So sad :-(

[chocolatefudge]

I have no idea when my bf will propose, but he has been saying lately that he''s been thinking about it a lot and it will happen soon (we have been together for almost 7 years!)
I had got it into my head that he would propose at Christmas and have been trying to be really good and not mention it at all. Anyway, we were just talking about what we were buying people for Christmas and I said to him, "Do you know what you are getting me?" To which he replied, "No! I wanted to speak to you about that I really haven''t got a clue this year!"
He was soooo genuine! Usually he would smile a bit if he was lying but he didn''t. I feel gutted as I was really getting my hopes up for a Christmas proposal. I suppose I will just have to wait and see but I feel so sad now
The problem is that "soon" to him is not the same as my meaning of "soon" so it could be another year or more!!

 

[bubbly1126]

Classic case of ''boy soon'' vs. ''girl soon''

Same boat I''m in so I feel for ya!

Just remind yourself how lucky you are to have such a great man. He''ll ask when the time is right!

Keep smiling!

 

[lucy.lucy.80]

Reading your post gave me flashbacks....

My birthday (this past summer) was coming around and I asked my bf what he was getting me. (after much convincing) he did and it wasn''t an e-ring (weve been together almost 7 yrs). I was disappointed and although I tried to hide it, he saw saw my mood change instantly which got us into the whole where is this relationship going discussion b/c I was hoping for an e-ring.

He told me he did want to marry me and had already asked for my parents blessing but he just hasn''t found the right e-ring yet. Although it''s 6 months later and I am still waiting for the proposal (hopefully it will happen this holiday season!!) I totally regret prying for information b/c since then I have been a little obsessed now waiting to see what happens.

My whole point in this story is that you never know and maybe he just wants it to be a suprise so try not to get disappointed

Hopefully you have a short wait

 

[HollyS]

Date: 11/9/2007 3:47:37 PM
Author:chocolatefudge
I have no idea when my bf will propose, but he has been saying lately that he''s been thinking about it a lot and it will happen soon (we have been together for almost 7 years!)
I had got it into my head that he would propose at Christmas and have been trying to be really good and not mention it at all. Anyway, we were just talking about what we were buying people for Christmas and I said to him, ''Do you know what you are getting me?'' To which he replied, ''No! I wanted to speak to you about that I really haven''t got a clue this year!''
He was soooo genuine! Usually he would smile a bit if he was lying but he didn''t. I feel gutted as I was really getting my hopes up for a Christmas proposal. I suppose I will just have to wait and see but I feel so sad now
The problem is that ''soon'' to him is not the same as my meaning of ''soon'' so it could be another year or more!!

Patience, patience. I speak from experience; I waited a long time.

Maybe, like my own wonderful man, your BF wants it to be special and unrelated to any other event in your lives -- making it stand out in its significance. Dave had told me, long before we were seriously looking at possible rings, that he would never propose at Christmas, my birthday, Valentine''s Day, or at any other obvious time. He truly wanted it to be just about us, and did not do it publicly, around family, in haste, or as a "by-the-way".

Let your BF truly surprise you; or at least make it special for you even if you know it is coming. Don''t hurry the process and get less than what he hoped to do for you.

 

[bee*]

oh I feel your pain! When I spoke with D last year he told me soon and I thought great within the next month of two then. When I asked him what soon was to him he said that it would be in the next 18 months! Try not to feel too disappointed if it doesn''t happen at christmas. It will be worth the wait.