Independent Gal
Ideal_Rock
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This may be specific to certain segments of the population, but another way that women contribute to the statistics (and women are marrying much later too) is is that they are more likely to seek ambitious career options these days. That affects marrying age in two ways. First, they are more likely to feel like they can fend for themselves and make their own good living. I decided to buy a house. I bought a house. I didn't wait for a man to buy a house for me. And women who go to medical school, law school, do a Ph.D., etc. are often more likely to put off marriage because they know they may have to move around a lot, etc. So in general some women might feel more independent and able to take care of themselves.
Not ONE of my friends or classmates was REMOTELY ready for marriage until around 27, and that was largely because getting married was not 'their dream' or the be all and end all of life, but was instead something they would explore once they were well on their way to pursuing their real ambitions and dreams. In some cases, my friends are still not at all willing to sacrifice their ambitions to get married, adn would rather stay single.
So, we are much more like Holly's godson. We all wanted to be stars too! (Or at least to fulfill our potential and strive for excellence all on our own...not that you can't do this in a marriage, but it's much harder for two people to do it at the same time, because of the whole 'compromise' thing).
I don't know how much me and the people I know affect statistics (ha!), but let's just say that the "Why won't he marry me?" phenomenon was one I first encountered on PS. I still have actually never met ANYBODY like that. Except maybe my little brother who's girlfriend of 8 years doesn't believe in marriage, which breaks his dear sweet heart. He wants to take care of a family. She doesn't want anyone thinking for a second that she needs anyone but herself to take care of her. Thing is, I kinda get that too.
Not ONE of my friends or classmates was REMOTELY ready for marriage until around 27, and that was largely because getting married was not 'their dream' or the be all and end all of life, but was instead something they would explore once they were well on their way to pursuing their real ambitions and dreams. In some cases, my friends are still not at all willing to sacrifice their ambitions to get married, adn would rather stay single.
So, we are much more like Holly's godson. We all wanted to be stars too! (Or at least to fulfill our potential and strive for excellence all on our own...not that you can't do this in a marriage, but it's much harder for two people to do it at the same time, because of the whole 'compromise' thing).
I don't know how much me and the people I know affect statistics (ha!), but let's just say that the "Why won't he marry me?" phenomenon was one I first encountered on PS. I still have actually never met ANYBODY like that. Except maybe my little brother who's girlfriend of 8 years doesn't believe in marriage, which breaks his dear sweet heart. He wants to take care of a family. She doesn't want anyone thinking for a second that she needs anyone but herself to take care of her. Thing is, I kinda get that too.
