Take Me Off the List!

[16ocean]

I broke up with the boyfriend. It’s a good thing. Painful, especially knowing people will ask me that oh so lovely question,
“Why aren’t you married yet?”
My response, “I haven’t met the right man.”
“oh”, “well, you must be picky” . . . . .

ughh! No not picky but either you click with a person or you don’t. And if you don’t moving on is important.

Loss is always sad but I am ready to move on. Whatever, “moving on” is.

The unknown can be scary . . ..and I am letting go of that fear

Short story: we have been dating on and off for a decade. Yes ladies, I said decade.

This forum helped me so much. Not only could I DROOL over beautiful BLING but I was reading how excited men are to propose and start a life together with their love and that wasn’t my ex boyfriend.

I also read stories about ladies who had “issues” with their non-committal b-friends or boyfriends that were inconsiderate. I saw my relationship in those stories.

Please send “dust”- prayers-and positive energy my way. For strength, wisdom and a joyful heart.

Love, luck and harmony to you on all your paths.

 

[FrekeChild]

Dust for you my dear.

Serious SERIOUS kudos for knowing when something isn''t perfect and being able to let go.

 

[absolut_blonde]

Forget about what other people say/think. You clearly have a good head on your shoulders & that''s what counts. Good for you for being so strong. *dust*

 

[blueroses]

16ocean, you are going to see that things will get better and better and better for you now! Hallelujah for clarity and self-respect and getting what you deserve.

Good for you, lady. Dust for moving on, time, healing, and REAL, CRAZY, WONDERFUL, SUPPORTIVE love. It is out there.

 

[lilmissrugger]

Congratulations on being a strong woman and going after what you deserve in life- you''ll definitely achieve it! Dust to you in all you do!!!

 

[Nomsdeplume]

You are a very brave lady. Well done, you should be proud of yourself for not settling for less than you deserve.

 

[hawaiianorangetree]

Lots of dust for a wise woman. Heres to moving on and finding the one that gives you goosebumps.

 

[ckrickett]

Date: 6/14/2009 1:30:47 AM
Author: FrekeChild
Dust for you my dear.

Serious SERIOUS kudos for knowing when something isn''t perfect and being able to let go.

This, +1.

 

[Tuckins1]

Congratulations for making a tough decision... Lots of healing PS dust coming your way!!!

 

[princessplease]

Dust for all of your future endeavors and kudos for making that tough decision and for remaining strong through the decision.

 

[Squirrly]

Date: 6/14/2009 9:21:31 AM
Author: ckrickett

Date: 6/14/2009 1:30:47 AM

Author: FrekeChild

Dust for you my dear.


Serious SERIOUS kudos for knowing when something isn''t perfect and being able to let go.

This, +1.

+2 and dust! i''ll be looking forward to seeing your posts about the one you do click with, whenever that may be

 

[Still_Waiting]

You sounded so wise and put-together in your post. I''m sure that''s not how you''re feeling right now, but, believe me, you are! I wish you the very best for your future. YOU''RE DOING THE RIGHT THING! We''ll still try to support you in any way we can!

 

[sparklyheart]

Kudos to you for being realistic and taking care of yourself. Best of luck with everything that you have ahead of you. The best is yet to come, I''m sure!!!

 

[Bjedifish]

**DUST** Let me tell you, sometimes its a blessing to be single again. No one wants to walk down the aisle thinking "there''s always divorce". About 3 and a half years ago I was in the same situation. Comfortable and obviously settling for something that wasn''t right. less than a year later I met the man of my dreams and now I am offically waiting for that special day when I can say I am his wife. Good luck to you. You will find the love that you deserve.

 

[mrscushion]

How wise you are for letting go when it''s just necessary to let go. Lots of dust for you for finding the right person for you. He''s out there.

 

[Indylady]

Ditto!

 

[16ocean]

Thank you ALL for your kind words! They mean a lot to me.

Blueroses- your story helps was one of the ones that helped me take action. Thank you for sharing.

Will be back with happier stories.

 

[wishinpink]

I wish you the best! I''m glad you did the right thing!

 

[bee*]

Sorry to hear about the breakup of your relationship, but well done for finishing it when you know it''s not right, especially after that length of time together.

 

[purselover]

Sending dust! Congratulations on what sounds like a good descision.

 

[NakedFinger]

Kudos to you for having the strength that many do not.

Best of luck for the future and all it has to offer.

 

[elation]

I admire your courage and self-honesty! It must have been very difficult and painful, but it is good to feel that you are in the right. I wish you the very best in the future, for real happiness and an abundance of love! Look forward to it, it''ll come

 

[tlh]

Date: 6/14/2009 1:42:31 AM
Author: blueroses
16ocean, you are going to see that things will get better and better and better for you now! Hallelujah for clarity and self-respect and getting what you deserve.

Good for you, lady. Dust for moving on, time, healing, and REAL, CRAZY, WONDERFUL, SUPPORTIVE love. It is out there.

I agree. I wish you the best.
***dust***

 

[misskitty]

*Dust* for you, and the best of luck, as well. You are such a strong person for letting go of that fear of the unknown and chasing your own happiness!

 

[SparklyLibra]

Date: 6/14/2009 9:21:31 AM
Author: ckrickett

Date: 6/14/2009 1:30:47 AM

Author: FrekeChild

Dust for you my dear.


Serious SERIOUS kudos for knowing when something isn''t perfect and being able to let go.

This, +1.

You can make that +2. Freke said it perfectly.

Healing and strength dust to you.

 

[blueroses]

Date: 6/15/2009 1:35:53 AM
Author: 16ocean

Thank you ALL for your kind words! They mean a lot to me.

Blueroses- your story helps was one of the ones that helped me take action. Thank you for sharing.

Will be back with happier stories.

16ocean, thank you for telling me--I''m really glad I could help. To be fair, if my story has helped you make a choice, it''s just paying it forward. I got SO MUCH help from the ladies on PS in similar situations currently or in the past. Lovey had shared a similar path--and theirs ended with a happy ending. Croi had had a VERY similar decade-long love that finally, FINALLY ended...and then she met her DH, got engaged and married pretty quickly and is now a busy Mommy of 2 (she recommended listening to Don Henley''s "Heart of the Matter" when I questioned myself.) Starset and I were in REALLY parallel situations and I watched her make the tough choice and start over. Each one of them (and lots of others) helped me figure it all out. Even in the time that I took a PS break--they helped. There are so many inspirational women on this forum, and now you''re one of them.

Good for you. Hang in there, and keep us posted. It takes time to heal, but you WILL.

 

[16ocean]

Date: 6/16/2009 3:47:23 AM
Author: blueroses

Date: 6/15/2009 1:35:53 AM
Author: 16ocean

Thank you ALL for your kind words! They mean a lot to me.

Blueroses- your story helps was one of the ones that helped me take action. Thank you for sharing.

Will be back with happier stories.

16ocean, thank you for telling me--I''m really glad I could help. To be fair, if my story has helped you make a choice, it''s just paying it forward. I got SO MUCH help from the ladies on PS in similar situations currently or in the past. Lovey had shared a similar path--and theirs ended with a happy ending. Croi had had a VERY similar decade-long love that finally, FINALLY ended...and then she met her DH, got engaged and married pretty quickly and is now a busy Mommy of 2 (she recommended listening to Don Henley''s ''Heart of the Matter'' when I questioned myself.) Starset and I were in REALLY parallel situations and I watched her make the tough choice and start over. Each one of them (and lots of others) helped me figure it all out. Even in the time that I took a PS break--they helped. There are so many inspirational women on this forum, and now you''re one of them.

Good for you. Hang in there, and keep us posted. It takes time to heal, but you WILL.

e-hugs!!!! And CONGRATULATIONS to you again!

Good Idea. Love Don Henley, will be getting a copy of that song as well.

The song “Easy Come Easy Go” by George Straight has been the one I have been going to.
“No fault, no blame, nobody done no wrong, that''s just the way it sometimes goes
Sometimes two people just don''t get along, it''s time to hit the road
Goodbye, farewell, so long, vaya condios, good luck, wish you well, take it slow
Easy come ‘boy’ easy go”

Going to a big family wedding, THIS weekend so . . . . I get to practice the art of small talk and appropriate pragmatic skills.

A lot off family events are chill and local. This is not the chill/local side of the family. Oh well, we are related. Can’t do anything about that.

Other than not to evolve in to a person with similar, less than kind characteristics.

Ugh! I am 34 years old lived at my apartment for 9+ years and the invite was still sent to my parents’ house.

I know that above comment is petty and “my issue” but I just had to throw it out there.
I am choosing to go because it means a lot to my mom to have her –whole- family there and I love my sweet mama.

 

[16ocean]

Date: 6/15/2009 10:32:43 AM
Author: elation
I admire your courage and self-honesty! It must have been very difficult and painful, but it is good to feel that you are in the right. I wish you the very best in the future, for real happiness and an abundance of love! Look forward to it, it''ll come

Sigh! Thank you again EVERYONE for the dust, kind words and thoughts! you all rock!

 

[rialaine]

******DUST******>/b> and lots of ::HUGS::
.... And if you haven''t read Eat, Love, Pray- Now is a REALLY good time to read it. I found a lot of inspiration in it myself.