Sometimes the world just isn''t fair....

[TravelingGal]

Date: 4/9/2008 11:38:37 PM
Author: FrekeChild
I hung out with my mom the past 4ish hours and she''s doing well besides some nasty nausea. Surgery is scheduled for 1pm tomorrow. I don''t know when I''ll be around, but perhaps if they have wireless in the hospital I''ll take my laptop and update you guys when I can.

Thank you for all of your thoughts and prayers.

And TGal--I totally understand! How is Amelia? And how are you?

Please guys no need to apologize for not seeing the thread until now! It''s totally ok, we all have lives outside of PS. Mine involves a lot of shoes...

Mulberry pollen count today: 2314. I had to use my inhaler a few times. Ugh. Stupid allergy induced asthma.

Woman, you are not to worry or ask about me on this thread. Focus on taking care of yourself and your mom!

 

[SarahLovesJS]

I am so sorry.

We are here for you if it helps at all. ((Hug)) I will pray for you, your Mom, and your family.

 

[ladypirate]

Freke, your mom and the rest of your family are in my prayers today while she has her surgery. I''m sure it will help a lot!

 

[icekid]

Freke- Just caught this thread. I''m so sorry to hear about your mom. I can''t even imagine how heart-breaking it must be to watch her go through this. I hope her surgery went well today!! Take care of yourself too (cupcakes?

hehe)

 

[FrekeChild]

She''s out of surgery, alert and kicked us out. The surgeon said that everything went well.

 

[ringster]

Date: 4/10/2008 7:12:25 PM
Author: FrekeChild
She''s out of surgery, alert and kicked us out. The surgeon said that everything went well.

that is great news freke!! so glad to hear that!

btw, i am adopted too !

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 4/10/2008 7:12:25 PM
Author: FrekeChild
She''s out of surgery, alert and kicked us out. The surgeon said that everything went well.

THANK GOD. ((HUGS)) and continued prayers for you mom.

 

[ladypirate]

Yay! That''s great news, Liz! It sounds like your mom has such a strong spirit. Please let us know how she does over the next couple of days.

 

[bee*]

That''s brilliant news! I hope that her recovery goes well.

 

[Delster]

FrekeChild I''m so happy to hear this. Sending lots of healing vibes. Take care.

 

[FrekeChild]

Well I went to the hospital with my mom''s best friend (who rocks-she''s like my second mom, and the mom of one of my really good friends) and apparently before we got there she had a temperature of 101. By the time we got there her temp had gone down to 97.5, and she started to feel better. They had taken blood cultures to see whats going on with her temp, infection or not, and by the time we left she was falling asleep.

It''s hard because right now (day after the surgery) she just seems like a shell of herself. And apparently the nurses are kind of complaining about her because she''s too nice and considerate. Like when they ask if she''s feeling any pain, she''ll wait to take pain meds until she''s already in pretty bad pain. And she waits until they come around instead of pressing the "call" button for everything. I know that tomorrow will be just as bad as today, if not worse, but it''s hard to see this woman who was only a couple of months ago 20 pounds heavier with muscle, pale and wasted away. I''m certainly no stranger to surgery and I know how much it takes out of a person, after all I took care of BF when he had his open heart surgery almost 2 years ago, and I''ve had my own surgery. So I know what it''s like, and I knew what to expect, but its still hard. Especially because right now her feisty-ness is muted and she just seems so...not her.

In other news, apparently my mom has mentioned to her BFF that she wants me to be engaged or married before she goes. Her BFF said that maybe it would make my mom feel better if I talked to her about it and told her that BF and I have talked about it. But I have no idea how to go about doing that. If you ladies have any suggestions, I''m totally open to them.

Ringster- How old were you when you were adopted?

Thanks for all of your thoughts. Everyone''s support means so much to me.

 

[Gypsy]

Hi honey. My mom just went through two bad surgeries, and is slated to have a third one soon. And she''s in remission on cancer (long time now, thank god) so I wanted to let you know that I''ve been there. Starting down at that hospital bed and feeling impotent. It''s so hard. And I have nothing but support and prayers and hugs for you. You are a very loving and wonderful daughter and it sounds like your mother is very blessed to have you and is proud of you. She sounds like a smart and wonderful woman.

Just start talking to her about things you like for the wedding. Tell her about the, AHEM, fact that you think that you might be switching shoes every 15 minutes as you will have bought so many pairs. Tell her about your wedding cake.

Just start talking to her, the same way you talk on BWW. It will give her lots of positive healing images to focus on, and if she''s anything like my mom, she''ll start arguing with you as she gets stronger. LOL. No honey, you HAVE to wear a veil... what do you mean just a Tiara!!!

Just start talking honey, it''ll come.

 

[monarch64]

Liz, my continued best wishes and positive thoughts go out to your mom, you and your family (and of course your BF). Just wanted to check in and let you know I''m in your corner. Take care, my dear.

 

[diamondfan]

Liz, I am glad the surgery went well. I hope for a speedy recovery and some great news. You are shouldering a lot right now and I hope you are taking time for yourself too. Hugs...

 

[strmrdr]

thoughts and prayers continue.

 

[gwendolyn]

Oh, I''m so glad to hear the surgery went well. Hopefully your next update will see her even stronger and acting more like her usual self!

 

[risingsun]

Freke~I went through this with my mother and know how difficult it can be. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.