Should I wear my ring??

[LostSapphire]

I like living "just bending the rules" a bit.

Here''s a thought: Don''t wear the ring. Have FI put it on his pinky finger and show it around. Or keep it in his pocket.

LS

 

[AprilBaby]

GO FOR IT!

 

[blondebunny]

hey, so what you are ALREADY engaged?!?? I thought u werent yet, but would be in the end of October or whenever ur ring was done???

Second, I would wear the ring...

Thirdly, I would sit down with the both of them and have the following convo...
Tell them 1, its ridiculous for you not to get engaged for whatever stupid timeframe they gave you...
2, Tell them if they are going to make you follow to their stupid rules, they should adhere to yours as well, and maybe just give them the stupid rules of 1) your sister is NOT allowed to get pregnant until a YEAR after your wedding.. thats right.. because YOU deserve a whole year too.. hehe

2) I dont know maybe come up with some other silly request so that they will see how stupid and silly theirs was... AND if they said those rules are just stupid/silly, be like "Well, gee they sound just like the one you gave me..."

Lastly, do you think they might come up with some excuse that they wont be able to afford a wedding for you too?? If so,and if you dont mind, I would say oh no worries we plan on eloping since we figured ya''ll would want to come or something snarky along those lines...

ok well goodluck and let us know what happens!!

 

[KatM]

this is such a terrible position they put you in. if it were me, i would happily agree to whatever demands they make, then go off and do exactly as i please. if it were me, i would wear the ring to the wedding and say nothing about it. if someone tries to call you on it, insist that you aren''t engaged. if they persist, just keep denying it.

 

[IluvEmeralds]

Date: 9/6/2008 4:20:58 PM
Author: blondebunny
hey, so what you are ALREADY engaged?!?? I thought u werent yet, but would be in the end of October or whenever ur ring was done???

Second, I would wear the ring...

Thirdly, I would sit down with the both of them and have the following convo...
Tell them 1, its ridiculous for you not to get engaged for whatever stupid timeframe they gave you...
2, Tell them if they are going to make you follow to their stupid rules, they should adhere to yours as well, and maybe just give them the stupid rules of 1) your sister is NOT allowed to get pregnant until a YEAR after your wedding.. thats right.. because YOU deserve a whole year too.. hehe

2) I dont know maybe come up with some other silly request so that they will see how stupid and silly theirs was... AND if they said those rules are just stupid/silly, be like ''Well, gee they sound just like the one you gave me...''

Lastly, do you think they might come up with some excuse that they wont be able to afford a wedding for you too?? If so,and if you dont mind, I would say oh no worries we plan on eloping since we figured ya''ll would want to come or something snarky along those lines...

ok well goodluck and let us know what happens!!

Hi Blondebunny,

WOW, those are all really good suggestions...I''m going to have to save this thread so that I remember those!! As for the whole FI/FF thing...we honestly don''t know WHAT to call each other right now! (I think it''s funny)

He asked me before we decided to do a custom job @ a local jeweler, but then again we both agree we don''t FEEL engaged until I have the ring. Plus we can''t/aren''t telling people right now...so it all seems like our little secret. I have days where I''m okay with it, and I like that it''s our secret, and others where I just want to SCREAM

and tell someone...who knows.

I promise to deliver regular updaes! Right now I''m dealing with the jeweler and a probable delay with the ring...so who knows it may not even be ready in time and I did all this stressing for nothing!

 

[Gwyn]

Im feeling particually snarky today. How about, if the ring is ready, you don't wear it.

Have your FI bring it with him and during the toasting he should take the mic and propose to you.

If I missed that suggestion in earlier posts then consider my post a second for that path!

I am not sure why but each time i read this thread I get a little more annoyed. The nerve of some people (emerald's family not posters).

 

[vespergirl]

If you''re already engaged and getting the ring before the wedding, you should wear it. I can''t imagine any family member being petty enough to ask you to pretend that you''re not engaged because it makes your sister jealous or something - that sounds childish.

However, if you''re not engaged yet, then I wouldn''t pick your sister''s wedding to be the day to announce your engagement and wear your ring for the first time. That''s only one day, but it should be her day in the spotlight - but as early as a week later you can announce your engagement, IMHO. Once the wedding is over, it''s over. Anytime afterwards is fair game.

 

[AllieLuv83]

I think it would only steal her thunder if you announced your engagement at the wedding or if you are seeing a ton of relatives for the first time that have yet to hear about the engagement. In that case I would wait. But then again if this is something that will be kinda old news by the time the wedding rolls around I don''t see a problem. I don''t really see a problem all together, I think guests would be smart enough to realize that it is your sisters day and congratulate you at an appropriate time!

 

[trillionaire]

You could always wear it on a chain, or as a right hand ring. You can still get the compliments, and maybe less of the drama.

FWIW, you should probably tell you family that you ARE engaged and have been for some time before you just show up with said ring.