new setting sparkled more than the old one. I think they were surprised at the upgrade/re-set thing, but they took it in stride. Everything that was said (in front of me) was nice, but I found myself feeling uncomfortable with all the attention. Anyone ever experienced that?

Onedrop - have you posted pics of your reset? I''d love to see it.

So far I haven''t received any negative comments about my ring. All positive so far! (to my face anyways). Sometimes I get the "oh I wouldn''t put diamonds around the band because it would be too much" comments - but usually I believe that they are just being honest about their likes/dislikes, not making a comment against me. Who knows

 

[Gypsy]

RQ.... mothers can be the worst. I had a similar experience when I re-set my ring. Both my mother and my grandmother had the exact same reaction... and they weren't anywhere near each other in the house when I wore it for the first time, and had no idea what the other had said.

My ring has a halo around the center stone, but I designed it with a high polish shank instead of a pave shank. Lots of reasons for that design choice, none of them because it would have saved me money, because it wouldn't have. I could have chosen from 100's of stock settings if that's what I had wanted. But I had to be a PITA and go custom.

My mother: "Is this what you've been waiting so long for? Why is the band like that? Honey, if you needed extra money to get a nicer setting you could have just asked me, and that way the band could have diamonds too. It looks strange, incomplete. Can you add diamonds in the band? I'll pay for it."

Seriously. Both of them. Within five minutes of each other. They thought my custom platinum setting was a budget setting, wondered WHY I didn't ask them for money so that I could 'complete' the ring.

. To this day A) I have not told them what the setting cost (they'd have a heart attack, and it's no one's business) and B) they cannot believe I prefer this design to one with diamonds in the shank, and C) still think I'm lying to myself when I tell them that it would have cost LESS to get a setting with diamonds in the band.

 

[LaraOnline]

Date: 12/27/2008 8:46:18 PM
Author: Bliss
Anyone can understand re-doing the kitchen, why not the sparkly?

Yep, that''s a great analogy. People ''get'' renovating the house...
and Tuckins... how''s your friend''s workmate''s form??!! That''s ridiculous! Not very well-mannered, is it? Your friend sounds like she really took it in stride though.

Luckily, I have never had a ''competitive'' experience regarding rings, especially engagement rings. Perhaps when I get my li''l upgrade

the competitive girls will come out of the woodwork?

 

[onedrop]

Date: 12/28/2008 12:33:05 AM
Author: October2008bride

Date: 12/27/2008 8:23:15 PM
Author: onedrop
I can''t believe how rude some folks can be!! We PSers are a gracious bunch aren''t we!

I was at a Christmas gathering with my girlfriends last week and they all were very complimentary about my recent re-set. One friend noticed it immediately saying that she thought my new setting sparkled more than the old one. I think they were surprised at the upgrade/re-set thing, but they took it in stride. Everything that was said (in front of me) was nice, but I found myself feeling uncomfortable with all the attention. Anyone ever experienced that?

Onedrop - have you posted pics of your reset? I''d love to see it.

So far I haven''t received any negative comments about my ring. All positive so far! (to my face anyways). Sometimes I get the ''oh I wouldn''t put diamonds around the band because it would be too much'' comments - but usually I believe that they are just being honest about their likes/dislikes, not making a comment against me. Who knows

Octoberbride: I am a bad PSer!! I haven''t posted pictures of my re-set yet...I''ve tried to get good shots and just can''t seem to capture the rings they way I want. However....when I do finally get some good ones I will post right away!! My friends were cool about the whole thing, but I don''t think all of them *get* the notion of up-grading. Only two of us are married so maybe that''s why. I can remember an acquaintance changing her original engagement ring from WG to platinum, and I think she ended up getting an entirely different style of ring shortly thereafter. And I remember thinking,"wow, the first one wasn''t good enough for her???" Fast forward 5 years, and here I am in the same boat! So now I *get* it.

Ironically, the other married friend in my group got an upgrade as well, but I think I am the only one who noticed that. I guess I am a ring stalker!

bliss: I guess there is an upgrade in that bride''s future!! LOL

 

[Kelli]

Date: 12/26/2008 5:18:24 PM
Author: Irishgrrrl

Date: 12/25/2008 11:46:34 PM
Author: Kelli

Date: 12/24/2008 4:52:12 PM
Author: CdnBlingGal
I have a simple solitaire. I went into a local B&M and the jeweler had the audacity to say ''Your setting is boring. Anyone can have that.'' I answered, ''It''s timeless and classic. It won''t look gaudy in 10 years.'' After that, we thanked him for his time and left.

He was trying to up sell his own designs which are are his creations but IMO, they were chunky and ugly. He lost a potential customer.

Wow what an idiot!!

And Irishgrrrl I just adore your ring! The yellow gold looks so beautiful with all those sparkles!

Aw, thanks, Kelli!

welcome

 

[Harriet]

Elle, what''s your secret?