STALKER! When grooms go bad...

[Independent Gal]

So, lately, FI has said a few things that make me think he's been checkin' out my PS posts. I don't talk about PS with him, although he does know that I spend time reading a jewelry forum that also provides wedding ideas. Now and then I mention something from it, but mostly, it's mine, not ours. That also means I can talk about my dress, etc. without him seeing. PS means I have somewhere to talk about wedding stuff in general without driving any of my friends (or FI) crazy.

Well, anyway, over the last couple of weeks, he's said a couple of things that were practically verbatim from things I've posted on here. So now I'm wondering... He is very inquisitive, and needs less 'personal space' than I do. Hmmm.... Or maybe we've just grown to think alike?

Anyway, honey, if you're reading this, Hi!

I love you!

Now go away before you see something you shouldn't (like my dress)!

Got that?

ETA: Yes! I am fully aware that if you post something on the INTERNET it does not count as stalking if someone reads it.

i'm just kiddin' around.

Does your FI know about PS? Does he know how involved you are? Does he ever read your posts?

 

[meresal]

I think my FF has an idea, and we share a computer, so it wouldn''t be hard for him to find. I was thinking about this today... and I was going to change my icon and screen name if I can. I starting getting kinda freaked out about it... too silly.

I can understand the FI thing, not wanting him to see the dress, jewelry, etc.... but I''m playing the hard to get card, as a LIW, and it would totally blow my cover if he knew I just talked about it here everyday!!

 

[FacetFire]

Ha-ha. Yes, my FI knows about PS, though he calls it "that jewelry forum."

I don''t think he comes on though. He is actually much more of a private space person than I am. I would like to know all of each other''s business, but he has a much larger private side to him than I do.

 

[misysu2]

My FI and I used PS together while researching diamonds and ring shopping. He sees me on it all the time and knows I do wedding stuff on it, and always laughs when he sees me on it. It wouldn''t be a big deal if he got on PS again and read my posts, since we''re sharing all of the wedding details with eachother, but I''d probably be embarrassed at how indecisive I can be!

 

[Sabine]

Haha, as soon as I mention the word Pricescope my FI gets this glazed look in his eyes...He knows I''m on it, and he loves that becuase when I''m occupied with my computer I don''t bug him about how long he plays his computer game. But he definitely doesn''t love hearing about it, and I can''t IMAGINE him ever wanting to read any of the stuff I talk about. Of course, my FI is also the type of guy who could have my wedding dress hanging in his closet and not be tempted to peek. He wants to be surprised, and is fine waiting till the big day.

 

[Dee*Jay]

Every once in a while my HH will say something that makes me wonder if he is checking out PS. Unfortunately I never think about that at the right time, like last week when I posted a thread to get opinions/ideas for a potential Christmas gift for him. (SO, BILL, IF YOU ARE READING MY POSTS **NOW** IS A GOOD TIME TO STOP. Until after the holidays, anyway!)

 

[surfgirl]

Hi facet! I love seeing your avatar..

I've thought the same thing at times. When we were deciding on my ering, my then FI said something about women my age who'd gotten married younger were probably getting upgrades on their erings now so I should get the "upgrade" ring now as my original ering. I was thinking, "how the heck does he know about upgrades?!?" So yeah, I've thought the same thing IG. I hope he doesn't read my posts but I cant lose sleep over it either. What can you do?...

facet, Mr. Surf calls this place the same thing...

 

[TravelingGal]

TGuy totally knows about pricescope...has known about it since early 2004...maybe 2003 when I was lurking. He knows I post a lot here too. But I think he has better things to do than snoop around here.

However, I post knowing that it IS a possible for him to read what I write. So no weird vents about him that have any significance. I keep our private life private. And I repeatedly say things about what a handsome, smart, successful snugglymuffin he is.

 

[ringster]

FI is very amused by my PS obsession. i think sometimes he is glad that i am busy and not bugging him and other times he is jealous about me not paying attention to HIM. but i am so glad this forum is around b/c FI has no jewelry interest and it really helps getting the support and advice during wedding planning.

i don't think he looks but i think he did see what my handle was. he tells me "you better not be writing about me" . he could look if he wanted but i don't think he is that interested - he is definitely the more private person. i have to pull info out of him sometimes.

hey facet and surfgirl -- nice seeing BOTH of your avatars

 

[Gypsy]

Yes, John knows about PS and is well, exasperated with the addiction. But he never comes on here unless I ask him to (and I have asked him to either post for me when I wasn''t available regarding my mom''s surgery, or if there is something on here I want to share with him).

 

[Pandora II]

FI loves my PS obsession - it makes me happy and relaxed, and lets him play computer games without my whinging!

He even calls it Pricescope...

He would never ever read my posts. He knows who I post as, but sees it like looking at my email or text messages. Neither of us have ever gone snooping about. Probably because we know we don''t need to! (I seriously snooped with one ex - and with good reason!)

Although I did say the other night that he probably could have a fling under my nose and I wouldn''t suspect a thing. His reply - "cool" - long pause... "but I''m not sure I could be bothered, far too much hassle!"

 

[zoebartlett]

My FI knows about PS and because I check it in the living room on my laptop, he''s in here with me most of the time anyway. He knows my screen name too but I don''t think he''d ever log on to check it out. I comment on things I read or write occasionally but for the most part, this is my thing. I''ve asked him if he minded if I posted pics, but he''s very reluctant to put our pics on here. He always asks me if it''s necessary ("Do people really need to see/know...?").

The only time it becomes any type of an issue is if I comment on how long he sits in front of the TV playing stupid X-Box games (I HATE IT). He''s usually pretty quick to comment on how long I sit in front of the computer doing PS.

 

[iheartscience]

Grrr...he better not be looking at your dress pics!

I don''t think my fiance looks here...he knows my screen name and sometimes I fill him in on what''s going on in a particular thread but I doubt he looks here on his own. If he did I would definitely be irritated and feel a little violated for some reason!

Not like I complain about him or anything, but still...it seems kind of like reading my e-mail or something, you know? I know it''s a public forum and everything, but that''s just the immediate reaction I get.

 

[winston26]

My FI was actually the one who found Pricescope. If not for PS, he''d STILLLLLLLLLLLLLL be looking for a ring. But now the ring is bought, he''s too busy on jeep.com or fatwallet.com to comment on what forum I am on! At least he better be as you just reminded me that I pointed out my favorite dress not that long ago! Although I have a dress I bought from eBay in the closet and he doesn''t seem to have any interest in snooping. I even had him close his eyes and zip the zipper in the back for me once cuz no one else was here to do it!! lol

 

[bee*]

D knows that I''m on here all the time-he used to call it my weird forum however now he seems to have warmed to it as I will ask wedding questions on here rather than bugging him about it!! I''m with TGal though on the no venting about him on here-I keep our arguments private.

 

[Maisie]

Date: 12/4/2007 4:56:43 PM
Author: Sabine
Haha, as soon as I mention the word Pricescope my FI gets this glazed look in his eyes...He knows I''m on it, and he loves that becuase when I''m occupied with my computer I don''t bug him about how long he plays his computer game. But he definitely doesn''t love hearing about it, and I can''t IMAGINE him ever wanting to read any of the stuff I talk about. Of course, my FI is also the type of guy who could have my wedding dress hanging in his closet and not be tempted to peek. He wants to be surprised, and is fine waiting till the big day.

He sounds exactly like my hubby!! He loves it when I am on here so he can play his game!

I had my wedding dress hanging up on the back of our bedroom door for about 4 months and he didn''t even want to look.

 

[nebe]

Date: 12/4/2007 4:20:20 PM
Author:Independent Gal

Does your FI know about PS? Does he know how involved you are? Does he ever read your posts?

My FH knows, he is kinda freaked out about how involved I am because he thinks I "dole out too much infortmation". He does read over my shoulder if/when we're sitting on the couch (

!) together

I don't think he's inclined enough to track my posts on his laptop or anything, but he definitely does know about PS.

 

[mimzy]

he''s not yet my FI, so there''s no danger of him seeing any posted dress pictures, but my FF definitely knows about PS (as he found my future ring through vendors here) and he knows how much i post....particularly after he logged on one day and saw my name (which is close to my last name and used to be a nickname in HS) and, well, himself in my avatar haha. and i know he''s went through and read all the posts...which is a little embarrassing, but oh well. he just laughed at me, so i guess it can''t be that bad! if anything, he is a)glad i have somewhere else to freak out about it and b) maybe helped him realize just how much this whole thing has gotten to me.

sorry for the LIW threadjack of your BIW topic!!

 

[Mrs DMcD]

Fortunately, FI introduced me to this site just after we got engaged, as he had been on the ring portion to get ideas and feedback when creating my ring. I am so glad that he did, now on the BWW side I have learned so much and gotten so many good ideas from all you smart gals! HOWEVER, now I haven''t gotten to post any dress pics as he may be lurking around somewhere (although I really doubt he spends any time on BWW, but you never know and I reallly don''t want him to see!) Maybe one day I will create a totally random name and profile so he would never know... hmm

 

[snlee]

My DH knows about my PS obsession. I doubt he would come on here to look at my posts though. He''d rather spend his online time looking up sports related stuff. Sometimes he looks over my shoulder, wondering what I''m posting about. Just a few minutes ago, he said, "What are all these secret codes? DH??? Dumb husband!?" LOL. No, DEAR husband.

 

[Jas12]

haha--this is a funny topic.
DH knows full-welll that I love PS--he was only interested in the content of posts and replies when we were going through our engagement ring purchasing hell and PS was a big part of it.
Since that is long over he could care less what''s on here--but thinks i am um, ''unique'' for spending so much time chatting about weddings and babies on a jewlery forum

.

 

[snogirl17]

My S.O. Calls it "Ring. com" and when he teases me about it (in that kind loving way) he uses a girl voice.. it is kinda cute!

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

FI calls PS my jewelry p*rn.