RSVP Etiquette

[jorman]

Okay...our small (only75-90 guests- mostly family) BBQ RSVP date was the 15th and we are still missing many RSVP''s.

Is the standard procedure to call these guests and ask them if they are coming or not? I don''t want to be rude.

Thanks for your help girls!

-Janna

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Haha, your thread hits close to home. My wedding is the 12th and we are missing SOOOO many RSVPs! What is wrong with these people? They are addressed and already stamped. Just send the damn thing!

 

[jorman]

I know! How HARD is it! It is DUMB PROOF! All you have to do is say "Yes" or "No".
CHECK THE BOX, LICK THE ENVELOPE, INSERT INTO MAILBOX! Voila! It''s not rocket science!

 

[monarch64]

You should totally call the guests who haven''t responded. Just tell them you need to know whether to reserve a place for them or not, and that you need to give your final head count to the caterer or reception site. It''s not rude of YOU to call them, it''s rude of THEM not to respond! My mother took care of the rsvp''s for my wedding and she was on the phone with all of those who hadn''t responded about 14 days before the wedding, trying to pin people down.

 

[jorman]

Maybe I should employ the services of a family member to call. That way it isn''t me cracking the whip. Not that I mind, but then they don''t feel awkward. Hmmm....

 

[FireGoddess]

Date: 7/18/2006 4:40:23 PM
Author: monarch64
It''s not rude of YOU to call them, it''s rude of THEM not to respond!

Ab-so-freaking-lutely the way I see it. I emailed as many people as I could, so as not to completely be in their face, but I absolutely called those who I couldn''t email or who didn''t respond to the email. I just said - look, I don''t want to put you on the spot here, but I need to have a headcount for the caterer or whatever and have to get answers from those who didn''t RSVP. You don''t need to feel badly if you can''t come - I just need to know the headcount.

Since I paid for my own wedding, I called the stragglers. If your parents are contributing, you may wish to have them call the stragglers so it doesn''t seem like you are confronting them. However, I have no problem with them thinking whatever they want, since it was RUDE in the first place not to bother answering with a simple yes or no.

 

[KimberlyH]

I enlisted the assistance of my parents to call anyone on my side who didn''t respond, fiance was responsible for his side. We''re still a few short but we don''t have to turn in a final headcount until August 2, so we''re in pretty good shape.