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Sometimes the world just isn''t fair....
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Glad to hear your mother is in better spirits, as research has shown that a positive attitude can really have an impact on recovery from illness. Just take one day at a time dear. Before you know it, you will be getting married and graduating with your mother there to see you. Please also make time to take care of yourself during this stressful time. Perhaps speak with a counselor at your school, just to unload your frustrations and sort out your emotions.
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Thank you so much for all of your thoughts and prayers.
I talked to my mom a little bit ago and she had her best friend there, so I kept it brief. They had taken her temperature and it was over 100. So her oncologist was calling for more blood cultures-and my mom told them, "No. I don't want any blood cultures. You send in someone who can actually TAKE A TEMPERATURE and then if its still high, then I will have tests." And then she told me she was being a PITA and that they probably all hate her. I'm thinking she doesn't like her nurse.
So I'm glad she's feeling good enough to be a PITA, but I'm really hoping her temp is normal...
I talked to my mom a little bit ago and she had her best friend there, so I kept it brief. They had taken her temperature and it was over 100. So her oncologist was calling for more blood cultures-and my mom told them, "No. I don't want any blood cultures. You send in someone who can actually TAKE A TEMPERATURE and then if its still high, then I will have tests." And then she told me she was being a PITA and that they probably all hate her. I'm thinking she doesn't like her nurse.
So I'm glad she's feeling good enough to be a PITA, but I'm really hoping her temp is normal...
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Freke, I''m so sorry hunny. ::Big Hug:: My dad is in the hospital right now too- he''s battling Glioblastoma, the crappiest form of brain cancer there is (average survival upon diagnosis is 3-12 months). So, with my wedding just 3 months away I know how you feel. Every day is a battle, and there''s lots of ups and downs- of course more downs then ups. With that being said, please stay positive, and take care of yourself. That''s the most important thing right now for everyone. Your mom needs you to be healthy both physically and emotionally to help her during this time. Also, you may want to consider speaking to a professional if you find that the stress becomes really hard to manage. I''m at the point where I''m ready to find a therapist. Lots of prayers for your mom and your entire family are coming your way.
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Freke, I'm so sorry for your mom and you, and I'm sorry I'm so late seeing this (haven't been on PS all day). But I wanted to make sure to send my sympathies and healing thoughts.
I don't know if anyone has said this yet, but no matter how hard it is, please please make sure to watch after your own health as well as your mom's. A friend of mine recently lost her mother to lung cancer, and the physical toll it took on my friend was shocking -- sometimes I wonder if she'll ever fully get her health back. Part of it is the obvious stress she was under, but part was because she basically wasn't eating or sleeping for days at a time. I hope this doesn't sound callous, because it's not meant that way at all, but we care about you here and wouldn't want anything to happen to you.
((Hugs))
ETA: I just realized that sap posted the same thing while I was contemplating my words. And sap, I'm sending good thoughts to you and your dad, as well.
I don't know if anyone has said this yet, but no matter how hard it is, please please make sure to watch after your own health as well as your mom's. A friend of mine recently lost her mother to lung cancer, and the physical toll it took on my friend was shocking -- sometimes I wonder if she'll ever fully get her health back. Part of it is the obvious stress she was under, but part was because she basically wasn't eating or sleeping for days at a time. I hope this doesn't sound callous, because it's not meant that way at all, but we care about you here and wouldn't want anything to happen to you.
((Hugs))
ETA: I just realized that sap posted the same thing while I was contemplating my words. And sap, I'm sending good thoughts to you and your dad, as well.
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DF- She is very spunky. And I also think it''s a good sign.
Sap- I''m sorry to hear that. I''m taking a Psychology/Anatomy of the Brain class and we haven''t gone into detail with Brain cancer, but I know enough to know that ANY kind of brain cancer is incredibly scary. You and you father are in my thoughts. I also know how you feel about finding a therapist. I think I''m just about at that stage, my funds are dropping at too rapid of a rate to continue with any kind of retail therapy, and I really need to start making some kind of long term change. Take care of yourself ok?
Another update: I just talked to her again. She is running a low grade temp but she has been since Sunday. The doctors aren''t worried about it. However, a surgeon came in and took a look at her, her CT scans and decided that he''s going to actually open her up and try to make it so that this won''t happen again, as well as remove ALL of the fluid from her lungs instead of just some (two liters apparently). So she goes into surgery on Thursday afternoon. If all goes well she could come out of the hospital on Monday.
I also talked to my dad and asked how he was. He said, "Not only do I have to worry about my wife, and the office, but now Judge (our dog) is acting abnormally as well. So I''m going to go home and take him for a walk and spend some time with him." I guess Judge has been at home all by himself the past two days and he''s not used to that, because my mom is always home with him. So he''s not doing well, but he''s pretty hardy, so I''m hoping he''ll be ok. Perhaps I''ll have my dad bring him over to our condo for a bit instead of leaving him at their house all of the time.
In other news, cupcakes make everything at least a little bit better and the stupid Mulberry pollen count is at about 1048-which is horrible for me, because I''m super allergic to it.
Sap- I''m sorry to hear that. I''m taking a Psychology/Anatomy of the Brain class and we haven''t gone into detail with Brain cancer, but I know enough to know that ANY kind of brain cancer is incredibly scary. You and you father are in my thoughts. I also know how you feel about finding a therapist. I think I''m just about at that stage, my funds are dropping at too rapid of a rate to continue with any kind of retail therapy, and I really need to start making some kind of long term change. Take care of yourself ok?
Another update: I just talked to her again. She is running a low grade temp but she has been since Sunday. The doctors aren''t worried about it. However, a surgeon came in and took a look at her, her CT scans and decided that he''s going to actually open her up and try to make it so that this won''t happen again, as well as remove ALL of the fluid from her lungs instead of just some (two liters apparently). So she goes into surgery on Thursday afternoon. If all goes well she could come out of the hospital on Monday.
I also talked to my dad and asked how he was. He said, "Not only do I have to worry about my wife, and the office, but now Judge (our dog) is acting abnormally as well. So I''m going to go home and take him for a walk and spend some time with him." I guess Judge has been at home all by himself the past two days and he''s not used to that, because my mom is always home with him. So he''s not doing well, but he''s pretty hardy, so I''m hoping he''ll be ok. Perhaps I''ll have my dad bring him over to our condo for a bit instead of leaving him at their house all of the time.
In other news, cupcakes make everything at least a little bit better and the stupid Mulberry pollen count is at about 1048-which is horrible for me, because I''m super allergic to it.
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Thank you everyone.
I talked to her for about half an hour last night and she told me straight up that she was still being a PITA, but that she keeps catching them screwing up. Long story. Apparently her doctor didn''t authorize the procedure that was done to her yesterday, and when Dr M found out-something brown hit the fan.
As for wedding, I''m not engaged yet, and the plan is that I won''t get engaged until at the earliest March of 2009. He wants to get through the stress of Comprehensive Exams first and then deal with wedding stress. And we plan on having at least a year engagement. So...yeah. Over Christmas I had a breakdown and told BF that I didn''t care about the size or the scope of the wedding and that I just want my mom to be there to witness it.
As for my BA, if I manage to get through 15 hours a semester, 6 hours each summer and don''t screw anything up I can graduate Fall of 2009. So that''s a year and 8 months (ish) away.
An odd coincidence is that I found out that the doctor who did the valve replacement on BF two years ago will be performing the surgery on my mom. That made everyone feel better, because that doc is a rock star to all of us.
I''m going to go visit her tonight (I''m going to school today, but not tomorrow) and I''ll let everyone know if anything happens in the meantime. I won''t have my computer most of the day though, because I need to get homework done, instead of Pricescoping. Lol.
In other news, I fell down the stairs today and feel really silly about it.
Sleepy Liz + stairs = butt bruises
I talked to her for about half an hour last night and she told me straight up that she was still being a PITA, but that she keeps catching them screwing up. Long story. Apparently her doctor didn''t authorize the procedure that was done to her yesterday, and when Dr M found out-something brown hit the fan.
As for wedding, I''m not engaged yet, and the plan is that I won''t get engaged until at the earliest March of 2009. He wants to get through the stress of Comprehensive Exams first and then deal with wedding stress. And we plan on having at least a year engagement. So...yeah. Over Christmas I had a breakdown and told BF that I didn''t care about the size or the scope of the wedding and that I just want my mom to be there to witness it.
As for my BA, if I manage to get through 15 hours a semester, 6 hours each summer and don''t screw anything up I can graduate Fall of 2009. So that''s a year and 8 months (ish) away.
An odd coincidence is that I found out that the doctor who did the valve replacement on BF two years ago will be performing the surgery on my mom. That made everyone feel better, because that doc is a rock star to all of us.
I''m going to go visit her tonight (I''m going to school today, but not tomorrow) and I''ll let everyone know if anything happens in the meantime. I won''t have my computer most of the day though, because I need to get homework done, instead of Pricescoping. Lol.
In other news, I fell down the stairs today and feel really silly about it.
Sleepy Liz + stairs = butt bruises
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FC I''m so sorry to hear this. I know what a blow it must feel like. On the good side, I''m glad your mom is being a PITA, it''s how stuff gets done, and mistakes don''t get made. They can be irritated all they want as long as they do their jobs PROPERLY. So I''m glad your mom is being spirited. It''s good for her.
My mom was diagnosed with stage IIIb breast cancer with lymph node involvement almost 2 years ago. It sucks, there are good days and bad days, and there were days when if someone looked at me twice I would start crying. It helps to get it out and when you need to, just let it out because when you''re talking to your mom you want to be strong and supportive for her.
My friend''s dad had stage IV metastatic melanoma and he also had to have his lungs drained, it sucked that he needed it but it did make him feel much better for sure. I am thinking of you guys and hoping that she feels better soon and her temp goes down. *hugs*
My mom was diagnosed with stage IIIb breast cancer with lymph node involvement almost 2 years ago. It sucks, there are good days and bad days, and there were days when if someone looked at me twice I would start crying. It helps to get it out and when you need to, just let it out because when you''re talking to your mom you want to be strong and supportive for her.
My friend''s dad had stage IV metastatic melanoma and he also had to have his lungs drained, it sucked that he needed it but it did make him feel much better for sure. I am thinking of you guys and hoping that she feels better soon and her temp goes down. *hugs*
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Frekechild, I''ve been a bit preoccupied in the last few days so I am sorry I hadn''t posted on your thread yet. I am so sorry about all of this! I can''t imagine what you are going through...my mom has a simple COLD right now and I am worried about her. What you must be feeling makes me so sad.
Hang in there and think positive. I''ve always been a big believer in good thoughts.
Hang in there and think positive. I''ve always been a big believer in good thoughts.
Freke, I haven''t been around much so I didn''t see this thread until now. I have nothing to offer besides good thoughts sent your mom''s way. I don''t have any experience with cancer so I cannot even imagine what you and your family are going through.
Big hugs and lots of positive vibes heading in your direction...
Big hugs and lots of positive vibes heading in your direction...
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I hung out with my mom the past 4ish hours and she''s doing well besides some nasty nausea. Surgery is scheduled for 1pm tomorrow. I don''t know when I''ll be around, but perhaps if they have wireless in the hospital I''ll take my laptop and update you guys when I can.
Thank you for all of your thoughts and prayers.
And TGal--I totally understand! How is Amelia? And how are you?
Please guys no need to apologize for not seeing the thread until now! It''s totally ok, we all have lives outside of PS. Mine involves a lot of shoes...
Mulberry pollen count today: 2314. I had to use my inhaler a few times. Ugh. Stupid allergy induced asthma.
Thank you for all of your thoughts and prayers.
And TGal--I totally understand! How is Amelia? And how are you?
Please guys no need to apologize for not seeing the thread until now! It''s totally ok, we all have lives outside of PS. Mine involves a lot of shoes...
Mulberry pollen count today: 2314. I had to use my inhaler a few times. Ugh. Stupid allergy induced asthma.
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