So I''ve stopped wearing my diamonds....

[reader]

If you want a larger diamond, why not pay for the difference yourself?

 

[ursulawrite]

Date: 10/14/2006 11:50:37 PM
Author: reader
If you want a larger diamond, why not pay for the difference yourself?

Because my husband would take that as an upper cut to the jaw. He''s a major romantic and sentimentalist and has expressed, on several different occasions, that an upgrade is not on the cards; for a 10th anniversary or something, yes, but that would be a completely new stone and not a replacement.

Guess I''ll just have to be patient for another 6.5 years

 

[reader]

Mine would see me not wearing the diamonds as an insult and would get peevish about me not wearing them...and be less likely to buy more...each man reads women very differently don''t they...

 

[february2003bride]

Date: 10/16/2006 10:04:44 PM
Author: ursulawrite

Date: 10/14/2006 11:50:37 PM
Author: reader
If you want a larger diamond, why not pay for the difference yourself?

Because my husband would take that as an upper cut to the jaw. He''s a major romantic and sentimentalist and has expressed, on several different occasions, that an upgrade is not on the cards; for a 10th anniversary or something, yes, but that would be a completely new stone and not a replacement.

Guess I''ll just have to be patient for another 6.5 years

Since you know that, I''d drop it. A larger diamond, for any reason, is not worth a damaged relationship with your husband.

 

[february2003bride]

Date: 10/14/2006 11:17:24 PM
Author: aljdewey

Date: 10/10/2006 12:20:48 PM
Author: Mara

i know if i go out with just my w-ring on, like i do some saturdays for my workout, or similar, if greg sees me, he asks where my e-ring is. this always makes me laugh because i hardly go without it but he is like a hawk eye and notices when i don''t have it on.

That''s because when he doesn''t see it, he breaks out in HIVES wondering if it''s in the hands of a bench jeweler getting another upgrade! LOL

LMAO. Just kidding.

In all seriousness, I think that it''s awesome he understands your passion about diamonds. Just as he''s passionate about his cars, he knows that diamonds are your thing, and he''s supportive. That''s great.

Seriously I just choked on my water reading that! LMAO!

 

[Morticia]

Hey Ursula, I just went to sneak a peek at your e-ring and wedding band and LOVE them. They are gorgeous. I am from NYC too, lived there for a long time, and just moved to Houston. My e-ring is not what I would prefer, style or size, so I do know how you feel. I too and thinking about just wearing a plain band until I get the upgrade I want. And in NYC, it''s hard. There are some big honking rings there. It''s easy to get diamond envy or experience shrinkage. However, a 1.3 ct on a size 3.5 finger looks huge probably. Ignore those people who make negative comments. Your ring is gorgeous.

 

[partgypsy]

Ursula, I think this is such an interesting topic, in so many ways. I do not live in an area where people wear large jewelry, and in fact had the opposite feelings wearing a diamond ring since many people I know are artists and wear vintage/costume jewelry; a number of women I know don''t even regularly wear their engagement ring, just a plain or designer wedding band instead. So people may judge me (negatively) for wearing large diamond pieces. Because I work in a hospital with vets, if anything do not want to flaunt expensive jewelry because I do not feel it would be appropriate. My former boss was a larger than life women an amazing person who worked at the VA but also wore colorful skirts and tops, was gorgeous, and along with other beautiful jewelry wore a large "diamond" ring. I assumed it was real but she would laugh and tell you it was cz if you asked, no apologies. To her it was more important to spend the money on other things, but you can be sure from the way she carried herself she would not get poor service or be snubbed for wearing a cz.
So, among other things: it''s not what you wear, but how you wear it. I think your own feelings about your ring are subconsciously affecting how you behave around people.
Second, unlike other people around here I say don''t wear the ring if it doesn''t bring you happiness. Not wearing the ring is another way of saying "homey don''t play that game." Wear a plain ring, better yet, auction off your ring and give the proceeds to a charity that you admire, and if anyone asks you why you aren''t wearing a big engagement ring you can tell them, so they can feel stupid how shallow and materialistic they are!!!

For a jewelry standpoint, I would also suggest wearing, maybe as a right hand ring a beautiful gemstone. For some reason with diamonds people get caught up in this bigger is better, materialistic comparision that is just not healthy, better to get a ring even if one carved out of bone that you enjoy to express your personality and for its esthetic value, than as some marker as what your net worth is.

 

[divergrrl]

Why don''t you set it in a halo setting? I mean, my little 1+ carat now looks like a honker ring. And the thing I like about halos is that they don''t look like you are "trying" to make your ring look bigger, but that you have a gorgeous vintage inspired style.

I mean really...the wattage, its unbelievable. Women with much larger stones than mine gush over it.

Ritani''s endless love setting is amazing in the round.

Cutey TT has a great halo ring.

I''m in love with MR. H does too.

There are so many halos on this thread...I''ll see if I can get some pics.

Jeannine

 

[ladykemma]

Date: 10/9/2006 7:19:37 PM
Author:ursulawrite
And you know what, it feels great.

Over the past few years I've had pretty snide comments about my rings. At 1.3 carats, my e-ring is half the size of most in our circle -- a fact that has, much to my initial surprise, not gone unnoticed. Then there's the bad service I've gotten in high-end department stores; it makes me sad to say it, but I feel as though I've been -- inadvertently and unwillingly -- part of some elaborate show-off game. So I've reverted to wearing a platinum band and although I miss my sparklies some days, I have yet to tire of being free of the sidelong glances uber-competitive NYC women dish out.

Please tell me I'm not the only one to have gotten negative comment after negative comment, to the point where one just can't be bothered with the hassle any longer? (Or are you all 'to hell with it' tough nuts ?)

totally bored and looking at old threads. just re-read the thread about debt and remind ursula that she is proud of her "paid for" apartment. bet those other people don't have "paid fer" housing.