Someone please slap me...

[gladyskristen]

...for getting hopeful again so soon! Sorry, this is kinda long, so pls bear with me...

About 2 months ago, BF and I broke off our engagement cos of some long-standing r/s problems that we''re in the midst of fixing now. These 2 weeks, I''ve been feeling really good about how things are turning out, cos we''re FINALLY communicating (without getting angry) and have became more loving towards each other than we ever were before, although we''re doing a LDR for these few mths(I''ll be in Sydney til end of Nov, he''s in Singapore). We both felt that our needs are being met and he said that he feels "happy tt we''re both working on it". He was even contemplating coming over in mid-Nov to spend some time with me before flying back to Singapore together. I was quite surprised by that, cos he mentioned a while earlier that we should really be saving up cos we intend to buy an apartment in 3-4 years'' time. The air ticket will cost over A$1000. I reminded him about that, and he said "Cos I miss you...". Hearing that from him of cos made my heart swell.

Now, I can''t help but allow myself to think that MAYBE there''ll be a re-proposal after I return to Singapore! I even started PS-combing for possible settings for my would-be new ring. OMG, someone kill me pls, I really shouldn''t be thinking this way, cos I''m probably just setting myself up for a big disappointment if it doesn''t happen...

 

[Smurfysmiles]

It sounds like his visit is really only that. Sorry for being so blunt. But if you guys are currently working on relationship issues, then an ering is probably the last thing that is on his mind right now. He probably is more focused on rebuilding that connection with you that made him want to propose in the first place. Enjoy him being there and please try not to focus your energy on a proposal that probably is not coming; you don''t want the stress of asking will he or won''t he to preoccupy the short visit you have with him.

 

[sklingem]

Hi GK,
I am happy that you guys seem to be working things out! Honestly though, your mind should not be on buying any appartment or re-proposals but on fixing your relationship ... ?

 

[bee*]

Hi gladys, I would just concentrate on getting things right with your bf. It''s brilliant that things are starting to sort themselves out but I would give it more time. I know that it''s hard to do that, especially after being engaged already, but give it longer than a few months. Wait until you''re back in the same place and make sure that you''re both happy and then I''m sure it will happen.

 

[gladyskristen]

Smurfysmiles: I think I really needed someone to remind me that right now, what is most impt is to work on our r/s and rebuild wot was damaged. I guess a part of me knows that it won't be a good thing for us to get re-engaged anytime soon, and it's probably not something on his mind either, but I'm suffering from a bit of bling withdrawal symptoms after returning him the ring. Thanks for the reminder.

rob09: The part about buying an apartment was actually his idea, not mine.

bee*: Yeah, I'm really looking forward to us finally being in the same place. It's hard to work things out with the physical distance between us.

Thanx for ur replies! I really need to put my diamond craze aside for the time being and focus!

 

[Smurfysmiles]

glad to hear ya got your ducks in a row

 

[trillionaire]

Is it common to get a new ring if you break off an engagement? I guess I assumed that you would be re-presented with the same one?

 

[vita*dolce]

ditto to above posters! you need to just focus on the good things that are happening now and try not to think about proposals for the time being. it''s great that you''re finally starting to feel like you''re on the same page, enjoy this new phase of your relationship! i know it''s hard not to think about a possible engagement, especially when you''re a PS addict like myself. good luck!!

 

[gladyskristen]

Trillionaire: We talked abt this a while ago and he said tt when the time comes, he''ll wanna have a new ring made with the diamond from the old ring. Cos he said tt he''s got more money now, and he knows tt I wanted platinum all along anyway. We went with WG back then cos of budget constraints. So it''s just a setting upgrade, and upgrades r always gd I guess!